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On March 13 2013 06:38 Targe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 06:24 Recognizable wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens. Good luck! (You aren't perhaps an ex-pat in the netherlands are you?)
Haha, I'm not. What makes you think that? Anyway, I didn't go to school today because I need to study. So I have no opportunity to ask her out today. I'll ask her out tommorow or friday. I'll give you guys an update 
More than that? Something clicks in my brain and basically makes me feel like I'd be taking advantage of them.
Exactly. It's a feeling of wanting to protect her.
You have fun or like her or you wouldn't have posted about it. Take care of business, have fun, have a good time. Just don't be like oh things will be great when you visit me in college. Because there will be some new chick that will be making you feel the same way and a 10 minute walk away from your dorm room.
No dorms in the Netherlands. Apart from Liberal Arts/University Colleges. However, the science curriculum isn't great for those so I won't be going there.
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On March 13 2013 18:00 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 06:38 Targe wrote:On March 13 2013 06:24 Recognizable wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens. Good luck! (You aren't perhaps an ex-pat in the netherlands are you?) Haha, I'm not. What makes you think that? Anyway, I didn't go to school today because I need to study. So I have no opportunity to ask her out today. I'll ask her out tommorow or friday. I'll give you guys an update Show nested quote +More than that? Something clicks in my brain and basically makes me feel like I'd be taking advantage of them. Exactly. It's a feeling of wanting to protect her. Show nested quote +You have fun or like her or you wouldn't have posted about it. Take care of business, have fun, have a good time. Just don't be like oh things will be great when you visit me in college. Because there will be some new chick that will be making you feel the same way and a 10 minute walk away from your dorm room. No dorms in the Netherlands. Apart from Liberal Arts/University Colleges. However, the science curriculum isn't great for those so I won't be going there.
Well your English is pretty good so I was wondering if you go to BSN or something!
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Walking up Kilimanjaro, wowsers, good luck sir!!!
Also...when you said "little girl" in the title i kinda got scared ;_; when you talk about a girl being little and then "putting your peenor" in comes along i just think, OH WOW, lets not get all 4chan up in here xD
Do what you think is right, if she is 16 go get her! (legal age is 16 in Europe right?) if she is like 15 though, just like continue to avoid her until she is 16 then, go for it! Thats all i would do tbh haha.
GL on your summer break! Portugal is very fun, where about are you heading?
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I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames.
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On March 13 2013 19:00 Recognizable wrote:
I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames.
I've lived in the netherlands 6 years and still all I know is 'thank you', 'please' and 'bill'.
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On March 13 2013 19:15 Targe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 19:00 Recognizable wrote:
I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames. I've lived in the netherlands 6 years and still all I know is 'thank you', 'please' and 'bill'.
You aren't trying to learn it.
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EDIT: Oh, and if you're anywhere near Viseu when you're in Portugal, gimme a beep.
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I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older.
I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 
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On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay
22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap.
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Haha perhaps I would have regretted it if I had 'gone there' then
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On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap.
She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure.
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On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure.
What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th?
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On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th?
Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really.
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On March 13 2013 23:39 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th? Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really.
If she's in 4th or should be in 4th I don't think there's a problem. 6th and 3rd is a little.. I don't know. There isn't really a problem with it but it's like you say It might kinda feel like you're taking advantage of her. I would feel the same way. If she really wants to go for it then I guess it's just a decision you're going to have to make for yourself.
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On March 13 2013 23:45 solidbebe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:39 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th? Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really. If she's in 4th or should be in 4th I don't think there's a problem. 6th and 3rd is a little.. I don't know. There isn't really a problem with it but it's like you say It might kinda feel like you're taking advantage of her. I would feel the same way. If she really wants to go for it then I guess it's just a decision you're going to have to make for yourself.
Agreed.
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I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
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On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
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On March 14 2013 00:05 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
Well getting to know her cant be bad. If shes really 'too young' (emotionally) you'll notice anyway, this is where "taking advantage" might become problematic on your part because she probably wont notice. If she isn't people should be ok I guess, most important should be your and her parents (does she have an older brother? :D)
Also, while TL is a nice place you should talk to some older people you're close to, older siblings or something like that. I guess most of your friend aren't very mature themself, at least didn't sound like that so far.
GL
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On March 14 2013 00:05 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
Don't listen to dumb TL memes that are borderline rape advocacy. Personally I think getting involved with such a young person is an accident waiting to happen, because she is (or both of you are) likely so inoculated by popular culture with destructive notions on how a relationship should look like that eventually things get ruined by control issues, jealousy, gender expectations and various other bad things. Protect yourself and her by always making explicit what you want from a relationship, at least until you have a better handle on things.
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