• Log InLog In
  • Register
Liquid`
Team Liquid Liquipedia
EDT 07:49
CEST 13:49
KST 20:49
  • Home
  • Forum
  • Calendar
  • Streams
  • Liquipedia
  • Features
  • Store
  • EPT
  • TL+
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Smash
  • Heroes
  • Counter-Strike
  • Overwatch
  • Liquibet
  • Fantasy StarCraft
  • TLPD
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Blogs
Forum Sidebar
Events/Features
News
Featured News
[ASL22] Ro24 Preview: Siren's Call8[ASL22] Ro24 Preview: Summer's End9Serral wins HomeStory Cup 2915Serral wins Maestros of the Game 244ByuL, and the Limitations of Standard Play3
Community News
Official StarCraft website teases new content ahead of BlizzCon?76Stellar Fest TWO the Moon (Dec 16-20)9Weekly Cups (August 24-30): Patches' balance mod takes over3New 3v3 BGH Ladder (and more) on ShieldBattery!40Weekly Cups (August 17-23): Zerg dominate the week6
StarCraft 2
General
Nexon wins bid to develop StarCraft IP content, distribute Overwatch mobile game SC4ALL: II Winner Will Earn a Spot at HSC 30! Weekly Cups (August 24-30): Patches' balance mod takes over Balance hotfix patch 5.0.16b (July 16) September World Ranking: herO leads, Serral climbs
Tourneys
Stellar Fest TWO the Moon (Dec 16-20) IntoTheTV X SOOP SC2 League : Weekly & Monthly SC2 INu's Battles#20 [BO.9] 2026 GSTL Announcement PIG STY FESTIVAL 8.0! (13 - 23 August)
Strategy
[G] Having the right mentality to improve
Custom Maps
Nexus Wars 2021 GUIDE [M] (2) Industrial Park
External Content
Mutation # 541 Binary Choice The PondCast: SC2 News & Results Mutation # 540 Dodge This Mutation # 539 Thunder Dome
Brood War
General
ASL22 General Discussion Gypsy to Korea Official StarCraft website teases new content ahead of BlizzCon? [Personal Project Share] Terran Defense v0.60 BW General Discussion
Tourneys
KCM Race Survival 2026 Season 3 Brood War in Budapest ! WORTEX 2026 BW Finals [Megathread] Daily Proleagues BSL LAN Party - Kraków 29-30 August - OPEN SIGNUPS
Strategy
Replay Review Process - What do you do? Game Theory for Starcraft Odyssey Mineral Stack Saturation Fighting Spirit mining rates
Other Games
General Games
Nintendo Switch Thread Diablo IV EVE Corporation [Maplestory Hardcore] Let's Play~!! General RTS Discussion Thread
Dota 2
Official 'what is Dota anymore' discussion
League of Legends
[TL LoL EUW IHs] Teemo shall perish TSM pausing esports and CLG Dead
Heroes of the Storm
Heroes of the Storm 2.0
Hearthstone
Deck construction bug
TL Mafia
TL Mafia Power Rank TL Mafia Community Thread NeO.D_StephenKing vs This Guy From 1 Million Dance
Community
General
US Politics Mega-thread Things Aren’t Peaceful in Palestine Canadian Politics Mega-thread Artificial Intelligence Thread UK Politics Mega-thread
Fan Clubs
MarineLorD Fan Club The Creator Fan Club The ShoWTimE Fan Club
Media & Entertainment
Movie Discussion! Anime Discussion Thread
Sports
Football (Soccer) Thread TeamLiquid Health and Fitness Initiative For 2023 MLB/Baseball 2023 NBA General Discussion
World Cup 2022
Tech Support
Computer Build, Upgrade & Buying Resource Thread
TL Community
The Automated Ban List Northern Ireland Global Starcraft
Blogs
Dreaming of BW patches (mod…
c3rberUs
Regacy Esports: The Bh…
regacyesports
Violent Games and Crime Rate…
TrAiDoS
LOCKPICKING NOOB
LUCKY_NOOB
Cathedral Of CS And NY pizza a…
FuDDx
Customize Sidebar...

Website Feedback

Closed Threads



Active: 6814 users

I spoke with my ex gf this evening for 4 hours...

Blogs > ranshaked
Post a Reply
1 2 3 4 5 Next All
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-07-20 07:26:31
July 20 2011 07:24 GMT
#1
When I was 13 I lost my virginity to the most wonderful girl I've ever met in my entire 22 year life. We lost contact for 6 years, but when I was 19 we rekindled our relationship. With this, I learned she had a child with a man, which in turn led us to a 1 year relationship (long distance.) It was beautiful; yet she had a child and it was getting serious. Quite frankly I wasn't ready for it and we broke it off. Several weeks later she had found a new man and quickly got married. He was in the military and it was best for her and her child. Nonetheless, this evening we spoke for 4 hours on telephone. She currently lives in Hawaii with another child on the way. It was amazing, but I know in my hear it was wrong. I told her everything I had ever wanted to say; but in the end...she's married with a child on the way. I'm not quite sure exactly how to handle this. There's an odd connection between the two of us that never fades, but we always make due with the most awkward situations possible. She understands me. I understand her. It is why she came to me.
I miss her.

**
SarR
Profile Joined June 2011
476 Posts
July 20 2011 07:29 GMT
#2
Now gogogo poke the baby's head.

User was warned for this post
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 07:30 GMT
#3
On July 20 2011 16:29 SaRrAceN wrote:
Now gogogo poke the baby's head.

merrzz


User was warned for this post
krndandaman
Profile Joined August 2009
Mozambique16569 Posts
July 20 2011 07:32 GMT
#4
--- Nuked ---
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 07:33 GMT
#5
On July 20 2011 16:32 krndandaman wrote:
wait, what...?
i dont mean to sound judgmental or anything but i just can't help feel that this isn't going to turn out well for both parties

That's the thing. I told her many times that I'm biased. I told her that I know for a fact that I'd treat her a million times better, but the situation is just absolutely horrific. It sucks when you've been in love with someone for so many years that it ends like that
Venus.exe
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States285 Posts
July 20 2011 07:36 GMT
#6
Google "twin flames". It's kind of like a soul mate but it's basically your other "half" who makes you a whole and you can wait for your partner despite what situation he/she maybe in because the relationship is just so much bigger than anything humanly. It's a mystic concept so I would say take it with a grain of salt.
/")☻ㅈ☻)/")彡snuǝʌ
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 07:37 GMT
#7
On July 20 2011 16:36 Venus.exe wrote:
Google "twin flames". It's kind of like a soul mate but it's basically your other "half" who makes you a whole and you can wait for your partner despite what situation he/she maybe in because the relationship is just so much bigger than anything humanly. It's a mystic concept so I would say take it with a grain of salt.
Hmm thanks. I'll look in to it. We are talking on aim right now. And she just stated:
"I don't want you to get the wrong idea"

It sucks because when we spoke I can hear it in her voice that she wanted to say so many things, but she just couldn't because of her morality with her husband at this point.
Artifice
Profile Joined May 2010
United States523 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-07-20 07:39:10
July 20 2011 07:38 GMT
#8
The whole "Lets get married right fuckin' now because I'm in the military and this won't work out otherwise" thing seems really silly to me. It doesn't seem to work out often in my experience. So maybe hold out for that? But that doesn't sound smart either. Really if she meant that much to you, you shouldn't have given up on it when you were 19, even if she did have a kid. Shitty situation for sure :|
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 07:41 GMT
#9
On July 20 2011 16:38 Artifice wrote:
The whole "Lets get married right fuckin' now because I'm in the military and this won't work out otherwise" thing seems really silly to me. It doesn't seem to work out often in my experience. So maybe hold out for that? But that doesn't sound smart either. Really if she meant that much to you, you shouldn't have given up on it when you were 19, even if she did have a kid. Shitty situation for sure :|

I was 19 and in college with a crappy job. She wanted to move to Florida, but I couldn't rationally see it happen. I tend to think that way; while she thinks in fantasy and instinct.
Gamegene
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
United States8308 Posts
July 20 2011 07:46 GMT
#10
Move on man and meet someone better.

Believe me when I say that it only hurts your fragile heart more and more as you think about lost love more and more.
Throw on your favorite jacket and you're good to roll. Stroll through the trees and let your miseries go.
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 07:49 GMT
#11
On July 20 2011 16:46 Gamegene wrote:
Move on man and meet someone better.

Believe me when I say that it only hurts your fragile heart more and more as you think about lost love more and more.

It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it.
Vain
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
Netherlands1115 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-07-20 08:02:44
July 20 2011 08:01 GMT
#12
On July 20 2011 16:49 ranshaked wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 20 2011 16:46 Gamegene wrote:
Move on man and meet someone better.

Believe me when I say that it only hurts your fragile heart more and more as you think about lost love more and more.

It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it.


You say it yourself."I should have been". That's in the past now and you can't do anything in your power to change that. It really sucks but you'll have to accept that at least for now. There is no reason to poke in her existing relationship either. If she leaves him for you, how can you ever trust her to never do the same thing to you? If you want to talk to her do it if it's not too painfull. Otherwise just leave it at this. that's the best you can do right now. I wouldn't wait for her relationship to end because if it doesn't it can be very hard to watch.

i hope you can find a good way to handle this, You are the only one that knows the whole situation
Battle.net 2.0 is a waiter and he's a dick
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 08:03 GMT
#13
It was so incredibly painful to speak with her tonight but she had so much to say and I'm good at giving advice. I need advice now. I feel like something is empty. Not to mention my best friend passed away one year ago today. It's too much to take in right now
arb
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
Noobville17922 Posts
July 20 2011 08:04 GMT
#14
just leave her and her family alone, shit.

she has 2 kids. dont tear up a happy home
Artillery spawned from the forges of Hell
Zapdos_Smithh
Profile Blog Joined October 2008
Canada2620 Posts
July 20 2011 08:04 GMT
#15
Are we supposed to be impressed by 4 hours or something?
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 08:08 GMT
#16
On July 20 2011 17:04 arb wrote:
just leave her and her family alone, shit.

she has 2 kids. dont tear up a happy home

You're right. I'm being selfish. Ive had so many failed relationships for the past two years that it just seems right for us two to be together. I know she wants it as well, but she realizes she cant
ranshaked
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States870 Posts
July 20 2011 08:08 GMT
#17
On July 20 2011 17:04 Zapdos_Smithh wrote:
Are we supposed to be impressed by 4 hours or something?

I never speak on the phone, let alone for that long
MrBitter
Profile Joined January 2008
United States2940 Posts
July 20 2011 08:11 GMT
#18
On July 20 2011 16:24 ranshaked wrote:
When I was 13 I lost my virginity to the most wonderful girl I've ever met in my entire 22 year life. We lost contact for 6 years, but when I was 19 we rekindled our relationship. With this, I learned she had a child with a man, which in turn led us to a 1 year relationship (long distance.) It was beautiful; yet she had a child and it was getting serious. Quite frankly I wasn't ready for it and we broke it off. Several weeks later she had found a new man and quickly got married. He was in the military and it was best for her and her child. Nonetheless, this evening we spoke for 4 hours on telephone. She currently lives in Hawaii with another child on the way. It was amazing, but I know in my hear it was wrong. I told her everything I had ever wanted to say; but in the end...she's married with a child on the way. I'm not quite sure exactly how to handle this. There's an odd connection between the two of us that never fades, but we always make due with the most awkward situations possible. She understands me. I understand her. It is why she came to me.
I miss her.


13!?

Jesus kids are starting young these days....
Dfgj
Profile Joined May 2008
Singapore5922 Posts
July 20 2011 08:14 GMT
#19
Move along.

The more you bring yourself back to memories and the past and tempt yourself with thinking about them and what could be, the harder it is, because you don't let yourself move on with life. Yeah, it feels like you don't want to give up what you might have, but it's better to do so.
Gamegene
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
United States8308 Posts
July 20 2011 08:18 GMT
#20
On July 20 2011 16:49 ranshaked wrote:
It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it.


I know where you're coming from. I had that conversation 6 times with a girl I shouldn't have fallen in love with. And each time I had that conversation I only felt worse and worse about not being able to be part of the story. And it drove me nuts each time we had to part ways, as life goes, to the point where I would talk to her and have that conversation again, just to have some relief in knowing what happened to what could have been. But then I would feel, again, worse and worse about not being able to be part of the story.

Believe me, life is full of "what ifs". It only hurts the more you think about it.
...And the sad truth is that there's nothing you can do, so the pain becomes pointless.
Throw on your favorite jacket and you're good to roll. Stroll through the trees and let your miseries go.
1 2 3 4 5 Next All
Please log in or register to reply.
Live Events Refresh
Big Brain Bouts
10:00
#128
Lambo vs Percival
TriGGeR vs ByuN
RotterdaM687
IndyStarCraft 191
Liquipedia
[ Submit Event ]
Live Streams
Refresh
StarCraft 2
RotterdaM 687
IndyStarCraft 191
SHIN 106
StarCraft: Brood War
Britney 25840
Calm 11174
Hyuk 1840
Pusan 665
Horang2 326
firebathero 300
Hyun 250
actioN 235
Last 128
hero 82
[ Show more ]
Barracks 79
Mong 77
Free 46
910 43
Sharp 41
Shinee 37
HiyA 37
NaDa 36
Yoon 36
ggaemo 31
sSak 25
Aegong 25
Sexy 23
ajuk12(nOOB) 10
scan(afreeca) 10
SilentControl 9
Noble 8
Dota 2
Dendi778
resolut1ontv 114
Counter-Strike
byalli1513
edward82
Super Smash Bros
Mew2King179
Heroes of the Storm
Khaldor230
Other Games
B2W.Neo462
DeMusliM274
Fuzer 120
Organizations
Other Games
gamesdonequick873
StarCraft 2
WardiTV376
Other Games
BasetradeTV38
StarCraft: Brood War
UltimateBattle 20
lovetv 11
[ Show 10 non-featured ]
StarCraft 2
• AfreecaTV YouTube
• intothetv
• Kozan
• IndyKCrew
• Migwel
StarCraft: Brood War
• BSLYoutube
• STPLYoutube
• ZZZeroYoutube
League of Legends
• Jankos2648
Other Games
• WagamamaTV387
Upcoming Events
Sparkling Tuna Cup
22h 12m
OSC
1d
Shopify Rebellion Sundays
1d 3h
Mixu vs TBD
Spirit vs TBD
Clem vs TBD
Patches Events
1d 4h
OSC
1d 12h
Afreeca Starleague
1d 22h
Soma vs Shuttle
BeSt vs Rush
WardiTV Weekly
1d 23h
Monday Night Weeklies
2 days
Afreeca Starleague
2 days
Leta vs ggaemo
Jaedong vs Queen
GSL
2 days
[ Show More ]
PiGosaur Cup
3 days
Kung Fu Cup
3 days
Replay Cast
4 days
The PondCast
4 days
KCM Race Survival
4 days
Escore
5 days
IntoTheTV X SOOP
5 days
CranKy Ducklings
6 days
Liquipedia Results

Completed

Proleague 2026-09-02
PiG Sty Festival 8.0
Light Tournament 2026

Ongoing

KCM Race Survival 2026 Season 3
K-JUNGMAN
ASL Season 22
Super Anchor Qualifying S3
CSL 2026 AUTUMN (S22)
Acropolis #5
Acropolis #5 - TRS
RSL Revival: Season 6
Calamity Invitational
Big Dog Cup 2026 Div 1
BLAST Open Fall 2026
Esports World Cup 2026
Esports World Cup 2026: LCQ
BLAST Bounty Summer 2026
BLAST Bounty Summer Qual
Stake Ranked Episode 3
XSE Pro League 2026

Upcoming

Escore Tournament S3: King of Kings
Blizzard Classic Cup 2026
Acropolis #5 - GSA
Acropolis #5 - GSB
Acropolis #5 - GSC
SC4ALL II: Brood War
HSC XXX
Stellar Fest 2: Lunar Cup
SC4ALL II: StarCraft II
Kung Fu Cup 2026 Grand Finals
RSL Offline Finals
BLAST Rivals Fall 2026
IEM Beijing 2026
Stake Ranked Episode 5
PGL Masters Bucharest 2026
1win Private Club #2
Thunderpick World Champ. '26
ESL Pro League Season 24
Stake Ranked Episode 4
1win Private Club #1
Logitech G Play Connect 2026
SL StarSeries Fall 2026
FISSURE Playground #3
TLPD

1. ByuN
2. TY
3. Dark
4. Solar
5. Stats
6. Nerchio
7. sOs
8. soO
9. INnoVation
10. Elazer
1. Rain
2. Flash
3. EffOrt
4. Last
5. Bisu
6. Soulkey
7. Mini
8. Sharp
Sidebar Settings...

Advertising | Privacy Policy | Terms Of Use | Contact Us

Original banner artwork: Jim Warren
The contents of this webpage are copyright © 2026 TLnet. All Rights Reserved.