Fair Warning: This is a girl blog, and also my first post.
I am currently 17 years old. recently i met this girl at a party through my brother. I've known who she is for several years but never really "met" her, on account of me being shy and assuming she was well out of my league. I've never had a very high self-confidence, at least around new people, and I'm sure some of you can relate to my situation. Anyways, she is really cool and hot. at one point, she made me promise that we would "be tight." A few days later, i texted my brother and asked him if he thought i should press the situation with her or just let it slide. He said she told him that she thought i was really cool and hot, but i just didn't talk much. He suggested i text her and see how things went. Two days later i manned up and did just that. It went alright, and she seemed somewhat interested in carrying on a conversation. We talked for twenty minutes or so before my phone died. The next day, I was a little weary of texting her again as I didn't want to be annoying if she wasn't interested. Much to my surprise, she texted me first. This reassured me quite a bit, and i asked her to hang out, as I was with some of my friends, and she with one of hers. She said she wanted to but she had to get up early the next day but that she would next time. Over the next couple of days i continued to text her and things went pretty well. We weren't having one sided conversations and she seemed interested in talking. A few days ago, she went on a vacation with some friends, and I decided against texting her during this trip, as I didn't want to potentially bother her. she comes back today, and I'm still nervous about starting a conversation. The problem here is that I have begun to like this girl and I can't tell if she likes me or is just being polite and friendly. I don't know how to convey this to her without pushing her away or entering into the "friend zone." Normally I would ask my brother, as he is extremely helpful, he would probably set something up that both her and I would be at, but he is in his last stages of training before being deployed to Afghanistan, and I can't contact him for about four more weeks. Do you think I should just keep talking to her? ask her to hang-out?
On July 18 2011 02:19 Elsid wrote: If you like her just ask her out and see what happens. It doesn't have to be awkward if she rejects you after if neither of ye want it to be :3
This. You gotta roll the dice to give it a go. If it doesn't work out, you can always be friends so
I just had this weird idea that you could talk to her some more, ask her out, have a successful date, and be happy and pleased with yourself, but that's just crazy talk!
He said she told him that she thought i was really cool and hot, but i just didn't talk much.
She finds you attractive
She initiates conversations
She tries to meet you and do stuff
Thinks you need to talk more (yet you're hesitant on talking to her more because you don't want to annoy her)
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her. The whole "QQ I don't wanna bother her" is more bothersome than you trying to avoid being annoying. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. If she likes you, she'll be lenient on your texts and not find them annoying at all.
You're making a problem when there isn't any. I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
1. Start working out. Will help your confidence (Come on over to TL Health and Fitness thread!).
2. Come on man... there's already indicators that she likes you. Girls in high school don't really talk to guys who they randomly meet again unless they're interested for one reason or another, especially if you were quiet when you met her.
3. If you keep acting the way you do now you'll get put in the "friend zone." She knows you're quiet, but she won't wait around forever.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Flirt when you get the chance, like movies or chilling at a party or someshit. Once you start getting touchy just tell her straight up you wanna be more than friends and go from there. Its not hard brooo dont be a puss
On July 18 2011 03:15 LMPeaches wrote: Flirt when you get the chance, like movies or chilling at a party or someshit. Once you start getting touchy just tell her straight up you wanna be more than friends and go from there. Its not hard brooo dont be a puss
glhf
To elaborate teasing = win. As long as she knows its teasing, and you're not just being mean. If she punches/mock slaps you that's a good thing. If she says you're mean that's fine as long as she's taking it good natured. NEVER apologize for anything like that.
If she's actually mad and gets upset/throws a tantrum then you've probably gone too far.
Also, if you can make her laugh that's also good as well.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Or 2 then 1, and repeat that cycle. I'd lean towards the fornication first, in case the answer is not the desired outcome
If you decide you like a girl you can't pussyfoot around. No girl bloggers on Teamliquid, none out of the hundred I've read, have been successful because they were too shy.
Meet her up in real life... text messaging is shit.. srsly Facebook, Messengers and things like that just ruin our social life.. especially when it comes to relationships...
My hint is that you should really meet her in real life..
Oky dude, since you are shy and all ... and playing sc2, il give you a sc2 example.
Say you are playing vs zerg as a toss on xel naga cavern and you do a 3 gate push while expanding ( you go to the said party )
You do some dmg, kill some drones walk away with almost all the sentrys ( you meet the girl and she shows interest in you )
You don't want to risk it and go for a 5 gate ( ask the girl out/talk with her ) so you build and obs and scout ( ask your brother ) and you see that he build 2 spines and teched to lair w/o taking a 3rd at the 10 min mark ( the girl says you are hot and all to your bro )
You build a colossus start researching range and go stalker colossus with the 5 sentrys you have ( you start talking with the girl )
Your observer dies and you still don't see a 3rd o.o ( you can't bother your bro atm and you are unsure if the girl likes you or not altho all the info points to her liking your )
So what do you do ? you have fucking 3 colossus 28 stalkers 5 sentrys 10 zealots and a 3rd on the fucking way , ATTACK the dam 2 base zerg and if he really has something to kill you, you can always retreat and still win the match or loss honorably ( ask the girl out dam it, you have high chances of success and if she doesn't actually likes you non cuts your head )
just use the shy thing to your advantage. if you are feeling nervous just say, you know you are really pretty and it's making me a little nervous. if you give yourself permission to feel awkward or shy instead of trying to mask or escape it the problem will solve itself.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Or 2 then 1, and repeat that cycle. I'd lean towards the fornication first, in case the answer is not the desired outcome
Whatever works. This is like successful baffling from the OP
On July 18 2011 02:42 Torte de Lini wrote: To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
Bro, its easy to not get friend zoned. You don't let it get to that, man up and ask her out on a one on one date. No more friends around thing, take her out, get to know her, flirt a bit (or a bunch of you're feeling it) and seal the deal.
On July 18 2011 06:01 Aterons_toss wrote: Oky dude, since you are shy and all ... and playing sc2, il give you a sc2 example.
Say you are playing vs zerg as a toss on xel naga cavern and you do a 3 gate push while expanding ( you go to the said party )
You do some dmg, kill some drones walk away with almost all the sentrys ( you meet the girl and she shows interest in you )
You don't want to risk it and go for a 5 gate ( ask the girl out/talk with her ) so you build and obs and scout ( ask your brother ) and you see that he build 2 spines and teched to lair w/o taking a 3rd at the 10 min mark ( the girl says you are hot and all to your bro )
You build a colossus start researching range and go stalker colossus with the 5 sentrys you have ( you start talking with the girl )
Your observer dies and you still don't see a 3rd o.o ( you can't bother your bro atm and you are unsure if the girl likes you or not altho all the info points to her liking your )
So what do you do ? you have fucking 3 colossus 28 stalkers 5 sentrys 10 zealots and a 3rd on the fucking way , ATTACK the dam 2 base zerg and if he really has something to kill you, you can always retreat and still win the match or loss honorably ( ask the girl out dam it, you have high chances of success and if she doesn't actually likes you non cuts your head )
lol +1. Loved the last paragraph; I was waiting for the "Just go fucking kill him" (Just go fucking ask her out).
He said she told him that she thought i was really cool and hot, but i just didn't talk much.
She finds you attractive
She initiates conversations
She tries to meet you and do stuff
Thinks you need to talk more (yet you're hesitant on talking to her more because you don't want to annoy her)
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her. The whole "QQ I don't wanna bother her" is more bothersome than you trying to avoid being annoying. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. If she likes you, she'll be lenient on your texts and not find them annoying at all.
You're making a problem when there isn't any. I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
Exactly. This is a free win mate, take her ladder points already.
Just ask her out man. Don't worry about the friend zone shit. I just lose my chance with a super awesome girl because I friend-zoned myself. Just go for it bro
Would you say Joseph got cockblocked by God himself? God totally swooped the Virgin Mary and since her nickname is The Virgin Mary, Joseph could never express his love with her.
On July 18 2011 13:19 Torte de Lini wrote: Would you say Joseph got cockblocked by God himself? God totally swooped the Virgin Mary and since her nickname is The Virgin Mary, Joseph could never express his love with her.
Poor guy ):
It is probably the one time where the was actual blockage of the cock, only the blockage was spiritual in nature. Makes you wonder what happens after Jesus was born. Did Mary remain a virgin for the rest of her life?
I mean how exactly do you impress a lady after she has had sex with a god. An actual god, not just a dude who thinks he is a god.
It is like "hey baby let me show you a good time", and the response is "If you are not a deity, fuck off!"
Edit: I think given the impossible nature of his task, and the fact that he stuck with it. I am renaming that brave man Broseph. Cause letting your wife get knocked up by a ghost and then raising the kid as your own, even after he starts to think he is god's gift to man, deserves some credit.
On July 18 2011 13:19 Torte de Lini wrote: Would you say Joseph got cockblocked by God himself? God totally swooped the Virgin Mary and since her nickname is The Virgin Mary, Joseph could never express his love with her.
Poor guy ):
It is probably the one time where the was actual blockage of the cock, only the blockage was spiritual in nature. Makes you wonder what happens after Jesus was born. Did Mary remain a virgin for the rest of her life?
I mean how exactly do you impress a lady after she has had sex with a god. An actual god, not just a dude who thinks he is a god.
It is like "hey baby let me show you a good time", and the response is "If you are not a deity, fuck off!"
I was going to ask this too. But God didn't have sex with her. He just stuffed a baby in her somehow and that's it. There was no God sperm. If there was, she'd be having like... a zillion fetuses because what God spermatozoa would be defeated from the biological shit going inside a mortal?
On July 18 2011 13:19 Torte de Lini wrote: Would you say Joseph got cockblocked by God himself? God totally swooped the Virgin Mary and since her nickname is The Virgin Mary, Joseph could never express his love with her.
Poor guy ):
It is probably the one time where the was actual blockage of the cock, only the blockage was spiritual in nature. Makes you wonder what happens after Jesus was born. Did Mary remain a virgin for the rest of her life?
I mean how exactly do you impress a lady after she has had sex with a god. An actual god, not just a dude who thinks he is a god.
It is like "hey baby let me show you a good time", and the response is "If you are not a deity, fuck off!"
I was going to ask this too. But God didn't have sex with her. He just stuffed a baby in her somehow and that's it. There was no God sperm. If there was, she'd be having like... a zillion fetuses because what God spermatozoa would be defeated from the biological shit going inside a mortal?
I don't know man.
I seriously think she is hiding something. They don't call it immaculate for nothing.
You do however raise a good point, re the godly sperm. I would posit that given his godliness, he obviously has godly control. Thus only released a single sperm. Imacculate indeed!
Poor Broseph, one day you're knocking wood together then next you're metaphorically knocking wood together. I mean can you imagine the conversation when you get home from work
Broseph (The Second Most Manly Man): Honey I am home, where's my sandwich?
Mary: No Sandwich dear, but I am pregant...
Broseph: In all things in hell, who did it? Don't make me come over there.
Mary: It was the holy ghost, I swear!
Broseph: Ok, now I know you're taking the proverbial. Just fix me my Sandwich!
... Two months later
Broseph: Honey you are really gaining weight! Lay off the bread for a bit.
Ask her out or you WILL regret it in the future. If you ask her out and she says no do you think that will be something that you regret in a year? Or even in a week or two? I doubt it. The way I see it, if you ask her out you should have no regrets no matter the outcome, but if you pass on this opportunity you certainly will regret it for what is likely a long while. Go for it.
On July 18 2011 13:19 Torte de Lini wrote: Would you say Joseph got cockblocked by God himself? God totally swooped the Virgin Mary and since her nickname is The Virgin Mary, Joseph could never express his love with her.
Poor guy ):
It is probably the one time where the was actual blockage of the cock, only the blockage was spiritual in nature. Makes you wonder what happens after Jesus was born. Did Mary remain a virgin for the rest of her life?
I mean how exactly do you impress a lady after she has had sex with a god. An actual god, not just a dude who thinks he is a god.
It is like "hey baby let me show you a good time", and the response is "If you are not a deity, fuck off!"
I was going to ask this too. But God didn't have sex with her. He just stuffed a baby in her somehow and that's it. There was no God sperm. If there was, she'd be having like... a zillion fetuses because what God spermatozoa would be defeated from the biological shit going inside a mortal?
I don't know man.
I seriously think she is hiding something. They don't call it immaculate for nothing.
You do however raise a good point, re the godly sperm. I would posit that given his godliness, he obviously has godly control. Thus only released a single sperm. Imacculate indeed!
Poor Broseph, one day you're knocking wood together then next you're metaphorically knocking wood together. I mean can you imagine the conversation when you get home from work
Broseph (The Second Most Manly Man): Honey I am home, where's my sandwich?
Mary: No Sandwich dear, but I am pregant...
Broseph: In all things in hell, who did it? Don't make me come over there.
Mary: It was the holy ghost, I swear!
Broseph: Ok, now I know you're taking the proverbial. Just fix me my Sandwich!
... Two months later
Broseph: Honey you are really gaining weight! Lay off the bread for a bit.
Mary: I told you I am pregant!
Broseph: Not this again...
... Nine months later
Broseph: WTF??!!!
lololol
I would feel bad if Mary had to pop out Jesus' halo or thorn crown too. Oy...
On July 18 2011 13:40 Hall0wed wrote: Ask her out or you WILL regret it in the future. If you ask her out and she says no do you think that will be something that you regret in a year? Or even in a week or two? I doubt it. The way I see it, if you ask her out you should have no regrets no matter the outcome, but if you pass on this opportunity you certainly will regret it for what is likely a long while. Go for it.
Some nice juxtaposition happening right here....
Sorry, I know you responded sincerely but it pretty funny in amongst the random tangent that the blog took. I am fairly certain that the OP has received all the advice he needs, nothing new added here.
Stop being a metaphorical non-derogatory form of a female pussy and just start a conversation and talk to her.
I'll pick your testicles up from the dry cleaners when you make a move :3
^^ Quote Machine eh? +1
Thanks to everyone who replied.
Further Questions: How do I know if she is just trying to be a friend? How do I avoid the "friend zone"?
The girls I know, and this is anecdotal, don't tell other friends that their guy-friends are hot. This is because you don't want to tell a guy you find them physically attractive when you value their personality and more psychological attributes that make them reliable friends.
To avoid the friend zone: confess you want to be more than friends. Fornicate if necessary. Repeat Step 2 (and step 1 if she's air-headed).
Or 2 then 1, and repeat that cycle. I'd lean towards the fornication first, in case the answer is not the desired outcome
On July 18 2011 13:40 Hall0wed wrote: Ask her out or you WILL regret it in the future. If you ask her out and she says no do you think that will be something that you regret in a year? Or even in a week or two? I doubt it. The way I see it, if you ask her out you should have no regrets no matter the outcome, but if you pass on this opportunity you certainly will regret it for what is likely a long while. Go for it.
Some nice juxtaposition happening right here....
Sorry, I know you responded sincerely but it pretty funny in amongst the random tangent that the blog took. I am fairly certain that the OP has received all the advice he needs, nothing new added here.
Why would I read the countless useless posts in this topic? I doubt anything too great has been posted.
Thanks everyone for their advice, I manned up and asked her to a movie, and she said yes, further proving why TL has the best forums. Not to mention the 10 or so posts about god-sperm. those were a plus
This is a much better outcome than you never making a move, she thinks you're just friends and can finally relax around a guy because she enjoys your company in a non-romantic way, and then 3 months later finds out that you have feelings for her and hid it for months. That'd be awkward.
On July 18 2011 21:29 Tatum26 wrote: Thanks everyone for their advice, I manned up and asked her to a movie, and she said yes, further proving why TL has the best forums. Not to mention the 10 or so posts about god-sperm. those were a plus
Misguided "I thought it was romantic", but actually uber-platonic maneuver complete. Next step: Facebook stalking...
Became aware of this thread last night and wanted to see what's up. As I usually say, here are the facts:
She said she finds you attractive. Instant Win.
She initiated a conversation with you. Positive.
You do not want to annoy her with texts. Positive.
You are concerned with liking her. Colossal Negative.
YOU SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNED WITH LIKING HER. YOU ARE 17
Instructions:
Finish off your night out with some kind of date-type contact like making out or sex or something.
Your only concern should be with going out with her and not whether you like her because you are 17 and it doesn't matter.
Text her back but don't text her too much. You've got better things to do. Yes you can annoy her with it. Especially in the absence of any action on your part.
Make a move or end up in the Friend Zone.
Deep down this girl wants you to take charge and start making her your girl. All you have to do at this point is just that. Be confident knowing that she wants you and go for it. Don't be a pussy.
On July 18 2011 21:29 Tatum26 wrote: Thanks everyone for their advice, I manned up and asked her to a movie, and she said yes, further proving why TL has the best forums. Not to mention the 10 or so posts about god-sperm. those were a plus
Just saw this. Good job - you're in! Make a move at the end of the night like I said.
Oh, and P.S.: Don't ever think of a girl as being out of your league. There is no such thing. This girl is in your league, because she was smart enough to choose you. Feel free to show her off if she's that good, but don't act like you won the lottery or anything. Also make sure to seal the deal first.
I know texting is the thing to do these days but don't try to read into text conversations too much. The lack of face to face conversation makes reading the person really hard. Over the phone you can at least hear the tone of voice and energy of a person, but texting is just text, and you're going to read it in the way you expect it to be read. She may be really nervous and excited to text you but doesn't know what to say, but from your end you think her three-word texts that are delayed is a sign of disinterest. See the problem?
Just pick up the phone, call her and ask her out somewhere. Drinks, movie, bowling, golf, park, food, whatever it doesn't matter. The confidence will definitely be recognized by your bold move and you'll have yourself an answer. If she says no, well don't beat yourself up, knowing is better than not knowing and you can just move on to the next girl. If she says yes, you have an in! Just be yourself, be polite and be fun and you'll have her waiting for the next date.
This isn't some science with builds and timing windows like in starcraft; so don't get worked up about the small details. The girl obviously likes you and will be thrilled to be asked out by you. Best of luck!
On July 18 2011 21:29 Tatum26 wrote: Thanks everyone for their advice, I manned up and asked her to a movie, and she said yes, further proving why TL has the best forums. Not to mention the 10 or so posts about god-sperm. those were a plus
Congratulations ^^ All you have to do from her is just play it out and see what happens. GL
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