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firehand101
Australia3152 Posts
On November 18 2011 09:46 micronesia wrote: Sleep with the guy that she's watching movies with. That will teach her. That is just sick, And stay with her, if she is hot and horny you have found a keeper! | ||
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buckbo1604
Canada186 Posts
Good luck. | ||
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Jemesatui
Australia94 Posts
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
On November 18 2011 09:46 micronesia wrote: Sleep with the guy that she's watching movies with. That will teach her. Yeah, show her whos boss. | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
Also, have you asked her to invite you to watch the movie next time? It doesn't have to exclude the other guy, make that clear. The three of you can watch the movie. If she declines and wants to watch the movie alone with the other guy, then you might have reason for more concern. | ||
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FiWiFaKi
Canada9859 Posts
On November 18 2011 12:57 Phyre wrote: Is there a reason why she's watching the movie with this other guy and not you? Just curious. Perhaps she has a need you aren't fulfilling and this other guy is. For example, perhaps it's some chick flick she wanted to watch and knows you wouldn't watch it so she found someone else to watch it with. Doesn't mean she's cheating on you but you definitely want to be mindful of her filling in gaps in her desires with other guys. Also, have you asked her to invite you to watch the movie next time? It doesn't have to exclude the other guy, make that clear. The three of you can watch the movie. If she declines and wants to watch the movie alone with the other guy, then you might have reason for more concern. Well I mean I'm in Grade 12 (quite a bit of school work), assistant manager at my local pizzeria, gym 3x a week, plus I have a few other close friends I like to spend time with. I haven't been able to touch starcraft in 3 months, and I've generally just been reading teamliquid.net while travelling to a destination or a few minutes here and there at home. I mean my schedule is completely packed, me and my girlfriend hang out about twice a week outside of school, we spend every lunch period together, and about once a week we meet up one hour before school to hang out. And lastly we sit together in English class (bad idea lol). Her schedule is less packed, I mean outside of school she mainly has dance, and a little brother to take care of, so I imagine she'd want to hang out more, but in the time we have, I think we spend it well, and I think the amount of time we spend together is good. We watch movies together, we go to places, have serious conversations, get emotionally attached you know. | ||
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ImDrizzt
Norway427 Posts
The brain is a truth seeking mechanism, and will reward you in the long run if you don't try and decieve it. Not saying it's not being awesome being with her, but you know what needs to be done and what doesn't. You know all the subtle nuiances, you know her, not we. Love is a verb, not a reactionary feeling like most noobs who think they are in love run with. Like fruit, you can give her affection, care, give yourself and go be awesome, or you can call it quits and find someone you feel is more right for you. You know, not us. | ||
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Telcontar
United Kingdom16710 Posts
What do you know about this guy anyway? Is he her best friend or something? I would think you would be aquainted with him if he was. If he isn't really that close with her, I can't for the life of me see why she would think it's ok to spend private time with him without telling her boyfriend or being upfront and honest when asked. My advice is to just remind her that you need to be able to trust her. Ask her how she would feel if he was spending time alone with another girl? If she actually thinks that's ok, then maybe you guys have different definitions on what a relationship should be, and need to part ways. If she reconsiders her stance and admits you're right to ask about it, then I guess you guys can go on. | ||
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Grovbolle
Denmark3813 Posts
:O | ||
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17Sphynx17
580 Posts
Well, for one, why doesn't she ask you? Granted you might be busy with all the stuff you have in your life, but being your girlfriend, she should have at least ask you at the top of her "list" of people she would want to spend time with (given that you say that you have a limited time together). Anyway, don't know the details except what you are telling us but from the vagueness of the whole thing, I think you should not invest further in the relationship as she may just be after companionship on her "vacant" times. Not being rude, but hey, if there is someone else she'd rather spend her "alone" time with that isn't you or family, I don't know what you are to her. | ||
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KeksX
Germany3634 Posts
On November 18 2011 11:51 firehand101 wrote: That is just sick, And stay with her, if she is hot and horny you have found a keeper! Yea right keeping someone just because he/she is hot and horny is not sick at all. :3 | ||
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Tommylew
Wales2717 Posts
Difference if she has been long term friends with him and they are watching in the lounge, but in bed... noooooooooo... | ||
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Perseverance
Japan2800 Posts
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
Not my personal experience, but from one of my best friends, back when we were in grade 12: He was going out with one of the most prized chick in our school. She wasn't exactly curvy, but she had a pretty face and later on we (the best friends group) found her to be pleasant and genuine. //*edit: for the sake of the story, let's call my best friend A, his gf B*// Of course we all supported their relationship, they were both happy. Sometimes A would complain B gets weird stalker-ish posts on her facebook from random guys, but she shrugged them off and deleted them out so he also dismissed them as minor annoyances and didn't mind them too much. On particular there was this one guy //*calling him C*// who lived near her and "went for coffee with her" often, but my friend had trust in his girlfriend and didn't question her activities. By that, I must emphasize he trusted her a lot because he's got one of the most suspicion-filled-brains I've ever seen (still today). Well, you see where this is heading. B was one year younger than us, so when we moved on to first year of university, she remained back in high school. Schedule differences obviously kept my friend and his gf from being together as often as they used to be. He complained to me about how she hangs out with her "friends" more often, but he understood it as just a natural part of his relationship. We (his friends) did not doubt. One day, A was so excited to go out with B (probably was like once-a-week at most he was meeting her), I texted him at night something like "so hows the sex lol" and he replied something like "I need a drink." I went out immediately and we sat down at a bar, and he handed me a note slip - as you may have guessed it - B's break-up memo. It was full of bullshit, but one thing stood out to me - B wrote something in the lines of "just in case you're wondering, this has nothing to do with C." I told him that the entire memo is bullshit including that line I just highlighted. He was too heartbroken to really absorb anything at that moment. Next day, A also let me know that B must have removed him from her facebook and blocked him from her messenger. Standard, nothing surprising there. What B's mistake was that she didn't bother deleting us (A's friends) from her facebook... and voila, literally like 2 days after (what dumb girl leaves her ex-bf's friends on her facebook?), her facebook status changed back to "in a relationship" and her display picture featured a fairly intimate moment with C. What an idiot. We, A's faithful friends, went on to terrorize her wall before we all got blocked and our posts got removed. Too bad that our friend's friends and whatever (you can't escape the internet) still had access to her profile as friends, and I think B lasted with C for a couple months before B moved onto another guy (according to facebook, at least). Lessons? Watch it. Deal with it now because the more you wait, the more damaged you'll be. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32117 Posts
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dakalro
Romania525 Posts
OT: Am I the only idiot in the world that had a girl in bra and panties in his 60 cm wide bed, watching movies, for quite a few weeks, and did nothing? | ||
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TheToast
United States4808 Posts
On November 18 2011 09:06 FiWiFaKi wrote: we are in my English class, and she is leaving early to buy some drugs Whoah whoah whoah hold on, what? You can do this in Canada? | ||
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Perseverance
Japan2800 Posts
On November 19 2011 00:31 dakalro wrote: Love is BLIND, that's why FiWiFaKi. Talk to her, her having some sort of male friend isn't that bad but some things are ... not that acceptable. Dump or continue, decide after that. OT: Am I the only idiot in the world that had a girl in bra and panties in his 60 cm wide bed, watching movies, for quite a few weeks, and did nothing? Uhhh.....are you gay? (No offense) was she fat/ugly? wtf? | ||
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FiWiFaKi
Canada9859 Posts
On November 19 2011 00:51 TheToast wrote: Whoah whoah whoah hold on, what? You can do this in Canada? Canada (Alberta/British Columbia specifically) probably has the cheapest and most accessible drugs out of any first would country. ($3 per 100mg mdma cap, $5/g of pot, $30/g of cocaine, $3/g tab of acid, $5 1/8oz mushrooms) ... So apparently he's an old friend and they haven't hung out in over a year... Well idk that made me feel better when I heard it, but then she said, "he liked me before"... and then I'm like ehh. The kid is a twig, probably from a meth or heroin judging by his face. Idk what she could possibly see in him, but he does seem like one of those guys who is mental enough to stab you with a knife if you piss him off... I mean I don't see what I am doing wrong in not pleasing my girlfriend, I mean I buy her things (not enough to spoil her or anything), we hang out, she is always having fun with me, I think she's happy with the way I look. I mean I don't have a car which she keeps complaining about and maybe I'm not "crazy" enough for her liking sometimes... I don't know. I think she maybe just believes that hanging out with a guy alone like that is okay because nothing was going to happen, which is somewhat iffy to me; I don't like it. I asked her to be honest with me, and the tone I was yelling at her at, she could've just outright said... I'm cheating on you instead of putting up with me, but she didn't, so I think that's a good sign. I definitely think I'm going to stay with her, because I do feel she cares for me, at least today that's how I felt - I doubt she'd be nice just to keep me so she could break my heart later. | ||
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FiWiFaKi
Canada9859 Posts
On November 19 2011 00:31 dakalro wrote: Love is BLIND, that's why FiWiFaKi. Talk to her, her having some sort of male friend isn't that bad but some things are ... not that acceptable. Dump or continue, decide after that. OT: Am I the only idiot in the world that had a girl in bra and panties in his 60 cm wide bed, watching movies, for quite a few weeks, and did nothing? She's laying wrapped in your arms or something, so you could have used some hand motions, tickle her chest a little bit, maybe that gentle touch that lots of girls get turned on by on their back... I'm pretty sure she would be getting ideas too, bring up a more sexual conversation, just as a joke to see how she responds initially, but if you see she's interested - it's easy to go from there. | ||
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