On December 20 2009 01:45 LaughingTulkas wrote: Probably the only one like this on here, but I'm engaged and we're waiting till we're married. The honeymoon is something to look forward to eh? Sometimes delayed gratification is better
hahahah thats so sweet and incredibly naive.
In my opinion buying a car with no test drive is not good, specially because sex is not something to abstain in the name of sanctimonious morality, or delayed gratification or whatever.
You just said that its something good, that you are waiting to do, well my friend here is the real deal, theres no reason to delay it, if you both like it each, enjoy spending time toghether, want to get MARRIED, sex is just one more thing you could be enjoying toghether today!
If an engaged couple said they both have tried weed before once, and liked it, but want to wait to smoke toghether for when they are married would it make any sense ?
Enjoy sex today, you never know what tomorrow reserves.
Except it's more like a couple that's never tried weed and is waiting until the right time to try it together.
On December 20 2009 01:45 LaughingTulkas wrote: Probably the only one like this on here, but I'm engaged and we're waiting till we're married. The honeymoon is something to look forward to eh? Sometimes delayed gratification is better
Ha, not when it only lasts for 30 seconds. No amount of masturbation can prepare you for it either.
I... I don't think this is what happens the first time.
On December 20 2009 01:45 LaughingTulkas wrote: Probably the only one like this on here, but I'm engaged and we're waiting till we're married. The honeymoon is something to look forward to eh? Sometimes delayed gratification is better
Ha, not when it only lasts for 30 seconds. No amount of masturbation can prepare you for it either.
I... I don't think this is what happens the first time.
30 seconds is hyperbole. But sex isn't all that amazing for the girl the first time a guy has sex, because he's most likely bad at it (and so is a girl having sex for the first time).
On December 20 2009 17:34 D10 wrote: Yep and theres the fact that if you had been having sex all this time, you would be sure that your honey moon will rock in terms of sex.
I would say no in both situations, I have better things to do with my time than meaningless sex.... It would be great if you could use more gender neutral language in these situations, there are women on this site too =p
I definitely don't want to get married ever. Settle down yes...later. I think marriage is an out dated practice and I don't need to sign a contract to "force" me to be faithful and take care of any children I make, I use integrity for that.
Edit for youtube imbed: (yes I know youtube thread, but this is related to the subject) and yes it's a comedian so don't nit-pick and start arguments about the points he makes, I do not endorse his every word and sacrifice a goat to him every year because i posted this.
I would have sex with the any of the girls who are flirting with me if they were decent-good looking; only if there were no strings attached as you said earlier.. definitely until I find a girl that I truly like and want to settle with (this would be based on if I see myself with them in the long run, fun and easy to get along with, ...pretty much someone you can bring home to meet your family), once I find this girl I wouldn't rush into things quickly and just go with the flow.
I always turn down sex if the girl is not good-looking enough or if shes too drunk. It's no hair-thin line for me as I've turned down sex several times, sometimes you know it's just not worth it. There have been occations when I HAD to have sex with the girl in order to get away from the situation and I tell you... that moment still haunts me.
On December 19 2009 07:14 StarN wrote: In order to answer these questions you might have to elaborate a bit more on the girls personalities
-Their religion, and respective piety -Their family and family history -Their socio-economic class -Their artistic and literary talents -Their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism -Their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture -Their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities -Their mental and emotional stability -Their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life -Their racial origins (if not already clear) -Their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc)
Depending on what she answers for these I might say yes.
30 seconds is hyperbole. But sex isn't all that amazing for the girl the first time a guy has sex, because he's most likely bad at it (and so is a girl having sex for the first time).
The most important sex organ is the brain.
What, are you going to talk about how much better "thrusting technique" gets with practise?
Not to mention every time you are with a new girl you will have new things to learn.
On my first time, my girlfriend wept with joy. Months of erection problems will do that, I guess. But you could get a similar effect by holding off until marriage.
Basically your sentiment that the first time must suck for the girl is completely wrong. In fact, in relationships, sex often gets worse over time because a couple can get too comfortable with each other.
Im a little bitch that gets emotionally involved too but i dont turn down sex , my penis is stronger, however, my lazyness is stronger than my penis like this good looking girl asks me in the middle of the night to pay her a visit, ive declined many times cuz i need to take a shower, get dressed, drive to her house etc... yawns.