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So. I'm in high school, eighteen years old and there is this really attractive little girl into me. She is all happy around me and generally tries to make contact. Nobody waits around for hours altough they are free to go because the other person has something to do. Anyway, the problem is that she is 2/3 years younger than me. Her hormones are going crazy and I would feel like a total douche to take advantage of this. I have a little sister and I don't think I would be very happy if she was dating someone that's 18 when she is 15/16. How do I tell her nicely that it wouldn't be the most wisest of decisions for her to date me? The advice of my friends is to just "do" her because in 1 or 2 years she'll be the most beautiful woman I could ever get :')
What is up with all these 15/16 year old girls who seem to just stare at me in the hallways. I'm not attractive damnit and I'm usually incredible grumpy because I have to force myself through all these little motherfuckers in the narrowest of hallways to go to some pointless class with an incompetent teacher. Months ago I just gave up asking my Biology teacher questions because he just can´t explain antyhing. The greatest thing was when he started making up excuses; "Well it's been 30 years..." I can't wait to study! During the holidays I'm planning on tackling this: http://www.trillia.com/zakon1.html, work out a lot, go to portugal with my friends, walk up the Kilimanjaro with my dad and create my first program. Can't wait 
 
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On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in
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On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:
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On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:
this has now been added to tl memes. alongside "do you even lift"
pur srsly bro: put the penor in.
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How well do you know her? If you know relatively little about her other than her interest in you and her age, then why not at least find out?
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Tell your friends they're idiots and have a conversation with her.
On March 13 2013 03:28 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in this has now been added to tl memes. alongside "do you even lift" pur srsly bro: put the penor in.
thanks for doing your part in degrading the quality of TL
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On March 13 2013 03:28 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in this has now been added to tl memes. alongside "do you even lift" pur srsly bro: put the penor in.
do you even lift
if so
put the penor in
and if she cray
u gotta sk8
unless you're
[puts on sunglasses]
romanian
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^At least half of those aren't from TL.......................
Edit: Yep Solidbebe, I can confirm. I was a Miscer before I came to TL 
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Pretty sure do you even lift came from body building forums
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you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance
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On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance
just watch out for age of consent laws
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On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws
The netherlands is a lot more relaxed with that kind of stuff than america
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On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws
Since when are there age of consent laws in high school 0.o.
I did have a friend where it was kind of the opposite situation. He really liked this girl who was a freshmen when he was a senior. He never asked her out cause he though he would seem like a pedaphile having a girlfriend who was 4 years younger than him.
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On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws
On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance
Both of these. You're going to look back at this in a couple years, and regret it. Even if you don't feel anything for her right now, you should still go for it. You're young and dumb (sorry dude, but it's kind of true... you're denying yourself a girl that has a thing for you. How stupid do you have to be?) so just go with it. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it. If it's a good idea, you won't regret it.
Either way, just find out what happens man. The age thing might be a little freaky, but you'll get over it pretty quickly.
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If she wants the D give her the D. Always use BC and condoms.18/16 is completley normal stuff in high school.
If your ever in doubt just divide by 2 and add 7. That is the acceptable age.
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On March 13 2013 03:43 hoby2000 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance Both of these. You're going to look back at this in a couple years, and regret it. Even if you don't feel anything for her right now, you should still go for it. You're young and dumb (sorry dude, but it's kind of true... you're denying yourself a girl that has a thing for you. How stupid do you have to be?) so just go with it. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it. If it's a good idea, you won't regret it. Either way, just find out what happens man. The age thing might be a little freaky, but you'll get over it pretty quickly.
You are right... Damnit. It just "feels" wrong.
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2-3 years is not really that unusual, so just go for it. It's not like she's 12.
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On March 13 2013 03:53 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:43 hoby2000 wrote:On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance Both of these. You're going to look back at this in a couple years, and regret it. Even if you don't feel anything for her right now, you should still go for it. You're young and dumb (sorry dude, but it's kind of true... you're denying yourself a girl that has a thing for you. How stupid do you have to be?) so just go with it. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it. If it's a good idea, you won't regret it. Either way, just find out what happens man. The age thing might be a little freaky, but you'll get over it pretty quickly. You are right... Damnit. It just "feels" wrong.
I know. And it's going to feel wrong when the same thing happens to your sister, but you just have to accept it. It will always feel wrong at first but it really does go away pretty quickly. The age thing really means nothing at your age too. It's kind of funny how people think they're so much more mature than those 2 years younger than them at 18. Or even 1 year. But you're all almost all the same maturity, haha. Fuck, even people at 20 years old still act like high schoolers. I still do every once in awhile (hard habits to break) and I'm 24!
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On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws
As far as I know it's not as tight in the Netherlands as it is in America.
On March 13 2013 03:53 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:43 hoby2000 wrote:On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance Both of these. You're going to look back at this in a couple years, and regret it. Even if you don't feel anything for her right now, you should still go for it. You're young and dumb (sorry dude, but it's kind of true... you're denying yourself a girl that has a thing for you. How stupid do you have to be?) so just go with it. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it. If it's a good idea, you won't regret it. Either way, just find out what happens man. The age thing might be a little freaky, but you'll get over it pretty quickly. You are right... Damnit. It just "feels" wrong.
I'm 18 and the year above me before they left my school were known for going out with 15 year old girls, don't worry about it, you're at school and as long as she's ok with it go for it.
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On March 13 2013 03:32 Grumbels wrote:Tell your friends they're idiots and have a conversation with her. Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:28 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in this has now been added to tl memes. alongside "do you even lift" pur srsly bro: put the penor in. thanks for doing your part in degrading the quality of TL
Talking to people is a good skill toi have.
To contribute, I'm too much of a whore to not at least try dating a girl only 2-3 years younger. At least talk to her. Maybe you'll actually like her. Although I do see where you're coming from.
2 to 3 years... I feel weird about having a crush on a girl 1 year younger. Not girls a few years older though for a strange reason.
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Just talk, conversations are really important to not get yourself into a terrible relationship xD
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Can anyone explain the 'u gotta sk8' and romanian memes? (something about not getting sarcasm..?)
I've heard/seen them before but I'm afraid I'm not vet enough to get it....
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On March 13 2013 04:41 WaveofShadow wrote:
Can anyone explain the 'u gotta sk8' and romanian memes? (something about not getting sarcasm..?)
I've heard/seen them before but I'm afraid I'm not vet enough to get it....
U gotta sk8 was from this one guy who was baller and said that as his catch phrase on like every post.
The romanian one probably is due to a few threads. One was about a guy who found his girlfriend fucking his dog. We just consider all romanians to be trolls now.
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On March 13 2013 03:28 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in this has now been added to tl memes. alongside "do you even lift" pur srsly bro: put the penor in.
Not a TL meme.... not even close to having originated here...
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On March 13 2013 04:54 obesechicken13 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 04:41 WaveofShadow wrote:
Can anyone explain the 'u gotta sk8' and romanian memes? (something about not getting sarcasm..?)
I've heard/seen them before but I'm afraid I'm not vet enough to get it.... U gotta sk8 was from this one guy who was baller and said that as his catch phrase on like every post. The romanian one probably is due to a few threads. One was about a guy who found his girlfriend fucking his dog. We just consider all romanians to be trolls now.
M2 is Bulgarian and I think he's still around! What a boss.
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On March 13 2013 03:58 hoby2000 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:53 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 03:43 hoby2000 wrote:On March 13 2013 03:40 Shady Sands wrote:On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance just watch out for age of consent laws On March 13 2013 03:39 GGQ wrote:
you're in high school, she's in high school, it's completely legit. roll with it, give her a chance Both of these. You're going to look back at this in a couple years, and regret it. Even if you don't feel anything for her right now, you should still go for it. You're young and dumb (sorry dude, but it's kind of true... you're denying yourself a girl that has a thing for you. How stupid do you have to be?) so just go with it. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it. If it's a good idea, you won't regret it. Either way, just find out what happens man. The age thing might be a little freaky, but you'll get over it pretty quickly. You are right... Damnit. It just "feels" wrong. I know. And it's going to feel wrong when the same thing happens to your sister, but you just have to accept it. It will always feel wrong at first but it really does go away pretty quickly. The age thing really means nothing at your age too. It's kind of funny how people think they're so much more mature than those 2 years younger than them at 18. Or even 1 year. But you're all almost all the same maturity, haha. Fuck, even people at 20 years old still act like high schoolers. I still do every once in awhile (hard habits to break) and I'm 24!
It's not maturity, she just looks young.
Just talk, conversations are really important to not get yourself into a terrible relationship xD
Yeah I did, she's fun to be around.
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Oh god is THAT the one? I remember reading the M2 thread.
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On March 13 2013 03:25 Smancer wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 03:19 solidbebe wrote:On March 11 2013 12:15 gabsonuro wrote:
put the penor in
Oh, lol I was too late to keep the bandwagon going. Anyways, this is not degrading the quality of TL, this is setting a trend in funny . On a more related note, my girlfriend is two years younger than I am +2 months if we want to be exact. It is the best relationship I have ever been in, and the best she has ever been in. I was in your situation, except my friends told me she would be a troll and I would be a rapist, I did it anyways I and I couldn't be happier. Don't be a dick, do it, the worst that happens is you guys find out you aren't meant for each other. Seriously, you will regret it if you don't at least give her a shot.
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On March 13 2013 04:41 WaveofShadow wrote:
Can anyone explain the 'u gotta sk8' and romanian memes? (something about not getting sarcasm..?)
I've heard/seen them before but I'm afraid I'm not vet enough to get it....
they're the only memes that came from TL
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I had a friend in highschool who dated a girl 2 years younger than him (he was a junior, she was a freshman at first). I don't know if they're still together now, but they had the most perfect loving relationship as far as I could tell.
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On March 13 2013 06:09 grush57 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 04:41 WaveofShadow wrote:
Can anyone explain the 'u gotta sk8' and romanian memes? (something about not getting sarcasm..?)
I've heard/seen them before but I'm afraid I'm not vet enough to get it.... they're the only memes that came from TL
life of lively to live to life of full life thx to shield battery ?
TL Gold Account?
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PUT DAH PENOR IN HEH.
but real, should do something
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Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens.
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On March 13 2013 06:24 Recognizable wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens.
Good luck!
(You aren't perhaps an ex-pat in the netherlands are you?)
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Well, if you really want to turn her off from you then you should befriend her and then ask her advice about how to ask out other girls. Dickish, but effective.
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My wife is 6 years older then me and we got together when i was 17.
Would you like to talk to her about your "wrong" feelings?
She certainly had no problem putting the penor in
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On March 13 2013 07:39 Capped wrote:My wife is 6 years older then me and we got together when i was 17. Would you like to talk to her about your "wrong" feelings? She certainly had no problem putting the penor in + Show Spoiler +
whoa can we do an AMA sometime
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Just go for it. Who cares? Go on a fun date, treat her fine and it's gonna be good.
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On March 13 2013 03:08 Recognizable wrote:So. I'm in high school, eighteen years old and there is this really attractive little girl into me. She is all happy around me and generally tries to make contact. Nobody waits around for hours altough they are free to go because the other person has something to do. Anyway, the problem is that she is 2/3 years younger than me. Her hormones are going crazy and I would feel like a total douche to take advantage of this. I have a little sister and I don't think I would be very happy if she was dating someone that's 18 when she is 15/16. How do I tell her nicely that it wouldn't be the most wisest of decisions for her to date me? The advice of my friends is to just "do" her because in 1 or 2 years she'll be the most beautiful woman I could ever get :') What is up with all these 15/16 year old girls who seem to just stare at me in the hallways. I'm not attractive damnit and I'm usually incredible grumpy because I have to force myself through all these little motherfuckers in the narrowest of hallways to go to some pointless class with an incompetent teacher. Months ago I just gave up asking my Biology teacher questions because he just can´t explain antyhing. The greatest thing was when he started making up excuses; "Well it's been 30 years..." I can't wait to study! During the holidays I'm planning on tackling this: http://www.trillia.com/zakon1.html, work out a lot, go to portugal with my friends, walk up the Kilimanjaro with my dad and create my first program. Can't wait
Seriously, I can relate to this. I have 2 younger sisters.
If a girl is older? No problem (I hooked up with a girl who was 25 when I was 18 once :D). A year younger? Not a problem (done that a few times). More than that? Something clicks in my brain and basically makes me feel like I'd be taking advantage of them.
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dude, your being a pussy. Your going to go to college, and do something great, she's going to go to college and do something great as well. In between you there will be 10 other dicks inside the girl before college is over AT LEAST. Unless she's really conservative and at an all girls college. But for the most part I'm right.
You have fun or like her or you wouldn't have posted about it. Take care of business, have fun, have a good time. Just don't be like oh things will be great when you visit me in college. Because there will be some new chick that will be making you feel the same way and a 10 minute walk away from your dorm room.
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On March 13 2013 06:38 Targe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 06:24 Recognizable wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens. Good luck! (You aren't perhaps an ex-pat in the netherlands are you?)
Haha, I'm not. What makes you think that? Anyway, I didn't go to school today because I need to study. So I have no opportunity to ask her out today. I'll ask her out tommorow or friday. I'll give you guys an update
More than that? Something clicks in my brain and basically makes me feel like I'd be taking advantage of them.
Exactly. It's a feeling of wanting to protect her.
You have fun or like her or you wouldn't have posted about it. Take care of business, have fun, have a good time. Just don't be like oh things will be great when you visit me in college. Because there will be some new chick that will be making you feel the same way and a 10 minute walk away from your dorm room.
No dorms in the Netherlands. Apart from Liberal Arts/University Colleges. However, the science curriculum isn't great for those so I won't be going there.
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On March 13 2013 18:00 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 06:38 Targe wrote:On March 13 2013 06:24 Recognizable wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just ask her if she's interested and we'll see what happens. Good luck! (You aren't perhaps an ex-pat in the netherlands are you?) Haha, I'm not. What makes you think that? Anyway, I didn't go to school today because I need to study. So I have no opportunity to ask her out today. I'll ask her out tommorow or friday. I'll give you guys an update Show nested quote +More than that? Something clicks in my brain and basically makes me feel like I'd be taking advantage of them. Exactly. It's a feeling of wanting to protect her. Show nested quote +You have fun or like her or you wouldn't have posted about it. Take care of business, have fun, have a good time. Just don't be like oh things will be great when you visit me in college. Because there will be some new chick that will be making you feel the same way and a 10 minute walk away from your dorm room. No dorms in the Netherlands. Apart from Liberal Arts/University Colleges. However, the science curriculum isn't great for those so I won't be going there.
Well your English is pretty good so I was wondering if you go to BSN or something!
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Walking up Kilimanjaro, wowsers, good luck sir!!!
Also...when you said "little girl" in the title i kinda got scared ;_; when you talk about a girl being little and then "putting your peenor" in comes along i just think, OH WOW, lets not get all 4chan up in here xD
Do what you think is right, if she is 16 go get her! (legal age is 16 in Europe right?) if she is like 15 though, just like continue to avoid her until she is 16 then, go for it! Thats all i would do tbh haha.
GL on your summer break! Portugal is very fun, where about are you heading?
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I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames.
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On March 13 2013 19:00 Recognizable wrote:
I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames.
I've lived in the netherlands 6 years and still all I know is 'thank you', 'please' and 'bill'.
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On March 13 2013 19:15 Targe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 19:00 Recognizable wrote:
I traveled and travel a lot with my parents to all kinds of regions so I guess I picked it up there. Oh, and videogames. I've lived in the netherlands 6 years and still all I know is 'thank you', 'please' and 'bill'.
You aren't trying to learn it.
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EDIT: Oh, and if you're anywhere near Viseu when you're in Portugal, gimme a beep.
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I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older.
I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 
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On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay
22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap.
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Haha perhaps I would have regretted it if I had 'gone there' then
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On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap.
She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure.
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On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure.
What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th?
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On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th?
Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really.
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On March 13 2013 23:39 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th? Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really.
If she's in 4th or should be in 4th I don't think there's a problem. 6th and 3rd is a little.. I don't know. There isn't really a problem with it but it's like you say It might kinda feel like you're taking advantage of her. I would feel the same way. If she really wants to go for it then I guess it's just a decision you're going to have to make for yourself.
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On March 13 2013 23:45 solidbebe wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:39 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 solidbebe wrote:On March 13 2013 23:37 Recognizable wrote:On March 13 2013 23:14 Najda wrote:On March 13 2013 21:18 sc4k wrote:I had the chance to seal the deal with a 16 year old when I was 22. I didn't because it didn't feel right, again like the other guy said it felt like taking advantage. I think in the end I ended up regretting it. She was emotionally mature enough to handle it, and hell she started having boyfriends who were total douches so it's not like I would have 'scarred' her, me being a nice guy. But I actually have never been with a girl who is younger than me and my gf is a year older. I think girls that are a few years younger feel like 'easy mode' because anything you do impresses them and you are just more advanced than boys their age in general. But I'm not sure that is a reason to really stay away from them. You will always be able to 'punch above your weight' if you go down in age. As long as they aren't completely ignorant and idiotic and impossible to be around then you should be okay 22 -> 16 vs 18 -> 16 is a huge difference. I would agree in saying that is too big of a gap. She might be 15 tho. I'm not sure. What year is she in? I assume you're in 6th? Yes. She's in 3rd, but I believe she had to redo one. Or it was her friend. Idk really. If she's in 4th or should be in 4th I don't think there's a problem. 6th and 3rd is a little.. I don't know. There isn't really a problem with it but it's like you say It might kinda feel like you're taking advantage of her. I would feel the same way. If she really wants to go for it then I guess it's just a decision you're going to have to make for yourself.
Agreed.
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I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
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On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
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On March 14 2013 00:05 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
Well getting to know her cant be bad. If shes really 'too young' (emotionally) you'll notice anyway, this is where "taking advantage" might become problematic on your part because she probably wont notice. If she isn't people should be ok I guess, most important should be your and her parents (does she have an older brother? :D)
Also, while TL is a nice place you should talk to some older people you're close to, older siblings or something like that. I guess most of your friend aren't very mature themself, at least didn't sound like that so far.
GL
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On March 14 2013 00:05 Recognizable wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2013 23:57 nRoot wrote:
I still don't get what you actually want with this girl, just "put the penor in" or something serious (and put it in after some time)?
If it's the former, spare yourself and her the trouble and look for someone your own age, doubt she's experienced anyway but who knows.
For the latter, how about getting to know her a bit first, you know, how old she actually is and that kind of stuff lol. Dont think anybody cares what you do with a 16yo after 6 month relationship or w/e, if you two make it that far.
That's what I'm planning on doing. At first I wasn't planning on doing anything, other than telling her nicely that it's not going to work. But everyone here encouraged me to ''put the penor in'' so to say. So I'm just going to get to know her better for the time being.
Don't listen to dumb TL memes that are borderline rape advocacy. Personally I think getting involved with such a young person is an accident waiting to happen, because she is (or both of you are) likely so inoculated by popular culture with destructive notions on how a relationship should look like that eventually things get ruined by control issues, jealousy, gender expectations and various other bad things. Protect yourself and her by always making explicit what you want from a relationship, at least until you have a better handle on things.
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