I hate my dad - Page 10

On July 13 2010 12:48 KissBlade wrote:



This is not the time for your PC nonsense. You obviously don't realize the seriousness of the situation here. Him following your shit advice can ruin his life. If you don't know about these issues, don't comment. It is simple as that. It is frustrating to read this crap because despite what well meaning some people may have, it's all just DRIVEL that they have in this idealistic world they put themselves in. They have no idea that some of the stuff they're putting forth, people are actually reading as legitimate and taking into consideration. That alone is very fucking scary to me and why I decided to post here cause I normally I don't touch blog life advice threads with a stick. In fact, I implore future would be posters to think before they post "Do I actually have experience understanding this matter?" If the answer is NO, then DON'T POST.

On July 13 2010 13:01 sob3k wrote:


ok wtf, not beating the shit out of your ten year old daughter with a fucking belt is fucking "PC nonsense"? That line is the biggest load of shit I have heard in a long time. And I don't have to be Asian or in an immigrant family to recognize that. I could fucking live in a cave and tell you thats completely retarded, damaging, and immoral. If you think there's any sort of cultural background or extenuating circumstances that makes beating and kicking a fucking little kid acceptable then I don't really have anything to say to you except I hope you never reproduce.

If you care to explain in a more reasonable fashion what advice you don't suggest YPang takes due to life ruining repercussions and why, I'd love to hear it.Because what you just wrote appears batshit insane.

On July 13 2010 13:03 Tenryu wrote:
Ok i figured out the financial issue!

1. Call Child Protective Services and talk with your mom about it.
2. Enlist in the army! Lots of benefits, you can get enlistment bonus's up to $20+ grand.
3. Send the money you make back to your family to help out(my father did this with his family and it worked out pretty well from what he said. Not to mention you really dont need your full paycheck. Only thing you'll be paying for is basically just your cell-phone bill and your car payment if u have one. The army pays for your living and your food, which really isnt as bad as what people think. Breakfast is amazing), as well as when u get your bonus pay(you have to get through basic + AIT before u can get your enlistment bonus)
4. Have the army pay college for you. The army has some amazing benefits when it comes to schooling. I know when i get out in 2 yrs the army will provide me up to $68 grand for college. Of course you can still go school while being in the military, alot of people do it. I chose the latter cuz i was lazy.
5. Get a freind to join with u and u get an extra $1000 or i think it might've even changed to $2000. Dont quite remember

Talk to your recruiter for more info on how the G.I Bill works and shit :D

On July 13 2010 13:06 Malgrif wrote:
if he does, his family is fucked. his dad is the only one who makes money, his sister wont be any happier because she will be poor and wont have a dad in her life anymore. her life is miserable either way, might as well be miserable with money though.

On July 13 2010 13:09 YPang wrote:


haha, my college is a 6 year program, and during the 3rd year they do major cuts around 30% some due to shitty grades, lack of interest, nor lack of financial funding. So i told myself if i ever get academically cut i'm just going to join the army and repay my debt with that army money, and plus they'll also pay for my college. I told that to my mother she was totally against it. But i think if i ever do get cut, i will join army regardless of what they say :\

On July 13 2010 13:09 YPang wrote:


haha, my college is a 6 year program, and during the 3rd year they do major cuts around 30% some due to shitty grades, lack of interest, nor lack of financial funding. So i told myself if i ever get academically cut i'm just going to join the army and repay my debt with that army money, and plus they'll also pay for my college. I told that to my mother she was totally against it. But i think if i ever do get cut, i will join army regardless of what they say :\

On July 13 2010 13:04 KissBlade wrote:

BTW Sobek, Asian spanking isn't the same as Westerns. Asian parents will NEVER "beat the shit" out of their kids because to them certain areas, especially the head, though if they get REALLY angry they do give a smack there, (cause intelligence is important as hell) and spine (obvious reasons) are completely off limits. Most hits are delivered to slaps, or spanks to the bum or pinches and occasional hair pulling. Does it make it justifiable? Not in certain senses of course. But I want to clear up your idea of "beating the shit out of" cause like I said, it's exactly those kind of posts that annoy me because you clearly have no idea what's going on and yet still desire to insert input. At least read, ask questions before you post.

On July 13 2010 08:43 YPang wrote:

Few month ago, my sister's face was red with bruises, and was made to lie to teachers and students saying that it was just a rash. And she is often kicked not sure about the strength of kick, but definitly enough to get her to be on her butt.

I used to get belted, with bruises over my leg, my sides on the body, and my arms would be totally red. He doesn't dare to do it anymore though to me anyways.

Asian parents will NEVER "beat the shit" out of their kids because to them certain areas, especially the head, though if they get REALLY angry they do give a smack there, (cause intelligence is important as hell) and spine (obvious reasons) are completely off limits.

On July 13 2010 13:08 koreasilver wrote:
It's obviously easy to see that it is wrong. But it is hard to understand exactly why it is like so and what can be done about it. In this way KissBlade is correct. Obviously it is wrong by all means, but there are just some things that cannot be approached in the same way. There are some very deep seated issues in contemporary Asian culture that must be fixed in its own way and fashion. It must be approached from its own angle, not some kind of absolute "right". The tendency for Westerners to do this is a plague in of itself, as they are too blindsighted by their own ethnocentrism. It is so for all cultures to a degree, but you must understand that there are some things that you will never fully understand as you have never experienced it first hand to truly understand the nuances of the culture that are ingrained into the most fundamental aspects of the individuals.

On July 13 2010 12:55 3clipse wrote:
I find it a bit disturbing how far some are going to rationalize this sort of behavior. Yes, a significant cultural rift exists between western and eastern families and there are different attitudes and philosophies how to best raise children- but a distinct line is crossed when strict parenting becomes emotional and physical abuse. Of course his father is under severe stress. All parents are at one time or another. If this stress makes you harm your family in these ways, you have utterly failed as a parent. The responsibility they shoulder does not grant them the right to be a tyrant. I appreciate that it takes great strength of character to love your parents after the things you have gone through, KissBlade, but it seems as though your own hardships have made you very jaded to all this. It should not be viewed as normal or trivialized or it will make it easier for this sort of behavior to ruin childhoods for generations to come.

I had some problems with my dad as a kid. Nothing physical, fortunately, but he would get in moods where he was extremely bitter and would yell at us a lot about nothing in particular. Other days he would seem almost unnaturally happy and forgiving. I've lately begun to suspect he has bipolar disorder. Anyway, my parents divorced when I was around 11 and I think it's been a great thing for all of us. My mom has never had much money, but she's managed to get by. I live with her (when not at school) and I see my dad a couple times a week. It's a good setup because I can stay as long as we're enjoying each other's company and I can leave if he starts to get worked up.

I'm not saying that going to CPS and trying to break your family up is the right move for you. It probably isn't, especially if your mom is so accepting of the situation. I can only say that the split worked out well for me and the rest of my childhood was much better. You're nearly out of the picture and your mom seems to be accepting of her fate, but I'm going to mirror the rest of the posts in here and say that you should focus on improving things for your sister. If that means talking things over with your dad and being sympathetic to his situation, so be it. I don't think he deserves it, but your sister does.

Good luck.