EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 200
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
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NervO
Netherlands511 Posts
On June 20 2013 08:30 Grumbels wrote: How old are you? My brother had an online girlfriend when he was 15, they would exchange photos, dwell on how much they cared for each other, try to come up with cuddly nicknames and so on. One side always gets bored with the arrangement and breaks of contact.. I'm almost 17 but I also met her in real life ... It wasn't like a Internet gf for the sake of having one, if I want one I wouldn't search online but we just fit well... It's not even that I find it weird she breaks up rather the way she did, and I guess I ment sexual but tired me :p like even if she got bored after those hours of talking and even having seen each other real life I don't get why you can't just say something but I guess I'm a bit overreacting and learning some valuable live lessons ^^ | ||
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
On June 20 2013 08:10 r.Evo wrote: You were not in a relationship with her. That's what I'd have to agree with too. | ||
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NervO
Netherlands511 Posts
I first thought like yeah sure after reading this... But actually I get the light.. Probably a really valuable lesson  | ||
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Shiori
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NervO
Netherlands511 Posts
On June 20 2013 09:14 Shiori wrote: It wasn't the same as an in-person relationship is what is meant. We're not denying your feelings were real, because obviously they were. But you'll gain perspective on this as you age Yeah she actually unblocked me and explained the obvious we agreed on being friends like talking now and then and seeing what becomes of each other since we did have feelings ofc | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
Guess which option I went for? That's right. Ignoring. Nope, not proud of it. In all honesty, I think that if people are in a "relationship" they don't really care about the easiest way out is the ignoring way. And yeah it sucks to be on the receiving end. | ||
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Pulselol
Canada1628 Posts
On June 20 2013 15:02 B.I.G. wrote: That's right. Ignoring. Nope, not proud of it. wow that's a huge bitch move there m8 | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
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JoeCool
Germany2520 Posts
Now there hasn´t been a single date since then. I´ve seen her a few times at the university which was okay but not more than 5 mins. Once a week she says sth like "We should do sth. together...". I already asked her out some weeks ago, that did not happen since she had no time which was okay back then, and she knows that I want to see her but whenever there´s the slightest chance that the topic "private meeting" comes up I feel like she tries to ignore it or has no time. For expamle, Her: "Oh we absolutely should do sth together..." Me: "Cool, make a suggestion" Her: *changes topic* or Her: "When can I meet you at the university?" Me: "Don´t know, monday or friday I guess" Her: *No answer for two days* On the other hand, when I do not report she does. It may take two or three days but she does. like last sunday. I know everyone is busy and has stuff to do but come on. I´m somehow torn between confronting her with my doubts, or acting as if everything is allright. | ||
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Cynry
810 Posts
Like plan something for 2 weeks from now, when she likely won't have anything planned already, and see how it goes. | ||
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Broetchenholer
Germany1944 Posts
On June 20 2013 17:05 B.I.G. wrote: In out itself is a dick move. But don't feel sorry for her, feel sorry for her fiancee that she conveniently forgot to mention to me. You made a mistake there, i think. Corrected it. You are welcome. So, with all these alphamales around here, just a question how you would react. I was with my roleplaying group yesterday, and here in Germany we had around 35 degrees. Unintentionally, i set on the opposide side of the table to our best looking gurl. She probably decided yesterday, that it was too hot to wear a top under her dress, and that dress was really loose. I realized after taking that seat that at every move she did, she basically could have been nude altogether. So i guess i turned into a tomato and tried my best to not just stare at her. She realized that pretty soon and the rest of the evening she did nothing but rearrange her dress :D So, in the end, it was a liitle awkward... You with all your social skills, would you have found a way to get the awkwardness out of the room? To clarify, she is not interested in me and i am not interested in her. | ||
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shabby
Norway6402 Posts
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
On June 20 2013 18:54 shabby wrote: If it was me I would just mention it in a humorous way. Ask how much weight she's lost since the dress is too big or say that it looks damn comfortable to basically be nude. As long as you do it with a smile laugh you can almost say anything. lol yeah, I'd do something similar. | ||
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Cynry
810 Posts
...No clue :-D I guess humor could have worked, but could have made her feel worse. Or try to look for a way to make her dress fits her better, like a pin or something (my english vocabulary lacks the thing I'm looking for... Epingle a nourrice for the french). In the end, you're both in an awkward position, and you didn't try to take advantage of it, I'm sure she noticed that too. | ||
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
On June 20 2013 18:58 Cynry wrote: CHALLENGE ACCEPTED ...No clue :-D I guess humor could have worked, but could have made her feel worse. Or try to look for a way to make her dress fits her better, like a pin or something (my english vocabulary lacks the thing I'm looking for... Epingle a nourrice for the french). In the end, you're both in an awkward position, and you didn't try to take advantage of it, I'm sure she noticed that too. This is the worst idea imaginable, well done | ||
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Cynry
810 Posts
I figured she would have enjoyed to not have to refit her dress all the time knowing everyone could see her goods. Guess I'm missing something. | ||
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
On June 20 2013 19:03 Cynry wrote: Well you have to explain yourself then :-D I figured she would have enjoyed to not have to refit her dress all the time knowing everyone could see her goods. Guess I'm missing something. So you're in a group situation across the other side of a table from some random girl. In a potentially awkward situation already, you go find a pin and somehow suggest to her that her tits are flapping about and maybe she should do something about it with this random piece of stationery. Thus managing to draw the attention of the entire table to this loose-fitting dress, now *everyone's* looking at her tits, and you've put her in the position where you've apparently made the judgement that she should have worn something different / dealt with the problem herself, while everyone watches on. Yeah, no. ^^ | ||
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Cynry
810 Posts
In my "defence" (remember I started with no clue heh) I assumed she knew that it showed too much already, seeing the dude accross the table going all red and stuff. And I would definitely not just have shown up with the pin and start rearranging it myself infront of everyone while saying "there, now I can't see your tits !". I'm not sure there's a good way to do it though, you're probably right. As for the "she should have weared something else or done it herself", and again, not in front of everyone, but yeah, she should have worn something else or taken care of it herself. Unless she's fine being uncomfortable and rearranging all night, what do I know ^^ | ||
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Broetchenholer
Germany1944 Posts
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