On August 31 2008 00:59 Puosu wrote: Tell her your feelings and see how it goes.
gl
ive read all the responds and this one makes most sense.
its somewhat funny that ppl first start thinking/investigating/analyzing everything about their girl/boyfriends before even talking with them about it...jeez
Talk to her about it. If you still feel like shit, or dislike what she has to say, dump her, because your feelings about the situation are likely not going to change. gl
On August 31 2008 00:59 Puosu wrote: Tell her your feelings and see how it goes.
gl
ive read all the responds and this one makes most sense.
its somewhat funny that ppl first start thinking/investigating/analyzing everything about their girl/boyfriends before even talking with them about it...jeez
My friend and my other friends(the 3 of them) all start telling me of guys that have had sex with my girlfriend.
Wow, ahhaha. That's when you tell them you're not interested in hearing it. As if they'd even know those things... Seriously, they're either making shit up or sprouting rumours they heard. None of them actually saw it happen.
Take the advice of 90% of this thread; Talk to her. You'll get bitched out for talking about her ex's behind her back, but at least you'll clear your worries.
On August 31 2008 01:34 Jibba wrote: 1. You're an idiot for believing your friends 2. You're an idiot for being in a group discussion about the girls you've fucked 3. You're not depressed 4. If you can't stop believing your friends, then ask her about it. Trust her word over theirs, and don't let this stuff build up inside you. 5. You're probably not going to accept this anyways, but it shouldn't matter what she did in the past, as long as she's not giving you crabs.
Well holy shit Freud good going!
And that's how the passive male ends up with a cheating backstabbing whore by trusting all the words foolishly.
Not trying to say he ain't another Othello, but calling someone an idiot for having doubts created by the comments of his friends, is just a bit out there.
If anything, he could probably get in touch with the ex's and find out for himself if he wants to, dig through the truth and figure it out from there.
The bigger the wetter the better, I'd say though.
Do the comments sound realistic or like the typical shit a baked moron would say?
Gave a blowjob to a random guy in a park? Are you fucking kidding me? These guys are just remembering the porn they watched the night before.
Your being presumptious again, I don't see anything in the context of them watching porn the night before and when your high, especially a user that has developed a tolerance for the drug doesn't deter that much fallacious memory.
Again, investigation is the best way to go about it, from what he's said, its quite unclear to the reader the in-depth details and simply calling him out as a idiot based on your own conclusions is quite baseless, and attempting to frame up his entire state of mind without really knowing the guy is stretching it too.
If you had a degree is pyscho-analysis I'd take it back, but using your own social and emotional expertise based on superficial information is not enough.
I know a few people who are totally fucking nuts and done way worse than giving a blowjob to a guy in the park, although unlikely it seems, he should make an attempt to get a hold of the whole picture.
We also have no idea what kind of person his girlfriend is nor any outstanding qualities that make her out as promiscious, except for the fact that she's been keeping her past relationships under wraps and away from him.
On August 31 2008 00:59 Puosu wrote: Tell her your feelings and see how it goes.
gl
ive read all the responds and this one makes most sense.
its somewhat funny that ppl first start thinking/investigating/analyzing everything about their girl/boyfriends before even talking with them about it...jeez
On August 31 2008 03:54 ._. wrote: Your being presumptious again, I don't see anything in the context of them watching porn the night before and when your high, especially a user that has developed a tolerance for the drug doesn't deter that much fallacious memory.
Again, investigation is the best way to go about it, from what he's said, its quite unclear to the reader the in-depth details and simply calling him out as a idiot based on your own conclusions is quite baseless, and attempting to frame up his entire state of mind without really knowing the guy is stretching it too.
If you had a degree is pyscho-analysis I'd take it back, but using your own social and emotional expertise based on superficial information is not enough.
I know a few people who are totally fucking nuts and done way worse than giving a blowjob to a guy in the park, although unlikely it seems, he should make an attempt to get a hold of the whole picture.
We also have no idea what kind of person his girlfriend is nor any outstanding qualities that make her out as promiscious, except for the fact that she's been keeping her past relationships under wraps and away from him.
Do you have any idea what psycho-analysis is?
Calling someone an idiot is anything but that. Reviewing everything in his post and the fact that he posted about it on TL instead of talking to her makes him seem like an idiot. Believing a bunch of stories about your gf being dped and then considering dumping her without talking to her makes him seem like an idiot. You're just fishing for reasons to contradict me at this point.
Maybe I could be kinder, but this dude has CM written all over him.
1) a method of investigation of the mind; 2) a systematized body of knowledge about human behavior; and 3) a method of treatment of psychological or emotional illness This was a half-hearted joke to add to my freud comment, but let's not get detracted here.
You tell him he's not depressed and an idiot because he felt swayed heavily by some shocking set of words. Everyone has a different way of handling things, some people get white hair in one day, some people crash and burn from happy to suicidal in just hours, some let it sink it slowly for months and months. When you strike that emotion friction, logic has a heavy way of making its way through, have you been in such a scenario?
Your working on your own presumption that the people are lying and stubborning refuting it over and over again. He should investigate these claims clearly, and your avoiding that and attacking my definition of of psycho-anaylsis and telling me I'm fishing for reasons to contradict you.
What contradiction, I simply think your wrong in the matter, and arrogantly contempt that the friends are untrustable. Many things are left out of this picture, and I would appreciate it if the OP could fill in the quality of relationships he's had with his friends.
Were they people he's known through a good time, or just some random bumps on the road? Have they helped in out in the past, proven to be worthwhile sources? Has he talked to them afterwards this meeting and developed a better idea of the stories? Questions like these would be quite helpful to clarify.
On August 31 2008 04:18 ._. wrote: 1) a method of investigation of the mind; 2) a systematized body of knowledge about human behavior; and 3) a method of treatment of psychological or emotional illness
You tell him he's not depressed and an idiot because he felt swayed heavily by some shocking set of words. Everyone has a different way of handling things, some people get white hair in one day, some people crash and burn from happy to suicidal in just hours, some let it sink it slowly for months and months. When you strike that emotion friction, logic has a heavy way of making its way through, have you been in such a scenario?
He's sad because he heard that his girlfriend was a slut. People get sad when they lose a game of SC or trip over their shoelaces. They're not depressed.
Your working on your own presumption that the people are lying and stubborning refuting it over and over again. He should investigate these claims clearly, and your avoiding that and attacking my definition of of psycho-anaylsis and telling me I'm fishing for reasons to contradict you.
What contradiction, I simply think your wrong in the matter, and arrogantly contempt that the friends are untrustable. Many things are left out of this picture, and I would appreciate it if the OP could fill in the quality of relationships he's had with his friends.
Were they people he's known through a good time, or just some random bumps on the road? Have they helped in out in the past, proven to be worthwhile sources? Has he talked to them afterwards this meeting and developed a better idea of the stories? Questions like these would be quite helpful to clarify.
Holy shit, you are thick. Look at the way you're trying to break down every word of my post. If I said "teach a man to fish..." you'd reply with "We're not talking about that man. Stop changing the subject!" Stop trying to be an argumentative forum pro like Inc and read what I actually said.
BTW, if I were a psychology major I'd be doing some major "psycho-analysis" right now by calling you a moron for the way you misunderstand psychoanalysis.
"they're not depressed." "Holy shit, you are thick" "if I were a psychology major I'd be doing some major "psycho-analysis" right now by calling you a moron for the way you misunderstand psychoanalysis. "
"Look at the way you're trying to break down every word of my post"
This is quite painful to read, and there's a very obvious irony to your arguments.
So you know what, since we can't seem to settle this with a resolution, let's a have dick punching contest.
It involves an erect penis with a bloated condom filled with saline solution and the first to beat each other with other's penis wins.
The rules that apply are: 1.) No bursting, semen must be filled at least to 80% of the containment and the first that one gets burst loses. 2.) Dick size must be proportional, if you are asian, I suggest adding a little clay in between with a little rubber band to keep it tight together, if your darker skinned, roll it up with a shot of anesthesia and into a ball. 3.) No hands, no feet, no teeth. 4.) if it ends up in a draw, inc and mora can strip down and fuck each in other in the ass until one of us pops an erection so huge it pops the condom, therefore resulting in defeat.
Got a webcam? Let's do this, unless your a scared little homophob.
On August 31 2008 01:04 CapO wrote: if what your friends told you about ur gf is true, i would be turned off by it. shes too dirty, definitely not my kind of girl. i would dump her, since shes making you feel depressed and shit.
On August 31 2008 00:59 Puosu wrote: Tell her your feelings and see how it goes.
gl
ive read all the responds and this one makes most sense.
its somewhat funny that ppl first start thinking/investigating/analyzing everything about their girl/boyfriends before even talking with them about it...jeez
Ehm she enjoys sex, big deal? :S Many people want to have sex with a lot of people and I bet most guys here have had fantasies about threesomes. She apparantly is pretty enough to get all that, good for her? As long as you are sure she isn't cheating on you then fine? The only thing her past experiences will mean then is that you guys get to have better sex, she will probably be able to teach you a lot or at the very lest be open for a lot of experimentation. Just make sure she knows that you want her to break up with you _before_ moving to the next guy =P
Seriously, why does it matter who she has slept with and what kind of sexual acts she has done before being with you? I strongly disagree with everyone here who makes your girlfriend out to be dirty or less worthy simply because she apparently (if you believe your friends) has had a lot of sex partners and has a kinky steak.
Ask yourself why this bothers you. From my own perspective, such things have bothered me in the past, and I've reflected on it a bit, and the conclusion I've come to is that women who were more sexually experienced than me intimidated me. The reason, I think, is that we associate sexual prowess, experience, and exploits with manhood. The more sex and the crazier the sex that you've had, the more manly you are - that's how I thought. So for a woman to have more experience than I means she is somehow threatening my manliness.
And of course, when I brought this idea out into the light like this, I could see how silly it is. Of course I'm no less of a man for having fewer sex partners than a particular woman, or having done less adventurous things in bed.
Look, the idea that women (or anyone) should only have a handful of partners, and should only engage in conventional sex is based in vastly out-dated morality. Sex doesn't make a person good or bad. Sex is just sex. If you enjoy sex, and can have sex all the time, why not? If you were not attached to anyone, but had the option of having sex with many different people who were happy to have sex with you, wouldn't you at least be tempted? I imagine that MANY of the guys here who are saying negative things about your girlfriend would happily have sex with two women at once, and have many sexual partners. Those things aren't even a goal for me, but if I were presented with those opportunities, I'd probably take them too.
Bottom line, if your woman enjoys sex, and has had a lot of it, so what? The real question is what is going on between you and her RIGHT NOW. Are you in love? Are you guys enjoying each other?
You have a right to ask her to be exclusively with you, if that's what you care about, and she has a right to accept that or not.
Last of all, love and relationships can be very turbulent, even in the best of times. They are so emotionally charged that they can mess with your head. Insecurity is common in romance. Remember, what makes love possible is the vulnerability that goes with it; the chance that you could get hurt somehow; that both of you are free to move on. She is not responsible for your insecurity. You are. You should face it and try to overcome it. Now if you have an especially legitimate reason to think she is cheating...... (I don't think the fact that someone enjoys sex A LOT is reason to think they are cheating, and besides, who is she coming/cumming to for sex? - You?)