EPTI have an Additional Maths exam in a few hours and I know I'm just gonna bomb it and make him sad again.
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Azera
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I have an Additional Maths exam in a few hours and I know I'm just gonna bomb it and make him sad again. | ||
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One Student
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Heh_
Singapore2712 Posts
You're 15 or 16 (if you're taking A maths) now so you might not yet understand the importance of a good education. To put it simply, your education status is strongly tied to your future salary. Don't fantasize about being one of those billionaires who dropped out of school, opened a business and made it big; it's easier to get struck by lightning while holding a winning TOTO ticket. Your father is right; although being so harsh is probably more demotivational than encouraging. | ||
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Azera
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Korea (South)497 Posts
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One Student
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
Do you make sure to study the key concepts and practice applying them on randomized questions, without the aid of your books? Is it just the exams that are getting to you? | ||
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SeeDLiNg
United States690 Posts
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Azera
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On May 09 2012 07:26 Heh_ wrote: Sad to say, such is life. Good grades aren't everything, but they count for a lot of things. For example, if you want a scholarship to go study in a university abroad, your sponsor will judge you firstly on your grades, then on the interview. Your future employer has no way to know if you have a good work ethic, your productivity, getting along with fellow colleagues etc. How do they do that? They just take the people with the best grades and hope for the best. You're 15 or 16 (if you're taking A maths) now so you might not yet understand the importance of a good education. To put it simply, your education status is strongly tied to your future salary. Don't fantasize about being one of those billionaires who dropped out of school, opened a business and made it big; it's easier to get struck by lightning while holding a winning TOTO ticket. Your father is right; although being so harsh is probably more demotivational than encouraging. Is it me or there's some sort of asian stereotype going on? Maybe in Singapore things work like this, but here in France secondary education is meaningless next to graduate schools, whis you acess through a series of exams. No matter how well you did when you were 10, what they want to see is your ability to perform under stress, on the spot, and your personality. Not only that, but your hapiness isn't tied to your salary. Being poor sucks, but this doesn't mean that you need to own a Porsche neither. All in all, disappointing your father can be a traumatizing experience, but you should know that there will always be a place for you, and that society isn't really a ladder with a predeterminated universal hierarchy. | ||
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Dfgj
Singapore5922 Posts
On May 09 2012 08:53 Kukaracha wrote: Is it me or there's some sort of asian stereotype going on? Maybe in Singapore things work like this, but here in France secondary education is meaningless next to graduate schools, whis you acess through a series of exams. No matter how well you did when you were 10, what they want to see is your ability to perform under stress, on the spot, and your personality. Not only that, but your hapiness isn't tied to your salary. Being poor sucks, but this doesn't mean that you need to own a Porsche neither. All in all, disappointing your father can be a traumatizing experience, but you should know that there will always be a place for you, and that society isn't really a ladder with a predeterminated universal hierarchy. Allow me to describe the Singapore system for you. You join a primary school (grades 1-6). At the end, you take your PSLE (primary school leaving exam). This exam determines what secondary school (grades 7-10) you are allowed to apply to. At the end of secondary school, you take your O-levels, the results of which determine which junior college (grades 11-12) you're allowed to apply to. Then, you take your A-levels afterwards, the grades of which are all singaporean universities care about in application. You'll note that fucking up at any stage potentially wrecks you outright because doing poorly on the PSLE puts you in a weaker secondary school -> you are less likely to do well on your O-level, and so on. What's more likely here is not the system but the culture. Singaporeans (specifically, parents and teachers) have the mentality that good grades = good job = good life, and this is drilled into the students to make them think each and every grade matters. Is it accurate? Well, somewhat - PSLE/Olevel/Alevels have lasting effects on your education and what you're allowed to pursue. Does Azera's random math exam count? Probably not. | ||
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MetalMarine
United States1559 Posts
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
Don't put up with this emotionally abusive bullshit. It's time to have a nice big fight with dad. Welcome to adolescence. | ||
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MetalMarine
United States1559 Posts
On May 09 2012 09:34 beetlelisk wrote: Have you ever thought about private lessons? They are expensive and i am poor =( | ||
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RoboBob
United States798 Posts
I know a lot of people who were strongarmed by their parents to become a doctor, a lawyer, a banker...and their lives are utterly miserable because they hate their job. I think too many people pay lip service to the phrase "money can't buy happiness", when it's actually really true. Now, I'm not saying that you should indulge in arrogant hedonism and ONLY do the things that you want to do. Everybody makes sacrifices doing things that they don't want to do in order to do things that they want to do. But there needs to be a balance. | ||
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Dfgj
Singapore5922 Posts
On May 09 2012 09:34 beetlelisk wrote: Have you ever thought about private lessons? This is an option. Tutoring is a pretty big business in Singapore. You could tell your parents you need help with the topic and ask them to pay for your tutoring. If they care about your grades as a priority (which seems to be the case), they might like the idea. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On May 09 2012 09:40 Dfgj wrote: This is an option. Tutoring is a pretty big business in Singapore. You could tell your parents you need help with the topic and ask them to pay for your tutoring. If they care about your grades as a priority (which seems to be the case), they might like the idea. I would even say they are responsible for the bad grades more than OP because they haven't done it earlier. I'm going to get my kids (when I have them) a tutor once they start getting Bs no matter the grade, assuming I can't help them myself. Good luck OP. | ||
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Dfgj
Singapore5922 Posts
On May 09 2012 09:46 beetlelisk wrote: I would even say they are responsible for the bad grades more than OP because they haven't done it earlier. I'm going to get my kids (when I have them) a tutor once they start getting Bs no matter the grade, assuming I can't help them myself. Good luck OP. Disagree. There's no better way to make a student hate a subject than forcing them into tutoring. | ||
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On May 09 2012 09:53 Dfgj wrote: Disagree. There's no better way to make a student hate a subject then force them into tutoring. And no better way to make a tutor hate his life. Take it from me. edit: I really need to find a way to institute a surly child surcharge, but that's a tricky one to implement | ||
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