On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
On August 23 2012 08:38 Savio wrote: Can you give me the TL:DR version pls?
TL;DR: Gangnam Style is a Christian bigot, but doesn't want you to call him that. He also believes that marriage is between a man and a woman because the Bible told him so.
Gangnam, what i don't get about your position is why you only talk about gay marriage. From your view any expression of homosexuality is a sin/going against god's plan, yes? So why stop at gay marriage? Gay sex, kissing, being in a relationship, etc should all be outlawed to you, if I'm not mistaken.
Also, how should we punish people who violate our laws? The bible seems pretty keen on stoning to death as punishment, Curious as to how you feel on that. You see the bible as both word of god and something the ordinary man can understand, yeah? I'm pretty ordinary and when i read through deutoronomy it seems pretty darned clear about the stonings.
For the record, I'm a guy that believes our laws should be designed to let people do what they want, so long as it isn't harmful to anyone else. Any arguments I've seen saying gay marriage is harmful usually involve either god (to which i answer with separation of church and state), family (to which I answer there is no evidence that gay couples suck at parenting) or propagation of the species (adoption or sperm/egg donor). Honestly all the arguments that don't come from god seem to me to be grasping at straws. Gay couples do just fine, they should be able to get married. Plenty of churches are ready to accept this and perform the ceremonies.
I believe in the literal method of Bible interpretation - that is, the understanding of a text that any person of normal intelligence would understand without the help of any special keys, codes, or background knowledge (like culture for example). If one believes the Bible to be the inspired word of a timeless God, then one must believe that it is understandable on the face of it and that just as God "breathed" His inspiration into its writing, He will see to it that if we really want to hear what He has to say through it, we will do so in a clear and unequivocal way.
I really respect that, many try to argue hidden meanings and/or parable when the Bible itself says explicitly when it is meant to be read that way. I also mean no offense when I say that it is also the reason I am an athiest and I find it much easier to debate and discuss with fundamentalists than those who cherry-pick scripture. I do find it refreshing that you seem to be at least somewhat tolerant, which differs from most fundamentalists that believe that scripture actually does encourage followers to pass judgement as a form of duty.
As a literalist, I am curious as to how you see the issue of abortion and modern Christianity and how it relates to scripture. More specifically, the "bitter water" as described in Numbers 5:11-31 (aka The Test for an Unfaithful Wife). I quote the NIV since the American versions are much more censored, but same idea.
On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
Yes, men were put to death for rape because the woman's father did not approve of it. The woman has to go through her father for consent.
There is no idea of "consent" for women in the bible. It's impossible, for instance, for a woman to raped by her husband, because her husband automatically consents. If, for instance, a father wanted to offer his wife and daughter to spare himself (like in Judges 19), then that's how it works. Women have no power of consent. This is not an assumption. This is how it works in the bible.
And yes, obviously they were considered inferior to men. And yes, that's the kind of bullshit morality we expect of people 4000 years ago. The same bullshit morality condemns homosexuality. Why should anyone care that this awful, hideous morality condemns homosexuality if it has such terrible sexist views as well?
On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
Yes, men were put to death for rape because the woman's father did not approve of it. The woman has to go through her father for consent.
There is no idea of "consent" for women in the bible. It's impossible, for instance, for a woman to raped by her husband, because her husband automatically consents. If, for instance, a father wanted to offer his wife and daughter to spare himself (like in Judges 19), then that's how it works. Women have no power of consent. This is not an assumption. This is how it works in the bible.
And yes, obviously they were considered inferior to men. And yes, that's the kind of bullshit morality we expect of people 4000 years ago. The same bullshit morality condemns homosexuality. Why should anyone care that this awful, hideous morality condemns homosexuality if it has such terrible sexist views as well?
I'll skim over those bits and get back to you after uni
On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
Yes, men were put to death for rape because the woman's father did not approve of it. The woman has to go through her father for consent.
There is no idea of "consent" for women in the bible. It's impossible, for instance, for a woman to raped by her husband, because her husband automatically consents. If, for instance, a father wanted to offer his wife and daughter to spare himself (like in Judges 19), then that's how it works. Women have no power of consent. This is not an assumption. This is how it works in the bible.
And yes, obviously they were considered inferior to men. And yes, that's the kind of bullshit morality we expect of people 4000 years ago. The same bullshit morality condemns homosexuality. Why should anyone care that this awful, hideous morality condemns homosexuality if it has such terrible sexist views as well?
To be fair, the entire book of Judges is pretty much recorded atrocity after recorded atrocity [stressing the pretty much]. Context is pretty key; the culture at the time meant someone under your roof was under your protection as far as was in your power [and again, the entire culture, not Biblically mandated action]. Note that just because something is in the Bible does not mean it is lauded by it. It's essentially history (whether fictitious or not) that traces Israel back from the beginning.
Men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church; to literally be willing to die sacrificically for her sake.
On August 23 2012 08:38 Savio wrote: Can you give me the TL:DR version pls?
TL;DR: Gangnam Style is a Christian bigot, but doesn't want you to call him that. He also believes that marriage is between a man and a woman because the Bible told him so.
How does that make him a bigot?
It doesn't. What a terrible tl;dr. This is the problem when two sides argue with no intention of understanding the other which is especially commonplace with religion vs atheism. You can comprehend the other side's perspective without necessarily agreeing. And comprehension =! pidgeonholing somebody else's beliefs in an intolerant and ignorant way (which can be rather ironic when both sides hold the other to be both).
One problem with Gangnam Style and other Christians' debate is that they call on the Bible as an authoritative text and whatnot while atheists and others always argue with the assumption that the Bible is fundamentally without authority, so nobody really gets anywhere of course.
On August 23 2012 08:38 Savio wrote: Can you give me the TL:DR version pls?
TL;DR: Gangnam Style is a Christian bigot, but doesn't want you to call him that. He also believes that marriage is between a man and a woman because the Bible told him so.
How does that make him a bigot?
It doesn't. What a terrible tl;dr. This is the problem when two sides argue with no intention of understanding the other which is especially commonplace with religion vs atheism. You can comprehend the other side's perspective necessarily agreeing. And comprehension =! pidgeonholing somebody else's beliefs in an intolerant and ignorant way (which can be rather ironic when both sides hold the other to be both).
One problem with Gangnam Style and other Christians' debate is that they call on the Bible as an authoritative text and whatnot while atheists and others always argue with the assumption that the Bible is fundamentally without authority, so nobody really gets anywhere of course.
Agreed. It's hard to even respond because every other line is "the bible says" or "god believes..." which is great and all, but There's no way for me to actually argue or debate with it (I'm agnostic). it's like someone telling me spaghetti monster believes x so I should do y. Not really relevant to how I think and live.
Hopefully Christians here can argue from Christian principles rather than authority, so that lay people like myself can actually respond.
On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
Yes, men were put to death for rape because the woman's father did not approve of it. The woman has to go through her father for consent.
There is no idea of "consent" for women in the bible. It's impossible, for instance, for a woman to raped by her husband, because her husband automatically consents. If, for instance, a father wanted to offer his wife and daughter to spare himself (like in Judges 19), then that's how it works. Women have no power of consent. This is not an assumption. This is how it works in the bible.
And yes, obviously they were considered inferior to men. And yes, that's the kind of bullshit morality we expect of people 4000 years ago. The same bullshit morality condemns homosexuality. Why should anyone care that this awful, hideous morality condemns homosexuality if it has such terrible sexist views as well?
To be fair, the entire book of Judges is pretty much recorded atrocity after recorded atrocity [stressing the pretty much]. Context is pretty key; the culture at the time meant someone under your roof was under your protection as far as was in your power [and again, the entire culture, not Biblically mandated action]. Note that just because something is in the Bible does not mean it is lauded by it. It's essentially history (whether fictitious or not) that traces Israel back from the beginning.
Men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church; to literally be willing to die sacrificically for her sake.
Yes they are. And wives are called to obey their husbands. What's your point?
Are you really going to try to argue that the bible isn't terribly sexist? Because I'll be honest, I'm shocked by people who try to argue this. I thought all moderate religious people were perfectly willing to admit that the bible is ridiculously sexist. This isn't like a terribly shocking or controversial fact about the bible. So please tell me your position, because I'd rather not argue against a position you don't have.
We do not automatically sort out contradictions in our head. There are plenty of Christians who believe the following three statements independently, without linking them all together: 1. Morality comes from the bible. 2. The bible is sexist. 3. Sexism is bad.
On July 08 2012 18:36 TirramirooO wrote: Sick of talking about gay people.. Im not Christian, i dont believe in religion but that is totally the ANTICHRIST... With the same sex you cant make children soo is against nature but make people understant that is becoming hard.
Keep going, in the future you all gonna open your EYES.
No, that is not the antichrist lolwtf. THIS is the Phantom ANTICHRIST!
On July 13 2012 17:34 Arunu wrote: I don't get it,
The construct of marriage predates christianity, it is not something christianity invented. the whole issue is moot.
If a religious person does not want to marry a same sex couple, fine.... (i can respect that, well not really but meh)
There should however, since we use a separation of state and church, never be any question whether they should be allowed to marry before the state. It should always be allowed.
Hard to believe people still have issues with this.
I believe the thought process is this:
Christianity has a concept of marriage Christians are God's favorites because Jesus was God and God's son or something like that Therefore, Christians have sole ownership of marriage
Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I think that's the logic. I don't agree, but I think that's how they rationalize being the one religion that gets to decide, even though lots of others have different ideas.
For a lot of the Christians who have difficulties understanding the separation of church and state it seems that there is a distinct failure to comprehend that different beliefs are actually possible. They might know that there are different religions, and people have different interpretations of their own religion, but they have not thought through the logical consequences of the co-existence of people with differing beliefs. Often they fail to realise that morality does not stem from religion, though aspects are often guided or encouraged by it. So to them, secularism or indeed any law that goes against some aspect of the behavioural code of their religion are immoral and dangerous. Better religious and philosophical education would be useful in helping people to differentiate between the parts of a religious code that are useful for wider society, and the parts they can live by and let others not live by without allowing harm to happen by saying nothing. By doing so, it would reassure religious people that society can run along secular lines without becoming a nightmare dystopia.
TL; DR: Many Christians in Christian majority areas have difficulty internalising the idea that other beliefs are valid and lack of unbiased education in world religions and philosophy does not help.
On July 09 2012 06:09 Probe1 wrote: I would say instead of how dumb people are, how little they actually have in defense of their bigoted beliefs.
To the opposition of gay marriage: You don't have any legitimate reasons to oppose gay marriage. Homosexuals make you uncomfortable. You're afraid of gay people and you're probably afraid of your own sexuality. So you hide behind the Old Testament and then pervert marriage laws that were never supposed to preserve the sanctity of Christian beliefs.
It's fuckin bigotry. The same arguments were used against Negros. The same shit was said about womens suffrage. It's stupid shit that feels great to say because it costs you nothing. Who cares if a gay man or woman doesn't have rights? It doesn't bother you in the slightest if a gay man or woman is alienated and given unfair or unequal treatment but it's a problem when they want to be given the same rights as a straight person?
I don't want you to live on my planet anymore.
Those are my thoughts.
It is becoming evident to me that the hinge of your focus is around the derogitorisation of homosexuals, and in terms of such discrimination I am in absolute agreement. As Christians we must not despise or be anything other than loving towards homosexuals. I think what happens is people are so vehemently opposed to and disgusted by homosexual behaviour that they revert to being derogatory towards the homosexual person as a way of expressing their feelings and beliefs. The Scriptural injunction is that we must be totally unaccepting of sin. Unfortunately, this sometimes makes us unaccepting of the person committing the sin.
Jesus still hated the sin, while loving the sinner. He clearly equated loving with admonishing for sin and requiring repentance. He recognised this problem of religious people being judgmental, but He still required repentance. The woman taken in adultery (John 8) is a good example. Jesus dealt with the religious men for condemning her as a person and in v.11 He said "Neither do I condemn thee:go and SIN NO MORE" (my emphasis). He didn't say ' Well I feel sorry for you because you were probably born sexually promiscuous. Just carry on and we'll hope people will accept what you are doing because they should do that'. No, He said, lovingly but authoritatively, "go and sin no more". He wanted the religious people to love her as He did, but the sin had to end - she had to repent.
I do feel compelled however, to look at scripture in the case of homosexuality, and a good place to start is always at the beginning! So, the beginning in relation to the individual, is the question: 'Is a person genetically "wired" to be homosexual or heterosexual?'. This is a popular argument used to support homosexuality. Research doesn't support this, however. For example, research with identical twins has found that despite being genetically absolutely identical, in half the cases where one twin is homosexual, the other is heterosexual. So while there may be a genetic predisposition at best, it is environmental influences that combine with any genetic predisposition to influence orientation. Research also suggests that heredity affects sexual orientation only indirectly by influencing personality factors which in turn may steer young people towards different socialisation experiences and it is those that essentially determine orientation. (The references are available from psycologists I know).
The thing is, we all have genetic predispositions, many of which may be socially unacceptable, immoral etc. I might have, for example, a genetic predisposition to kleptomania and I might even be brought up in, or have life experiences that support that predisposition. But that doesn't mean that there is nothing I can or should do about it and that I have the right to steal what I can.
Therefore, it comes down to the fundamental question of right and wrong. If homosexuality is wrong, then like the kleptomania example, a genetic predisposition and life's experiences don't excuse it. The question of whether something is right or wrong is ultimately a Scriptural one. No Christian can disagree that God is the final arbiter of right and wrong. So, does Scripture say homosexuality is right, wrong, or is it equivocal or silent on the matter?
So, the second beginning is to start at the beginning of the Scriptural record where we see from Genesis 2:18-24 that homosexuality violates the very nature of the sexual relationship that God put in place at creation, to be fulfilled only in the relationship of marriage between a man and a woman.
A fundamental and defining doctrine of Christianity is the doctrine of original sin. That is, any behaviour that violates or seeks to change God's plan and standards is a result of the introduction of sin into God's creation. Some even suggest that God creates homosexuals, but it would be contrary to God's nature to create a person in direct violation of His own blueprint and standards. Homosexuality is a consequence, therefore, of the fallen human nature/sin. We must, therefore, respond to it like any other temptation and sin. The Bible is replete with advice and instructions on how to deal with temptations and sinful behaviours in our lives.
Homosexuality clearly falls into the category of sin, not only because of the plan for human relationships God established at creation, but also because He then explicitly and decisively addressed the problem as it had arisen in Sodom (Genesis 19). Suggestions that this account can be read as not referring to homosexual behaviour are fanciful and contrived at best, but basically evidence a fundamentally unintelligent misunderstanding of both the Hebrew and English languages. The meaning of the Genesis 19 events in terms of homosexuality has been accepted by society in general throughout the ages and is indicated of course, by the etymology of the word "sodomy".
Not only did God deal decisively with the problem at Sodom but He then explicitly outlawed homosexual behaviour and recorded this in Scripture. First, it is recorded in Leviticus 18:22 where it is referred to as an "abomination" (KJV). Interestingly, the next verse condemns bestiality, referring to it as "confusion". Yet while the New Zealand criminal law continues to outlaw and provide severe penalties for the "confusion" of bestiality, it has legalised the "abomination" of homosexuality! It can be argued that the "laws" of Leviticus are not to be strictly observed as absolute law by us living in the Christian era. Certainly, one can point to some of them, such as the mixing of fibres in clothing, as being difficult to understand. My response to this view is that perhaps they are not absolute laws (although just because we don't understand them or think we have progressed beyond them as a society, doesn't necessarily mean that God doesn't know something that is good for us that we don't know. For example, science is now catching up by realising the dangers associated with eating shellfish! After all God's "laws" are actually for our benefit), but they do, at the very least, show us the mind of God.
In the case of homosexuality, God describes it as an abomination or detestable in Leviticus. Indeed, so serious is it in His eyes that in Leviticus 20:13 He said that both partners committing homosexual sex must be put to death. Even if we argue that this law is no longer applicable in terms of penalty, it shows clearly how seriously God views this behaviour. Remember too that God is unchanging. His view of homosexuality has not changed in the three or so millennia that have passed since the writing of Leviticus. He may have relaxed the penalty of death, since Christ has paid that penalty on our behalf (provided we accept that and repent), but He hasn't changed His view of the behaviour as being an abomination. Incidentally, there's a very plain statement in Deuteronomy 23:17 also: "There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel" I trust no one would demonstrate their lack of Biblical exegesis by suggesting this applies only to Jewish people.
So, if we still decide to ignore God's views set out in the Old Testament because we think they are no longer applicable, has God dealt with the issue in New Testament times? Clearly, He has. Romans 1:24-27 clearly refers to homosexuality. Indeed, not only does it refer to homosexual acts but also to homosexual desire - "burned in their lust for one another". Interestingly, the last phrase of v.27 is likely a reference to Aids. Then in v.32 God's view of the gravity of this behaviour, along with others, mirrors the view contained in Leviticus 20:13. Note too that those who agree with or condone these behaviours are equally as disappointing to God.
Moving on, we are left totally without excuse when we read 1 Corinthians 6-10. Unrepentant homosexuals will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Surely a person would have to be blinded by sin or satan not to be concerned by that plain warning from God Himself. Furthermore, like the Old Testament, the New testament consistently refers to homosexuality when listing serious sin. So it is included in the list in 1 Timothy1-10 as well.
I believe in the literal method of Bible interpretation - that is, the understanding of a text that any person of normal intelligence would understand without the help of any special keys, codes, or background knowledge (like culture for example). If one believes the Bible to be the inspired word of a timeless God, then one must believe that it is understandable on the face of it and that just as God "breathed" His inspiration into its writing, He will see to it that if we really want to hear what He has to say through it, we will do so in a clear and unequivocal way.
Isaiah 5:20 says: "Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil". When we make or support a law that legalises evil we are sending the message that the legalised behaviour is acceptable. Even if we are doing it out of some liberal type notion that laws restrict peoples' "rights", the psychological effect of laws that legalise a given behaviour is that they legitimise that behaviour and make it into a "good" behaviour in the eyes, particularly, of young and other vulnerable and impressionable people.
Please be careful when you claim that such beliefs cause me to discriminate against minorities, for this is leaning toward an accusation of intentional discrimination which although unfortunately can happen as a side affect of the way in which humans live out the bibles message, is by no means a 'true christian' approach to such matters. Of course I meet people with genuine beliefs that may differ from my own, that is not justification for discrimination, nor is it in my belief justification for judgment; be mindful that the above account is scriptual - if someone was doing wrong I would not say to them "that is wrong" but rather "that is wrong according to the bible". I indeed have homosexual friends myself and do not treat them differently; it is ultimately up to them and the holy spirit should anything change.
Thus I in closing wish to say sincerely that I have not offended any minority in what I have written.
I could not have said this any better then what this person has said.
Honestly, they need to add a new amendment to the Constitution on the seperation of church and state. It needs to be extended towards defining and seperating a religious marriage versus a political partnership (gay marriage). The rest of the relgious instutions may come up with their own interpretation, as I know most religious bodies also have their own individual governing bodies (i.e., the Vatican).
Gay people may disagree with this, saying that it isn't a real marriage or whatever, but the truth of the matter is that the government cannot make a law stating that churches have to marry gay people too, otherwises it would be going against the constitution. Anti-gay may disagree that even allowing this kind of partnership is immoral or whatever, but they cannot impede in other people's pursuit of happiness.
This is the only way that this issue will ever progress, with both sides conceding and agreeing on a middle ground.
On August 23 2012 09:33 DoubleReed wrote: Rape is when the father, brother, or husband does not agree. It has nothing to do with the woman. I'm not sure why you hold the bible in such high esteem when it's so flagrantly evil and opposed to human rights.
Um what? I'm fairly sure there are multiple instances where people were put to death for rape (in the old testament), and it had nothing to do with other males. Can you give an example where the bible displays this 'flagrant evil' and 'opposition of human rights', because it sounds like an assumption, not a conclusion based on reading it. Keep in mind that at the time, women in any society probably would have been considered inferior to men, because the majority of the work would have involved physical strength and not required intellect as it does today.
Yes, men were put to death for rape because the woman's father did not approve of it. The woman has to go through her father for consent.
There is no idea of "consent" for women in the bible. It's impossible, for instance, for a woman to raped by her husband, because her husband automatically consents. If, for instance, a father wanted to offer his wife and daughter to spare himself (like in Judges 19), then that's how it works. Women have no power of consent. This is not an assumption. This is how it works in the bible.
And yes, obviously they were considered inferior to men. And yes, that's the kind of bullshit morality we expect of people 4000 years ago. The same bullshit morality condemns homosexuality. Why should anyone care that this awful, hideous morality condemns homosexuality if it has such terrible sexist views as well?
To be fair, the entire book of Judges is pretty much recorded atrocity after recorded atrocity [stressing the pretty much]. Context is pretty key; the culture at the time meant someone under your roof was under your protection as far as was in your power [and again, the entire culture, not Biblically mandated action]. Note that just because something is in the Bible does not mean it is lauded by it. It's essentially history (whether fictitious or not) that traces Israel back from the beginning.
Men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church; to literally be willing to die sacrificically for her sake.
Yes they are. And wives are called to obey their husbands. What's your point?
Are you really going to try to argue that the bible isn't terribly sexist? Because I'll be honest, I'm shocked by people who try to argue this. I thought all moderate religious people were perfectly willing to admit that the bible is ridiculously sexist. This isn't like a terribly shocking or controversial fact about the bible. So please tell me your position, because I'd rather not argue against a position you don't have.
We do not automatically sort out contradictions in our head. There are plenty of Christians who believe the following three statements independently, without linking them all together: 1. Morality comes from the bible. 2. The bible is sexist. 3. Sexism is bad.
Generally, when someone says sexist I assume that they mean demeaning women and generally viewing them as inferior. Apologies if that isn't what you mean. But either way, love and sacrifice to that degree mentioned places a huge value of that relationship within marriage, which is neither demeaning nor placing women as inferior.
I'd contend that the Bible isn't out and out sexist. If you look up complementarianism [http://www.girlsgonewise.com/complementarianism-for-dummies/ points 4 and 5, mainly.. just a quick search, sorry], then within that framework, the Bible (and I'd say just how things are) makes a lot of sense.
I guess you could just call my general stance evangelical Christianity, though you'd want to sprinkle a dash of Thomism in it.
edit: topic can probably get derailed by this if we both remember to check up and reply regularly, so if you want to PM me a response, then that may be better.
On August 23 2012 11:51 imBLIND wrote: Honestly, they need to add a new amendment to the Constitution on the seperation of church and state. It needs to be extended towards defining and seperating a religious marriage versus a political partnership (gay marriage). The rest of the relgious instutions may come up with their own interpretation, as I know most religious bodies also have their own individual governing bodies (i.e., the Vatican).
Gay people may disagree with this, saying that it isn't a real marriage or whatever, but the truth of the matter is that the government cannot make a law stating that churches have to marry gay people too, otherwises it would be going against the constitution. Anti-gay may disagree that even allowing this kind of partnership is immoral or whatever, but they cannot impede in other people's pursuit of happiness.
This is the only way that this issue will ever progress, with both sides conceding and agreeing on a middle ground.
Uh Sorry to tell you this, but you're completely wrong. The distinction you want to offer already exists. A marriage ceremony in a church is not a marriage by law. It's a ceremony, nothing more. Beforehand you must acquire a marriage license. This is a state document. Both parties sign the document. They are married. This legal contract requires no religious ceremony, no church. The proponents of same sex marriage are trying to give gay people the right to sign a civil marriage contract. Gay people are not fighting for the right to force their marriage ceremony on a church, but the ability to sign a piece of paper.