She sounds like a bitch, tbh.

Why are you still with her?

Edit: Let me try to be helpful in a philosophical way: If she didn't give a fuck about your feeling when she was messaging that guy by "cheating in the mind", do you think she truly cares about the relationship enough to make it last?

No, this is further shown by her statement of losing feels.

Blazinghand

United States25553 Posts

June 29 2011 18:39 GMT

#22

Wow, that's quite a story! It sounds like you guys have been through some tough times before and you managed to make it through okay, which is why I think you can make it through this, too, if you play your cards right. You clearly care a great deal about this girl, so I think it will be worth it for your to put in the effort to keep the relationship together.

You should start off by thinking about how you've worked through your fights and problems before... what did you do that worked, and what is usually the thing that causes her to be upset? Also, keep in mind that just because she SAYS something is the reason she's upset / distant doesn't mean that's the case.

EDIT: having read through your post again, I think I've identified the problem that lead up to this: You and your girlfriend play League of Legends together, right? That's your mighty downfall, every tryhard knows that Heroes of Newerth is substantially better, has a superior relative skill potential, and you can't buy better heroes on it, if you buy the game you own the game.

AyeH

United States534 Posts

June 29 2011 18:39 GMT

#23

Thanks guys for the advice and comments, etc. Should I just call her and call it quits now? Or wait it out until she calls me?

Noxie

United States2227 Posts

June 29 2011 18:41 GMT

#24

Get out bud, you more then likely wouldnt of married her anyways.. not the way it seems at least. It is probably for the best. You will meet someone else, trust me.

stevarius

United States1394 Posts

June 29 2011 18:42 GMT

#25

You're better off preparing yourself to do it. Call her, do it in person, it doesn't really matter(though I prefer in person).

You should basically tell her that if doesn't have any more romantic feelings for you and doesn't intend to give it her all, that you should mutually agree to end it.

Torenhire

United States11681 Posts

June 29 2011 18:43 GMT

#26

On June 30 2011 03:39 Blazinghand wrote:
EDIT: having read through your post again, I think I've identified the problem that lead up to this: You and your girlfriend play League of Legends together, right? That's your mighty downfall, every tryhard knows that Heroes of Newerth is substantially better, has a superior relative skill potential, and you can't buy better heroes on it, if you buy the game you own the game.

It's flawless logic, I knew this day would happen when League of Dildos comes back to ruin our lives.

OH SHIT

It's here for TL now!!!

Demonace34

United States2493 Posts

June 29 2011 18:44 GMT

#27

On June 30 2011 03:39 AyeH wrote:
Thanks guys for the advice and comments, etc. Should I just call her and call it quits now? Or wait it out until she calls me?

Well, it all depends. I'd say just wait til she wants to talk about it... then exchange words on how you guys feel and make a decision from there. Don't rush to break it off if you both still want to try and work it out. In the end, it is up to you if you want to break it off now or not. Any more thoughts on your relationship after reading a page and a half of comments?

Curu

Canada2817 Posts

June 29 2011 18:44 GMT

#28

On June 30 2011 03:42 stevarius wrote:
You're better off preparing yourself to do it. Call her, do it in person, it doesn't really matter(though I prefer in person).

You should basically tell her that if doesn't have any more romantic feelings for you and doesn't intend to give it her all, that you should mutually agree to end it.

Yep, this. It's better to do it in person but you might melt to the crying act. If you think you can stay firm despite the potential begging and tears, then do it in person. If not, phone might be better.

If you're just looking for a fling, then you might as well stick with her and get as much free sex out of it as possible. If you're looking for a stable long-term relationship, time to say goodbye.

Torte de Lini

Germany38463 Posts

June 29 2011 18:45 GMT

#29

On June 30 2011 03:43 Torenhire wrote:

Show nested quote +

It's flawless logic, I knew this day would happen when League of Dildos comes back to ruin our lives.

OH SHIT

It's here for TL now!!!

I support these two statements!

Lysenko

Iceland2128 Posts

June 29 2011 18:45 GMT

#30

Here's why your OP really had me confused:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/VCard

I was like "why is everyone losing each others contact information?" Soo confusing...

Anyway, I agree with the people who say to move on. She intended that "losing romantic feelings" to be a final breakup.

AzTec

Canada178 Posts

June 29 2011 18:51 GMT

#31

I like how you mentioned the Riot points like that was of serious importance to your decision lol.

We bought Riot points together god damn it, doesn't that mean anything to you!

spritzz

Canada331 Posts

June 29 2011 18:52 GMT

#32

At least she's honest about it and didn't come up with excuses to blame you for the relationship failure.

Everyone here gave sensible responses and you should start protecting yourself now (emotionally). Since she's the one who wants to move away from the relationship, you're bound to be the more hurt one out of the two. All I can say is take it easy man and time will heal you.

Mutual break-up sounds nice. You just have to maintain your sense of self-worth and have a positive view on the world, which is one of the harder things to do in post-breakup.

Treemonkeys

United States2082 Posts

June 29 2011 18:53 GMT

#33

My 2 cents -

Sounds like you are being needy and this is also turning her off. Letting the relationship go might be good advice, but if you want to salvage it there might still be hope. If this is what you want, try to act less needy, don't let things bother you. Compete with other guys for attention rather than assuming she won't give them any and then getting upset when she does (I know it's hard to do this). If you want to salvage it you're going to need to treat her more like you're trying to get her to **** you rather than she's your long time commited g/f. If all of that is unattractive to you then it is better to not fake it, just call it off.

jacosajh

2919 Posts

June 29 2011 18:55 GMT

#34

On June 30 2011 03:51 AzTec wrote:
I like how you mentioned the Riot points like that was of serious importance to your decision lol.

We bought Riot points together god damn it, doesn't that mean anything to you!

That's what I kept thinking.

Is here screen name KiryaDeathKat by any chance?

Blazinghand

United States25553 Posts

June 29 2011 18:55 GMT

#35

On June 30 2011 03:43 Torenhire wrote:

Show nested quote +

It's flawless logic, I knew this day would happen when League of Dildos comes back to ruin our lives.

OH SHIT

It's here for TL now!!!

Oh no oh no oh no!!!! Truly it is a terrible world we live in, a dark and cold one where no forum is safe from the LoL, not even TL.

EsX_Raptor

United States2802 Posts

June 29 2011 18:55 GMT

#36

What are your goals with her? Do you want to marry her? Or do you simply want to keep someone to be able to say you have a gf, fuck and make out whenever you're done doing your other life duties?

If you're not serious about her, I'd recommend you go find someone else to keep the romantic flame lit, because a serious relationship is a sacrifice.

SigmaoctanusIV

United States3313 Posts

June 29 2011 18:57 GMT

#37

my friend,

I want to extend my gratitude for you sharing your story. as everyone above me as posted it is time to find someone new. It will be hard and you will miss her, but if you stay true to yourself and know that you will find someone better, you will be so much happier in the long run. this current girl will always be a part of your life because you share something special losing your virginity.

You will be better having the experiences from this relationship so you can be a better partner to your future loved one. So however you want to end this relationship is up to you I suggest you be the one to do it and not wait tell she does something that hurts you even more. I would almost say this verbatim "hey (insert girl name here) we need to stop seeing each other, I respect you and don't want to be hurt, if you are losing feelings for me we should part ways. CYA I need to ladder anyways"

Kickboxer

Slovenia1308 Posts

June 29 2011 19:01 GMT

#38

If you stay with her you are screwed and she will ultimately cheat on you or leave you. This is absolutely certain.

If you dump her at once she might decide she wants you back after she has some fun. Or maybe not. Depends on her luck with other guys and whether or not you are seen around attractive women.

If you dump her, then instantly hook up with a remotely hot girl and flaunt it in her face she will go berserk and rage that you two were meant for each other and that she will murder the bitch for stealing the love of her life. She will then try to use sex to get you back.

And that, in a nutshell, is how chicks operate.

McKTenor13

United States1383 Posts

June 29 2011 19:03 GMT

#39

You both are very young. Girls change big time when they go into college. They want to party, they want to be sluts for a couple years because they know they'll never be able to do it again. You can't do anything about it. The healthy thing to do is date other girls. Have as many experiences as you can. High school relationships never last.

Think of it as a good thing and how much you've learned from this relationship. You'll find another great girl out there.

Artunit

Philippines399 Posts

June 29 2011 19:08 GMT

#40

Man I think it's over the day you read her msges with her ex-boyfriend. Just remember if she can do it once then she can definitely do it again. If she is telling you that she is losing her feelings towards you then forcing to make your relationship works will only hurt you both on the long run, atleast thats what I think.