EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 1002
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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LegalLord
United Kingdom13775 Posts
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TheBrochette
67 Posts
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Simberto
Germany11400 Posts
However, do not let this dissuade you from having a relationship with a person that you think you match up well, just because they are younger. Most of the problems that would arise with a younger person that i can imagine should manifest themselves incredibly quickly and obviously. This is not really subtle stuff. Usually the problems with younger people lie in responsibility, maturity, self-reliance and self-competence. But if someone had a different life-path than you, they might have acquired those a lot more quickly then other people. So if you think there are sparks and stuff works between the two of you, there is no problem. And, indeed, do not make this about what society would think. Society always finds a way to talk shit about people, no matter what they do. | ||
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LegalLord
United Kingdom13775 Posts
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Jockmcplop
United Kingdom9465 Posts
On August 24 2018 22:05 LegalLord wrote: Hell, people talk and/or think way more shit about the man being an inch shorter than the woman than about a 10 year age difference, for example. Do I detect a hint of bitterness in this comment? | ||
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farvacola
United States18820 Posts
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On August 24 2018 22:12 farvacola wrote: Good thing I've got over half a foot on my fiancé, though my dreams of raising all star football athlete children may be derailed accordingly :D I'm 5 7" my gf is 5". We always joke our sons will be small but powerful  | ||
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LegalLord
United Kingdom13775 Posts
On August 24 2018 22:08 Jockmcplop wrote: Do I detect a hint of bitterness in this comment? No. Thankfully I don't have that problem. | ||
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farvacola
United States18820 Posts
On August 24 2018 22:19 GoTuNk! wrote: I'm 5 7" my gf is 5". We always joke our sons will be small but powerful Because you said this, now you'll only get daughters  | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On August 24 2018 23:14 farvacola wrote: Because you said this, now you'll only get daughters Small and powerful daughters | ||
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ThunderJunk
United States669 Posts
Otherwise it's not so much a question of stage of life as much as capacity and mutual desire to connect. If you love on each other, and you're in the same of the above stages, one can be in school while the other works full time, and it would still work out because you'd just talk about your respective perspectives. Also, High Five! | ||
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ThunderJunk
United States669 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On August 25 2018 05:30 ThunderJunk wrote: The only stages of life that are relevant to dating are: Before kids are wanted, While kids are wanted, While pregnant, While kids are being raised, and After kids have flown from the nest. Age is secondary to those things. If you're both in the same one of those stages, or one of you is willing to convert to it, then it can work out. Yeah I don't agree. "Before kids are wanted" contain so many different stages. Someone who is 18 living at home vs someone who is 27 who has finished university and has a job, a place to live by yourself etc. That would generally be quite the gap. | ||
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Excludos
Norway7990 Posts
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NewSunshine
United States5938 Posts
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Slydie
1913 Posts
Also, I agree that kids is not the only parameter that matters. Things like education, carreer, self realisation and experience living alone can be equally important for your stage in life under 35, and are inportant for when the "when kids are wanted" stage come. If she wants to travel work in humanitary aid in Africa, study abroad and work out if her career path is really her thing while you are pretty much setteled, just not ready for kids, there is trouble ahead... | ||
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mantequilla
Turkey775 Posts
Then we moved to WhatsApp and chatting for a few days. She lives in city A, where I live too but right now I'm in city B for a little downtime. I am planning to return to A in a couple weeks. Chatting is fun and I really like her conversation. But I don't have the skill to move from relaxed chat involving daily events and past stories to flirting. She doesn't have a boyfriend and I imply very strongly that I want a girlfriend, although I never said directly that I want her to be. Question one is how can I move from this to flirting? Question two is should I try to before a face to face date, which may be two to three weeks maybe later. I don't want to return to A early just because I may meet someone because if it doesn't go as I imagine I'd feel so bad interrupting my rest for it. I'm thinking of asking hey can we do something when I come there without setting up a certain date. But I don't know what's best. I'm afraid I may lose her if I try to keep connection only through text for that much time. There is little chance that I wont like her face to face because I am alone for a long time and she seems really nice. She may not like me even though she saw my pictures and seem to like my conversation. She says she feels alone and wants somebody that understands her but I'm not really sure she will see me as that person. | ||
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TheBrochette
67 Posts
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Emnjay808
United States10651 Posts
I feel numb as shit. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8614 Posts
On September 04 2018 12:35 Emnjay808 wrote: Was seeing a girl for a good while. I srsly liked her a lot. Found out today she was also seeing someone else. I feel numb as shit. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. yeah getting cheated on is disgusting | ||
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