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Necosarius
Sweden4042 Posts
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gdroxor
United States639 Posts
This too shall pass. It sucks right now but things get better. | ||
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Necosarius
Sweden4042 Posts
fuck | ||
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shieldbreak
United States406 Posts
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Rinrun
Canada3509 Posts
It will hurt, you just have weather out the storm - I know LOTS of help. Take this experience to see who you really are and what you want from a potential significant other. What did you like about her, what did you hate about her - this will help you along your path towards finding what you want from a relationship. I know its not the best help, but I wanted to post something anyways - to post something that I have at least a sliver of experience in... Ah, I'm behind ya bud, everyone who has posted is behind ya in one way or another. Always stay optimistic man and don't be afraid to feel bad - haha. | ||
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d3_crescentia
United States4054 Posts
Also, if you're drunk you should stick by some friends and have them make sure you don't do anything stupid, like call her up sobbing into the phone. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
When two people meet (like you and your ex did) and the feelings become mutual, it's all roses and daisies. But then the feelings stop after a while, it's like marriage (or so I've heard. Marriage is the tough love, where you can't just base everything off of feelings and have to actually try to make it work.) Basically, what I'm trying to say is that your ex wasn't ready for real love. This sounds maybe too into the future but at least you know one girl that wasn't ready for you until the end. I'm sorry that she didn't have the respect to at least call and that it came very suddenly. Can you elaborate on maybe some recent events that happened that might have hinted at this break up, or was this really out of the blue? | ||
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BottleAbuser
Korea (South)1888 Posts
I'd suggest contacting her to make sure it wasn't just a tasteless joke by someone else. | ||
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
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XCLuSive
Canada121 Posts
It wasn't because of another guy, people just sometimes lose interest in things. May have already seen this, but just surround yourself with people, and events. Don't keep to yourself. If you guys were really meant to be, then who knows, maybe in the future you two will be back. But until then, enjoy yourself. | ||
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
On July 10 2010 10:19 shieldbreak wrote: Alcohol doesn't solve anything, but kills bacterial long enough for the wound to heal ;p (cheesy i know lol)Alcohol never solved anything...except it cleaned cuts...and it kills randomass drunk teens every year...maybe if one of those drunk teens ran over George Bush...hmm. | ||
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Incite
36 Posts
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Necosarius
Sweden4042 Posts
On July 10 2010 14:34 il0seonpurpose wrote: This sounds pretty pessimistic to you at the moment but I think in the long run it will help. When two people meet (like you and your ex did) and the feelings become mutual, it's all roses and daisies. But then the feelings stop after a while, it's like marriage (or so I've heard. Marriage is the tough love, where you can't just base everything off of feelings and have to actually try to make it work.) Basically, what I'm trying to say is that your ex wasn't ready for real love. This sounds maybe too into the future but at least you know one girl that wasn't ready for you until the end. I'm sorry that she didn't have the respect to at least call and that it came very suddenly. Can you elaborate on maybe some recent events that happened that might have hinted at this break up, or was this really out of the blue? It was really out of the blue. Maybe there was some small hints like her not talking to me as much after her graduation and stuff but she also had a really tight schedule back then so I didn't think too much about it. And unfortunately it's not a joke, one of her friends called and said she felt sorry for me. | ||
SirJolt
the Dagon Knight4014 Posts
On July 10 2010 12:42 d3_crescentia wrote: Try not to stay too close to her now that you've broken up. Even if both of you have the best of intentions in trying to stay friends, you need time to get your head on straight, and staying in close contact can really mess with you. Also, if you're drunk you should stick by some friends and have them make sure you don't do anything stupid, like call her up sobbing into the phone. All of this is fantastic advice. I wish I could show this post to some friends of mine around their breakups... | ||
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SpaceChick
173 Posts
![[image loading]](http://img192.imageshack.us/img192/7023/42688741.jpg) Anyway, cheer up dude! | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
Don't vent unless you REALLY need to, because when you vent you have to do it more often later in life. And afaic it's probably another guy. She just wanted to text you so you couldn't contact her on vacation. Who the hell breaks up over a text? Seriously. She should have the balls to do it in person. | ||
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kodancer
United States89 Posts
I know, I know. You're probably thinking this sappy song will hurt more than do any good. But my point is, relationships are a bitch, and you're not the only one. Almost everyone who's been through the ups and downs of a relationship can relate to that song, but only a fraction of them have happy endings. There's no reason to feel ashamed and at a loss. You're still young, just look forward and try to use this relationship to help out future relationships in your life. Hopefully that song gave you some support by relating your situation to millions of others'. You're not alone, we've all been there but we gotta move on. | ||
Risen
United States7927 Posts
Sorry, it sucks and yeah it hurts a fuck ton man. And don't go with the be friends bullshit either, cut that shit out at least for a few months. If she really wants to be friends or anything like that (not saying that she'll even want to but if she does) she'll understand that you need a few months to yourself with ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT with her. Not much else to say man, good luck :/ | ||
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Risen
United States7927 Posts
On July 09 2010 07:15 Necosarius wrote: Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. Luckily a birthday party is coming up, will hopefully distract me enough. And I shit you not, I have a birthday coming up on the 25th that I cannot fuckin wait for. | ||
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Stratos_speAr
United States6959 Posts
On July 09 2010 01:45 Necosarius wrote: If you don't want to read about some sad girlfriend-blog I guess you can stop read now. I just got a text from my girlfriend. Or rather my ex-girlfriend. That's right, a text. She doesn't love me anymore. It isn't because she found another guy, it's just that I'm only a friend to her now. She said her feelings changed over a month ago. That means she didn't love me when we celebrated 16 months together. On the 11th of July it would have been 17 months. I'm just so heartbroken right now. I feel like I'm going to vomit. I feel weak. I'm shivering like crazy. I feel... disgusting. Like it's something wrong with me. I've liked girls and I've had girlfriends but this one was the first I've ever loved. I can't even type this... I'm constantly clearing the text only to start typing again. I can't put my thoughts in to words. I can't belive this, how quick things can change. We've been through so many bad things together, I mean really bad things. I thought we could survive everything. And now, during summer and we've had such a great time together, it's all over. For almost 17 months I've had her by my side and now I'm alone. It's like a huge part of me is missing, like I will never be a whole person again. And I know there is a lot of girls out there and that these feelings probably will go over but... The worst thing is that I've got nobody to talk to. I can't talk to her about it, she's with her family on vacation (and her family never liked me being with her). I can't talk to my friends about it, they are all working or on vacation and several other reasons. I don't want to be a burden. The reason I put it up here is because Team Liquid in a way helped me get closer to this girl. I was going to write our story as my 1000th post on our 18 months anniversary. I guess I won't be doing that now.. This really hurts... There isn't a good way to deal with this. The only way to do it is to drag yourself through, day by day, keeping yourself occupied, until you realize that you can go on with life and that there are better things (and better women) out there. It's hard as hell, but it's really the only way to do it. | ||
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