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Hey guys, here's my latest article found on my blog at:
http://thehonestlifeblog.wordpress.com/2012/08/16/patience-the-binding-of-relationships/
If you like it, please come to the site and like/follow/comment. Thanks!
More than not nowadays, I find myself being extremely impatient with the people that I love the most. I don’t do this out of spite or anger, I just have so much on my plate currently that my patience is run dry by the time I should be giving them some of it. It’s difficult for me because I strive to be a calm, cool, and collected person at all times. Sometimes when life shoves a lot on your plate, you start to slip up more than usual.
Today (8/17/12 – after 2-3 hours of sleep) I’ll be moving into my new townhouse! So the last couple of days I’ve been extremely busy packing and preparing for that. Mix that with trying to say my last goodbyes to all of my friends back home and getting this blog up and running (which at this point feels like a full time job) and I’m just about worn out by noon. Out of the MANY mottos that I live by, one of my favorites is:
“No matter what, NEVER lose your cool” – Wiz Khalifa
I’m not perfect; to be completely honest I’m no where near perfect. I mess up, I make mistakes, I take my anger out on the ones that I love the most. But guess what? WE ALL DO! Sometimes (I know I have to, at least) we just need to separate ourselves from what’s stressing us out so much, step back, take a couple of deep breaths, and dive right back into the real world. Patience is a virtue (so I’ve been told), so why don’t we stop stressing ourselves out, stop losing our cool, and just learn to live with patience in mind?
Was there an instance recently where you found yourself being impatient with a friend or loved one? How did you handle it? Did you flip out and then apologize afterwards, or did you recognize it before it got to that point? I’d love to hear some of your stories! Comment in the pages below or send me an e-mail with your story and I’ll repost it (anonymously of course).
Love,
Jack
http://thehonestlifeblog.wordpress.com/
 
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Your blogs are awesome, keep it up 
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Thanks, Cheese! I really appreciate it. I'm glad you like them. I post new blogs every single day over at http://thehonestlifeblog.wordpress.com/ and soon I'll be posting some additional content with the article! Stay tuned!
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I used to get so mad at my crush/semi-best friend all the time but that's because I was always jealous that she'd be spending time with other people instead of me, even if that time was only a couple seconds of laughing. Whenever I got impatient with her, I used to pretend she didn't exist and while she did show some sadness towards me, I ended up hurting myself even more and losing even more connections with my other friends because they were more of her friends too. The sad part was, I'd always come back to her, semi-crying sometimes, and say I was sorry and it's stupid that my impatience causes me to spend even less time with her. This happened way too many times and it took me a long time to change this (in fact, I might actually be still changing the way I handle my patience with her).
About a year ago, though, I tried to be more casual and patient with her, as if she wasn't as important to me. It worked for a short while but she was just too special to me to treat like an acquaintance instead of a friend or even a best friend. I semi-forced myself to always meet with her and I's group of friends so while I wouldn't directly talk to her, I'd still see her and acknowledge her existence. The thing is though, I made it so I had more time for her so I wouldn't get as impatient but she busied her schedule even more. Still, I'd find a way to talk to her, even if meant waiting/watching her practice (she was in athletics) to sneak a half-minute's hello before she would go on to talk to her other friends. Sometimes, I wouldn't be able to talk to her at all so I'd say what I wanted on the letters I had been writing to her, around when I first met her. I started to pretend that she didn't exist less (ugh this sentence sounds weird) but I still felt empty/sad/mad at times because I didn't have enough time to tell her everything. Eventually, I just took whatever time I had with her, even if it was only a 2-second look at her smile and became satisfied with what I got. My patience built up, not just with her, but my other friends too. I started to out out of my way for my other friends and what I discovered was that by building patience with her and other people, my relationships with my friends got better and my relationship with this girl grew even more because of it.
I did see her today, but my interaction with her was very minimal, just a few quick glances at her and that pretty much was it. I guess I matured a bit and realizing that she might leave my life eventually, I'd be a bit more accepting when it happens than when I used to be very impatient.
With my family though, patience is pretty much non-existent. Haha...
Well, I can't believe I wrote this much. I'm not even sure if this was what you were looking for but it felt so good to say this. I like your blog, and since I'm still young, I'm hoping I can learn a lot from it and similar blogs.
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