I'm just so heartbroken right now. I feel like I'm going to vomit. I feel weak. I'm shivering like crazy. I feel... disgusting. Like it's something wrong with me.

things always feels the worst right after they happen.

5 years from now you might not even be able to remember her name, and you might not be able to feel a damn thing about the whole thing even if you wanted to.

Baksteen

Netherlands438 Posts

July 08 2010 17:48 GMT

#22

Wow that's sad man

Though doesn't it get you thinking? She is on holiday after all, but to each their own ofcourse. Did she ever talk to you about this earlier? Would be weird if she just did it out of the blue.

Anyway just try to get your mind of things, maybe dive into SC2 hardcore for a week or something. That's always a good way!

Good luck!

pokeyAA

United States936 Posts

July 08 2010 17:49 GMT

#23

Honestly, the way you typed about celebrating 16 months, 17 months, 18 months, made me think you were probably way more into her than she you.

Necosarius

Sweden4042 Posts

July 08 2010 17:49 GMT

#24

On July 09 2010 02:36 synapse wrote:
Jehovah's witnesses are the scariest people... ever... (in my experience anyway)

OT: Be sad, rage, do whatever you can to let the feelings get out. Afterwards, cheer up and move on with life. TBH it sounds very suspicious that your GF just suddenly decided she didnt love you anymore... Any hints along the way?

Tell me about it. Her family could be crazy. Her religion was the only thing that really got in our way. The only thing I noticed is that she didn't say "i love you" as much as before.

On July 09 2010 02:49 pokeyAA wrote:
Honestly, the way you typed about celebrating 16 months, 17 months, 18 months, made me think you were probably way more into her than she you.

Maybe. But as I said, she liked it so we kept it.

Shauni

4077 Posts

July 08 2010 17:50 GMT

#25

Wait wh- your girlfriend is (was) a Jehovah's witness? Are you serious? What is she like...

Necosarius

Sweden4042 Posts

July 08 2010 17:53 GMT

#26

On July 09 2010 02:50 Shauni wrote:
Wait wh- your girlfriend is (was) a Jehovah's witness? Are you serious? What is she like...

She's like every other girl, when I first met her I didn't know she was a jehovah's witness until she told me after like 2 months. We knew eachother for.. like 4-5 months before we actually started dating. She played starcraft too, that's how we met!

ella_guru

Canada1741 Posts

July 08 2010 17:58 GMT

#27

You wil be alright soon though. Jerk off a fair bit, and just get into some new habits. You have a lot more free time now, don't use it to reminisce . Use it to kick ass at some cool shit, get involved in activities and show them your devastating mid game timing push .

IN LIFE

Piy

Scotland3152 Posts

July 08 2010 18:22 GMT

#28

I know a bunch of Jehova's Witnesses ( a ton live around me) and they're all pretty normal people to talk to. Although admittedly you can't talk to them about BGT or X Factor, which is a major reason to be friends with them imo.

Wait, your girlfriend played Starcraft? Wow, now I see why you're bummed...

You should just have fun or focus on something else. I can speak mediocre French and play the ukulele because of girl problems :p Just try and worry about something else.

endy

Switzerland8970 Posts

July 08 2010 18:26 GMT

#29

Happened the same to me in March 2009, but she didn't admit it straight up. I didn't eat for 6 days. Smoked over a pack of cigarettes a day (I had quit smoking for one year). Almost comitted suicide. After 4 months without talking too much to each other she realized she made a terrible mistake. We are back together now and happy.

funkie

Venezuela9376 Posts

July 08 2010 18:29 GMT

#30

Been there in your position recently, it doesn't feel good.

I'm 3 weeks up in this mthrfckr and I still feel lonely sometimes, but yes, I've turned all of this bad into something good, I'm enjoying even more time with friends, and I got kind of serious with gym, and well, I just can only advise hang on there, it will all feel better soon enough.

THere was this time once, when I posted a similar blog, and someone said to me:
"Just get ten times cooler, and shitload more badass, so she regrets ever leaving you."

I did that, and it's going pretty good.

Good luck man.

Chill

Calgary25981 Posts

July 08 2010 18:40 GMT

#31

On July 09 2010 02:50 Shauni wrote:
Wait wh- your girlfriend is (was) a Jehovah's witness? Are you serious? What is she like...

You know, technically I am a Jehovah's Witness! My Mom believes in it and my Grandparents are super into it. That's probably where my purity, boyish innocence and unwavering moral standards come from.

There isn't much anyone can tell you OP. All the cliches are largely true. At that time I like going for pointless drives and actually taking baths. Anywhere that commits you to stay in one place for awhile by yourself so you can think about life. But that's just me!

All the best.

Xenocide_Knight

Korea (South)2625 Posts

July 08 2010 18:40 GMT

#32

awww
that sucks man

Here's a song I listened to when I got dumped..

Somehow it made me feel better, idk
Hope it helps

Z3kk

4099 Posts

July 08 2010 18:44 GMT

#33

As a wise man once said,

Bros before hoes. Why? Because your bros are always there for you. They got your back after your ho rips your heart out for no good reason. And you were nothing but great to your ho, and you told her that she was the only ho for you. And that she was better than all the other hoes in the world. And then suddenly...she's not yo' ho no mo'.

Everyone here on TL is your bro, man, so chin up and enjoy life again as soon as you can! :D

Necosarius

Sweden4042 Posts

July 08 2010 18:55 GMT

#34

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. My brother took me for a ride in his new car and even tho we didn't speak much it felt better.

This is why I love Team Liquid and am proud to be a part of it, there is always someone there to cheer one up!

fOrQQ

Hong Kong321 Posts

July 08 2010 19:27 GMT

#35

On July 09 2010 03:44 Z3kk wrote:
As a wise man once said,

Bros before hoes. Why? Because your bros are always there for you. They got your back after your ho rips your heart out for no good reason. And you were nothing but great to your ho, and you told her that she was the only ho for you. And that she was better than all the other hoes in the world. And then suddenly...she's not yo' ho no mo'.

HIMYM ;D

Sorry man, that sucks :/ Keep your head up and grind it out :< Tomorrow is a new day.

Ghardo

Germany1685 Posts

July 08 2010 19:40 GMT

#36

i almost thought that friend of mine who doesnt play starcraft and has never heard of teamliquid suddenly started a blog here.
i heard almost the exact same story 20 hours ago, even the time frames are very similar.
so... you're not alone in your grief : ) my friend also said he still loves his ex-gf but he also pronounced that he wanted to uphold his pride, man up and don't run after her like a weak little puppy.

so yeah.. i guess it's just waiting for them damned hormones to fade away. just be patient and the pain will be gone!

as for us, well be having a nice little brofest this weekend : ) well play xbox, drink beer and eat piiiizzaaa in huge masses... that's the best thing you can do!

take care

Metalwing

Turkey1038 Posts

July 08 2010 19:59 GMT

#37

Try to stay away from her for a good time. Contrary to your feelings, she is not indispensable to you. I lived through almost same thing as well. 1 month, you stop needing her in your life. 2 months, you start barely remembering her. 3 months, you stop wanting her in your life. Maybe some other chicks will get in your life and the process will be much faster.

It's not because you want her again. It's because you don't know what to do without her.

Servius_Fulvius

United States947 Posts

July 08 2010 20:29 GMT

#38

Sorry, OP, breakups suck.

I had the same thing happen to me a few years ago. Together almost a year and a half. I get an internship across the country and we spend 119 days apart. I come back, feeling for her as strong as I ever did, only to have her act strange, hang out with her other friends all the time, lose all affection, and eventually break up on the grounds of not loving me anymore. It sucked since, like you, we'd been through a lot. The start of our relationship was literally during the worst period of my life and she had a lot to do with things getting better.

Stay by yourself, stay by others - it really depends on what you think would be most helpful. I personally did a lot better being around other people.

I wouldn't advise you to attempt to be friends with her until you are over her. There's no set time limit to when you feel better, but rest assured that time, indeed, helps a LOT. Whatever you do, keep experiencing life!

QueueQueue

Canada1000 Posts

July 08 2010 21:04 GMT

#39

Just try to keep yourself busy with things you enjoy. Do whatever you can to not dwell on the situation too much. It happens, time will heal.

[NyC]HoBbes

United States803 Posts

July 08 2010 21:42 GMT

#40

Be as active as you can, keep your mind off the situation, even though I know it doesn't feel like it, you will feel better eventually