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If you don't want to read about some sad girlfriend-blog I guess you can stop read now.
I just got a text from my girlfriend. Or rather my ex-girlfriend. That's right, a text. She doesn't love me anymore. It isn't because she found another guy, it's just that I'm only a friend to her now. She said her feelings changed over a month ago. That means she didn't love me when we celebrated 16 months together. On the 11th of July it would have been 17 months.
I'm just so heartbroken right now. I feel like I'm going to vomit. I feel weak. I'm shivering like crazy. I feel... disgusting. Like it's something wrong with me.
I've liked girls and I've had girlfriends but this one was the first I've ever loved. I can't even type this... I'm constantly clearing the text only to start typing again. I can't put my thoughts in to words. I can't belive this, how quick things can change. We've been through so many bad things together, I mean really bad things. I thought we could survive everything. And now, during summer and we've had such a great time together, it's all over.
For almost 17 months I've had her by my side and now I'm alone. It's like a huge part of me is missing, like I will never be a whole person again. And I know there is a lot of girls out there and that these feelings probably will go over but...
The worst thing is that I've got nobody to talk to. I can't talk to her about it, she's with her family on vacation (and her family never liked me being with her). I can't talk to my friends about it, they are all working or on vacation and several other reasons. I don't want to be a burden.
The reason I put it up here is because Team Liquid in a way helped me get closer to this girl. I was going to write our story as my 1000th post on our 18 months anniversary. I guess I won't be doing that now..
This really hurts...
 
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Why is 6 afraid of 7?
because 7 8 9!!!
+ Show Spoiler +cheer up, maybe not now but in a while 
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Wait so ya'll are going out, and she just says one day "I don't love you anymore"? Is there some kind of backstory cause that sounds pretty weird. Anyways I feel for ya man.
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Ouch, bro. That's tough to go through and deal with. Just wait it out and hopefully after a few days you'll feel better. I know you've probably heard this before but theres always more people out there that would appreciate you.
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Find a couple of guys, grab a drink, tomorrow is another day.
Sure it sucks, but life goes on; you'll most likely find someone more suitable for you in the future.
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On July 09 2010 01:49 Megalisk wrote:
Wait so ya'll are going out, and she just says one day "I don't love you anymore"? Is there some kind of backstory cause that sounds pretty weird. Anyways I feel for ya man.
She was probably just keeping him as a backup. Dating is like a job, you don't quit until you got a better one lined up.
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On July 09 2010 01:54 Cambium wrote:Show nested quote +On July 09 2010 01:49 Megalisk wrote:
Wait so ya'll are going out, and she just says one day "I don't love you anymore"? Is there some kind of backstory cause that sounds pretty weird. Anyways I feel for ya man. She was probably just keeping him as a backup. Dating is like a job, you don't quit until you got a better one lined up.
A girl doing that for 16 months? I could see that happening actually D:.
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It's another guy.
Put on some Air Supply, sulk for a bit and then get over it. Don't try and talk to her for a while.
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Man that really sucks. I hope that she isn't saying that to you cause she has found someone else. It also seems like her family could be pushing her to break up with you since they apparently don't like you. The only thing that helps these situations is time itself.
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I wish I could offer you some advice, but there really isnt much I can say. Getting dumped by someone you love hurts so bad. Eventually you will start to feel better, and when you find someone else to love hopefully you will no longer feel the pain of the one you lost. You just gotta stay strong and wait it out.
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I always feel required to ask the age of the OP when someone posts about girls. Also, I do find it a little clinging that you go off to celebrate every month. I do feel for you, but maybe that's just something I picked up on. I also have to assume you're both young considering she could only text you to tell you she "doesn't love you anymore".
Anyway, you'll get over it even though it sucks for a long while. When my gf and I broke up for 3-4months a few years ago I was pretty down about it. I also got pretty jealous which is a side of me I didn't even know I had. Try to just block out anything you're hearing from her friends and your friends about her.
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On July 09 2010 02:01 Jibba wrote:
It's another guy.
Put on some Air Supply, sulk for a bit and then get over it. Don't try and talk to her for a while.
Air Supply!?!??!?! Do you want him to go full depression mode?
+ Show Spoiler [Air Supply] +
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So sad that a love once delighted
Is no longer now so requited
So go grab a drink
And chug it and think
And you'll feel that everything's righted.
+ Show Spoiler +Man-hug 
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I guess summer is break-up season.
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The advertisment is spot on:
+ Show Spoiler +
But yeah, it seriously sucks ... you just have to know you will get over it eventually even if it doesn't feel like it now. Just don't suicide run yourself into something.
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On July 09 2010 02:20 Saechiis wrote:The advertisment is spot on: + Show Spoiler +But yeah, it seriously sucks ... you just have to know you will get over it eventually even if it doesn't feel like it now. Just don't suicide run yourself into something.
ROFL those google bots are merciless xD.
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Thanks guys.
On July 09 2010 01:49 Megalisk wrote:
Wait so ya'll are going out, and she just says one day "I don't love you anymore"? Is there some kind of backstory cause that sounds pretty weird. Anyways I feel for ya man.
Pretty much. She went on vacation a week ago with her family and we have called eachother and such, I just finished working when I got her text.
On July 09 2010 01:53 Cambium wrote:
Find a couple of guys, grab a drink, tomorrow is another day.
Sure it sucks, but life goes on; you'll most likely find someone more suitable for you in the future.
Will do, there is a festival this weekend. I guess my plans to be sober is long gone.
On July 09 2010 02:01 Jibba wrote:
It's another guy.
Put on some Air Supply, sulk for a bit and then get over it. Don't try and talk to her for a while.
On July 09 2010 02:05 kidd wrote:
Man that really sucks. I hope that she isn't saying that to you cause she has found someone else. It also seems like her family could be pushing her to break up with you since they apparently don't like you. The only thing that helps these situations is time itself.
No it's not. I know it sounds naive but she's a jehovahs witness so she can't lie. And that's also the reason her family doesn't like us being together since I'm not a witness.
On July 09 2010 02:11 tonight wrote:
I always feel required to ask the age of the OP when someone posts about girls. Also, I do find it a little clinging that you go off to celebrate every month. I do feel for you, but maybe that's just something I picked up on. I also have to assume you're both young considering she could only text you to tell you she "doesn't love you anymore".
Anyway, you'll get over it even though it sucks for a long while. When my gf and I broke up for 3-4months a few years ago I was pretty down about it. I also got pretty jealous which is a side of me I didn't even know I had. Try to just block out anything you're hearing from her friends and your friends about her.
I'm 20. Young, I know.
On July 09 2010 02:20 Saechiis wrote:The advertisment is spot on: + Show Spoiler +But yeah, it seriously sucks ... you just have to know you will get over it eventually even if it doesn't feel like it now. Just don't suicide run yourself into something.
Wow I feel like a tool now.
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Yeah celebrating monthly mile stones should end after month 2.
1-Month
2-Month
6or9-Month
1-Year
Then Yearly after that.
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But really to each their own.
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I like to listen to Death Cab for Cutie.
This lyric won't really help you in the moment, but reflect on it's meaning:
"There's no blame for how our love did slowly fade. And now that it's gone it's like it wasn't there at all".
The problem with that lyric is that, in my opinion, it is made from the stance of a mutual break-up...But the concept still remains, the girl slowly started losing interest...for whatever reason, and once that love fades enough, it will be as if it was never there.
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You can do it man - just focus on making some positive adjustments in your life
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And yeah about the celebrating, she liked it so we kept it. Simple as that.
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Jehovah's witnesses are the scariest people... ever... (in my experience anyway)
OT: Be sad, rage, do whatever you can to let the feelings get out. Afterwards, cheer up and move on with life. TBH it sounds very suspicious that your GF just suddenly decided she didnt love you anymore... Any hints along the way?
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