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On June 07 2017 01:50 jcarlsoniv wrote:Show nested quote +On June 07 2017 01:45 dsyxelic wrote:On June 07 2017 01:38 jcarlsoniv wrote:On June 07 2017 01:26 dsyxelic wrote:He actually does have one so im not really blaming him for the situation (though admittedly the gf over a bit too much), we're just not a good match and I saw this coming a mile away our first month. Like I mentioned before we were the worst possible match on paper and I think we put in our own decent enough efforts to make it work. Not sure if he has any issues with me besides living differently to how he lives but either way I think just moving out would be the best. + Show Spoiler [mini rant/details on differences] +
All our differences / what I asked for from roommate app:
-cleanliness
I asked for 10/10 neatness, dudes messy/dirty af
Ever seen shaved pubes left in the bath over the weekend by accident? I did.
Never cleans, picks up clothes, kitchen looks like its been bombed
-sleep time
I put early sleeper, he sleeps late or not at all till morning
-drinking/smoking/etc.
I put must be none, hes a heavy smoker, vapes, hookah, alcohol, weed, etc.
He used to do all in the room till I told him thats prob not cool with the apartment staff if he gets caught and the weed /cigs in particular make the room smell like shit so he does it mainly in living room/outside(big windows on living room, no full open windows in room)
-guests
I put little to none
He went from hosting full blown parties and gf every night till we talked it out to gf here all the time but only half the nights + only small drinking games in living room
-asked for 8/10 quietness
Hes one of the loudest people ive met and one of those streamers that yell all day while playing fps games. He plays in the living room now but that shits still loud
-pets
Arent allowed but he has a hamster which would have bothered me with his spinning wheel at night but its quieter than the coughs + they take it with them when not here so it hasnt been an issue
So yeah not that hes a bad person because he has put some effort to accomodate me but you can only do so much to match a completely different lifestyle. I want peace and quiet at the home especially as a full time max credit student with at times, near full time work. Doesnt help he is only 19 so im pretty sure his idea of college atm is different than mine at 24 finishing up a late bachelors. Thankfully I have an excellent roommate/apartment lined up starting september but still got 3 months left.
/Rant
At least it doesn't sound like an asshole meets asshole situation, just an unfortunate matching. I added in an edit but he still gets a fuck you for never bringing stuff up first with me especially for the pet/smoking. If I had asthma/allergies that would be a huge nono. I mostly chalk it up to him being a young college idiot like many new college students who never really had to live with people different from him, but still deserves some flak there imo. But yeah hopefully can get some options from the office. Heading over after work. Thanks for confirming haha Sometimes I need a sanity check or another viewpoint to make sure Im not the uptight asshole. Nah, those are all fairly reasonable expectations for living situations. And I think your assumption is probably correct - I know at 19 I was not picky at all about my surroundings (and in a lot of ways I'm still not). It's not really that surprising that he wouldn't bring things up first. 1 - he doesn't care that much. 2 - it sounds like your living style isn't really obtrusive to his, so he wouldn't really have much to complain about.
Fair enough.
Now I just got to hope I can explain the situation well enough to management without throwing him under the bus for breaking half the apartment rules lol. Half the things I listed there are banned by the contracts weve signed. They better not go "oh so hes just coughing loud? Use better earplugs"
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My company opened a new division expanding into a product line we used all the time but bought from others.
Huuuge nightmare.
Have to train these guys from 350 km away every time I ask for anything and after putting in enough work that it wouls be easier to essentially learn to engineer their crap, I get a proposal from them that's finally what I'm looking for. But the price is always high by at least 25% compared to their competitors we used to buy from.
But like... I have to use their shit because we make it. So suddenly our price is out to lunch and we don't have a recognizable brand name... but the company has spent millions on this new division which being forced to peddle has probably lost me 3 multimillion dollar fabricaction jobs due to customers wanting the other brand or the price being high by a rather specific margin as per the sales guys.
So frustrating. Getting what I want from the guys I'm used to working with takes 2 emails & 45 minutes. Our guys tales 35 emails and a week and a half.
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damn i like to drink and smoke all kinds of substances and stay up late yelling at my computer as much as the next guy (or more) but i would NEVER disrespect someone I was living with like that. I would never even smoke inside a rented apartment even if everyone else was cool with it. I was guilty of the gf over all the time tho. but even going back to first year when i lived with 3 other party dudes and we were all kinda like that guy; if someone had a test in the morning or some shit the rest of us went somewhere else, even if we had to sit outside. its a respect thing at that point.
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On June 07 2017 02:27 ComaDose wrote:
damn i like to drink and smoke all kinds of substances and stay up late yelling at my computer as much as the next guy (or more) but i would NEVER disrespect someone I was living with like that. I would never even smoke inside a rented apartment even if everyone else was cool with it. I was guilty of the gf over all the time tho. but even going back to first year when i lived with 3 other party dudes and we were all kinda like that guy; if someone had a test in the morning or some shit the rest of us went somewhere else, even if we had to sit outside. its a respect thing at that point.
I used to stay with my cousin and he had his gf over constantly but since we both quiet guys and gave each other space I barely even noticed. Think at the end of the day it's just being respectful of staying with another human being.
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I honestly have little problem with how she acts (besides some minor peeves but objectively speaking they generally leave me be in my room and do stuff outside the room) but the coughs at night when they come in to sleep are insane. Think whooping cough every minute or so. Not sure if its something worse than a smokers cough cause its been around for a while and sounds pretty bad. The roommate has a similar sounding one too so thats why Im assuming smokers cough since they smoke together all the time. They are also not in the best shape so I wouldnt be surprised if smoking too much caused them to have trouble breathing properly. Always sound like they are wheezing/choking. Their humidifier doesnt seem to help but I think they are aware its loud af since they got brought that and they try to muffle it to no avail. Its just uncontrollable.
On June 07 2017 03:14 WaveofShadow wrote:
I just lived at home
Home is pretty great especially if you get along with family. Did it for a year when I did some classes at a community college and the only downside was having to commute/find parking in the city. And maybe access to campus after going home. Otherwise home OP.
I was pretty blessed with roommates throughout my life (lived with 4 over 5 years)
Only one was a mismatch like this one though he was a good friend. The others included my best friend who was also super easy to live with and another who was a mutual friend that seemed like he'd be irresponsible and a slob but turned out to be the most respectful and easy to live with roommate ever. Hes one of my close friends now. Unfortunately had no choice this time around since it was a late transfer in schools and not near home. Couldnt find anyone in my own search in time.
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to update - talked with a manager and basically told me there aren't any simple options like switching leases or moving to an empty apartment room available for lease. apparently there's no such thing as making your space empty to take another empty spot.
so basically you're shit out of luck unless you find someone to replace you. the only exceptions being if your roommate is actually a huge dick like being violent, racism/homophobia, etc.
they offered 'roommate mediation' which doesn't sound too useful since it isn't like we haven't been able to talk about our difference. it's just that his lifestyle is way too different from mine and even though he has made some progress in accommodating me in some areas, it won't be nearly enough to make up the difference to the point that I'm comfortable. Plus you can't talk a bad cough away.
looks like im somewhat screwed, I'll probably just pester him a bit more about the girlfriend sleeping over less because maybe I can deal with half the coughing. I've done what I could, I guess I'll just take this opportunity to gain more tolerance and lowering expectations so my next roommate will look like an angel in comparison...
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On June 07 2017 03:21 dsyxelic wrote:
so my next roommate will look like an angel in comparison...
Well that's spitting in the wind if I ever heard it =P
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On June 08 2017 07:57 Ketara wrote:
I always miss you.
Well, if you hit him then it wouldn't be fun anymore.
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You spent more time not posting of your own volition than banned recently.
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And with that, we have a new record. The shortest Alaric post of all time.
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Dunno, that got you to post (yeah, Fildun, I'm claiming the credit). Wurf.
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On June 08 2017 07:41 yamato77 wrote:
No
It's ok I wouldn't miss you if you got hit by a bus <3
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If he got hit by a bus why would you need to hit him?
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On June 08 2017 10:02 Ketara wrote:
If he got hit by a bus why would you need to hit him?
That's why he wouldn't miss him.
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This is almost reminiscent of pre-death thread.
It feels like home
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