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Easy advice to give, harder to actually carry out. Especially for the shy-guys out there. This is however the truth. This blog actually felt kind of ridiculous while reading. The amount of thought you put into assessing QT's age for example. You've obviously spent more than a fleeting moment thinking about it. When really you could just find out how old she is through talking to her.

That said I also found this blog extremely enlightening to read. It's never been age for me but I realize now I've often spent a fair deal of time dwelling on specific(often times seemingly random) characteristics or impressions concerning girls that I would be dating, talking to, or crushing on. So much so that at times I get hung up on the details i'm staring at while remaining oblivious to the many other facets unique to each girl. When you're in a committed long term relationship this very same idea can ruin things unless sorted out and discussed between partners. Likewise, when you're crushing on a girl, a detail like age can deter you from taking a risk and talking to the girl. In both instances the idea and practice of communication is paramount.

You cite her age as a reason for not talking to her


Following the logic above, you would more than likely find out QT's age before it was even relevant in your interactions with her. You can be friendly toward people of all ages without being thrown in jail, yet your categorizations of asian age stages says you've thought about this one detail for longer than you probably should.

--A lot of this is simply me brainstorming. As I mentioned this blog really made me consider my perception of girls i'm attracted to. On more than one occasion I spent too much time, or weighed too much worth on assumptions or guesstimations about girls. Because of that I lost several opportunities to get to know said girls better. A kind of self defeating course to take. Let me know if anything i've said rings true with you. Maybe I personalized your words too much. For me this blog has a message. Details are innumerable and certain aspects of a woman seem to swallow my attention and curiosity. It can be enticing to consider each detail and think through them like sorting through gold. But sometimes the big picture is what you need to be looking at, if you hope to establish deeper connections with a girl. Idk let me know what you think.

As for the looking out the window, aloof demeanor following your vacation; I see this as one of three possibilities. Of course all hypothetical
1. She's now seeing someone//no longer seeking companionship
2. She's in a rough point in her life(bad day, week, etc) and internally focused on that instead of her physical surroundings
3. She may recognize you, but never gave a rats ass about getting to know you//The special connection you feel for her may not be reciprocated.

This coincides with my original thought regarding communication. Simply assuming or guessing why she didn't look at you is ultimately a fruitless thought to pursue. Find your next window of opportunity to open up the lines of communication with this girl. Worst comes to worst you suffer through an awkward moment of embarassment or blatant rejection and come out a lot stronger because you took the chance. Who knows until you try right?

Grats on 2k posts. Thanks for sharing

it's possible she doesn't think you're interested anymore.
She specifically went out of her way to get off at your stop, it's been a long time, and you still didn't do anything, so...
HURRY OR YOU'LL MISS IT

Also, you may or may not need to be reminded that she's human. People enjoy being challenged, so worshipping them like gods is counter-productive.

Here's the plan:
1) See her alone on the bus/tram/w.e
2) Sit next to her - No more testing the waters, she's tried an all-in, you defended it, and if you don't counter-attack to win now, you're just wasting her time and your own. (and also giving yourself unnecessary chances to lose the game)
3) TALK - i suggest opening with 'hi, I'm X' (She should reply with her name here) 'I see you here a lot, what's your stop?' when she replies high school, that's an easy lead-in for asking what year,

If she's interested, the talk will go well.

If sitting down next to her isn't possible and she isnt looking happy, tell her she's looking down, and that you seeing her smile in the mornings helps you put on a positive mindset or something. It'll cheer her up, and maybe you can swap names. I wouldn't push this one much further than that in one go, you don't just want to dump everything on her in one go when you've spent months preparing.


At any rate, if you don't approach her, it's not going to happen. You do want it to happen, right?

no... you're overanalyzing. the girl probably doesn't think much of you at all. you're just a nice (i'd hope) person she sees alot on the bus.
i've done this alot and think the smiles a girl gave would indicate interest and that we had all this tension and attraction and whatnot but it was all in my head. i went out with 1 eventually and when i asked her about it she said she just didn't think much of me and that i was a stranger when the whole time i thought we had something going on between us 2.
don't be too quick and ask her out or anything. but that doesn't mean just watch from afar and 'research' her like you are doing right now. since you see her often, sit next to her one day and just initiate conversation.
here i'll outline how one might go:
"hi can i sit here?"
'sure'
"*smile* hey my name is Shock. i feel like i see you everyday on the bus, what's your name?"
'QT *smile*'
"great! glad that we aren't strangers no more ^^ so are you going to school around here? i go to the blahblah uni over there"
talk talk talk

ez stuff yo just have confidence and don't think too much! be friendly and likeable!

Easy advice to give, harder to actually carry out. Especially for the shy-guys out there. This is however the truth. This blog actually felt kind of ridiculous while reading. The amount of thought you put into assessing QT's age for example. You've obviously spent more than a fleeting moment thinking about it. When really you could just find out how old she is through talking to her.

That said I also found this blog extremely enlightening to read. It's never been age for me but I realize now I've often spent a fair deal of time dwelling on specific(often times seemingly random) characteristics or impressions concerning girls that I would be dating, talking to, or crushing on. So much so that at times I get hung up on the details i'm staring at while remaining oblivious to the many other facets unique to each girl. When you're in a committed long term relationship this very same idea can ruin things unless sorted out and discussed between partners. Likewise, when you're crushing on a girl, a detail like age can deter you from taking a risk and talking to the girl. In both instances the idea and practice of communication is paramount.

You cite her age as a reason for not talking to her


Following the logic above, you would more than likely find out QT's age before it was even relevant in your interactions with her. You can be friendly toward people of all ages without being thrown in jail, yet your categorizations of asian age stages says you've thought about this one detail for longer than you probably should.

--A lot of this is simply me brainstorming. As I mentioned this blog really made me consider my perception of girls i'm attracted to. On more than one occasion I spent too much time, or weighed too much worth on assumptions or guesstimations about girls. Because of that I lost several opportunities to get to know said girls better. A kind of self defeating course to take. Let me know if anything i've said rings true with you. Maybe I personalized your words too much. For me this blog has a message. Details are innumerable and certain aspects of a woman seem to swallow my attention and curiosity. It can be enticing to consider each detail and think through them like sorting through gold. But sometimes the big picture is what you need to be looking at, if you hope to establish deeper connections with a girl. Idk let me know what you think.

As for the looking out the window, aloof demeanor following your vacation; I see this as one of three possibilities. Of course all hypothetical
1. She's now seeing someone//no longer seeking companionship
2. She's in a rough point in her life(bad day, week, etc) and internally focused on that instead of her physical surroundings
3. She may recognize you, but never gave a rats ass about getting to know you//The special connection you feel for her may not be reciprocated.

This coincides with my original thought regarding communication. Simply assuming or guessing why she didn't look at you is ultimately a fruitless thought to pursue. Find your next window of opportunity to open up the lines of communication with this girl. Worst comes to worst you suffer through an awkward moment of embarassment or blatant rejection and come out a lot stronger because you took the chance. Who knows until you try right?

Grats on 2k posts. Thanks for sharing!