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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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The_Conclave
Australia122 Posts
On July 14 2009 00:29 Gene wrote: and the best that could happen is he could go out have fun and then she's still going to leave gotta let some things go. he's not old enough and doesnt know this girl to even think about a long distance relationship. gotta let some things go. No, the best thing that could happen would be some kind of scenario like this... Linky But that is so so so verrrrryyyy unlikely when he barely knows this girl. Not dismissing his chances though. He should say what he feels because usually people aren't that honest when they could be. Plus even lets say if it did ever eventuate and she left like you said, he has valuable experience. | ||
citi.zen
2509 Posts
2. If you have not done so already (unclear from post if you've just been admiring her from afar), make your move NOW - you are running out of time. Make sure she knows you are interested & you have at least a few great dates before she leaves. 3. Your attitude should be "if it works out long term great; if not, its been fun, good luck". This signals to her you are a high quality guy with options. Translation: when it comes time for her to go, congratulate her & suggest you stay in touch. Again, don't be pushy. 4. If she really does like you now, there will be a way in the future for you to stay together. If she seems to like you now but chooses to date other men while away, be glad: you saved yourself a lot of future grief. I know these are not easy things to do and/or accept. Good luck! | ||
beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On July 14 2009 00:41 The_Conclave wrote: No, the best thing that could happen would be some kind of scenario like this... Linky But that is so so so verrrrryyyy unlikely when he barely knows this girl. Not dismissing his chances though. He should say what he feels because usually people aren't that honest when they could be. Plus even lets say if it did ever eventuate and she left like you said, he has valuable experience. Wow, I remember reading his blog 1year ago. It's so great it ended like that ^^ | ||
Ichigo1234551
United States649 Posts
On July 13 2009 23:17 The_Conclave wrote: Sorry to be an asshole but I must call this shit advice (please do not take offence) for love (or trying to find love) is absolute. Do what you must. Caring is creepy. Just give yourself every chance or you will probably regret it. I met my current girlfriend 1 year before we dated on a chance meeting. She was with friends at the time and I was with my ex-gf and we were both at a bar meeting a mutual friend. Despite being with my former girlfriend and being quite happy with her I found myself strangely attracted physically to my current gf. It turned out 2 years from that initial meeting I had a devastating fallout with my ex-gf and ended up summoning courage to talk to my current gf at a 21st birthday party two years on and 4 months after that messy breakup. I would not normally do this. I was a very broken man. It is the best thing to have ever happened to me. I absolutely love her and I shudder to think what could have happened if I had never met her or remained in the previous relationship. The point is, life will surprise you and sometimes you will do things to achieve what you dream of without usual hesitation. You may overcome the moment. Besides, if it doesn't work out it isn't the end of the world. Once again, I repeat life will surprise you. Just do what you must without regrets. Good Luck. i dont think you understand my advice. Im just telling him to whatever he wants but in the end dont be depressed over it if it doesnt work out. You are really an asshole. | ||
beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On July 14 2009 01:19 Ichigo1234551 wrote: i dont think you understand my advice. Im just telling him to whatever he wants but in the end dont be depressed over it if it doesnt work out. You are really an asshole. I couldn't find if in your post too... how I understood it was you wrote more or less "you are fucked but don't worry you'll get better... over months" | ||
Warrior Madness
Canada3791 Posts
On July 13 2009 20:47 Garnet wrote: There is this girl who was my classmate at highschool, and she applied for the same university as me. During 3 years of highschool I never noticed her. At all. She was the total opposite of an attention nerd. But when I got the chance to talk to her, I found out that she was an wonderful person, really humble and charming. At the uni exams (we had to take 3 exams) I met her again, we talked a bit and that's when I started to have feelings for her. (And it seemed like she also likes me). But shit happened. Today a friend told me that SHE had actually qualified for the RMIT uni, which as you may know is a fucking expensive uni, each course is like 1500$ for 150$/lesson. And the chance of her studying aboard is high. My dream of being in the same university with her is completely destroyed. She didn't tell me about it at all. And I think she was right, because my family is really poor and if I knew that I would feel devastated and probably wouldn't be able to concentrate on the exams. Now I feel like shit. Few minutes ago I was crying in bitterness. I think if I had applied for RMIT I could have passed because I was kind of better than her in highschool, but the fees are just too much. Well I actually still have a chance, if I text her now and ask stuffs about the exams so I can know what she think, but I don't know if it will do anything or will it just bring more despair, because as you may have guessed, I'm kind of a nerd who have trouble communicating with girls. She is probably the best girl I've met in my life. So close yet so far away. edit: It's not confirmed that she will move aboard. All I know is she has qualified for the university, so she may have to study here for some times before anything. But there's a tendency for rich families in my country to send their chidren away, since education here really sucks, and is not accepted anywhere else in the world. Wtf dude! You don't even KNOW this girl. Sounds like she gave you a LITTLE bit of attention and you're gaga over her. No commitment from her, no sex, no kiss, not even a date and you're in love with her??! Man. I've been there lol! Except I fell in love with my chiropractor haha. Anyways, this will probably go in one ear and out the other but you need a life man. I mean, if you have no LIFE to bring women INTO in the first place, what do you expect? If you live in a cave, have no real passions, hardly interact with others and have a shit social network that isn't attractive at all. God, if your dream is to attend the same university with a girl you hardly know who you're deeply in love with, you KNOW you need to get a life! | ||
Aerox
Malaysia1213 Posts
It's possible but very difficult to maintain relationship. You're gonna worry worry worry worry worry worry.... Get stable income first. Concentrate on studies. Probably just stick her in your friends list or something first. | ||
MiniRoman
Canada3953 Posts
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MutaDoom
Canada1163 Posts
On July 14 2009 00:41 The_Conclave wrote: No, the best thing that could happen would be some kind of scenario like this... Linky But that is so so so verrrrryyyy unlikely when he barely knows this girl. Not dismissing his chances though. He should say what he feels because usually people aren't that honest when they could be. Plus even lets say if it did ever eventuate and she left like you said, he has valuable experience. Thank you for posting that link. Seriously. I don't know how I missed that one trolling, but I needed that. I just got dumped, on Saturday, by the girl I was planning to propose to, and I've pretty well hit rock bottom; alcohol is the only thing keeping me going right now. This gives me a little hope. | ||
BanZu
United States3329 Posts
On July 13 2009 22:59 Ichigo1234551 wrote: Its your brain releasing chemical that is making you feel this way. After a few months you will probably be fine. That's a pretty crappy way to trivialize feelings... Do what you can, but don't let it consume you. | ||
citi.zen
2509 Posts
On July 14 2009 03:34 MutaDoom wrote: Thank you for posting that link. Seriously. I don't know how I missed that one trolling, but I needed that. I just got dumped, on Saturday, by the girl I was planning to propose to, and I've pretty well hit rock bottom; alcohol is the only thing keeping me going right now. This gives me a little hope. When you look at Rayzorblade's story you need to really pay attention and see past the sappy bamby-style romance: he did well because he is a player! He really liked Steffi and they had had a good time together. But... he let her go when it was time and had many other partners afterwards, including what sounds like a very promiscuous summer break. He also got his life in order, traveled and GREW UP. With this background, he was interesting enough for Steffi to come back to and fall in love with him, since she knew he was a baller and a solid guy. What I am trying to say is: value yourself highly; don't think one woman is what will "give meaning to your life", or be the "best woman you will ever meet". Women like stable guys who can and do attract other women, and who are secure in themselves. It hurts right now, but if you think about it, it means you can go out, be happy, meet other women, travel, improve your career. There is nothing wrong with being single when you are young, cheer up and enjoy. Maybe its a blessing in disguise! | ||
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