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I can't tell if this just happens to me or other people experience this as well...
Has anyone looked forwards to something for so long, and when you realize the event theywere excited about was getting closer you are no longer excited to go and maybe even wished that you never had to?
This happens to me on several occasions. One time i remember was when i was 9, and was really excited for my 10year old birthday party. I was looking forwards to it for a whole month, and as the date got closer, i became nonchalant about it.
I can't tell if this is normal, or can explain why this phenomenon happens....
 
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Your excitement probably set a high expectation that you later realize was too good to be true?
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It's likely a mental defense. You could be afraid that the event won't live up to your expectations as the reality of it comes closer, so you lower your expectations, and excitement, which often leads to the actual event generating less excitement than it could have if you were still hyped.
Who knows the last psych class I took was in high school >_>
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Maybe the hype you generate brings you more joy than the event itself. Therefore you subconsciously consider the actual event a bad thing since with it ends the expectation.
Or at least that's true for me to some level.
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No, no one ever feels this way. Not a single person.
 Yes, it happens all the time. When you look at something far away it's easy to just see the best parts of it. When it gets closer you start thinking about the responsibilities that come with it. Probably everyone gets this feeling when moving out and for a great deal of other things too. Best thing to do is just remember the reasons you were looking forward to it and try to have a good attitude despite the realisation that you have to do stuff and that things may not live up 100% to your fantasy (which I suppose is another point I could rant about—realising you are about to shatter the fantasy makes you wonder if the fantasy is more valuable than the reality. Meeting your favourite celebrity! That would be so great! Except that they are a real person and may not really be as perfect as you want them to me. Or maybe you won't live up to their expectation. Etc.)
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On December 03 2011 02:31 Schplyok wrote:
Maybe the hype you generate brings you more joy than the event itself. Therefore you subconsciously consider the actual event a bad thing since with it ends the expectation.
Or at least that's true for me to some level.
This is exactly what I was going to say.
Say you're climbing a mountain. Your ultimate goal is to reach the top. Once you do, however, it's all over, and all that you can do whilst being up there is enjoy the view, but you have to go back down at some point and keep going on with your life. Perhaps the thought of not knowing exactly what to do afterward makes you uneasy? In that case, try having a list of things to do everyday.
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They say having is not quite so nice as wanting
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Much of The Great Gatsby's about this phenomenon. Also, I felt getting the Dota2 beta key was 90% of the fun while actually playing it was more like 10%.
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this happens to me with nearly everything, particularly things that i work on and want to go well.
my question to you guys is how do you deal with this? how do you make it so that you are not always anticipating the finale but instead focusing on the work at hand?
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Yes, the euphoria dies and you die on the inside a little.
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Happens to often for me...
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when this happens to me its just nerves  sporting events ect. Fifa / Euro Cup is ALWAYS like this for me.
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EPT
