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Deleted User 97295
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
1137 Posts
August 04 2014 00:46 GMT
#1
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evanthebouncy!
Profile Blog Joined June 2006
United States12796 Posts
August 04 2014 01:32 GMT
#2
lol just take a break and play to get better and not to win.
if you thnk logically, as long as you learn from the game, it doesn't matter if it's winning or losing..
hope it helped.
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bakesale
Profile Blog Joined August 2008
United States187 Posts
August 04 2014 01:44 GMT
#3
Well, what is Dota for you? Something you want to perform competitively at, or a way to have fun with friends?

If you want to be competitive (in tournaments), then yes, being a good player and winning is important. You can improve with dedicated training, which may be relatively hard and boring. If you can't manage losing, you might not be cut out for competitive play.

If you want to have fun playing a game, then find ways to have fun and improve regardless of winning or losing the game. If you're not so bad that your friends still play with you, then great. Dota is a fun game to play with friends, and you're lucky that your friends are better: they can bring you up to their level. If they were worse than you, you'd stagnate.

Make having fun with friends your top priority: if losses are upsetting you or causing friction between friends, just take a day off or go get 20-0 in a bot game. Find enjoyment in games whether you win or lose. I know a lot of people in the Dota community would insult that attitude, but life is fucking hard enough without burdening yourself with stress from a video game. There are only a handful of people on this planet that care anything about your Dota 2 MMR, and probably in ten years zero people will.

Make improvement a second priority: set benchmarks for your performance on certain heroes independent of game win/loss. Specific things like CS/level/core items by a certain time. When your friends point out mistakes, follow up on that after the game. Ask them to clarify and expand. Use a local lobby or the replay takeover function to practice specific skills/situations. Watch pro games in client from the player perspective and don't just passively spectate, make an effort to understand their actions. Find satisfaction in having improved your play, even if it wasn't game-changing.

You'll lose a game roughly half of the time, it's not a critical disaster. Have fun and learn something from every game. Dota is incredibly replayable and deep, so there should be no end to either of these.
saocyn
Profile Joined July 2011
United States937 Posts
August 04 2014 02:43 GMT
#4
well constantly reminding yourself that your inability to win is due to your inferiority isn't going to help. realistically speaking if you're not looking at progress in terms of what resides IN THE GAME, and making failure as a fault that is inescapable, you essentially trap yourself from ever making progress to win.

remove the belief that winning or failing has anything to do with you as a person, instead look at the game as mere data that is either learning or progressing. anything outside of this essentially hinders your own ability to succeed.

also from my standpoint you need new friends. who the fuck cares what your friend thinks? especially if it's not beneficial in helping you progress? as far as i'm concerned you and your friends are all newbs, why should you care about wins or losses over learning as much as possible? dota isn't a game you get good at in 1 year even if you had practice for 24 hours a day for 1 year. when you have played for 5 years as i have, and have more than 10,000 games played, then you can come back and tell me if you in actuality have an inferiority complex. i highly doubt you have the right for self pity when you have not even given your self the chance to practice and put the adequate time in.
Kraznaya
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States3711 Posts
August 04 2014 05:37 GMT
#5
just be u no one else can do u like u
do you have enough resolve, hero of justice?
cheese sandwich
Profile Joined July 2014
Russian Federation194 Posts
Last Edited: 2014-08-04 07:41:58
August 04 2014 07:40 GMT
#6
I've been at the same mmr since I was calibrated back when it came out in December. I'm bad and I'll never be good at Dota 2. Just think, the highest I've ever gotten is 230 above the mmr I was calibrated and am currently at. I have no hope anymore after trying for so long to even get in the mid 3k's. Good luck, hope you find whatever you want with this game.
totalpigeon
Profile Joined September 2010
United Kingdom162 Posts
August 04 2014 09:42 GMT
#7
Staying at the same mmr consistently is not a sign of no progress. Instead, it means you are getting better at the same rate as everyone else around your level.
makmeatt
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
2024 Posts
August 04 2014 10:30 GMT
#8
On August 04 2014 09:46 Laertes wrote:
I was born with some kind of mental inferiority complex. Losing is very painful for me, winning is never enough. I am not naturally talented at dota and it pains me to think if I will never be any good. I took up dota last year but my friends have always been better than me, they say I make stupid mistakes and it kills me because it is true. I don't like to lose and every loss is unbearably painful, I just made this thread to vent but some moral help would be nice, there isn't enough of it in the dota community and I don't like being bad but I am very bad unfortunately, I need help.


You ain't born with anything, it's just how you were raised. Complex sociological shit involved. The first and foremost thing you should ask yourself is if what you do is to be considered fun and/or fulfilling for you; if it's not (not just now, not at all, you can't imagine it to be), then it's not worth your time and you should chase other endeavors. If it is, then you should focus on that. If you want to get good, then you have to understand that without losing there's no improvement, without making mistakes there's no learning. Once you accept that as a vital part of the process, deep inside yourself, it will only get better.
"Silver Edge can't break my hope" - Kryptt 2016 || "Chrono is not a debuff, you just get rekt" - Guru 2016
Avs
Profile Joined November 2010
Korea (North)857 Posts
August 04 2014 10:34 GMT
#9
MMR does not reflect skill, or intelligence. Why do so many people think MMR is some sort of perfect algorithm? Its a piece of trash especially the higher you go. How do you know MMR isn't relevant at the highest level? Pros never talk about it seriously.

If you truly want to see how good you are and how far you can go, devote 6 hours of a day to this game. Organize some method of practice for many heroes in a row. Winning and losing no longer will matter. What will matter is whether you are consistent and comfortable with X hero. Once you master one, start on the next.
teddyoojo
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
Germany22369 Posts
August 04 2014 10:43 GMT
#10
of course mmr isnt perfectly representing skill but it still holds true that if ur 4k ur 100% likely to be shit at dota
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nojok
Profile Joined May 2011
France15845 Posts
August 04 2014 11:33 GMT
#11
On August 04 2014 19:43 teddyoojo wrote:
of course mmr isnt perfectly representing skill but it still holds true that if ur 4k ur 100% likely to be shit at dota

No, at 4K MMR you're a good player, we can compare it to diamond in SC2. Sure it's bad compared to the pros but waaaay above bnet pubs.
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Hurricane Sponge
Profile Joined March 2010
868 Posts
August 04 2014 12:38 GMT
#12
Being shit at dota isn't the end of the world. Not having fun is the sign it's time to hang 'em up, not having a low rating.
iyasq8
Profile Joined December 2012
113 Posts
August 04 2014 14:17 GMT
#13
dont try hard to become good you will regret it. I used to play sc2 and I loved it, slowly tried to become good, had a practice regime, and before i knew it, it became a job. Without practicing 4-5 hours a day you cant stay high masters, and now I dont want to even hear the word sc2, the built up anxiety would start to surface again. I'll never do the same thing with dota. just play pubs, the way the game was meant to be.
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Deleted User 97295
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
1137 Posts
August 04 2014 15:36 GMT
#14
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ZeaL.
Profile Blog Joined April 2009
United States5955 Posts
Last Edited: 2014-08-04 19:13:19
August 04 2014 19:12 GMT
#15
The first step to dota is to know that you are bad and be okay with it. This will allow you to play without the pressure of perfection upon your shoulders.
The second step to dota is to know that those around you are bad, and possibly not okay with it. They may be slightly less bad or more bad than you, it should not matter. Ignore the flames, suppress your own flames, for we are all imperfect and raging does not improve you, nor does it help you enjoy the game.

You can stop here if you like, you will be much happier than if you do not follow steps 1 and 2. However, to improve we must continue.
The third step to dota is to be introspective. Why did you lose that lane? Was it the correct decision to take that rosh fight? Was it execution, or was it strategy? Knowing your flaws will allow you to remedy them. Consciously remember the mistakes of past games and attempt to change your decision making and positioning.
The fourth step is to practice. This does not mean mindlessly spamming pub matches . It can mean practicing ward spots, practicing body blocking, practicing skill combos, practicing minion micro, practicing tread swapping, the list is quite long. Practice is the remedy to flaws in execution.

If you are able to accomplish these four steps, you will doubtlessly improve as a player. Depending on your dedication and time, possibly allow you to walk the road to 5k. However, there is one last step.
The fifth and final step has only been undertaken by few individuals in history. That is, the last step is to become dota. In truth, there is a little dota in all of us, however only IceFrog has managed to become dota. To become dota is to reach nirvana.
bakesale
Profile Blog Joined August 2008
United States187 Posts
August 04 2014 23:07 GMT
#16
On August 05 2014 00:36 Laertes wrote:
I can play 7-8 hours of video games without breaking a sweat. That's what made me feel like I could probably play competitively, the problem with pubs at my level is I get no fulfillment out of them, they are disgusting and coin floppy and promote mistakes since everyone around you is bad. But I was once 700 MMR is the thing. I couldn't accept that. What did I do? I risked a lot of money to buy an account. Thinking back on it, I am getting better. I must be, I dropped from 3k to 2.4k and will drop no lower, I can go no higher, it must be my value ATM,
But I can't accept that. Yesterday, I bought an account once again, this time it is 4.8k, I will learn to be 4k if it kills me. It is an interesting story because I was actually being sold the account by a progamer
Named fi-sama. She is a 5.6k rated female progamer whose name I recognize but from whence I cannot recall. She befriended me last night and encouraged me, she was selling the account very cheap too, (20 dollars for a 5k account is very cheap you see) because it was for education. Perhaps there is hope yet.

I don't want to be too harsh, but if you are playing 7-8 hours a day with 700 (or even 2.4k) MMR, you should just forget about trying to be competitive. Have a good time playing with your friends and improve your skill.

Pubs are not as coin-flippy as you think. MMR isn't a perfect measurement of skill, but a 5k player would rocket out of the 2k range. Everyone at that level is bad, including yourself. You can only directly control your play, so improve that.

Buying accounts is bizarre, if you have a hard time dealing with losses, why would you want a 5k account? You eventually drop from 5k to whatever, and have a majority of losses along the way. You say it's for education, but I don't know what you're going to learn that you couldn't by spectating pro games/streams/first page matches, other than seeing that you don't belong at an MMR that you didn't earn.
FiWiFaKi
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
Canada9858 Posts
August 05 2014 03:24 GMT
#17
On August 05 2014 08:07 bakesale wrote:
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On August 05 2014 00:36 Laertes wrote:
I can play 7-8 hours of video games without breaking a sweat. That's what made me feel like I could probably play competitively, the problem with pubs at my level is I get no fulfillment out of them, they are disgusting and coin floppy and promote mistakes since everyone around you is bad. But I was once 700 MMR is the thing. I couldn't accept that. What did I do? I risked a lot of money to buy an account. Thinking back on it, I am getting better. I must be, I dropped from 3k to 2.4k and will drop no lower, I can go no higher, it must be my value ATM,
But I can't accept that. Yesterday, I bought an account once again, this time it is 4.8k, I will learn to be 4k if it kills me. It is an interesting story because I was actually being sold the account by a progamer
Named fi-sama. She is a 5.6k rated female progamer whose name I recognize but from whence I cannot recall. She befriended me last night and encouraged me, she was selling the account very cheap too, (20 dollars for a 5k account is very cheap you see) because it was for education. Perhaps there is hope yet.

I don't want to be too harsh, but if you are playing 7-8 hours a day with 700 (or even 2.4k) MMR, you should just forget about trying to be competitive. Have a good time playing with your friends and improve your skill.

Pubs are not as coin-flippy as you think. MMR isn't a perfect measurement of skill, but a 5k player would rocket out of the 2k range. Everyone at that level is bad, including yourself. You can only directly control your play, so improve that.

Buying accounts is bizarre, if you have a hard time dealing with losses, why would you want a 5k account? You eventually drop from 5k to whatever, and have a majority of losses along the way. You say it's for education, but I don't know what you're going to learn that you couldn't by spectating pro games/streams/first page matches, other than seeing that you don't belong at an MMR that you didn't earn.



I want would like to agree with one of the points that was mentioned.

Pubs are not coin flippy at all. When I started, I had natural gaming ability, I had years of BW experience, on-top of SC2 semi-pro experience, as well as over 100 pro matches watched. Not to mention I acted as a peace mediator for the team, trying to get everyone to be friendly and cooperate.

My win rate was initially a consistant 80-85%, then slowed down to about 70% with a negative derivative. After that I reached level 13, I was able to play ranked, I started at 3.8k MMR, and my win rate over the next hundred games decreased to roughly 55% from roughly 70%, until I stalled at 4.5k MMR. From there, I played, and have been increasing roughly 50-100 MMR a month, with a standard deviation of 50~.

Over a decent sample size, your MMR will very accurately reflect your skill level, and I hate when people refer to MMR as a shitty way to gauge skill. I think it drops off in validity at the 5.5k+ level, simply due to the game being much less about map awareness and mechanical skill, rather than team decisions and overall strategy, but up to that point, it's very accurate.
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FiWiFaKi
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
Canada9858 Posts
Last Edited: 2014-08-05 03:31:25
August 05 2014 03:30 GMT
#18
And holy hell, would I hate to play with someone that has a 2.4k MMR that buys a 4.8k MMR account, just ruins the experience for other people.

Man, I love to sing, and I love to dance. And I would love to be good at them, but I'm just not, and never will be, genetics can't give you everything man. So now, I might dance for fun, sing a little for fun, but know I'm not hot shit, and laugh it off when my friends bug me about it. I try to get better so I can look like someone who can pass it off, but I know I wont be the best, I know I wont be winning competitions. That's fine for me, I enjoy the experience.

I think you should take that kind of approach, because what you are doing now, it's not healthy. If you're going to put this much effort into something in life with no reward but self fulfillment, usually you'll benefit more from doing something that affects the world in a greater way than reaching 3k MMR. Have some aspirations man! You're 2.4k MMR, you're a passable player, play with friends, try your best, and have a good time.
In life, the journey is more satisfying than the destination. || .::Entrepreneurship::. Living a few years of your life like most people won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can't || Mechanical Engineering & Economics Major
FFGenerations
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
7088 Posts
August 05 2014 09:12 GMT
#19
On August 04 2014 19:34 Avs wrote:
MMR does not reflect skill, or intelligence. Why do so many people think MMR is some sort of perfect algorithm? Its a piece of trash especially the higher you go. How do you know MMR isn't relevant at the highest level? Pros never talk about it seriously.

If you truly want to see how good you are and how far you can go, devote 6 hours of a day to this game. Organize some method of practice for many heroes in a row. Winning and losing no longer will matter. What will matter is whether you are consistent and comfortable with X hero. Once you master one, start on the next.


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