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fluffy_pylon
United States79 Posts
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lichter
1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
Wall of Text A paragraph written, usually on an internet forum, that is usually very long, has little or no punctuation and is very stressful on the eyes. On your dilema: It's quite obvious she has the hots for you, and you should act before it wears away. In general woman are attracted to man who lead and don't hesitate, so if you like her your best chance to end up with her is to pursue intimacy. The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell. No one loves anyone yet, just be alone with her somewhere, get close, looks her in the eyes, and if she hold your gaze try to kiss here. | ||
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fluffy_pylon
United States79 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:15 GoTuNk! wrote: The fact that you two where in the same bed alone in a house and you didn't try to do anything with a girl you like seems incredibly dumb to me aswell. I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company. | ||
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iMrising
United States1099 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:13 lichter wrote: i was waiting for this! | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote: I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company. Stop being scared, nervous and awkward with girls one baby step a time. Step 1 : Do what I said above, just do it. If you are scared, suck it up and try not to show it. | ||
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lichter
1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote: I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company. Your dilemma is very common for adolescents around your age. Fortunately the answer is the same for most of those scenarios. Commit to a path. Either value her friendship to the point where you can forgo your attraction without regret, or follow your attraction and see if the relationship can change to something more sexual (and hopefully, equally intimate). Either way, you must accept that the act comes without a guarantee of a positive result. You are hesitating because there is no clear outline of what will happen; the dread of what could happen is overpowering your other motivations. With the exception of physics, this lack of certainty is true for everything. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:18 fluffy_pylon wrote: I am very nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. I still don't know if she was just being nice and wanted company. My advice: stop being nervous, scared, and awkward with girls. Yes that sounds like shitty advice. Yes just like any other guy I used to get really nervous about this with girls too. I'm 27 now and sometimes my heart still starts pounding when I try to put "the moves" on a girl I really like. The thing with most people asking for advice to friends or sites like TL is that they usually actually have a pretty good idea on how to proceed but are just to insecure about their own "instincts" to do something about it. So to get back to your question. It pretty much comes down to this: do I stay passive and hope for the best while probably not getting what I want, or do I man up and do what I know I should do if I want to get this girl? Trust me man, just man up and go for it. No matter the (completely negligible) risk. In hindsight I have missed on so many opportunities for sex and/or relationships when I was younger just because I was just too passive and insecure like you. | ||
Seeker
Where dat snitch at?37099 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:13 lichter wrote: Sup?  | ||
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LoneYoShi
France1348 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:34 CosmicSpiral wrote: Your dilemma is very common for adolescents around your age. Fortunately the answer is the same for most of those scenarios. Commit to a path. Either value her friendship to the point where you can forgo your attraction without regret, or follow your attraction and see if the relationship can change to something more sexual (and hopefully, equally intimate). Either way, you must accept that the act comes without a guarantee of a positive result. You are hesitating because there is no clear outline of what will happen; the dread of what could happen is overpowering your other motivations. With the exception of physics, this lack of certainty is true for everything. This is what I came here for. CosmicSpiral laying out the truth, once again ! (meaning I agree with what he said and probably couldn't have worded it any better). | ||
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ahswtini
Northern Ireland22213 Posts
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Pandemona
Charlie Sheens House51493 Posts
I think you need to stop analyzing something and go for it, pretty sure she likes you the same amount or if not at least is wanting some more fun sexually! Go for it son, she wants the fluffy_pylon to put it bluntly! | ||
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Clazziquai10
Singapore1949 Posts
 DOOD, the signals she's giving you are pretty obvious already (at least to me). What more do you want from her? Tell you to f** her? | ||
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Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
If someone makes justifications for you NOT TO LEAVE and TO SLEEP IN HER BED and to NOT BE NERVOUS. I'm pretty sure. | ||
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ahswtini
Northern Ireland22213 Posts
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c3rberUs
Japan11306 Posts
SLEEP IN HER BED =/= mixed signals. LOL. You could have at least tried to talk her into saying what she really meant. I mean I'm not that good with girls but WTF, c'mon man! | ||
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IAmWithStupid
Russian Federation1016 Posts
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9175 Posts
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EndingLife
United States1605 Posts
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Heat_023
Canada160 Posts
On January 27 2015 19:35 c3rberUs wrote: SLEEP IN HER BED =/= mixed signals. LOL Exactly this^ The only mixed signals you get must be caused by your reaction to all of this. By seduction language standards she is being as clear as one can possibly get, and she has to be thinking : "wow ok, I've been very outward with my intentions, the fact that he's keeping his distance must mean that he has something different in mind, I'm not gonna force him into anything he doesn't want". And then she proceeds to take her distance and seek someone else who's going to make her feel welcome. | ||
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Topin
Peru10123 Posts
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ahswtini
Northern Ireland22213 Posts
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ZeromuS
Canada13410 Posts
On January 27 2015 20:09 Scarecrow wrote: Asking you over, without parents, drinking, then making excuses for you to stay in her bed, are not mixed signals. She's being as blunt as any girl her age is ever going to be. She won't say anything 100% clearly. She's doing as much work as she can but you're the one who has to make things happen. Don't talk about your feelings, just kiss her and everything will work itself out (the lying down 'friend' hug transitions well into making out for first timers). Seriously she wants a home run and you're too nervous to slide into first base. And by being dumb and not realising this you may have tossed it away for now XD Dude, just next time you see her, just say "yo, I was nervous I like you a lot, lets go on a date - a real one this time?" And do it quick cuz you basically rejected her ... in her own bed ... in her mind based on what she did. | ||
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Jerubaal
United States7684 Posts
On January 27 2015 19:35 ahswtini wrote: also, op used female as a noun http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/substantive_adjective | ||
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parkufarku
882 Posts
On January 27 2015 23:51 ahswtini wrote: im feeling so bitter, i didnt have girls asking me over without parents, drinking and inviting me into their bed when I was 18 I feel your pain bro. Although I did experience sex at that age, it still would've been cool if the girl did the fcking work for me like OP! | ||
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ahswtini
Northern Ireland22213 Posts
not saying it's grammatically incorrect, it's pretty dehumanising though | ||
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FlaShFTW
United States10529 Posts
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Cricketer12
United States14000 Posts
On January 27 2015 15:13 lichter wrote: thats cheating | ||
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lohdon
170 Posts
On January 27 2015 14:30 fluffy_pylon wrote:I honestly don't know if she loves me the way I love her or just sees me as a very very good friend of the opposite gender, I mean she knows that I'm not gay, and all the signs she is giving off seems to suggest that she does like me. But I am too scared to say anything about that, and I think she knows that I'm scared, but she won't come out and say anything clearly either. I am so confused as to what I should do next. Talking from my own experience the biggest mistake you can make is to not act upon your feelings. You can try to analyze her behavior as long as you want you will never know for sure how she feels and if something can happen between the two of you. Don't be scared to show your feelings it doesn't matter if she feels the same or not they are still valid feelings and if she is a nice girl she will still be nice to you so there is nothing to be afraid about. | ||
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