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On November 18 2011 10:41 Selkie wrote:
To semi-summarize:
A relationship without trust is like a phone without service: all you do is play games.
If there's no trust, dump her. (you will be much happier being the dumper than dumpee)
I trust her as in I lent her $500 the other week and got it back. I trust her with other stuff, but just lately idk, I don't feel comfortable with her being with other guys, maybe I'm paranoid...
And I can't believe I'm debating on whether I should end it or not now -.-
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On November 18 2011 10:41 Djzapz wrote:
You know what they say about guys who post about their multiple hot girlfriends on gaming forums do you?
What, djzapz? Could it be that a 17-year-old on the internet is lying about his relationship experience and the quality of the women he dates?
LIES AND SLANDER!
Also WHY OH WHY DIDN'T I DO THE DOOR TEST IN 2007!?
Well, actually I did one better: I asked my girlfriend of 3 years to give me a treat and dress up in lingerie that I made sure she had for me. When she didn't I knew things were not OK. She also bought me expensive but thoughtless gifts; that's another sign you should watch out for. If a girl just buys you something without putting any thought into it while you're gluing mega-thoughtful craft cards together, ask yourself who is putting in more effort and why there is a discrepancy.
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On November 18 2011 09:43 BrassMonkey wrote:
But I would be suspicious especially "I'm not gonna tell you every little detail of my life"
Have you ever met a girl that didnt want to share every tiny (read boring) detail of her life. eg "Omg today Becky said she wanted Doritos but the convenient store guy gave her Laysand we were so mad..."
I cant stop laughing at this, because Ive heard almost that exact same thing at least 20 times in my life.
Yeah OP there really isnt much else to be said. Talk to her, ask her to stop watching movies in bed with other guys (do you know if she hangs out with the same guy a lot?), and if she refuses its time to move on.
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Just because she's frisky around you doesn't mean she's giving it out to other guys. That's the kind of trust you need, not "here's my car keys" kind of trust.
Keep in mind, she actually told you about the guy watching a movie over at her place, so she's not really being that secretive about it. I think you just need to not overthink it so much. I think you need to lighten up a bit, and I would personally say something to her along the lines of "yo this is making me a little uncomfortable" if it keeps going on. Your gf is allowed to have guy friends, just as you are allowed to have girl friends. :p
On November 18 2011 10:46 Helios.Star wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 09:43 BrassMonkey wrote:
But I would be suspicious especially "I'm not gonna tell you every little detail of my life"
Have you ever met a girl that didnt want to share every tiny (read boring) detail of her life. eg "Omg today Becky said she wanted Doritos but the convenient store guy gave her Laysand we were so mad..."
I cant stop laughing at this, because Ive heard almost that exact same thing at least 20 times in my life. Yeah OP there really isnt much else to be said. Talk to her, ask her to stop watching movies in bed with other guys (do you know if she hangs out with the same guy a lot?), and if she refuses its time to move on.
I have been spared this misery. My GF reads TL, I normally stay out of these threads because I'm scared I'll say something stupid, though. LOL.
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On November 18 2011 10:46 Helios.Star wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 09:43 BrassMonkey wrote:
But I would be suspicious especially "I'm not gonna tell you every little detail of my life"
Have you ever met a girl that didnt want to share every tiny (read boring) detail of her life. eg "Omg today Becky said she wanted Doritos but the convenient store guy gave her Laysand we were so mad..."
I cant stop laughing at this, because Ive heard almost that exact same thing at least 20 times in my life. Yeah OP there really isnt much else to be said. Talk to her, ask her to stop watching movies in bed with other guys (do you know if she hangs out with the same guy a lot?), and if she refuses its time to move on.
I think I'm mentally retarded.
I asked her what her friend is called, and messaged him on facebook. Never met the guy before, never heard the name... Wtf was I thinking.
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DTB. Micronesia has the right idea.
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On November 18 2011 09:06 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Like at least be honest with me so my mind doesn't have to be haunted by the possibility of getting cheated on.
Sure she says that she didn't cheat, and what not, but how can I trust her...
She's a beautiful girl, but like we haven't had sex for a week or two due to time constraints, and I know her horny personality...
And we all know how manipulative some guys can be, so I think I have every reason to be worried.
Normally I don't try and sound so pessimistic, but I'm going to tell it like it is: your relationship is doomed. You don't trust her and I see no scenario where you start. She's going to keep hanging out with other guys whether you like it or not and what you've written leads me to believe that you're not going to be cool with it every time. Next comes tension or apathy - neither makes a good relationship. Feel free to stay in it as long as you wish, but in the end it's doomed.
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I'm surprised that she even told you what she was doing as most of the guys I know know including myself would probably just dump her on the spot if she said she wasn't going to stop seeing this guy.
When your girlfriend starts to be so secretive that she has trouble telling you what she is doing then it might be a good time to get out.
Sorry, dude, theres others out there.
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pee and poop in her house
EDIT: just to clarify in case you're thick, not in the toilet like in the closet or w/e
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On November 18 2011 09:46 micronesia wrote:
Sleep with the guy that she's watching movies with. That will teach her.
That made me physically laugh out loud.
In regards to the topic, seems to me that the only reason you are staying with her when shes treating you like this is because shes hot. Dont bother with it man. For every hot girl out there, there is a guy tired of humping her. Eventually, and probably sooner rather than later the cons will severely outweigh the pros (hotness). Kick her to the curb, find a nice girl that maybe isnt as good looking. Lots of pretty girls out there who arent gonna fuck you around like that. You will be waaay happier.
Trust me
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On November 18 2011 09:12 Pengu1n wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 09:06 FiWiFaKi wrote:
Well it's me again, this time with another girlfriend, beautiful - and this time steered clear of the christian ones ;P.
Okay so pretty simple problem, my girlfriend is too secretive. We are both 17 and in grade 12, we are in my English class, and she is leaving early to buy some drugs so she asks me to leave class with her for a bit just to say "bye". I walk her to her locker and on our way there we talk about random stuff, eventually somehow we end up at the discussion on what she did this "monday."
So on sunday she told me she's doing stuff and she can't hangout, so I'm like sure all good. Well guess what this fucking stuff is; it is watching a movie with another guy at her house, and watching a movie at her house involves laying on a bed that is maybe 50cm thick. Pretty much this pisses me off, this is the second time where I found out that her, "doing stuff" involves hanging out with a guy alone. Next of all, why the fuck does she not tell me that?! Like at least be honest with me so my mind doesn't have to be haunted by the possibility of getting cheated on.
I asked her to be more open about these things, and she replies "I'm not gonna tell you every little detail about my life," and that was that. Sure she says that she didn't cheat, and what not, but how can I trust her when she can't even tell me something like that when I asked her to tell me before (plus words are just words), like I wont get mad if she doesn't tell me. She's a beautiful girl, but like we haven't had sex for a week or two, and I know her horny personality... And we all know how manipulative some guys can be, so I think I have every reason to be worried.
Anyways, I'm asking teamliquid for advice, please refrain from posting if you haven't experienced similar situations, or at least make an attempt to sound experienced if you wish to help. Don't mean to be bitchy but I'm just not in a good mood after today, but "Fuck her then dump her", is not the kind of advice I'm looking for. Thank you (: Unfortunately the best advice I can give is just this, minus the fuck her part. You don't want to fuck her since you might get an STD, so just dump her. Edit: hanging out alone with another guy in bed (movie or no movie) would not be acceptable in my relationship. Controlling or not I don't care.
What's the purpose of quoting the entire original post? We can pretty much gather that you're referring to the original post without seeing it all over again
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Lying in bed watching a movie with a girl is borderline foreplay. My last 3 gf's started that way and if she remotely cared about you she wouldnt ditch you to hang out with some other guy... The only possible excuse she has is if this other guy is a closet gay and is feeling suicidal or something and she's helping him through it as a friend (in that case she'd be not wanting to talk about it to protect him).
My advice: talk to her and explain how you feel, trust only goes so far and being on a bed with another guy is not on. Avoid going down on her for a while if you do stick it out
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no need to dump her, just ask the guy what's going on. Be like "Yo dawg what's the deal with you and my girl, if you wanna play a BO3 for her that's totally cool cuz I've been working on my macro, but dont think you can cheese me bro I scout super early" and also tell him you gave her herpes so she pretty much is yours alone.
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On November 18 2011 11:20 Geosensation wrote:
no need to dump her, just ask the guy what's going on. Be like "Yo dawg what's the deal with you and my girl, if you wanna play a BO3 for her that's totally cool cuz I've been working on my macro, but dont think you can cheese me bro I scout super early" and also tell him you gave her herpes so she pretty much is yours alone.
fuck that, just tell him this: " Every time you kiss her just remember...my dick has been there."
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On November 18 2011 10:45 TheGiz wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 10:41 Djzapz wrote:
You know what they say about guys who post about their multiple hot girlfriends on gaming forums do you? What, djzapz? Could it be that a 17-year-old on the internet is lying about his relationship experience and the quality of the women he dates?
I'd bet on it in this particular case.
It reminds me of this guy that made multiple blogs about his hot asian gf, I called him out on his BS (not directly, but I said the whole story was suspicious and not very believable). I got a little bit of hate for it, but a few people agreed with me even though we couldn't prove it. Eventually, he screwed up and said something like "I'm posting from her computer at her house now, I just spent the night, etc.". Someone asked Chill to look up if that post came from the same IP as the other ones. Turns out everything was posted from the same location.
Also, he posted his own picture and another picture of "himself" with the "girl". The guys on the pictures were obviously not the same person and some even suggested that the girl was "fake" (a realistic doll or something). Regardless, people will make stuff up for a rise and write to get some attention... Maybe this isn't one of them, but meh, I'm skeptical.
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Seen and heard it a thousands times. Shes cheating on you dude. Tell her whats up. Say I don't like the way you treat our relationship so I don't think we should have one anymore. No trust = no relationship.
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On November 18 2011 09:46 micronesia wrote:
Sleep with the guy that she's watching movies with. That will teach her.
Why don't you have the "quality poster" star? I laughed so hard I ACTUALLY broke a rib.... according to my primary care physician sister.
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BM way to deal with this
bang her like no tomorrow then tell when your both going to leave your house, let her go first then just stand in your doorway, and break it to her, "this isnt going to work out". then close the door, hope her friends cant top yours, and your laughing.
GM way to deal with this
be nice and dont stoop to that level and just break up like a manner human being.
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