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Night[Mare
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
On April 08 2008 04:57 ~OpZ~ wrote: bleh...I know I should remove it...and I do have a new gf...I just...don't feel the same feeling for her as I felt for the other girl... Wait, are you retarded? Break up with your fucking present girlfriend then. You are doing her a HUGE disservice by leading her on this hard. Have a heart. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
On April 08 2008 06:12 RtS)Night[Mare wrote: Not like im depressed or something, i just miss her. Lets see how it goes the date. In the meantime i've just asked like 3 friends out, so i have another 3 dates as well to cover my ass hehe(not pretending anything romantic tho, but merely fun, but she doesnt need to know that) SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. It's not a god damn date. Stop lying to yourself, it's only going to make the rejection harder. | ||
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Rayzorblade
United States1172 Posts
On April 07 2008 11:37 rpf wrote: Stop inviting her over for lunch, and stop making her her favorite food. You sound like a sad puppy dog following her around. | ||
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Rayzorblade
United States1172 Posts
You need to break off that plan for lunch immediately and don't give her a reason why. Be vague and say "something" came up or whatever you have to do. This is so aggravating because you seem like a nice guy. Having this lunch with her will only make you miss her more and, in addition to that, you're going to start telling yourself that -maybe- she wants more. You're going to fuck yourself emotionally. (I know - I've been there). You need to break off all contact immediately and move on. I want to say the word "pathetic," but I think you're a nice guy and not deserving of that. But this is definitely close to me saying it. | ||
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yubee
United States3826 Posts
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ahrara_
Afghanistan1715 Posts
Relationships aren't something that should be treated like objects. I don't just mean romantic relationships -- any kind of close relationship should be remembered and honored for life. I let every person in my life know how important to me they are, and when we go our seperate ways, I try my best to keep in touch with them. There are people I haven't seen in person since 5th grade that I keep in touch with still, usually by email or snail mail (though honestly, not a lot and not very often, because I'm not perfect). The ones I've let go of, that I sincerely cared for, I've always regretted. If you sincerely like this person, and care for her like you say you do, then by no means should you cut off contact with her. You should cherish what you shared with her, and keep your relationship going, even if it's not at the same level it used to be. What you had with her was very important to both of you at one time, and you both obviously still treasure the experience. I think you will regret at some point in the future if you just shut her out of your life. I am not arguing that you should be obsessing over this girl forever. No, in that sense, the advice here is right. Don't commit yourself emotionally, if you can help it. Keep a distance, and spend time with other friends. But don't just cut her off. What you had with her is something only the two of you can really appreciate. Do you really want to throw out that experience, as if it never mattered? It'd be like if you were the only person in the world who played starcraft. You'd want someone else to share that experience with. Some of you are going to tell me I'm not being realistic, or that I'm a pansy for believing this. Whatever. You can stick to what you believe, I'm not going to judge you. But for me, holding on to people in my past and cherishing them is important to me. If some how I'd lost touch with all the people I haven't talked to in a while (like if facebook died), I'd be pretty devestated. I should add that I'm not that naive, although I probably have less experience with relationships than most people here. Still, I've been "there", so to speak, and I know how shitty it can be. Ya, I succumb to the idea that maybe it'll work out like anybody else. Unlike other posters, I weighed the two, and I found my choice was more rewarding in the long run. That and, it helps to have people you can spend time with that gets your mind off of the girl. | ||
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Kezban
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Night[Mare
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