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pyrogenetix
China5094 Posts
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newb14
United States7 Posts
I'm 22 and she's 24. I dont think she ever gets off on sex when im penetrating her. However, after sex she almost always touches herself and gets off that way. She gets pain a lot of the time when we're having sex, especially if I go too deep in a certain position. Also, she gets pain when I dont come fast enough. She also started taking birth control in our relationship. She cheated no her ex-boyfriend, not by having sex but by making out with multiple people. For the person that said its "hot" to have two girls kissing, I can tell you yeah maybe it is. It is when its not your girlfriend, and when its at a party. NOT when the two girls are by themselves experimenting. Anyone know any hot lesbians? I sure dont. I tried talking to her multiple times about sex and whether or not she's enjoying it. She insists that she is...but how do I know if shes not just lying? | ||
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newb14
United States7 Posts
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deathgod6
United States5064 Posts
On February 21 2009 16:22 Hot_Bid wrote: shes totally boning some other dude I think it has to be this. When she is trying to distance herself from you, it's probably because there is someone else. | ||
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avilo
United States4100 Posts
what hot_bid said, this one is pretty obvious - she's cheating on you and getting her extra satisfaction elsewhere. | ||
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BuGzlToOnl
United States5918 Posts
Obvious solution is to make more posts and TL will magically do the rest. | ||
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Zoler
Sweden6339 Posts
On February 21 2009 16:22 Hot_Bid wrote: shes totally boning some other dude I guess I agree with this. How is the background story? Has it always been like this? Did it start recently? | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
On February 22 2009 04:46 newb14 wrote: thanks for all the replies. Here's some more info: I'm 22 and she's 24. I dont think she ever gets off on sex when im penetrating her. However, after sex she almost always touches herself and gets off that way. She gets pain a lot of the time when we're having sex, especially if I go too deep in a certain position. Also, she gets pain when I dont come fast enough. She also started taking birth control in our relationship. She cheated no her ex-boyfriend, not by having sex but by making out with multiple people. For the person that said its "hot" to have two girls kissing, I can tell you yeah maybe it is. It is when its not your girlfriend, and when its at a party. NOT when the two girls are by themselves experimenting. Anyone know any hot lesbians? I sure dont. I tried talking to her multiple times about sex and whether or not she's enjoying it. She insists that she is...but how do I know if shes not just lying? You're doing it all wrong. Makes sense why she isn't interested in sex now. If she's experiencing pain during penetration then it's most likely due to one of two things. Either you've got an astronomically huge cock or she's not wet enough. I'm going to go ahead and assume the latter. First off, if she has to get herself off after you finish, you failed and failed miserably. Imagine things in reverse if she got off and decided she was going to call it quits before you got off. Most people would be frustrated and she most likely is too. You're not pleasing her thus she doesn't enjoy sex thus it becomes a chore she does purely for your benefit. It's downright selfish. Second, if she's not getting off then that completely explains why she's in pain. She's probably not even turned on and is faking most of it. When this is the case she doesn't get very wet down there and it probably hurts like hell. Imagine shitting a sandpaper brick. I'm assuming you're using a condom which when dry will most definitely be painful to her. Lastly, of course she's going to tell you she's enjoying it. She's flat out lying to you though. Any girl with half a brain knows that a sure fire way to kill a guy's confidence is to tell him she's not enjoying sex (aka you suck at sex). You'll know she's enjoying sex when she's jumping you for sex. So yeah, now that you know you are bad at sex accept it and (SC analogy incoming) do what any D- noob would do. Read and practice. Well, you can't really practice but you can sure as hell read. Look up diagrams, read How To's, whatever the hell it takes. There is zero shame at sucking miserably at sex when you're starting out just the same way no one expects to be A+ the second they step into ICCup. To think otherwise is foolish. Everyone sucks at first with rare exceptions here and there. Most guys don't take the time to get good, there gf's put up with it, and for the rest of their lives the guys are left thinking "Pft, girls just don't want sex as much as guys." Not true in most cases, the guys just suck at sex. In their defense I do think guys need to do a lot more work to get a girl off than the other way around. No excuse though. Funny how this thread on an SC website is veering towards sex advice, but I guess this guy needs it. Some quick pointers I've picked up a long the way: - Girls almost always need foreplay and even if they don't they'll enjoy it a ton more if you do it. This means kissing/making out for a good 5-15 minutes first. As with everything in sex, start slow and very very slowly speed up. - Fingers. The easiest way to get her off is with your fingers on the gspot. Oral works too but lots of girls are self conscious about being clean so they might not even let you do that unless they really really trust you and are comfortable around you. Clearly not the case with you OP. Take your time too, don't be in a rush to get her off. The longer you can finger her without her actually finishing, the better it will be when she finally does. - After you get her off, give her a few minutes of cuddling and go right back to fingers. We take awhile to get ready again, girls don't. If you do it right (not too hard) the number of orgasms you can give is only limited by your hand/finger strength. I maxed out at around 8-10 once and my forearm was sore. - If you're doing things right, she'll be plenty wet and horny so you probably won't even need to ask for sex. - If you still aren't getting her wet enough it's possible she just plain doesn't get wet much. I heard it varies from girl to girl so you might just be unlucky. You could try fixing that by getting some lube. Never tried it myself but others have said it works wonders. Even if they don't need it supposedly it makes things just plain better. Might try looking into that yourself on top of the rest of the advice. Just from my personal experience, your mileage may vary. From what I've read, we've got a number of people on this forum with way more experience than me so hopefully they'll chime in sooner or later. edit: damn this turned out longer than I expected. Someone else take over. XD | ||
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hymn
Bulgaria832 Posts
On February 21 2009 16:22 Hot_Bid wrote: shes totally boning some other dude No. More like 3 other dudes. | ||
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Sonu
Canada577 Posts
 id be suspicious to... maybe she is just hooking up with you just to pass time or something. if you are trying to find true love then its not in her 10000000% (no that wasnt a type) | ||
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BluzMan
Russian Federation4235 Posts
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newb14
United States7 Posts
Nothing could be further from the truth. We usually end up goin back and she passes out cause she's too "drunk and tired." | ||
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pyrogenetix
China5094 Posts
http://www.youporn.com/watch/200577/pussy-eating-lesson/ | ||
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Jaeden
Romania1489 Posts
On February 22 2009 04:46 newb14 wrote: Anyone know any hot lesbians? I sure dont. YES, definitely | ||
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
Imo if you can be in a relationship and not have sex at least like once a week if you see each other often, then she is either really naive and immature or just a dumb bitch. In any case I would drop her, regardless of the social status or how good she looks or whatever. If she is actually just playing games with you to see if you will stay faithful when she doesn't put out then that is the really illogical cunning that some women use in order to test you/the relationship. I don't put up with that kind of bullshit from girls and I let them know. So you can either A) tell her that if this is a test , to cut it out, tell her what she means to you, and what a relationship should be for you. If she denies or doesn't accommodate your requests then it won't work anyways. B) Realize what is going on and just cut her out anyways without the talk. Because if she plays games and is slutty all the time she is a typical dumb bitch imho. You don't have to put up with any woman's bullshit, ever. edit- It could be possible that she actually has some kind of physical condition that makes her not want/like sex. Same thing with a mental block (was she molested as a child or something?). In either case it's up to you to decide if you wanna be in a relationship with damaged goods. And just to throw some info out there a huge percentage of women can't come vaginally and/or clitorally (sic). If it hurts her like she says, then you are not getting her wet enough (or like I said she might have a condition [maybe even unknown to her].) When you fuck her stimulate her clit as much as possible, rub her nipples and shit, kiss her neck, collarbone, and behind the ear. Forcefully position her legs and body around and show her who's in control (Trust me girls get off on this shit.) Buy some water based lube that is safe for vagina. I'm not sure what brands are good but my gf uses this kind in a long narrow turqoise bottle with a weird top for her toys and when her body isn't cutting it by itself. and another note, My GF is bi and I tell her I don't care if she hooks up with other chicks in any way at all (if I'm there or not). I would prefer she do it when i'm there (or if she brings a girl home ofc) but this never happens T_T. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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minus_human
4784 Posts
Even if you feel you would want to rip off her clothes, don't do nothing. Just wait, cuddle some more and you'll eventually get her horny. This is what works best for me, and I'm having a superb time with my gf, almost every time. It took me a whole year to figure out that this exact type of approach is what works best for her. Maybe for your girl it's different, but as Phyre suggested, try this approach, and be (at least for a while) completely oblivious to your personal needs. If things cannot get sorted out, remember that sexual incompatibility IS a good reason for a relationship to end. At least it's better than living pseudo-miserably until you're 35, at which point you notice your partner cheats, or even worse, you cheat on her. Maybe the approach I suggested isn't the perfect suggestion for your girlfriend, but nonetheless, if everything fails, you can still gain a huge amount of sexual/relationship experience, which will be crucial in your success with other potential future relationships. So basically I'm really saying man up, and start being tender/teasing with your girl in a more passive manner. Just my two cents, take them with a grain of salt, and good luck mate. | ||
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ZBiR
Poland1092 Posts
On February 22 2009 04:46 newb14 wrote: I'm 22 and she's 24. I dont think she ever gets off on sex when im penetrating her. However, after sex she almost always touches herself and gets off that way. She gets pain a lot of the time when we're having sex, especially if I go too deep in a certain position. Also, she gets pain when I dont come fast enough. She also started taking birth control in our relationship. Oo You must be doing it SO wrong... that is, unless you take close to a hour or more to go off (yeah, you could tell how long does it take for you) or your cock is way too big for her (I don't think so, since you're Asian  is she Asian too?). There is one solution: foreplay, foreplay and even more foreplay. If you do it correctly she should be dying to get you inside. Kiss her a lot, touch her everywhere, especially in the sensitive areas, such as the breasts (round moves are far better than just squeezing/pressing), use your fingers. And most importantly, don't fucking stop just when you are horny, you are always horny and it doesn't mean she is too (apparently she is not). 30 minutes of foreplay definately isn't too long, you can go as much as to an hour if you two have time (unless she actually makes you stick it earlier but be sure it's really really wet there). And after you finish and she's not pleased yet, don't stop touching and kissing her. Also, when you fail one more time, watch closely how does she touch herself to go off and emulate it in your future foreplay, it's a great help when you can see what is she doing. Also, listen to Phyre. He's the wise man. | ||
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Elvin_vn
Vietnam2038 Posts
give it a timeout and be strong about it everything will be clear to u afterward | ||
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BottleAbuser
Korea (South)1888 Posts
'haunted by her past' ?????!!!! oh puh leeeeze dude, you have some serious issues. there's nothing wrong with you being frustrated sexually. on the other hand, you seem very very pissed off at the fact that your girl has FUN sorry, i didn't want to sound so pissed off but see, you don't realize just how sexist you're being. on the sex issue, just try harder. experiment. think back on the times you've ever had sex with her and see if you aren't being too repetitive or conservative. what you like is not necessarily what she likes. if she's experiencing pain, you're just not giving her enough foreplay. good luck | ||
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