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ScruffyJanitor
Profile Blog Joined November 2011
Australia108 Posts
May 15 2012 06:42 GMT
#1
Massive rant warning.




I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 15 months now and I at one point the dad had lost his car for a good 6 months, because he’s 60 and married at 40 to an 18 year old Fijian/Indian, who he then leased a car out for because she had no residency and then she fucked the car (no water in the engine, fucked the power steering) and wouldn’t pay the payments. This meant he had to declare bankruptcy and before all of this about 5 years ago the Mother of my girlfriend cheated on him in Fiji and left him for some insane ,face tattooed, wife beating criminal and honestly the list could go on for years. This all happened many years ago probably when my GF was 12 (she’s now 17 and I’m 18). He declared bankruptcy around 8 months into our relationship and this is when all the trouble started.

The Mum was an insane, the dad let the mum and the step dad (who was also the one she cheated on him with, that also BEATS her) stay with him. He was leasing with his eldest daughter (who’s 18 and her boyfriend who is 26). This meant 11 people were living in this 4 bedroom house. Since having no car they constantly asked me for lifts. My girlfriend went to the same school as I did, but I was no longer in school and was looking for employment but she was working a casual job, because she had to pay for most things for herself. She lives a good 40 minutes away from me and her works about an hour so I would usually pick her up 3-4 times a week and then just stay at her house because I was way too tired to drive back.

The step-dad was just crazy and always drunk, the mum would always tell me I had to drive her to the police station ( I only went through with it once, where I was up till 3AM at the police station after she filed the report she went home and went looking for him :S?) which completely wasted my time. He was applying for citizen ship in Australia because one of the kids is his and all that. But he was a deadest criminal in Fiji and over here he did nothing (the mum doesn’t work either and the ACTUAL Dad was too old and had health problems that made him unable to work).

So after a lot of that shit I got really fed up and keep in mind this was EVERY time I was ever at the house they would ask. We would do grocery shopping for them with their budget and bring it home for them etc.

After I got really fed up and said bluntly “I’m not your taxi” the step dad said “Okay boy” and the Mum and step dad ignored me until they went back to Fiji (about 2 weeks). After all that she came back a month or two later (I was still driving around constantly for them, taking them to pay their laybys and all that shit).

I honestly didn’t mind it for a while because I thought the dad was a nice guy etc. I offered to pick the mum up at the airport because it was a long way to take public transport, this was about 2 and a half hours all together driving I did for them.

Soon it started becoming less of a favour and more expected, they would ask me to pick up their pizza they ordered (THEY WOULD NEVER ASK ME FACE-TO-FACE, ALWAYS USE THE LITTLE KIDS TO ASK) and when I said I will just give me a second to get ready they would come down every minute or so saying “When are you going to leave?”. “Why haven’t you left yet?” This is when I started getting furious about it and after I got a full-time job I was working 8-5 then gym 6-7:15 then home for 15 minutes then an hour drive and I would collapse at about 9pm (they would still ask me to drive them somewhere at this time, even though I picked up their daughter almost every night)

They would constantly ask for more and more and if my girlfriend would tell them no (they would always ask her to ask me) they would punish her if I didn’t, i.e. make her do all the dishes or clean the house. They wouldn’t ever let her come to my house and if they did they would ring up at 10 in the morning and scream at her to be home by 11AM on a Sunday ( living 40 minute drive away, on a Sunday public transport barely runs) it was literally impossible.

Another time was when the year younger sister wanted a lift from me (openly told my girlfriend she hated me and I said no, it’s a short bus ride and its only 7pm) I refused and didn’t think about it any further till my girlfriend went upstairs the next day and was screamed at and called low and horrible because I didn’t want to. But they openly joked at my girlfriend about how she could catch the train because no one would rape her and that she should take condoms.

They would go insane and say shit behind my back apparently because I had started refusing to drive because I was extremely tired. On this one occasion I fell asleep at the wheel but luckily work up as I veered off a road. As soon as I got home they asked my girlfriend if I could get them some KFC or some bullshit, she went up and said no and I heard yelling.

This was the breaking point of almost 5 months of being a taxi for the sake of keeping peace for my girlfriend and I. I went up and the mum yelled “Get her away from me or I’ll hit her” (this wasn’t new, the mum always threatened but only did it to the 15 year old girl because my girlfriend now stood up to her). This is where I broke I said “What’s your problem? I’m always driving around for you?” She looked kind of shocked I finally snapped and the dad (the step dad had left Australia, being denied residency and also leaving with a pending court case for obstructing justice) arched up and said “I think you better leave” and I said “I don’t see why –girlfriends name- has to be screamed at for me not wanting to drive”

I walked out of the house and heard him yelling about “If I want to be part of the family I should be willing to do things”. I went back up and said “Where would your TV be without me?” and he ranted on about how he gave me petrol money I replied with “Petrol money doesn’t cover time and I did it to be nice not be a part of the family, I didn’t have to pick up the mum from the airport either I just wanted to be nice” then he kept screaming about being a part of the family and told me to leave and I just said “you’re a fucking joke”.

I packed my shit and left, I never spoke to them again and my girlfriend asks me why I wouldn’t forgive them or apologize to them (for what? Sticking up for my girlfriend?) and I just said I’m done wasting my time on people I shouldn’t and it’s clear now they never appreciated anything I did for them because of her.

Before all this my girlfriend and I got him a Microsoft pack thing (I got it through my work for $15) when looking at it now it’s like $189. He constantly brings it up to her screaming at her saying she can’t spend more than 15 on me and she’s so horrible for not spending money on him etc. They say I’m horrible and asked me to help them move and I said no and that was the only time they had been nice or even spoken to me in a month.. was when they wanted something. The Mum had a fight with her about how she couldn’t see me again and then continued to come in her room with the younger sister and just stare at her and whisper to each other, they buy dinner for the rest of the family but not for her. She’s the definition of a black sheep, only looked at when they want something from her.


There are a thousand more things I could add to this about what they have done but it’s gone to long already. The shit thing is I’m no longer feeling the same way about my girlfriend as I used to. But I can’t leave her in that fucked up family without my support.

Funny thing is the older sister’s boyfriend had the exact same problem for a while, he just never yelled back at them (the mum never paid rent when living with them, only bought food for herself and 2 minute noodles for the kids). He once asked her to pay the water bill and she went insane and tried to start a vendetta against him and the mother and dad proclaimed their hatred for him behind his back but continued asking for lifts.

I have now learned that I’m never going to be taken advantage of because I’m a generally nice dude and didn’t mind doing it every now and then just because it was helpful. But I need to find the balance where I know what is being nice and what is being taken advantage of.

P.S The dad would always ask me if I was interested in investing in his stupid business ideas (he knew I had got an inheritance. Just to add to your thought of these people.


****
beetlelisk
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
Poland2276 Posts
May 15 2012 12:32 GMT
#2
I think you could go to a court and strip those motherfuckers of parenting rights so your GF could be free.
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haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-15 12:47:55
May 15 2012 12:47 GMT
#3
Da fuq?

Your father in law declared bankruptcy over a car? What kinda of fucked up family is this? Where do they get their income? Centrelink?

Get out while you can bro, with or without the gf.
Rillanon.au
AnachronisticAnarchy
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States2957 Posts
May 15 2012 13:01 GMT
#4
On May 15 2012 21:32 beetlelisk wrote:
I think you could go to a court and strip those motherfuckers of parenting rights so your GF could be free.


Pretty much this. Just pretend to give them rides again, but film and tape their shittiness. Then, go to court and basically win freedom.
"How are you?" "I am fine, because it is not normal to scream in pain."
Turbovolver
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Australia2385 Posts
May 15 2012 13:21 GMT
#5
Goddamn dude.

Don't be surprised at your girlfriend still sticking up for them. They're her family, as fucked up as they sound like they are. If it's just this drama that is killing your feelings for her, try not to let it.

It sounds like you are in a very "me vs them" mindset, and you don't like her for not 100% choosing you, but really that's to be expected.

All I can really say about the drama though, is good luck!
The original Bogus fan.
Alpino
Profile Joined June 2011
Brazil4390 Posts
May 15 2012 13:40 GMT
#6
Wow this is a tale of an ungrateful people, one of the worst kinds...wish you luck.
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Mossen
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
43 Posts
May 15 2012 18:47 GMT
#7
Where do you see this going? Casual, or more? Definitely would not want to marry into that family...
pebble444
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Italy2497 Posts
May 15 2012 18:57 GMT
#8
On May 15 2012 15:42 ScruffyJanitor wrote:

But I need to find the balance where I know what is being nice and what is being taken advantage of.


Thats always the most difficult part of all. Don' t worry about the past, at least you where helping out your ex girlfriends situation. Its a sad story. Seems to me that even if that family has problems like all families have, they are all very close to each other, in a good and a bad way, and that makes everything always so complicated in this situation. Parents should be more responsable than that. Parents have a responsability towards their kids wheter they like it or not, and should at least provide them all they can provide them. Well good luck for the future.
"Awaken my Child, and embrace the Glory that is your Birthright"
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
May 15 2012 19:09 GMT
#9
On May 15 2012 22:01 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 15 2012 21:32 beetlelisk wrote:
I think you could go to a court and strip those motherfuckers of parenting rights so your GF could be free.


Pretty much this. Just pretend to give them rides again, but film and tape their shittiness. Then, go to court and basically win freedom.


Yeah, this would be a great idea, I suggest that a cool idea would be to video tape it, but tell them that, like tell them explicitly and have their own statement, like give them a paper that says that since you are liable for them in your car, you have the right to video tape that. All you have to do is get it from the mom and you are bueno.
User was warned for too many mimes.
Durp
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Canada3117 Posts
May 15 2012 19:30 GMT
#10
Sell your story to an American TV Network. It's unbelievable how many TV shows about degenerates like this father pop up, maybe you can make some money from that.

An alternative and more viable suggestion would be to run, as fast as you can. Things like this (and family baggage that's carried on for 5+ years) aren't going away any time fast, and you don't want to have yourself associated with any of it longer than absolutely necessary. Take your gf and move far, far away. Or leave here behind, entirely up to you.
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Epishade
Profile Blog Joined November 2011
United States2267 Posts
May 15 2012 19:43 GMT
#11
On May 15 2012 21:47 haduken wrote:
Get out while you can bro, with or without the gf.


This sounds like the best solution to me. Sometimes the gf isn't worth the baggage she carries with her (her family).
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wei2coolman
Profile Joined November 2010
United States60033 Posts
May 15 2012 20:23 GMT
#12
5 star post. in laws suck bawls. i sympathize for you brotha.
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ScruffyJanitor
Profile Blog Joined November 2011
Australia108 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-16 05:02:29
May 16 2012 04:57 GMT
#13
Thanks for all your support guys <3

On May 16 2012 03:47 Mossen wrote:
Where do you see this going? Casual, or more? Definitely would not want to marry into that family...


I'm over it I have no special feelings for my girlfriend anymore, some days Ill feel like I do but a lot of the time I won't (its nothing to do with her family at all just time has taken away most of my feelings) I still care for her and I guess in a way having someone around for almost a year and a half you dont want to let that go. Really confused as to what I wanna do, shes a great girlfriend, there's nothing wrong with her at all. My feelings are just jerks.

On May 15 2012 21:47 haduken wrote:
Da fuq?

Your father in law declared bankruptcy over a car? What kinda of fucked up family is this? Where do they get their income? Centrelink?

Get out while you can bro, with or without the gf.


Well he is 60 with emphysema, diabetes and heart problems so they told him he was unable to work. Losing his job meant he couldn't pay for the cars meaning he had to declare bankruptcy. I definitely never want to speak or see them again but my girlfriend tells me all the things they say or do to her and it makes me feel so horrible, that I could never leave her in that.

EDIT: I'm not sure what the mum gets, it's made me really annoyed she moved to Australia to leech off my tax dollars and abuse her children.. I think she may get disability pension and money for her 3 kids. The disability pension was when the step dad tried to his brother in the head with a pole and apparently they were all drunk and he hit her leg and she walked and the bone came out of her leg. She can still walk fine (I've seen her chase my girlfriend in particular trying to hit her because my girlfriend and her sister were doing the dishes and some argument broke up so the mum grabbed the younger sister by the hair and hit her and went for my girlfriend but my girlfriend defended herself and ran away). I was in the room playing dota when they all busted into the room and I was like WTF -_-.

I just refer to them as the scum of the earth, Ive never met a 60 year old that complain about a present as much as he does. He got a $15 birthday present valued at over $150. I really want to cancel it on him but my girlfriend asked me not to haa.
haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
May 16 2012 12:33 GMT
#14
Leave bro, not worth your youth fixing someone else's problems.

What is your girlfriend's plan, she's going to get out when she finds a job?

I don't care how much she thinks she loves you, you aren't married, you've already done enough, even if you are married, it isn't your responsibility to support a whole clan or bludgers.
Rillanon.au
FractalsOnFire
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Australia1756 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-16 14:51:11
May 16 2012 14:47 GMT
#15
On May 16 2012 13:57 ScruffyJanitor wrote:
Thanks for all your support guys <3

Show nested quote +
On May 16 2012 03:47 Mossen wrote:
Where do you see this going? Casual, or more? Definitely would not want to marry into that family...


I'm over it I have no special feelings for my girlfriend anymore, some days Ill feel like I do but a lot of the time I won't (its nothing to do with her family at all just time has taken away most of my feelings) I still care for her and I guess in a way having someone around for almost a year and a half you dont want to let that go. Really confused as to what I wanna do, shes a great girlfriend, there's nothing wrong with her at all. My feelings are just jerks.


SUNK COST TRAP! Don't fall into it. If you don't love her anymore, cut and run. Don't feel obligated to continue a relationship because you feel guilty or bad, that'll only lead to sadness and depression. Don't be a Captain Save-a-Ho/White Knight. There isn't any point continuing a relationship that is just more pain than pleasure. Find someone else that's worthy of your time and attention and that you can love at the same time.
n3ac3y
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States108 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-16 19:43:07
May 16 2012 15:05 GMT
#16
I ran into this in Highschool, very similar. The best thing I ever did was get far away from that situation. The family did not improve and the girl quickly adopted the family's habits. I know it sucks. But, FractalsOnFire is right about don't be "Captain Save-A-Hoe."

You sound like you have your head on straight, and man-to-man: This probably won't be the only goofy situation you will ever be in, I'm 23 and in regards to women I've had I've already experienced:

*The "scumbag family" girl
*The "make up a stalker to get you to come over" girl
*The "I think I'm late on my period to get you back with me" girl
*The "You dumped me so now I'm dating a 45 year old" girl
and lastly lets not forget
*The "My brother is a marine and believes Atheists should die" girl

Relationships are fun man, embrace the madness
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n3ac3y
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States108 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-16 19:42:35
May 16 2012 19:41 GMT
#17
** meant to edit, somehow it posted this. please delete **
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