Two of my best friends are a mix of white and Korean. Both of their fathers are Korean and their mothers are white. One of my family's closest friends is a Hispanic woman who married a Korean man.

The majority of Asians in an interracial marriages that I know of in real life, the father is the Asian. These are people +40 years old and if anything we would assume that it was harder back then.

So, I don't think it's as hard as we really make it out to be.

EvilTeletubby

Baltimore, USA22245 Posts

November 30 2010 06:57 GMT

#22

I see plenty of hot white girls with non-white male counter-parts. In most cases, they're not particularly attractive or anything but seem to have pretty baller/confident personalities. Unless looks are extreme (ie, extremely attractive or extremely ugly), looks (and race) matter so little. It's ALL about your confidence/personality that'll make or break it.

Even creating this post asking if race makes it harder means I can 100% guarantee that you're looking at the wrong thing as a reason for your woes.

nimysa

United States383 Posts

November 30 2010 07:16 GMT

#23

I'm only questioning what I've been forced-fed by a lot of peers/common perceptions and the media, I'm not blaming my own race for my own woes

Oh and go on guys

Cyber_Cheese

Australia3615 Posts

November 30 2010 07:52 GMT

#24

ok cupid releases statistics occasionally
it really is harder
source
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

Bosu

United States3247 Posts

November 30 2010 08:16 GMT

#25

On November 30 2010 14:04 ramen247 wrote:
attractive people find attractive people appealing. I don't think it has anything to do with race unless they are just radically racist.

White girls will dig hot Asians just the way anybody digs attractive looking people. White girls that say they don't like Asian guys have probably never seen an attractive Asian guy. That's all.

Racism has nothing to do with attraction. I find very few women who are black as attractive. And while I may have some stereotypes about people of every race (who doesn't) I wouldn't say I am racist at all. I am about as liberal nas you can get.

Haemonculus

United States6980 Posts

November 30 2010 15:30 GMT

#26

I'll be brutally honest and say that I *generally* don't find men of certain ethnicities attractive. This is a generality though, and I've made exceptions in the past. But then I have strange tastes anyway.

Are you sure it's race specifically? I doubt many women would write you off for no reason other than race. (and if they do... why go for her in the first place? )

And there's always exceptions or whatnot. My (white) best friend in high school *only* dated Asian guys, that was just her thing. I haven't spoken to her in at least a year now, but last I heard she was engaged to an Asian man.

Take a look at your other qualities. Blaming race specifically seems a bit short sighted.

Cambium

United States16368 Posts

November 30 2010 16:04 GMT

#27

On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote:

The real reason it's "harder" is because lots of Asian guys feed into this stereotype and whine about it constantly instead of just being secure and going for it. Take some responsibility. Seriously, changing stereotypes and racial perceptions starts one person at a time.

^That

and also, some Asian guys prefer to date Asian girls because they feel cultural similarities are important.

QuanticHawk

United States32021 Posts

November 30 2010 16:09 GMT

#28

On November 30 2010 14:08 Macavenger wrote:
Yes, it is. Although some of the statistics there suggest that fact is more about the white girls than the minority guys.

The guy who compiled that stuff is a moron. 'Racism is alive and well' Lordy.

Ancestral

United States3230 Posts

November 30 2010 17:10 GMT

#29

On December 01 2010 01:09 Hawk wrote:

Show nested quote +

The guy who compiled that stuff is a moron. 'Racism is alive and well' Lordy.

If you disagree with the statement that racism still exists I can do nothing but pity you.

On another note, Indian guys mack on all the bitches I try to get with, and usually beat me. (I'm white).

Chef

10810 Posts

November 30 2010 17:35 GMT

#30

To be fair, if I heard someone say 'mack on bitches' I wouldn't be very attracted to them either.

EsX_Raptor

United States2801 Posts

November 30 2010 17:52 GMT

#31

Stop classifying yourself like this; you're a human. You can date whoever the fuck you want. It's all in the mindset, and with one like this, you're not getting far.

minus_human

4784 Posts

November 30 2010 17:58 GMT

#32

On December 01 2010 02:52 EsX_Raptor wrote:
Stop classifying yourself like this; you're a human. You can date whoever the fuck you want. It's all in the mindset, and with one like this, you're not getting far.

Not everyone's dick touches the water in the toilet you know, for other guys life doesn't work like that

QuanticHawk

United States32021 Posts

November 30 2010 18:48 GMT

#33

On December 01 2010 02:10 Ancestral wrote:

Show nested quote +

If you disagree with the statement that racism still exists I can do nothing but pity you.

yeah, the response rate to potential date inqueries on an online dating website does absolutely nothing to support or deny that claim. the dude who wrote that blog is a moron

LosingID8

CA10824 Posts

November 30 2010 18:48 GMT

#34

On December 01 2010 02:58 minus_human wrote:

Show nested quote +

Not everyone's dick touches the water in the toilet you know, for other guys life doesn't work like that

hahahahaha

i'm a korean guy with a white girlfriend and i didn't find it particularly intimidating or anything to ask her out because of her race. then again, she has yellow fever so...

OneOther

United States10774 Posts

November 30 2010 22:39 GMT

#35

well, yes and no. there are two major functions of this, in my opnion:

1) some people want to date people with similar cultural background and tendencies (that's why you rarely see fobby asians dating white girls, obv)
2) many asian guys lack the confidence and abilities to go for it

pretty simple actually. if you are a good-looking and confident asian dude, you will get girls of all races. it seems "harder" because of those two reasons mentioned above. the most important point is that i don't think you are inherently at a disadvantage because you are asian unless the girl simply doesn't like asian guys. (which doesn't mean it's harder)

ZERG_RUSSIAN

10417 Posts

November 30 2010 22:59 GMT

#36

I live in Korea and grew up in Hawaii so I routinely see asian dudes with really hot white chicks, but I know I'm the exception and not the rule.

Really though, it's not impossible, just slightly more unlikely. Your best bet if you're not confident/in shape/in tune with what women want? Be filthy rich.

Happy.fairytail

United States327 Posts

November 30 2010 23:21 GMT

#37

On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote:
Nothing against Asian girls, but whenever I see an Asian dude with a non-Asian girl I always feel a bit of happiness that the stereotype is breaking bit by bit and I am really happy for him.

So true. Whenever I see an Asian guy with a white girl, I do a little fist pump inside, and say to myself, "score another one for the team!" Unfortunately, I see white guys with Asian girls 10x more often =( WTF STOP STEALING OUR WIMINS GET YER OWN (haha jk, I don't care...too much). The major consoling factor though is the fact that 90% of those Asian girls that white guys are with are totally busted, so it actually evens out. (is it me, or are white guys generally unable to tell how hot/ugly Asian girls are?? or is there some other reason for this phenomenon?)

On a more serious note -- I think in general women care less about looks than guys do, and would rather have a man who faithfully loves her than most anything else. So I don't think the race issue is much of an appearance or machismo factor, but more of a social circle factor. People tend to date within their social circles, which more often than not are of a single ethnicity, I believe.

lixlix

United States482 Posts

November 30 2010 23:28 GMT

#38

Short answer is its more difficult but it shouldn't stop you.

emperorchampion

Canada9496 Posts

November 30 2010 23:39 GMT

#39

The real question is how do you get Asian girls to go out with White guys? :/