Fair Warning: This is a girl blog, and also my first post.
I am currently 17 years old. recently i met this girl at a party through my brother. I've known who she is for several years but never really "met" her, on account of me being shy and assuming she was well out of my league. I've never had a very high self-confidence, at least around new people, and I'm sure some of you can relate to my situation. Anyways, she is really cool and hot. at one point, she made me promise that we would "be tight." A few days later, i texted my brother and asked him if he thought i should press the situation with her or just let it slide. He said she told him that she thought i was really cool and hot, but i just didn't talk much. He suggested i text her and see how things went. Two days later i manned up and did just that. It went alright, and she seemed somewhat interested in carrying on a conversation. We talked for twenty minutes or so before my phone died. The next day, I was a little weary of texting her again as I didn't want to be annoying if she wasn't interested. Much to my surprise, she texted me first. This reassured me quite a bit, and i asked her to hang out, as I was with some of my friends, and she with one of hers. She said she wanted to but she had to get up early the next day but that she would next time. Over the next couple of days i continued to text her and things went pretty well. We weren't having one sided conversations and she seemed interested in talking. A few days ago, she went on a vacation with some friends, and I decided against texting her during this trip, as I didn't want to potentially bother her. she comes back today, and I'm still nervous about starting a conversation. The problem here is that I have begun to like this girl and I can't tell if she likes me or is just being polite and friendly. I don't know how to convey this to her without pushing her away or entering into the "friend zone." Normally I would ask my brother, as he is extremely helpful, he would probably set something up that both her and I would be at, but he is in his last stages of training before being deployed to Afghanistan, and I can't contact him for about four more weeks. Do you think I should just keep talking to her? ask her to hang-out?
On July 18 2011 02:19 Elsid wrote: If you like her just ask her out and see what happens. It doesn't have to be awkward if she rejects you after if neither of ye want it to be :3
This. You gotta roll the dice to give it a go. If it doesn't work out, you can always be friends so
I just had this weird idea that you could talk to her some more, ask her out, have a successful date, and be happy and pleased with yourself, but that's just crazy talk!
He said she told him that she thought i was really cool and hot, but i just didn't talk much.
She finds you attractive
She initiates conversations
She tries to meet you and do stuff
Thinks you need to talk more (yet you're hesitant on talking to her more because you don't want to annoy her)
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her. The whole "QQ I don't wanna bother her" is more bothersome than you trying to avoid being annoying. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. If she likes you, she'll be lenient on your texts and not find them annoying at all.
You're making a problem when there isn't any. I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
1. Start working out. Will help your confidence (Come on over to TL Health and Fitness thread!).
2. Come on man... there's already indicators that she likes you. Girls in high school don't really talk to guys who they randomly meet again unless they're interested for one reason or another, especially if you were quiet when you met her.
3. If you keep acting the way you do now you'll get put in the "friend zone." She knows you're quiet, but she won't wait around forever.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Flirt when you get the chance, like movies or chilling at a party or someshit. Once you start getting touchy just tell her straight up you wanna be more than friends and go from there. Its not hard brooo dont be a puss
On July 18 2011 03:15 LMPeaches wrote: Flirt when you get the chance, like movies or chilling at a party or someshit. Once you start getting touchy just tell her straight up you wanna be more than friends and go from there. Its not hard brooo dont be a puss
glhf
To elaborate teasing = win. As long as she knows its teasing, and you're not just being mean. If she punches/mock slaps you that's a good thing. If she says you're mean that's fine as long as she's taking it good natured. NEVER apologize for anything like that.
If she's actually mad and gets upset/throws a tantrum then you've probably gone too far.
Also, if you can make her laugh that's also good as well.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Or 2 then 1, and repeat that cycle. I'd lean towards the fornication first, in case the answer is not the desired outcome
If you decide you like a girl you can't pussyfoot around. No girl bloggers on Teamliquid, none out of the hundred I've read, have been successful because they were too shy.
Meet her up in real life... text messaging is shit.. srsly Facebook, Messengers and things like that just ruin our social life.. especially when it comes to relationships...
My hint is that you should really meet her in real life..
Oky dude, since you are shy and all ... and playing sc2, il give you a sc2 example.
Say you are playing vs zerg as a toss on xel naga cavern and you do a 3 gate push while expanding ( you go to the said party )
You do some dmg, kill some drones walk away with almost all the sentrys ( you meet the girl and she shows interest in you )
You don't want to risk it and go for a 5 gate ( ask the girl out/talk with her ) so you build and obs and scout ( ask your brother ) and you see that he build 2 spines and teched to lair w/o taking a 3rd at the 10 min mark ( the girl says you are hot and all to your bro )
You build a colossus start researching range and go stalker colossus with the 5 sentrys you have ( you start talking with the girl )
Your observer dies and you still don't see a 3rd o.o ( you can't bother your bro atm and you are unsure if the girl likes you or not altho all the info points to her liking your )
So what do you do ? you have fucking 3 colossus 28 stalkers 5 sentrys 10 zealots and a 3rd on the fucking way , ATTACK the dam 2 base zerg and if he really has something to kill you, you can always retreat and still win the match or loss honorably ( ask the girl out dam it, you have high chances of success and if she doesn't actually likes you non cuts your head )
just use the shy thing to your advantage. if you are feeling nervous just say, you know you are really pretty and it's making me a little nervous. if you give yourself permission to feel awkward or shy instead of trying to mask or escape it the problem will solve itself.
EPT
