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fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-27 06:15:21
January 27 2015 05:30 GMT
#1
Well I recently turned 18 (January birthday) and this girl who I like is still 16, even though I am a senior and she is a junior. We are actually good acquaintances. My problem is that I am very good at forming friendships with females but I face terrible anxiety when it comes to showing my true feelings. And I also feel that the longer we stay friends, that the harder it gets for me to tell her that she is much more to me than just a friend. I feel this expectation or burden on my shoulders all the time. The weird thing is that I think she knows that I love her, but sometimes I am not so sure. Some days she will act like she loves me back, and other days she will only act like a friend. She keeps giving me mixed signals. She is really the best friend I have at school. I feel like I can talk to her about anything and be more comfortable around her than around anyone else. Last Friday after school she invited me to her house and said that her parents were leaving at around 5pm to attend some conference and they would be gone for most of the weekend and would come back on Sunday. I was very nervous but I accepted. I told my mom that I was going to attend a concert with some of my new friends and that there was nothing to worry about and that my parents could call me anytime. They are surprisingly chill with that kind of stuff and give me space. The whole day I was thinking what she might be planning for me. I didn't want it to be super awkward. I drove to her parent's house and reached there approximately at 5:15pm. We ended up getting some food from Chipotle, playing video games, watching TV, and having beer together. It was very fun but because I had feelings for her I wanted more intimacy. I was supposed to leave to go back to my place but at some point I was really tired and fell asleep on a couch in the living room. When I woke up I saw her looking into my eyes and when she saw I was awake she got me a glass of water. I started to get ready to leave, but she insisted that I stay at her house and that it was too "dangerous" for me to go back alone when I was so tired and just got up from a nap. I didn't know what to do so I accepted. She asked me to sleep in her bedroom and she had a large queen size bed so I thought it would not be as uncomfortable as being in a smaller bed. While I was laying on my side of the bed I noticed that she got up and started whispering in my ear from behind my head. She was so close that her hair was falling in front of my face. She was just saying things like we are best friends and I don't have to be nervous around her and that I can come over to her house any time I want to have someone to talk to. I honestly don't know if she loves me the way I love her or just sees me as a very very good friend of the opposite gender, I mean she knows that I'm not gay, and all the signs she is giving off seems to suggest that she does like me. But I am too scared to say anything about that, and I think she knows that I'm scared, but she won't come out and say anything clearly either. I am so confused as to what I should do next.

P.S. one of my favorite Kpop songs and dances performed by one of my favorite youtubers


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lichter
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
January 27 2015 06:13 GMT
#2
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AdministratorYOU MUST HEED MY INSTRUCTIONS TAKE OFF YOUR THIIIINGS
GoTuNk!
Profile Blog Joined September 2006
Chile4591 Posts
January 27 2015 06:15 GMT
#3
From urban dictionary:

Wall of Text

A paragraph written, usually on an internet forum, that is usually very long, has little or no punctuation and is very stressful on the eyes.

On your dilema: It's quite obvious she has the hots for you, and you should act before it wears away.

In general woman are attracted to man who lead and don't hesitate, so if you like her your best chance to end up with her is to pursue intimacy. The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.

No one loves anyone yet, just be alone with her somewhere, get close, looks her in the eyes, and if she hold your gaze try to kiss here.
fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
January 27 2015 06:18 GMT
#4
On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote:
The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.


I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company.
iMrising
Profile Blog Joined March 2012
United States1099 Posts
January 27 2015 06:20 GMT
#5
On January 27 2015 15:13 lichter wrote:
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i was waiting for this!
$O$ | soO
GoTuNk!
Profile Blog Joined September 2006
Chile4591 Posts
January 27 2015 06:28 GMT
#6
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote:
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On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote:
The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.


I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company.


Stop being scared, nervous and awkward with girls one baby step a time.

Step 1 : Do what I said above, just do it. If you are scared, suck it up and try not to show it.
lichter
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
January 27 2015 06:31 GMT
#7
did her hair smell nice is what i wanna know
AdministratorYOU MUST HEED MY INSTRUCTIONS TAKE OFF YOUR THIIIINGS
CosmicSpiral
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States15275 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-27 06:38:46
January 27 2015 06:34 GMT
#8
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote:
The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.


I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company.


Your dilemma is very common for adolescents around your age. Fortunately the answer is the same for most of those scenarios.

Commit to a path. Either value her friendship to the point where you can forgo your attraction without regret, or follow your attraction and see if the relationship can change to something more sexual (and hopefully, equally intimate). Either way, you must accept that the act comes without a guarantee of a positive result. You are hesitating because there is no clear outline of what will happen; the dread of what could happen is overpowering your other motivations. With the exception of physics, this lack of certainty is true for everything.
WriterWovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muß man schweigen.
B.I.G.
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
3251 Posts
January 27 2015 06:41 GMT
#9
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote:
The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.


I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company.

My advice: stop being nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. Yes that sounds like shitty advice. Yes just like any other guy I used to get really nervous about this with girls too. I'm 27 now and sometimes my heart still starts pounding when I try to put "the moves" on a girl I really like. The thing with most people asking for advice to friends or sites like TL is that they usually actually have a pretty good idea on how to proceed but are just to insecure about their own "instincts" to do something about it.

So to get back to your question. It pretty much comes down to this: do I stay passive and hope for the best while probably not getting what I want, or do I man up and do what I know I should do if I want to get this girl? Trust me man, just man up and go for it. No matter the (completely negligible) risk. In hindsight I have missed on so many opportunities for sex and/or relationships when I was younger just because I was just too passive and insecure like you.
Seeker *
Profile Blog Joined April 2005
Where dat snitch at?37023 Posts
January 27 2015 07:27 GMT
#10
On January 27 2015 15:13 lichter wrote:
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Sup?
ModeratorPeople ask me, "Seeker, what are you seeking?" My answer? "Sleep, damn it! Always sleep!"
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LoneYoShi
Profile Blog Joined June 2014
France1348 Posts
January 27 2015 09:24 GMT
#11
On January 27 2015 15:34 CosmicSpiral wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote:
On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote:
The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell.


I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company.


Your dilemma is very common for adolescents around your age. Fortunately the answer is the same for most of those scenarios.

Commit to a path. Either value her friendship to the point where you can forgo your attraction without regret, or follow your attraction and see if the relationship can change to something more sexual (and hopefully, equally intimate). Either way, you must accept that the act comes without a guarantee of a positive result. You are hesitating because there is no clear outline of what will happen; the dread of what could happen is overpowering your other motivations. With the exception of physics, this lack of certainty is true for everything.


This is what I came here for. CosmicSpiral laying out the truth, once again ! (meaning I agree with what he said and probably couldn't have worded it any better).
ahswtini
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Northern Ireland22208 Posts
January 27 2015 09:55 GMT
#12
next time ur in bed with her and she whispers in your ear just kiss her dude
"As I've said, balance isn't about strategies or counters, it's about probability and statistics." - paralleluniverse
Pandemona *
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Charlie Sheens House51484 Posts
January 27 2015 10:02 GMT
#13
Wait a second....you slept in the same bed? And she then comes over to "your side" of the bed to whisper you something and you are STILL unsure?

I think you need to stop analyzing something and go for it, pretty sure she likes you the same amount or if not at least is wanting some more fun sexually!

Go for it son, she wants the fluffy_pylon to put it bluntly!
ModeratorTeam Liquid Football Thread Guru! - Chelsea FC ♥
Clazziquai10
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Singapore1949 Posts
January 27 2015 10:02 GMT
#14
DOOD, the signals she's giving you are pretty obvious already (at least to me). What more do you want from her? Tell you to f** her?
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
January 27 2015 10:27 GMT
#15
HOLY FUCK DUDE, DO YOU WANT HER TO TALK THROUGH HER VAGINA? She is literally asking you to make a move and that it's cool, she won't fucking wreck you.


If someone makes justifications for you NOT TO LEAVE and TO SLEEP IN HER BED and to NOT BE NERVOUS. I'm pretty sure.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
ahswtini
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Northern Ireland22208 Posts
January 27 2015 10:35 GMT
#16
also, op used female as a noun
"As I've said, balance isn't about strategies or counters, it's about probability and statistics." - paralleluniverse
c3rberUs
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
Japan11286 Posts
January 27 2015 10:35 GMT
#17
I don't really comment in girl blogs but this situation... :O

SLEEP IN HER BED =/= mixed signals. LOL. You could have at least tried to talk her into saying what she really meant. I mean I'm not that good with girls but WTF, c'mon man!
WriterMovie, 진영화 : "StarCraft will never die".
IAmWithStupid
Profile Blog Joined February 2013
Russian Federation1016 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-27 12:49:22
January 27 2015 10:39 GMT
#18
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Insert wise words here
Scarecrow
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
Korea (South)9172 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-27 11:13:38
January 27 2015 11:09 GMT
#19
Asking you over, without parents, drinking, then making excuses for you to stay in her bed, are not mixed signals. She's being as blunt as any girl her age is ever going to be. She won't say anything 100% clearly. She's doing as much work as she can but you're the one who has to make things happen. Don't talk about your feelings, just kiss her and everything will work itself out (the lying down 'friend' hug transitions well into making out for first timers). Seriously she wants a home run and you're too nervous to slide into first base.
Yhamm is the god of predictions
EndingLife
Profile Blog Joined December 2002
United States1594 Posts
January 27 2015 14:15 GMT
#20
She is surely not giving you mixed signals by inviting you to her bed. I imagine you turned on your side, and her getting close to you whispering into your ear, and you're there stuck in your little nervous fetal position. Man up and take the initiative and make a move... Go in for a kiss next time, and things will fall into place. I take it you are a virgin.
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