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If it was a mixed reunion I would agree.
Seeing as it was all lads though and there wasn't huge peer pressure to join in then I dont see the big deal. Although when I went to college (from UK so we were 16-18) our student union arranged several trips to Amsterdam where we got stoned and went to sex shows for 4 days so perhaps my opinion isn't the most balanced?
Guy probably told his gf and was forced to apologise!
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On December 14 2010 20:39 d_so wrote: the fuck? any guy who uses the word "inappropriate" amongst friends is a tool in my book, and why the hell would anyone hate strippers
yeah. OP your friend fucking sucks ~~
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Mm strippers, all male school? Yeah!
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It sounds like the dude who wrote the letter is trying to turn what should be a casual get together into some public event with issues and shit.
Its a casual gathering of dudes, with no pressure. As what other people said i';d be more concerned about the naked guy.,
In fact, any gathering where its cool for someone to be naked the whole time, its fine for pretty much anything, strippers included. Its kinda lucky they came. imagine if your reunion was 75 dudes in a rooom and one was naked. i'd write a fucking letter about that
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On December 14 2010 20:46 Piste wrote: someone likes to drink, another likes to see some girls. What's the problem? everyone can decide wether to view or not.
it's ok.
The guy in the letter is worried about it alienating certain people, which it certainly does. If I don't drink and you do, then you drink, I don't, and we can still hang out. If one guy doesn't like to see girls and another does, it makes it kind of difficult for both of them to simultaneously get their wishes.
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On December 14 2010 21:37 Kiante wrote: It sounds like the dude who wrote the letter is trying to turn what should be a casual get together into some public event with issues and shit.
Its a casual gathering of dudes, with no pressure. As what other people said i';d be more concerned about the naked guy.,
In fact, any gathering where its cool for someone to be naked the whole time, its fine for pretty much anything, strippers included. Its kinda lucky they came. imagine if your reunion was 75 dudes in a rooom and one was naked. i'd write a fucking letter about that
well said i totally agree haha. Someone would def be sending out the letter about the naked dude if strippers hadnt saved the night thats for sure.
I agree with what everyone else said. No one was married and its a 5 year get together of some mates and so this seems fine. Everyone knows you can just step out to the bar or outside for a bit if you dont wanna watch the show and just continue the shinnanigans after the strippers are down.
Either way this sounds pretty awesome and i hope you enjoyed the get together
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Seriously, I don't think they were that inappropriate, but I could understand someone getting uncomfortable. But the real issue is, if you know these guys for so long, why not just say it instead of sending an email?
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I suppose gay men might feel excluded? Edit: but there was the naked guy..
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On December 14 2010 21:41 Brutus wrote: Seriously, I don't think they were that inappropriate, but I could understand someone getting uncomfortable. But the real issue is, if you know these guys for so long, why not just say it instead of sending an email? It's a highschool reunion, most likely most people barely know each other by now. Many people are uncomfortable with strippers, just like, say, if you were to hand out drugs, or play loud black metal music, people have different tastes and attitudes towards these things. So when organizing such events, it's not smart to pick one of those things with a high risk of annoying people. I definitely wouldn't want to go to a reunion with strippers, since it would feel awkward when among various people I knew somewhat when I was 16. -- and besides, it's distracting from the very point of a reunion.
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This could be seen as inappropriate, and I would definitely feel alienated, but only if I as a homosexual in attendance. Out of 75 men, it is likely that there were some homosexual men (possibly the 3 that left) and this person who felt alienated could have been one of them. If you were gay, and you were at a reunion and female strippers were there, wouldn't you feel alienated?
I can't really think of any other reason for a man to feel alienated at a stripper party, especially if none of you were married. I would say those people had the option to leave, so they should have, and if they were made to feel uncomfortable they brought that upon themselves by staying. No reason to ruin the fun for all the other guys just cause a few dudes want male strippers instead.
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dude that is definitely not acceptable to have strippers at a class reuinion.. I bet that was awkward as shit.. though I feel like he should of emailed the guy instead of putting this up on facebook.
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On December 14 2010 22:01 Rage178 wrote: This could be seen as inappropriate, and I would definitely feel alienated, but only if I as a homosexual in attendance. Out of 75 men, it is likely that there were some homosexual men (possibly the 3 that left) and this person who felt alienated could have been one of them. If you were gay, and you were at a reunion and female strippers were there, wouldn't you feel alienated?
I can't really think of any other reason for a man to feel alienated at a stripper party, especially if none of you were married. I would say those people had the option to leave, so they should have, and if they were made to feel uncomfortable they brought that upon themselves by staying. No reason to ruin the fun for all the other guys just cause a few dudes want male strippers instead. Inviting strippers changes the tone of the party. A lot of people would probably go just to catch up and suddenly had to witness a sex show, it's very much in bad taste.
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all guys school, no one married; I think you guys are all mature to take it or leave it.
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On December 14 2010 21:07 Pyrrhuloxia wrote:Show nested quote +On December 14 2010 21:03 Brutus wrote:On December 14 2010 19:35 Jayzo wrote:On December 14 2010 19:30 arterian wrote: was it guys only? yes guys only, about 75 which was about half our year, it was about halfway through the after party which was essentially just guys drinking cases in a function room. I think about 3 left, and the rest form an intimidating semi circle. one guy was naked the entire time (pre and post strippers) for no reason at all... and to those wondering what type of guy he was: vice school captain, prefect, nice guy, did well at school, but bit of a clown yes. Afterward we went to a close by pub/nightclub. wut lol and a dude was naked the entire time too? maybe this is an Australian thing.
or something more O_o
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While it's a bit weird for a reunion, I don't see any reason to be offended by it. It probably just made it a night to remember - unlike most others.
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A reunion of close friends who expect something like this to happen, not inappropriate.
A reunion of classmates who weren't that close of friends, not expecting it to happen, inappropriate.
I'd have to go with not inappropriate by what you explained at the end. Also you said this happened at 11pm at the after party. I'm assuming that the actual reunion started a lot earlier? So people got time to catch up if they wanted to, than had some fun afterward if they wanted to.
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Well the letter was pretty inappropriate imo. The strippers on the other hand, why not? Atleast it wasn't a boring reunion like most are.
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On December 14 2010 22:23 keeblur wrote: A reunion of close friends who expect something like this to happen, not inappropriate.
A reunion of classmates who weren't that close of friends, not expecting it to happen, inappropriate.
I'd have to go with not inappropriate by what you explained at the end. Also you said this happened at 11pm at the after party. I'm assuming that the actual reunion started a lot earlier? So people got time to catch up if they wanted to, than had some fun afterward if they wanted to.
this is true, it started around 5, decent enough time for banter.
the naked guy is one of my good mates, he's in no way gay, but it confused most of us. i personally think it may have been a "hey im a fun guy, pick me to do lapdances on" kind of ploy, or maybe he was just drunk, not sure. adding that may have derailed this a little, but i think it was funny anyway =)
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