Basically since the semester started we've been glancing shyly at each other during class. I haven't mustered up the courage to talk to her after class because my girlfriends always like to wrap their arms around me as we walk to our next class, and I think it'd be terribly awkward to strike up some small talk while they're around.

But I did manage to "stumble" hence the word-choice, upon her facebook profile the other day and I've been thinking about just adding her with a "Hey ___ sup, it's Eric from Korean. <smiley face/no smiley face>"

Would that be too forward, creepy, or unnatural? I really don't want my first impression to her to be that I'm sort of weirdo.

Post your suggestions/stories below!
- Thanks guys.

Dance.

United States389 Posts

February 01 2011 00:53 GMT

Yes, add her.

Then remove her.

Froadac

United States6733 Posts

February 01 2011 00:54 GMT

They offer korean?

Lucky.

Add her AFTER YOU ACTUALLY TALK TO HER, facebook friends doesn't really mean a whole lot of anything.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

February 01 2011 00:55 GMT

it works or it doesnt

You obviously have some connection to each other. But cant you just manage to steal a seat next to her in class and get some small talk going or something? It will probably pay of more

intotheheart

Canada33091 Posts

February 01 2011 00:55 GMT

Yeah, I think that that'd be fine. I mean it's not like she's FORCED to add you, right?

TheHunksta

United States122 Posts

February 01 2011 00:57 GMT

Just add her but more importantly talk to her in person, she likes you, you may not think it but she does, go into it wiht some confidence (but not cockiness) and she will go for you, promise.

pokeyAA

United States936 Posts

February 01 2011 00:57 GMT

Don't use facebook as a crutch to get to know a girl if you can help it. So I would say don't add her, and talk to her instead.

Backpack

United States1776 Posts

February 01 2011 00:57 GMT

Don't add her if you havn't talked yet. What good would come from it? You go in to class the next day and have to be like "ummm, hey, we uhh, talked on the internet last night."

Adding her on facebook won't make you any less shy in real life. I'm not sure what your relationships with your "girlfriends" are but if they are getting in the way of you talking to someone new then adding her on facebook won't solve your problem.

getSome[703]

United States753 Posts

February 01 2011 01:02 GMT

Talk to her in real life. Just say hi and have a small conversation or something. After that I would say it's ok to add her.

Eric9

United States125 Posts

February 01 2011 01:05 GMT

#10

Yea I've been thinking that adding her without having established a connection in person first would be sort of dangerous. I'll take your guys' advice and try to steal a seat next to her in class. The problem is that our class seats about 12, and we have 15 students.. Micro-econ is a good 5 minutes away so guys already fill those seats by the time I get to Korean

But there's always ditching econ a good ten minutes before it ends one day and hopefully catching her in the halls or something...

I'm also hanging on another issue, one of the other girls in Korean and I went to the movies this weekend just out of chance and I fingered her in the back row. So she's grown attached since then. So I'll tell this girl that it was all just some innocent fun, and that I'm sorry but I don't think a relationship will work???

FlopTurnReaver

Switzerland1980 Posts

February 01 2011 01:06 GMT

#11

That's why I dislike fb so much. When a girl accepts a friend request on there it doesn't necessarily mean she likes you because whatever, she probably already has 1k "friends" on there she never talks to.

I can't really tell you what you could open a conversation with but you should definitly find something.

EDIT: Lol at the post just before :D

Well yeah, but you should definitly get physical at least once before you tell her that.

Lemonwalrus

United States5465 Posts

February 01 2011 01:08 GMT

#12

Edit: nvmd

Froadac

United States6733 Posts

February 01 2011 01:09 GMT

#13

On February 01 2011 10:05 Eric9 wrote:
Yea I've been thinking that adding her without having established a connection in person first would be sort of dangerous. I'll take your guys' advice and try to steal a seat next to her in class. The problem is that our class seats about 12, and we have 15 students.. Micro-econ is a good 5 minutes away so guys already fill those seats by the time I get to Korean

Casually fingering somebody? Seems sort of meh. lol Certainly hurts your chances.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

February 01 2011 01:10 GMT

#14

Uh what the hell..?

Torte de Lini

Germany38463 Posts

February 01 2011 01:11 GMT

#15

No, don't add her.
Go up to her properly and talk to her.

Are people now honestly scared or shy at any form of Facebook interaction?

cArn-

Korea (South)824 Posts

February 01 2011 01:11 GMT

#16

rofl is this a troll

Froadac

United States6733 Posts

February 01 2011 01:12 GMT

#17

On February 01 2011 10:11 Torte de Lini wrote:
No, don't add her.
Go up to her properly and talk to her.

Are people now honestly scared or shy at any form of Facebook interaction?

It's sort of strange how you casually finger a girl, then are scared of talking to another one...

pokeyAA

United States936 Posts

February 01 2011 01:13 GMT

#18

You can casually finger one girl but you cant say hi to another girl?

what the dilly

`Zapdos

United States935 Posts

February 01 2011 01:13 GMT

#19

Add her, then see if you can add her on starcraft 2 via facebook. If you can't, she's not for you (unless she plays bw).

Torte de Lini

Germany38463 Posts

February 01 2011 01:16 GMT

#20

I'm also hanging on another issue, one of the other girls in Korean and I went to the movies this weekend just out of chance and I fingered her in the back row. So she's grown attached since then. So I'll tell this girl that it was all just some innocent fun, and that I'm sorry but I don't think a relationship will work???

WTF is this shit?

You, out of chance, fingered her? Was she wearing a skirt and nothing fucking underneath?
Sometimes, out of chance, I find a woman in my bed.

I'm pretty sure sexual acts is not "innocent fun"

You should tell that you're sorry you don't think a relationship will work because you have your perceptions of fears mixed up. Scared to talk to a girl, but you have this luck of fingering one publicly in a movie theatre.

Oy, I feel like Charlie Brown.