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I dont know if i screwed up or not. You people know that i've had trouble getting over her, and that i hate his bf who used to be my former friend.
The other day i dreamt of her and my will was weak and i sent her an e-mail, which she awnsered quite quickly. So today we chated over MSN and she showed me all the stuff i've ever given to her stored in her closet, remembering old times, laughin a bit etc. And when i touch the BF subject she says "fine" and abrutply changes the subject. I didnt want to dig in further but that disturbs me. Either she doesnt want me to find out they're on trouble or just want me to stay outside the line.
So then we kept chatting for a bit more (1 hour) and i invited her to launch. She said yes and we scheduled the day. I was planning to cook some spaghetti (her fav food) and another dish but i cant get a hold on something in my mind.
so ;(
i hate i cant get over her, and i dont know whether or not i still have a chance. ill guess ill find out when we eat
 
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ugh ur so weak dude. gl..
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i want some spaghetti :3
gl
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GL tell us what happened! 
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Mmm, you sound like me for the year after my ex and I split. The biggest problem with getting over someone is that the stronger of an emotional connection you had with that person, the less you can talk to them or be friends with them. It doesn't work.
Obviously you were strongly connected to her when you were together, but you're never going to get over her by talking to her.
So, delete her phone number from her phone. Delete her MSN from your MSN, and delete her email address from your address book. Stop talking to her. Don't call her, don't text her, don't IM her, and don't email her.
Stop inviting her over for lunch, and stop making her her favorite food. You sound like a sad puppy dog following her around.
Oh, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but there are more girls on the planet than your ex. She's no more special than the rest of them.
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I had the same problem, almost exactly. Girlfriend of 22 months left me and went out with one of my close friends 2 weeks later. Just stop talking to her if there's no chance of you getting back together and it's hurting you. Don't let your feelings for her let you forget what she's done.
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dude you know what..
I actually im in a VERY similar situation like you. Its nice to know some1 is going through the same thing.. We dated for 1.5 yr. I broke off with her thinking im over her. then she go and date some1 else and say she wont ever get back with me and it hurts a lot. I can't get over her because we are very closed and I just can't imagine myself with another girl or find another girl that is so nice/sweet like she is.
Do you feel the same way? Just remind yourself the world is big and there are many nice girls out there... you just have to find one and stick with it. Good luck to you man.
About her bf and you wanting to get back with her, Just be careful because if her BF ever find out there will be BIG DRAMA. and your ex will be in the middle and she will hate you forever if that happens.
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note: this happened after six months of no speaking/talking/IM/text/see her >.<
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=( I'm sorry. I was in a similar situation for a while. Heartache's a bitch. Let's drink to it.
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dayum that sucks =( I'm currently iinn the same situation and i have no idea what to do =/
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Imagine her in bed with the other guy.
Still want her? 
Go find yourself some girls to flirt with, and you'll get over it right quick.
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On April 07 2008 12:02 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:
note: this happened after six months of no speaking/talking/IM/text/see her >.<
Yeah, I gave in and started talking to my ex after a while, too. But that's the problem--if you keep talking to her, it makes it difficult to move on.
So don't.
If you're still having thoughts along the lines of "but she was so great," "I'll never find someone like her," and so on, keep in mind those thoughts are motivated by emotion. Emotion isn't logical. So you can't trust them.
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United States22883 Posts
I don't know any way to fix it besides finding someone else and waiting. It's been 8 or 9 months since we stopped and I still think about her way too much, but I've been ready and looking for someone else for a bit now. The thing Is that I love her, but when I think about her personality I actually dislike it. When we first started she said she'd never be good enough for me and that hurt me then, but looking back and at what she wants to do with her life and what I want to do, I think she was right. Still, I can't shake the thought that I should be with her.
If she came to me now and said "sorry, I want you back" I'm 99% sure I'd say no, because I don't think it could work and maybe it never would have. But goddamn, I still care about everything she does and hope she gets the best.
I think it's gotta be the voice.
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On April 07 2008 12:12 Phoned wrote:Imagine her in bed with the other guy. Still want her? Go find yourself some girls to flirt with, and you'll get over it right quick.
haha i dont think that's a good idea.. well at least not for me.
it will just hurt you more and want to take his place more thus making you want to get back with her more.
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United States3119 Posts
I didn't talk to my ex for like 6 months than we became fb's. Everyone's situation is different though, and I doubt that, that is what you really want anyways. Just do what you have to bro 
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Canada7170 Posts
Former friend because he went out with her?
Or were you not friends when she went out with her?
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I guess it doesn't hurt to try, but find out whats up with her and the other guy first. If you don't do that soon it's going to fuck you up even more the longer you wait.
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The best way to end relationships is permanently. Do not talk to her, do not invite her over. She isn't your friend. In a year or whenever you're done being sad, you can be friends, but not until then.
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imagine her taking a huge shit, 2 girls 1 cup style
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EPT
