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So im still kind of in shock over what just happened.
Basically, my 16 year old sister started hanging out with the wrong type of people. Last night, she planned on going out to party with her friends. They live a few towns away, so you have to drive down a few highways to get to our house from there.
So her friend decides to come pick my sister up. They get 4 or so people in the car, and drive to my house. They were all completely drunk. 2 minutes before she would have arrived at my house, my sister got a call that they had gotten into a car accident and the driver (her friend) was dead, and 1 of her friends will likely never walk again.
Its pretty tragic, but I really don't know how i should feel. The girl was planning on picking up my sister, while she was drunk, and driving on the freeway, probably drinking more. If she hadn't gotten in to a car accident my sister would have died, and I told her that.
I guess that does make me an insensitive asshole. But I really can't feel sympathy for a girl that knowingly put herself, other people on the road, her friends, and most importantly my sister in such a deadly situation.
Am I in the wrong here?
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It's a sad, tragic accident.
But you're completely right.
How old were the kids in the car?
edit: I'm guessing all around the same age as your sister? Really terrible. She's lucky.
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Well from the way you've written it it doesn't sound like you had any knowledge at all that the friends driving her were under the influence of alcohol, so you're not in the wrong at all.
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On January 02 2012 23:29 MrBitter wrote:
It's a sad, tragic accident.
But you're completely right.
How old were the kids in the car?
edit: I'm guessing all around the same age as your sister? Really terrible. She's lucky.
16-19. Underage here in the US too =/
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well, i sure hope that was a wake up call for your sister. i hate drunk drivers :/ lost a few friends to it.
and you are not wrong, your sister might need it.
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there are many laws that i disagree with...but drunk driving is one of the ones i adamantly support...however its odd...i know people who actually drive better with 1-3 beers than they would without those beers simply due to the extent of their addiction
however blatantly drunk driving should never EVER be done for ANY reason except potentially to run for your life from someone whos going to kill you...but thats not the most likely scenario
that said. you are completely right in everything you said
(for the record im also against a drinking age...and i barely even drink xD)
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Yes you are an asshole. Although you are completely right in feeling relieved they crashed before picking your sister up and it's not neccessary to have any sympathy towards the crashed / dead girl, you should have supported your sister with her loss and after the funeral you should have found a better way to talk with her about what happened.
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You aren't wrong. That's just you caring for a loved one not being an insensitive asshole.
Shitty situation overall, horrible to hear about.. I'm with you though no sympathy for someone who does stupid shit and puts other people's lives in danger. Glad your sister is okay.
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drunk driving is seriously one of the dumbest things to do, seriously
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On January 02 2012 23:42 Cambium wrote:
drunk driving is seriously one of the dumbest things to do, seriously
worst part is...if you're genuinely drunk...it seems like a good idea cuz drunk ppl dont think straight -____-
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I thought this was going to be about you drunk driving and realizing you're an asshole for doing so.
Drunk drivers are the assholes, tbh the punishments for DUI should be a lot harsher. If you drive drunk and no one dies it's basically just luck. It's retarded how people get repeated DUI's and still manage to drive or get out of prison until someone/ several people die. You may not be able to make the right decision while drunk but you can make the right decision before you get drunk (designated driver or don't take a car if you know you are going to drink and make retarded decisions while drunk).
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What a waste of life. People should just not drive drunk... CALL A CAB!
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Depends how you went about it. It was the right thing to do, your not an arsehole if you are reinforcing something and care about the safety of your sister. You should probably be supportive as well though, it was probably a horrible experience for her. Death is something that can happen to anybody, but nobody realises till its too late.
On January 02 2012 23:37 unit wrote:
however its odd...i know people who actually drive better with 1-3 beers than they would without those beers simply due to the extent of their addiction
This is pretty wrong. I've driven under the influence, it made me a much smoother driver, and because I was under the influence I was really careful. However, It gives a false impression that you are better when you drive drunk but really its physically impossible.
My reaction speed would have been terrible, anything out of the ordinary and I would have probably ran into the back of a car.
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Yea you're an asshole. I agree with everything you said, except that there are certain things that you don't say to people in certain situations. You should have shelved your own feelings and supported her rather than saying things that probably made it worse.
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Yeah you might come off as insensitive but you are still right. As MrBitter said, it's a tragic accident. Drunk driving is so dumb and it's so easily prevented :/
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Drunk drivers are fucking idiots, period. I have absolutely no sympathy for them, especially under the circumstances in the OP.
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Aotearoa39261 Posts
Sad and tragic, but incredibly stupid. Just like teen suicide.
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On January 02 2012 23:48 sluggaslamoo wrote:Show nested quote +On January 02 2012 23:37 unit wrote:
however its odd...i know people who actually drive better with 1-3 beers than they would without those beers simply due to the extent of their addiction
This is pretty wrong. I've driven under the influence, it has made me a much smoother driver, and because I was under the influence I was REALLY careful. HOWEVER, It gives a false impression that you are better when you drive drunk but really its physically impossible. My reaction speed would have been terrible, anything out of the ordinary and I would have probably ran into the back of a car.
well the case i was mentioning was my alcoholic dad who if he goes too long w/o a beer he gets a bit erratic Q.Q at the very least hes managed to somehow do it every day for the past 24-5 years without a single accident or ticket O.O the one time he got pulled over he was sober and they tested him because he appeared as though he was driving drunk O.O
as for my dad's reaction time its normally quite quick to the point where his drunk reaction time is only slightly slower than the average person's reaction time (i was in the car w/him reacting to a deer...damn near instant brake timing from when it got on the road...) but he uses left foot braking xD "gives his left foot something to do in these automatics"
as for how it feels, im sorry i wouldnt know as i have the intention to never drive drunk myself (unless cops put together a simulation thing for ppl letting them drive a course drunk/sober and showing them the difference) and it is possible that my dad is just more careful...but with the fact that he actually can react to stuff (which is amazing tbh) i have no argument to use against him personally :/
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Sorry to hear bout this. It's a really bad situation, but the people in the car were unbelievably stupid to allow her to drive.
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