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On January 27 2014 09:05 MtlGuitarist97 wrote:
Docvoc, are you enjoying college as a whole? I remember you talking about how you didn't go to your first choice because of a dumb decision to go to a school cause of your gf at the time, but I never found out if you ended up being happy with your decision in the end.
I actually am. I went through a really low low. Worst depression of my life by far early on in the semester. I matured a lot since then. One of the things I changed was my outlook. Instead of me just unluckily being at a school I felt I could do better than, I took where I'm at as an opportunity. It's a long story, but in the end I'd say that Rhodes is a good place for me, even if I feel like it's not what I want in a college, the people I know here, make it not boring. If it gets boring I will leave, when it's not fun anymore, I'll go, but for now I'll just let it ride. I'm having a good time, I'm generally well liked, I excel at the academics, and there is no reason to make my life hard at this level because I know I want to go to graduate school. Plus, if I ever got so restless I didn't want to be in college, I could just go abroad for a year and take classes at different universities abroad that I just wouldn't transfer the credits back. I'm pretty happy where I am right now honestly.
On January 27 2014 09:48 iamho wrote:
Please don't join Pike, at my school they were the date-rape frat. Their sister sorority DPhie does have a lot of 10/10 girls though.
That's what I was afraid of at my school, but that ended up being the SAE here. The pikes here are awesome and though they haze kinda hard, it's worth it imo. The Sororities here don't really buddy up with fraternities too too much, but I see a lot of Deltas and other local university sorority girls at their parties so it's usually pretty well spread out. I'm not in it for the girls though, it's the guys that I really like at Pike honestly.
Also, WoS, we don't have an AEPi at Rhodes haha.
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In my experience frats are really different depending on what school you are at. Im here at West Chester (pennsylvania) and every.single.frat.bro. here is a scumbag that I hope gets hit by a car. I dont know what it is with this area, but you are either in a frat or you HATE the frats here. That simple.
Ive visited friends at Virginia tech and Penn state, and I thought they were really cool. not only were the guys in the frats cool, but they have designated drivers, people to buy you alcohol, and cool stuff like that to enhance the college experience. but here, being in a frat is like a license to act like a douchebag at every turn.
Theres not a single perk to being in a frat here. the people that join them here are the kinds of people that will happily wait 3 hours in line to get into the nightclub just to be seen at the nightclub. its just a money and time drain as far as I can tell.
Anyway thats my frat ramble, good luck with yours
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West coast fraternity man here. I would say absolutely join if you are sure you like the guys, which it seems you do. I'm already an alumnus of my fraternity and was in it all four years of college. Like you, I had no idea what the fuck fraternities were about, but joined because I wanted friends outside of my major. Best decision ever, even before I graudated I realized what a great decision it was to take that initial leap of faith, accept my bid, and join a brotherhood. Two years after college, I can honestly tell you that I still keep in constant contact with lots of guys from my chapter and it's been extremely exicting to see my best friends get married, get into graduate programs, get real jobs, and be part of it all. Although real life keeps me busy during the weekdays, I still have a very fun schedule for most weekends. Plus, with social media nowadays, it's easy to keep in touch.
Job opportunities aside, being in a fraternity also gives you some options to stay involved with your school through your chapter. I really like interacting with and meeting new college students, so I decided to stay on as my chapters scholarship advisor.
Of course, results are not typical, and the biggest reasons your experience will either be good or bad are 1. the quality of the men in your fraternity and 2. your own effort and attitude.
GLHF
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I'm really glad you're doing good, and not in a pit anymore.
It's a long story, but in the end I'd say that Rhodes is a good place for me, even if I feel like it's not what I want in a college, the people I know here, make it not boring. If it gets boring I will leave, when it's not fun anymore, I'll go, but for now I'll just let it ride. I'm having a good time, I'm generally well liked, I excel at the academics, and there is no reason to make my life hard at this level because I know I want to go to graduate school.
I've got to say it though. I know I don't have a good read, I don't know everything about the situation, but please keep this in mind:If its a question with College, or no College, College is a big deal, regardless of where you go. You're empowered to get a good job (plus the whole, y'know, broadening intellectual horizons), either your parents are paying for it, or your future self (through loans). Either way, it isn't free.
Undergraduate subject matter isn't super hard, or important. What matters is that you learn to whup yourself enough to grind, and get the work done, no matter what it is, no matter how hard it is. You learn to discipline yourself to complete it. It's a painful experience, but think of how empowered you become, if you learn to overcome just about any adversity. This is your academy, get the most from your training.
Fun. Good Time. Generally Well Liked. Without these, it'll be a miserable and terribly painful experience, probably unbearable. But that's not the whole goal either, that's not what it's about. Whenever I really need to feel motivated to do my work, I imagine my dream is to become a BW progamer. But before glory, OSL, mainstage, and SKT house, I've got to win courage. I've got to fucking win courage. In that mindset, I'd put absolutely ALL my effort into training to the best of my ability. Playing BW as a job would be great fun, a good time, and hopefully I'd be well liked. But I'd really regret it if I pulled out immediately, if for a period those things weren't true of my experience. Even progamers lose fun at some point. That's why it's important to not base your perseverance on your current emotional state, because your feels are transitory, temperamental from day to day. Stick through it even when it's not fun or a good time. Yeah it sucks practicing BW all day, yeah courage is impossibly hard, but you've got to dream. Emotional stability and health are essential, but don't waste your life pursuing them past 'enough'. Work hard and do well, that's what you're there for. By doing so, you'll be much better setup for life, than if I pull out now.
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I joined my brotherhood on a whim more or less. From my experience it is all about what you make of it and I believe my participation changed me as a person for the better. I have several friends that I anticipate will be a lifelong friends who I met via my fraternity that I would not have met otherwise. For all the crap that fraternities get in social media (some of it rightly so), there are thousands more experiences and events helping to shape peoples lives for the better (both inside and outside the fraternity) as a direct result of fraternity actions in the USA. It is not just a vehicle for personal development but is also one for community development. Do not be afraid to be yourself to the fraternity or leave if necessary -- at the end of the day it must be the right fit for you.
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I would have never pegged you for a frat guy haha.
They're alright and vary a ton school to school. At my school, most were toolbags. I ended up bsing frats about wanting to join my second semseter because I was working a lot when I first got there. So i ended up at all the parties. Fun while it lasted, but most of them sucked. The frats at other nearby schools were better. FWIW, Pike was rapey guidos by me but your mileage varies
Hockey rules and you should join the hockey threats and root for the rangers. what position are you playing??
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