Didn't really think I would find my self in this situation, ever, for a whole lot of reasons.
We got together 2 years ago and since then I have lost contact with all my other friends, (the fucking reason I am writing this here and not talking to someone).

Everything is sorta empty right now, but walking in on your GF + your (ex)best friend having sex is like a scene taken from a bad drama don't you think?.
I just hope I will be able to make new friends again, or perhaps even pick it up with lost ones.

On the flip side, my application to oxford just got confirmed yipee :/ :/

Hot_Bid

Braavos36390 Posts

August 04 2008 14:25 GMT

please give us full details about the GF cheat story. include all descriptions no matter how painful.

i'm serious, and i'm not going to lie, it's because i want to hear the juicy parts. but it could also be theraputic to talk it through and get over it, and get some sympathy from all of us.

i pray i never have to deal with the same thing, must be horrible.

Spenguin

Australia3316 Posts

August 04 2008 14:25 GMT

I was going to ask why you didn't join in...but that would be fucked up.
/offtopic

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On August 04 2008 23:25 Hot_Bid wrote:
please give us full details about the GF cheat story. include all descriptions no matter how painful.

i'm serious, and i'm not going to lie, it's because i want to hear the juicy parts. but it could also be theraputic to talk it through and get over it, and get some sympathy from all of us.

i pray i never have to deal with the same thing, must be horrible.

That and T_T bad luck man, still oxford, fuckin well done mate

Orome

Switzerland11984 Posts

August 04 2008 14:27 GMT

God that sucks, I seriously have no idea how I'd handle that. Best of luck man.

REDBLUEGREEN

Germany1904 Posts

August 04 2008 14:28 GMT

you're from sweden and your going to oxford? so you would have had to make new friends anyway, eh?

KwarK

United States43758 Posts

August 04 2008 14:28 GMT

Sucks man. Time doesn't change friendship, you should be able to resume where you left them, unless either of you have changed significantly since then. Congrats on your Oxford offer, that's pretty sick. It's ridiculously hard to get in. Hopefully you'll make a load of new friends there, you going there this September?
Also useful for when you're feeling emo are older sisters and dogs (younger sisters and cats are way too self absorbed).

Frits

11782 Posts

August 04 2008 14:34 GMT

If you're going to Oxford at least you'll never have to see them again. But damn, that sounds painful. I can't believe someone who calls himself your friend could do your GF, no kidding I probably would've have beat the shit out of him hard.

So how did it happen, did you happen to come by for a surprise visit or something and found them like that?

KlaCkoN

Sweden1661 Posts

August 04 2008 14:34 GMT

Haha, maybe so ~~ Though it isn't very juicy = p

We had been having a "down" period so to speak, so I had decided to take a day of to go over to her place, and you know clean it up leave a nice letter etc. It is the kind of thing I generally seldom do but that she actually loves.

So when I open the door (I have a key) the first thing I see are his shoes and I hear a load *thump*. I go "uh..?" When I enter the appartment I find nothing, but upon opening the kitchen door I find them both there, cowering in one corner each, naked.

"Fucking great"

I tell him to get the fuck out so that I can talk things over with her (the fucker tries to hide in the bathroom trying to make sure he's still there when I leave, yea right..)

Anyways all dreams come to an end I suppose, however I just can't stop wondering if it was really worth it.

Orome

Switzerland11984 Posts

August 04 2008 14:37 GMT

This is probably way too early to try to shove a message down your throat, but abandoning your friends for a girl's never a good idea.

grobo

Japan6199 Posts

August 04 2008 14:37 GMT

#10

On August 04 2008 23:34 KlaCkoN wrote:
So when I open the door (I have a key) the first thing I see are his shoes and I hear a load *thump*. I go "uh..?" When I enter the appartment I find nothing, but upon opening the kitchen door I find them both there, cowering in one corner each, naked.

I don't think my rage would ever cool down after a thing like that.

Anyway, sorry to hear that, shouldn't be hard making new friends though and eventually you'll get over her.

Good luck!

KlaCkoN

Sweden1661 Posts

August 04 2008 14:40 GMT

#11

Wow at all posts~~

Strangly enough it actually makes it feel a bit better (lol me :/ )

And UK universities are strange so I'll be home 6 months a year anyway :/ + I have trouble meeteing new people, (I love socialising though )

*sighs* I'll go home now, writing this at work, might write more later. Thanks everyone.

grobo

Japan6199 Posts

August 04 2008 14:44 GMT

#12

On August 04 2008 23:40 KlaCkoN wrote:
Wow at all posts~~

Strangly enough it actually makes it feel a bit better (lol me :/ )

And UK universities are strange so I'll be home 6 months a year anyway :/ + I have trouble meeteing new people, (I love socialising though )

*sighs* I'll go home now, writing this at work, might write more later. Thanks everyone.

It's pretty much impossible not to make friends at school, as long as you are there at least once a week it shouldn't be a problem. And when you move to another country you have the opportunity to start over from scratch.

To be honest i wish i had a chance like that right now.

arb

Noobville17922 Posts

August 04 2008 14:45 GMT

#13

You should have grabbed his ass and beat the shit out of him. But really this sucks man

anderoo

Canada1876 Posts

August 04 2008 14:49 GMT

#14

On August 04 2008 23:45 arb wrote:
You should have grabbed his ass

!!!

Don't worry buddy, she's gonna end up being a livecam girl and you're gonna get fucking rich off of the badass job that education like Oxford gives you.
She'll regret it.

QuanticHawk

United States32130 Posts

August 04 2008 14:57 GMT

#15

Sucks man, sorry.

If it's any consolation, it could be worse. You could have come home to your girlfriend blowing your German Sheppard.

REDBLUEGREEN

Germany1904 Posts

August 04 2008 14:58 GMT

#16

Well I was in a similar situation once although not that hard. It was also my gf cheating on me with one of my best friends but they didn't have sex and I have not caught them in flagranti. When I found out I wanted to smack his face so badly, but I decided not to do so since I practice Kung Fu and I know my teacher would be very disappointed. So I ended of pissing on his car at night 3 times HAHA, it was fun and satisfaction and thats what u need right now :D
I would also speak with ur gf and make her tell u as much as she can, it helps in the long run. at least it did for me.
moreover if ur ex best friend also has a gf talk to her helps, too.
I'm still together with my gf after a short break cuz i realized that i still love her and i don't think she will do it again. But I never talked again to my friend.
So yeah just some advices although ur case is worse, but with those things I mentioned I was alright again after 3 weeks or a month, so gl to you!

ToT)MidiaN(

England2183 Posts

August 04 2008 14:58 GMT

#17

A really horrible situation. I hope you can get over it asap and move on. Eventually you may start missing her again, but I think this is something that can never be forgiven. Having some good friends would help you out a lot now, so I think you should try and rebuild the bridges with some of those friends you were talking about or go make some new ones. Try to stay occupied so you don't have to sit in front of your PC thinking about this all the time. Oxford will be great for you because it'll be a whole new place and you'll be able to meet many new people etc.

grobo

Japan6199 Posts

August 04 2008 15:05 GMT

#18

On August 04 2008 23:58 REDBLUEGREEN wrote:
I'm still together with my gf after a short break cuz i realized that i still love her and i don't think she will do it again. But I never talked again to my friend.

How can you even look her in the eyes after she did something like that to you? she basically just said that you weren't enough for her so she had to see other people. I could never ever trust a person like that again.

I'm not trying to say you are wrong/stupid/whatever here, just curious.

KwarK

United States43758 Posts

August 04 2008 15:13 GMT

#19

On August 04 2008 23:57 Hawk wrote:
Sucks man, sorry.

If it's any consolation, it could be worse. You could have come home to your girlfriend blowing your German Sheppard.

She didn't do that for herself, simply because it was necessary to get him ready to perform. Completely different....

REDBLUEGREEN

Germany1904 Posts

August 04 2008 15:29 GMT

#20

grobo: Well the strange thing is that it was the only time she ever gave me that feeling (not being enough) and everything else seemed perfect and suddenly that stuff happened...we'll it happend on a party, her birthday party to be precise, and she was quite drunk. I noticed that she really regretted it and she stopped drinking after that. You would think such a thing happens when there's already something wrong in the relationship, but it simply wasn't. So, seeing that she really regretted it and did everything to get me back and that our relationship in general was great, I was able to forgive. I think forgiving once is generous, twice is kinda stupid and trice is failure at live.
But I made the right decision, because everything is cool again :D

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