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Korea (South)17174 Posts
Do not appear needy, even though most guys are.
"So....you bored?" + *smirk*
'A little bit why?'
"Lets go back to my place."
'...what are we going to do there'
"I got the internet.'
'.....'
"And a big screen TV?" *smirk*
We get back to my place and she can't figure out which remote turns the TV on.
"Oh I forgot to tell you it's broken LOL"
'............'
*drag her to bedroom throw on bed and start kissing etc*
'wait i want to take a shower first'
she goes and takes a shower and i'm like LOL man i'm pretty sleepy actually, and wouldn't it be hilarious if she got outa the shower all naked and ready in a towel and i'm there snoring?
i did manage to pass out and woke up the next morning to my face getting slapped WAKE UP and i got hardcore jumped...U MOTHER FUCKER HOW COULD U JUST FALL ASLEEP THEN SNORE LIKE THAT ALL NIGHT
"u could have just left u know"
*look of disbelief* 'WTFFFFFFFFFFF FK U'
best morning ever after that, never seen a kor girl as wild as that
Lol not sure how that relates at all but it's pretty funny anyways. From the looks of whats going on in the situation OP posted it's both of your faults. Your girlfriend is obviously incredibly insecure. Something strange happened one way or another in partygirls' upbringings. Your girlfriends insecurity makes sense if you're the only guy shes ever fucked. Think about her thought process: You are her first so she has an incredibly strong emotional attachment to you. But at the same time shes a crazy girl and her antics obviously get her lots of attention from other guys (her partygirl antics = her insecurity trying to cure itself in a futile manner). Whether shes cheating on you or not who knows. She might just be torn because her heart tells her to be faithful to you but her vagina tells her to fuck other guys. Maybe thats why shes acting the way shes acting.
The other half is obviously you. You aren't doing something right. I love how all these pathetic nerds come in here talking about their sexual experiences and orgasms acting as if thats the solution to the problem. These guys all obviously have limited sexual experience. Good sex stems directly from how you treat her outside of the bedroom. You have to manage to find a strong correct proportion of being a large-and-in-charge asshole along with still some semblance of being a caring responsible boyfriend at the same time. You have to show her your lust for her through body language/use of eyes but at the same time make her feel like she is somewhat below you and you don't necessarily need the sex you lust from her. You should never EVER verbally ask for sex as it shows weakness and is a turn-off to girls...'asking for sex' should merely be a physical advance by you in whatever way then if she still says no then you can tell her to give you a blowjob lol....and if she still says no she either has a damn good reason or isn't attracted to you anymore. If you have the correct attitude she will jump your bones love it and orgasm every time no matter how well you foreplay, how wet she gets, or how well you hump. I mean seriously "study different positions" ? LOL. If the girl wants and likes your dick in her vagina she will like it no matter what.
Imagine a girl dating a rich guy that showers her with gifts but isn't the best looking guy in the world. This girl stays with the rich guy for the sake of her life but cheats on him all the time with better looking/better attitude guys. Shes not fucking these guys because 'they are better in bed.' The reason why 'they are better in bed' is all in her head and it relates to her thinking they are better suited mates to get impregnated by because their genetics are better and thus she enjoys fucking these guys more regardless of how many sex books they have read or porns they have watched.
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I can pretty much agree with all that except the never ask for sex thing. I'm on regular enough terms with my gf where I can just flat out say 'wanna fuck?' just about any time. And I never use the Wily Coyote logic of just trying it once. I'll keep asking her throughout the day until she caves or until she actually changes her mind (Because women often do this, lol). Most of the time she'll just take it as a playful joke, sometimes she gets mad. Other times she says ok. In other words it's +EV to ask her even if 1/3 of the time I get owned.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On February 23 2009 08:39 CharlieMurphy wrote:
I can pretty much agree with all that except the never ask for sex thing. I'm on regular enough terms with my gf where I can just flat out say 'wanna fuck?' just about any time. And I never use the Wily Coyote logic of just trying it once. I'll keep asking her throughout the day until she caves or until she actually changes her mind (Because women often do this, lol). Most of the time she'll just take it as a playful joke, sometimes she gets mad. Other times she says ok. In other words it's +EV to ask her even if 1/3 of the time I get owned.
U should try this:
"Wanna fuck?"
then when she responds positively
"Well that sucks cause I don't!"
LOL
And yeah I'm not talking in absolutes even though I tend to do that even when I don't intend it that way. Obviously when you've made it into a certain comfort zone with a girl almost anything flies.
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Rekrul's tactics may be better suited to people with:
a) More charisma than your average person.
b) No problem being a bit of an ass since some girls get off on that. Being an ass tends to be linked to charisma in many cases these days too.
Honestly, I think one leads to the other though. I'm a nerd through and through so charisma certainly wasn't my strong point. Getting good at sex the "nerd" way increased my confidence and charisma followed. If you're a natural though (ala Rekrul apparently) then you won't have to go through this process and your personality will carry you to great sex as Rek mentioned. Although, the OP wouldn't be in this predicament if he was a natural. Hence my advice. It can be a big boost to one's self image when your girl is jumping you for sex and then good things will follow.
I will agree with Rek whole heartedly on his point about not appearing desperate. Massive turn off. Making it seem like you don't need it at all generally plays in your favor.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On February 23 2009 09:16 Phyre wrote:
Rekrul's tactics may be better suited to people with:
a) More charisma than your average person.
b) No problem being a bit of an ass since some girls get off on that. Being an ass tends to be linked to charisma in many cases these days too.
Honestly, I think one leads to the other though. I'm a nerd through and through so charisma certainly wasn't my strong point. Getting good at sex the "nerd" way increased my confidence and charisma followed. If you're a natural though (ala Rekrul apparently) then you won't have to go through this process and your personality will carry you to great sex as Rek mentioned. Although, the OP wouldn't be in this predicament if he was a natural. Hence my advice. It can be a big boost to one's self image when your girl is jumping you for sex and then good things will follow.
I will agree with Rek whole heartedly on his point about not appearing desperate. Massive turn off. Making it seem like you don't need it at all generally plays in your favor.
I don't have much charisma it's not about charisma it's just about being decisive and confident in everything u do/talk about with the girl.
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Just to set on thing straight: she is definitely not cheating on me. I'm more sure of that than pretty much everything else lol.
And, interesting advice rekrul and phyre
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On February 23 2009 09:24 Rekrul wrote:Show nested quote +On February 23 2009 09:16 Phyre wrote:
Rekrul's tactics may be better suited to people with:
a) More charisma than your average person.
b) No problem being a bit of an ass since some girls get off on that. Being an ass tends to be linked to charisma in many cases these days too.
Honestly, I think one leads to the other though. I'm a nerd through and through so charisma certainly wasn't my strong point. Getting good at sex the "nerd" way increased my confidence and charisma followed. If you're a natural though (ala Rekrul apparently) then you won't have to go through this process and your personality will carry you to great sex as Rek mentioned. Although, the OP wouldn't be in this predicament if he was a natural. Hence my advice. It can be a big boost to one's self image when your girl is jumping you for sex and then good things will follow.
I will agree with Rek whole heartedly on his point about not appearing desperate. Massive turn off. Making it seem like you don't need it at all generally plays in your favor. I don't have much charisma it's not about charisma it's just about being decisive and confident in everything u do/talk about with the girl.
Perhaps charisma wasn't the correct word to use, I've always associated charisma with things like being confident and decisive. I suppose we're on the same page, I just didn't convey it correctly.
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Osaka27156 Posts
I'll post later with some real advice, although I think Phyre and Rekrul (in a wierd twisted kinda way) are both doing alright.
I just wanted to reply to this:
First off, if she has to get herself off after you finish, you failed and failed miserably. Imagine things in reverse if she got off and decided she was going to call it quits before you got off. Most people would be frustrated and she most likely is too.
WELCOME TO MARRIED LIFE.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On February 23 2009 11:58 Manifesto7 wrote:I'll post later with some real advice, although I think Phyre and Rekrul (in a wierd twisted kinda way) are both doing alright. I just wanted to reply to this: Show nested quote +First off, if she has to get herself off after you finish, you failed and failed miserably. Imagine things in reverse if she got off and decided she was going to call it quits before you got off. Most people would be frustrated and she most likely is too. WELCOME TO MARRIED LIFE.
HHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAH NO WAY
i don't believe this at all
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Girls get off easier if they are on top.
You're putting too much pressure on her just fuck her anyway you like. Dude, if you finish, stop complaining. If you're not getting enough, find another girl to bone, it's not like you're married, you're fucking 22 for godsakes. What the fuck are you going to do when you wake up and you're 40 in the same sexless relationship almost 20 years later.
P.S. Listen to everything rekrul says.
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On February 23 2009 08:41 Rekrul wrote:Show nested quote +On February 23 2009 08:39 CharlieMurphy wrote:
I can pretty much agree with all that except the never ask for sex thing. I'm on regular enough terms with my gf where I can just flat out say 'wanna fuck?' just about any time. And I never use the Wily Coyote logic of just trying it once. I'll keep asking her throughout the day until she caves or until she actually changes her mind (Because women often do this, lol). Most of the time she'll just take it as a playful joke, sometimes she gets mad. Other times she says ok. In other words it's +EV to ask her even if 1/3 of the time I get owned.
U should try this: "Wanna fuck?" then when she responds positively "Well that sucks cause I don't!" LOL And yeah I'm not talking in absolutes even though I tend to do that even when I don't intend it that way. Obviously when you've made it into a certain comfort zone with a girl almost anything flies.
That reminds me of the kiss gambit from 'the game' used by Mystery the master PUA.
After getting to know a girl for a little while and building up a rapport with her you can try it.
Basically you say; "would you like to kiss me?". now she will say one of 3 things; "yes", easy. "maybe/I dunno", then you say "let's find out." and go for one. "No" , "Good, I didn't say I would let you if you did."
edit- I fucked it up:
it goes like this:
Stop, Would you like to kiss me...Go from humorous and non-sexual to saying, "Stop. Would you like to kiss me?", right out ...
Once you have three indicators of interest (she touches you, laughs consistantly at your jokes, leans in towards you, smiles a lot and keeps eye contact, resumes chat when you force silence, etc) you then phase shift. You turn 180 degrees on a dime.
Go from humorous and non-sexual to saying, "Stop. Would you like to kiss me?", right out of the blue.
She will say either say, "Uh - no",(which is unlikely as you don't bother performing "The Kiss Close" until enough indicators are present) or, "I donno" (they rarely say, "Yes").
"I donno" means she actually does want to but feels embarrassed on how to say "Yes". So you reply, "Lets find out", then go in slowly and kiss her. It's very simple and very effective.
If she says, "Why?", this is also a yes. Simply reply, "It looked like you had something on your mind. Would you like to kiss me?" Wait again for her response.
If her response is "No" then reply, "Hey I didn't say you COULD. You just had that look in your eye."
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On February 23 2009 17:35 Shado. wrote:
Girls get off easier if they are on top.
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not true, like all things. every girl is different. my girl likes it when shes flat backing it because the g-spot is hit easier I assume.
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On February 23 2009 09:38 newb14 wrote:
Just to set on thing straight: she is definitely not cheating on me. I'm more sure of that than pretty much everything else lol.
And, interesting advice rekrul and phyre
Listen to rekrul if he talks about partying or poker.
I doubt he has ever slept with the same girl more than like 5 times though so I would completely ignore any relationship advice from him if I were you.
Pyre's posts are solid.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On February 23 2009 23:02 KlaCkoN wrote:Show nested quote +On February 23 2009 09:38 newb14 wrote:
Just to set on thing straight: she is definitely not cheating on me. I'm more sure of that than pretty much everything else lol.
And, interesting advice rekrul and phyre Listen to rekrul if he talks about partying or poker. I doubt he has ever slept with the same girl more than like 5 times though so I would completely ignore any relationship advice from him if I were you. Pyre's posts are solid.
i've had a 5 monther and two 3 monthers
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On February 24 2009 10:01 Rekrul wrote:Show nested quote +On February 23 2009 23:02 KlaCkoN wrote:On February 23 2009 09:38 newb14 wrote:
Just to set on thing straight: she is definitely not cheating on me. I'm more sure of that than pretty much everything else lol.
And, interesting advice rekrul and phyre Listen to rekrul if he talks about partying or poker. I doubt he has ever slept with the same girl more than like 5 times though so I would completely ignore any relationship advice from him if I were you. Pyre's posts are solid. i've had a 5 monther and two 3 monthers
... which means he had sex with the first girl at LEAST 150 times and the others at LEAST 90
+ Show Spoiler +jk, hope that wasn't offensive
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
way less than that are you kidding me
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On February 24 2009 11:17 Sunyveil wrote:Show nested quote +On February 24 2009 10:01 Rekrul wrote:On February 23 2009 23:02 KlaCkoN wrote:On February 23 2009 09:38 newb14 wrote:
Just to set on thing straight: she is definitely not cheating on me. I'm more sure of that than pretty much everything else lol.
And, interesting advice rekrul and phyre Listen to rekrul if he talks about partying or poker. I doubt he has ever slept with the same girl more than like 5 times though so I would completely ignore any relationship advice from him if I were you. Pyre's posts are solid. i've had a 5 monther and two 3 monthers ... which means he had sex with the first girl at LEAST 150 times and the others at LEAST 90 + Show Spoiler +jk, hope that wasn't offensive wow super gay post dude congrats
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LMFAO @ "YOU RUSHIN?" "NAH BUT MY DAD IS GERMAN"
LOOOOOOOOOOL FIND ME THE GUY WHO WROTE THAT I WANA CONGRATULATE HIM LMFAOOOOOOO HOLY SHlT MOST FUKKING EPIC SIG EVEFR LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OH SHlT EPICSAUCE1.16.1!!!!!!!!
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Basically, it's what Rek said, about how the stuff out of the bedroom is the important translation to what happens in the bedroom. If the girl doesn't have her mind properly focused on sex, it doesn't matter how good your "technique" is. I should know because mine is always too busy stressing about wayyy too many things, it's kind of disheartening >_>
Also LOL at the OP's "what do you mean having a girlfriend doesn't entitle me to all the sex I want by default?". You might see an improvement through stuff like massages and foot rubs. They will distract her away from random issues bothering her, and the contact without the pressure for sex will in fact put her more in the mood for sex. Making her feel like she is disappointing or failing you will only cause her to become more reclusive.
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