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Nytefish
United Kingdom4282 Posts
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HamerD
United Kingdom1922 Posts
the other thing i would advise is talk to her about it and tell her that you want to meet her halfway. If she fails to compromise/ can't see anything wrong, which imo is probably quite likely, you're probably going to have to go separate ways; being in an unfulfilling relationship is never worth it and never leads to anything good. one of the most important thing in relationships is knowing when to fight and when to let things go. So don't make any rash decisions but keep aware of the dynamics of your relationship. If they are stagnant and stuck in problems for long enough, get it over with. | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
On February 21 2009 16:17 Cambium wrote: c'mon you losers, at least gimme a five for helping someone out. lol @ "(3v3 BGH) Player 1: you rushin? Player 2: nah, but my dad is german" fine lol. heres your 5 | ||
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fanatacist
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KlaCkoN
Sweden1661 Posts
The sex thing is a problem. First of all you need to realize that she is not getting off from intercourse. Few girls do, this is obviously not one of them. Worse, most likely it's actually hurting her, due to her feeling pressured and more importantly scared since it hurt last time. You getting into fights about this does not improve the situation. My recomendation (since I guess you asked for it) Mentally prepare yourself for a month or two without sex. Stop asking for or initating sex. If she wants to make out encourage her. Just cuddle and hug and kiss a lot in general. _If_ things end up getting hotter go with the flow, finger her, give her oral or whatever. _Ask for feedback_!! Most likely you are not doing it in a way that makes this particular girl happy so just keep practicing and make sure your ego can handle failures. Most importantly: Don't ask for anything yourself, not at all. If she wants to don't deny her but _don't_ hint at it. And _no_ penetration, _none_. Not until she is screaming for it anyway =p. Ok that ended up with way too much detail for my own liking >< sorry about that, and good luck. | ||
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axion
Norway110 Posts
You have to talk to her, ask her why and try to get to the bottom of it. If not, it will never work. My friend had the similar problem, they brokeup and decided to be friends instead. Bottom line, you have to be open about your love\sexlife or it will never work. Regards Dr Phil | ||
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writer22816
United States5775 Posts
On February 21 2009 16:27 KissBlade wrote: Maybe you need to give her a time out. hahahahaha | ||
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JudgeMathis
Cuba1286 Posts
Da nile, not just a river in Egypt. | ||
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Archaic
United States4024 Posts
Hahaha. I'd say just keep trying to talk to her. You aren't going to "change" her very effectively. | ||
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Ingenol
United States1328 Posts
I would suggest moving on if the situation is as you described it. | ||
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Etherone
United States1898 Posts
missionary is always a good position, although very vanilla. ALSO i hope when you deflowered the girl you didn't ram it in there. hopefully you spent an enormous amount of time doing oral and manual labor. if this is not the case, oh i feel bad for you | ||
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Pengu1n
United States552 Posts
Part of the reason they bothered me was not because of her but because of me. Although she hadn't had intercourse she still got some action from her exs. I had never gotten any action with a girl before so it felt like we were not on "even ground". Theres nothing you can do to change it. So ethier you work on accepting it or you don't. I would be worried about going out with someone who had cheated on their previous bf. You just have to decide if you like her enough to live with her past. | ||
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Jaeden
Romania1489 Posts
On February 22 2009 00:06 Pengu1n wrote: I know its hard to get over a girls past because i've had smiliar issues with my girlfriend. We were both virgins but parts of her past bothered me. She had a long term relationship with some other guy and a lot of bf's before him. I only had 1 gf before her that only lasted about 2 weeks. However I knew about those things before I started going out with her and chose to ignore them. Part of the reason they bothered me was not because of her but because of me. Although she hadn't had intercourse she still got some action from her exs. I had never gotten any action with a girl before so it felt like we were not on "even ground". Theres nothing you can do to change it. So ethier you work on accepting it or you don't. I would be worried about going out with someone who had cheated on their previous bf. You just have to decide if you like her enough to live with her past. well, why does it matter? she didn`t even fuck with anyone, and even if she did, maybe her last boyfriend was a dumbhead or a jackass...or does the OP know him ?  | ||
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esla_sol
United States756 Posts
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
Bottom line, I'm guessing you're not satisfying her. Not to get too nosy about your sexual experiences but have you given her consistent orgasms? Thing about girls is that unlike men they want it more after they orgasm if you're doing it right. I make it a point to make sure she gets off before I do practically every time. If you can give her an orgasm (multiple orgasms are even better, read up on it) on request any time I think you'll find her much more willing to come back for more. If you haven't found the g-spot for example yet then I'm not surprised by her lack of willingness. A good g-spot orgasm can keep her in the mood for hours. Service her first and well. Just to put things into perspective, she's my first ever so I didn't have experience prior. We've been together for over 4 years now and she's still amazing. The power of the internet at work my friends.  I don't want to come off as a know it all but I feel like I must be doing something right because I've got a great relationship going. I'm obviously not as experienced as some people on this board, having gone through multiple girlfriends or even being married, so take my advice with a grain of salt.Anyway, she'd probably not be too pleased about me sharing this stuff because she's kinda on the shy side so keep this to yourselves. As for the stuff in her past, put it behind you. Keep an eye open as she sounds prone to cheating but don't let it stop you from showing you trust her. Possessive boyfriends (especially ones that aren't satisfying in bed) are just asking to be cheated on. I trust my gf 100% and she knows it. She wants to hang out at a guy friend's house? No problem. Go clubbing? Whatever. She was surprised by my trust at first but appreciates it greatly. My logic was that it was better to find out sooner than later anyway. | ||
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indecision
Germany818 Posts
On February 22 2009 01:24 Phyre wrote: Bottom line, I'm guessing you're not satisfying her. Not to get too nosy about your sexual experiences but have you given her consistent orgasms? Thing about girls is that unlike men they want it more after they orgasm if you're doing it right. I make it a point to make sure she gets off before I do practically every time. If you can give her an orgasm (multiple orgasms are even better, read up on it) on request any time I think you'll find her much more willing to come back for more. If you haven't found the g-spot for example yet then I'm not surprised by her lack of willingness. A good g-spot orgasm can keep her in the mood for hours. Services her first and well. So, how can we find the G-Spot? :> | ||
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dream-_-
United States1857 Posts
The whole time I was thinking "whats wrong with this guy?" untill I read the "I'm Asian" part, and it was like Ohhhhhhhhh! My guess is you haven't dont almost anything with females previous to this relationship and you have a verry closed minded view on anything sexual (as so many asian-americans do these days). Here is what you have to remember - Guys are like dogs, we are ready to play almost anytime anywhere. Girls on the other hand are like cats, whenever you want to play they just want to sleep, but when you want to sleep they want to play. It's how shit goes, get used to it. However some girls have extremely high sex drives at that age, and want to have sex 24/7. Your girlfriend could be either way. However the main problem is it sounds like she doesn't enjoy sex. Find out why, adress the problem, and enjoy. Communication is a big part of good sex that people overlook. And finding the G-Spot never hurt. Google it if you haven't yet, you will thank me. | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
On February 22 2009 03:16 dream-_- wrote: However the main problem is it sounds like she doesn't enjoy sex. Find out why, adress the problem, and enjoy. Communication is a big part of good sex that people overlook. And finding the G-Spot never hurt. Google it if you haven't yet, you will thank me. Agreed, communication is absolutely key. Especially if you're new at it. Same on the g-spot comment too, google it. It really isn't that hard to find. | ||
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dream-_-
United States1857 Posts
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Deleted User 31060
3788 Posts
On February 22 2009 01:24 Phyre wrote: I was originally of the mindset that men want sex more than women 99% of the time but after being with my girlfriend I'm finding that not to be true. Unless I'm really really luck or something. I was pretty nervous about my first time and stuff so I did what any competent nerd would do, I read tons of stuff on the internet. I read a great deal before our first time and continued to read up for the first year or so of our sexual relationship to keep getting better. It completely paid off in my opinion, she wants it just as bad as I do now if not more so. Bottom line, I'm guessing you're not satisfying her. Not to get too nosy about your sexual experiences but have you given her consistent orgasms? Thing about girls is that unlike men they want it more after they orgasm if you're doing it right. I make it a point to make sure she gets off before I do practically every time. If you can give her an orgasm (multiple orgasms are even better, read up on it) on request any time I think you'll find her much more willing to come back for more. If you haven't found the g-spot for example yet then I'm not surprised by her lack of willingness. A good g-spot orgasm can keep her in the mood for hours. Service her first and well. Just to put things into perspective, she's my first ever so I didn't have experience prior. We've been together for over 4 years now and she's still amazing. The power of the internet at work my friends. I don't want to come off as a know it all but I feel like I must be doing something right because I've got a great relationship going. I'm obviously not as experienced as some people on this board, having gone through multiple girlfriends or even being married, so take my advice with a grain of salt.Anyway, she'd probably not be too pleased about me sharing this stuff because she's kinda on the shy side so keep this to yourselves. As for the stuff in her past, put it behind you. Keep an eye open as she sounds prone to cheating but don't let it stop you from showing you trust her. Possessive boyfriends (especially ones that aren't satisfying in bed) are just asking to be cheated on. I trust my gf 100% and she knows it. She wants to hang out at a guy friend's house? No problem. Go clubbing? Whatever. She was surprised by my trust at first but appreciates it greatly. My logic was that it was better to find out sooner than later anyway. This. | ||
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