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On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights.
Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal?
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On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Religious people want marraige, gays want equal rights. Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Yet both sides act like they are, for reasons that baffle me (and apparently the President too, based on his musings in that interview).
"Tear's down social structures" is valid how? Infringes on people's personal beliefs? This is exactly what I was talking about. When interracial marriage was forced through by the courts 70%-90% (depending on which source you trust) of Americans thought it was wrong. This didn't matter because this belief is irrational. There is absolutely nothing inherent to the marriage contract that can not be done equally be all ethnicities. Dis people say it would destroy marriage and infringe on others beliefs then? Absolutely. Why does this logic hold sway with gay marriage and not interracial? Should interracial couple be given "interracial unions" instead of marriages?
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On May 10 2012 13:13 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:01 Smat wrote:On May 10 2012 12:27 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:18 Funnytoss wrote:On May 10 2012 12:03 BluePanther wrote: There are also many who consider gays to be sexual deviants, not necessarily based on a book or religion. There are also societal reasons -- keeping birthrates at certain levels. There are those who hold conflicting views such as myself. As I've expressed in another thread, I support gay civil unions, yet oppose "marriage" or gay adoption. And none of that is on a religious basis.
The only possible way you would get more children through banning gay marriage would be if gay people, being unable to marry each other, would be more inclined to settle for heterosexual sex and then have babies. Which... doesn't seem like it would be happening anyway, so I think it's safe to say that this argument, at least, should be moot. I firmly disagree, but whatever. Could you explain how banning gay marriage would increase the birth rate then? It might be more productive than "firmly disagreeing". Also what restrictions do you wish to apply to adoption? Do you think single parents are fit to adopt? I'm not having that debate here, you can look up some of my other posts if you truly, deeply, actually care what I think. I think it's in the primary thread. I don't really need some haughty "you're wrong, you must prove personal opinions with studies" response here. It's off-topic and quite frankly, irrelevant to the topic. And the past few posts have given a few of many answers which give some of the reasons you'd oppose for social reasons. Not that I hold the same view, but I was just making the point that the only reason to not support it is religion or bigotry.
eh, logic will suffice instead of scientific studies, but whatever. And I believe all those other posts were in regards to marriage and had little to do with adoption.
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On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Religious people want marraige, gays want equal rights. Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Yet both sides act like they are, for reasons that baffle me (and apparently the President too, based on his musings in that interview). Riddle me this, why should anyone care about you or his "personal beliefs". So beyond irrelevant. It's my personal belief and opinion that religion is dumb. Do I demand religion illegal? no, because i dont give a shit what people do as long as it doesnt hurt anyone else. It's descrimination plain and simple. If you can't see that you're deluding yourself. love is love no matter what your little book says.
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On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal?
Nope, that's not at all what I suggest.
I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue).
And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will.
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On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will.
"Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage?
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On May 10 2012 13:38 heliusx wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote: [quote] Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Religious people want marraige, gays want equal rights. Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Yet both sides act like they are, for reasons that baffle me (and apparently the President too, based on his musings in that interview). Riddle me this, why should anyone care about you or his "personal beliefs". So beyond irrelevant. It's my personal belief and opinion that religion is dumb. Do I demand religion illegal? no, because i dont give a shit what people do as long as it doesnt hurt anyone else. It's descrimination plain and simple. If you can't see that you're deluding yourself. love is love no matter what your little book says.
Take your anger out on someone else kid.
I merely stated that people oppose gay marriage for reasons beyond religion.
I didn't say "I oppose" gay marriage. I'm not even remotely religious.
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On May 10 2012 13:45 Mindcrime wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will. "Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage?
Why not?
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On May 10 2012 13:45 Mindcrime wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will. "Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage? hes playing semantics. alluding to him only being against gay marraige based on the word marraige. ya right
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On May 10 2012 13:46 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:45 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will. "Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage? Why not?
Because marriage is not a religious institution. Lol. Why would we make it one now? Just so you don't have to see the state formally recognize gay couples as being married?
You mentioned you weren't religious, but you support civil unions for everyone, then why the fuck can't everyone just get married? Seems weird and stupid to change the laws for everyone just so we don't have to have legally recognized gay marriages.
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On May 10 2012 13:45 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:38 heliusx wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote: [quote] They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Religious people want marraige, gays want equal rights. Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Yet both sides act like they are, for reasons that baffle me (and apparently the President too, based on his musings in that interview). Riddle me this, why should anyone care about you or his "personal beliefs". So beyond irrelevant. It's my personal belief and opinion that religion is dumb. Do I demand religion illegal? no, because i dont give a shit what people do as long as it doesnt hurt anyone else. It's descrimination plain and simple. If you can't see that you're deluding yourself. love is love no matter what your little book says. Take your anger out on someone else kid. I merely stated that people oppose gay marriage for reasons beyond religion. I didn't say "I oppose" gay marriage. I'm not even remotely religious. such as? im really curious about these reasons "beyond religion".
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On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. You first fail here is that you view marriage as something fundamental without fundamental conditions. For about 3-4 thousands of years of reasonably documented history mariage is man+woman=>family, children.
I would even say that the right to divorce is not fundamental at all because it is something that appeared for a very few time. I would go ahead and question, why should we even change what traditionally marriage means, should we really extend marriage or let it be, and create the other things for gay-couples?
Than your argument is way biassed. The benefit of allowing gay to marriage is obviously beneficial for them, the others do not benefit, but loss due to the expanding benefits, and thus expanded price of sustaining it, as any other form of wellfare increases. It also means that the benefits of marriage, which are created for a reason, and they were created before the gay-marriage issue even existed, and existed for a specific purpose of encouraging something, may no longer encourage that something, and render marriage as we understand it useless.
I think it was proved long ago that demographics and birthrate is extremely important, right?
Disallowing gay-marriage certainly does decrease the attractiveness of gay-relations compared to straight relations. That is true, useless to argue. Does increase in attractivnes of straight marriage increases birth rate? Well while it is not that distinguishable from other factors, there are simple facts: 1. Birthrate is always more in rural aerias, than in urban, where the number of potential partners is lower, and the chance of finding a "better partner"/risk or divourse is also way lower. 2. maried people statistically have more children and do better. 3. the number of gay-couples is lower in places where there is no allowance for gay marriages.
Now if we assume that at least some of the people who otherwise would be in gay mariage actually marry straight, then there will be some amount of children born that there would otherwise be not.
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On May 10 2012 13:46 heliusx wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:45 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will. "Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage? hes playing semantics. alluding to him only being against gay marraige based on the word marraige. ya right
Lol, i'm personally not against marriage, read what I say before ridiculing please.
I'm just giving reasons others might be, and my suggested solution.
You would do well to open your views up a little and actually consider what people who disagree with you have to say. Your condescending attitude is not needed. You are instantly grouping your images of me with things not even remotely close to what I believe simply because you think that's what I am supposed to believe because I'm not "like you".
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On May 10 2012 13:30 Velocirapture wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote: [quote] Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Religious people want marraige, gays want equal rights. Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Yet both sides act like they are, for reasons that baffle me (and apparently the President too, based on his musings in that interview). "Tear's down social structures" is valid how? Infringes on people's personal beliefs? This is exactly what I was talking about. When interracial marriage was forced through by the courts 70%-90% (depending on which source you trust) of Americans thought it was wrong. This didn't matter because this belief is irrational. There is absolutely nothing inherent to the marriage contract that can not be done equally be all ethnicities. Dis people say it would destroy marriage and infringe on others beliefs then? Absolutely. Why does this logic hold sway with gay marriage and not interracial? Should interracial couple be given "interracial unions" instead of marriages? Why you even mention this? Mariage is Man+woman. Race is irrelevant to the point. Now Man+Man or Woman+Woman was not how mariage worked, and imor, it shouldn`t. Stop trying to compare apples and oranges.
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On May 10 2012 13:51 naastyOne wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. You first fail here is that you view marriage as something fundamental without fundamental conditions. For about 3-4 thousands of years of reasonably documented history mariage is man+woman=>family, children. I would even say that the right to divorce is not fundamental at all because it is something that appeared for a very few time. I would go ahead and question, why should we even change what traditionally marriage means, should we really extend marriage or let it be, and create the other things for gay-couples? Than your argument is way biassed. The benefit of allowing gay to marriage is obviously beneficial for them, the others do not benefit, but loss due to the expanding benefits, and thus expanded price of sustaining it, as any other form of wellfare increases. It also means that the benefits of marriage, which are created for a reason, and they were created before the gay-marriage issue even existed, and existed for a specific purpose of encouraging something, may no longer encourage that something, and render marriage as we understand it useless. I think it was proved long ago that demographics and birthrate is extremely important, right? Disallowing gay-marriage certainly does decrease the attractiveness of gay-relations compared to straight relations. That is true, useless to argue. Does increase in attractivnes of straight marriage increases birth rate? Well while it is not that distinguishable from other factors, there are simple facts: 1. Birthrate is always more in rural aerias, than in urban, where the number of potential partners is lower, and the chance of finding a "better partner"/risk or divourse is also way lower. 2. maried people statistically have more children and do better. 3. the number of gay-couples is lower in places where there is no allowance for gay marriages. Now if we assume that at least some of the people who otherwise would be in gay mariage actually marry straight, then there will be some amount of children born that there would otherwise be not.
I think this post sums up a few of the potential arguments. There are more arguments out this should be enough to satisfy the demands for reasons that aren't based on religion.
Yes, I have concerns about it. But I was convinced a while back that the benefits of equality are more important than these longer term effects. Do I like gay marriage? No. But if put to a vote on it, I would support it.
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On May 10 2012 13:51 naastyOne wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. You first fail here is that you view marriage as something fundamental without fundamental conditions. For about 3-4 thousands of years of reasonably documented history mariage is man+woman=>family, children. I would even say that the right to divorce is not fundamental at all because it is something that appeared for a very few time. I would go ahead and question, why should we even change what traditionally marriage means, should we really extend marriage or let it be, and create the other things for gay-couples? Than your argument is way biassed. The benefit of allowing gay to marriage is obviously beneficial for them, the others do not benefit, but loss due to the expanding benefits, and thus expanded price of sustaining it, as any other form of wellfare increases. It also means that the benefits of marriage, which are created for a reason, and they were created before the gay-marriage issue even existed, and existed for a specific purpose of encouraging something, may no longer encourage that something, and render marriage as we understand it useless. I think it was proved long ago that demographics and birthrate is extremely important, right? Disallowing gay-marriage certainly does decrease the attractiveness of gay-relations compared to straight relations. That is true, useless to argue. Does increase in attractivnes of straight marriage increases birth rate? Well while it is not that distinguishable from other factors, there are simple facts: 1. Birthrate is always more in rural aerias, than in urban, where the number of potential partners is lower, and the chance of finding a "better partner"/risk or divourse is also way lower. 2. maried people statistically have more children and do better. 3. the number of gay-couples is lower in places where there is no allowance for gay marriages. Now if we assume that at least some of the people who otherwise would be in gay mariage actually marry straight, then there will be some amount of children born that there would otherwise be not.
This post is so absurd its hard to know where to start. Marriage has been a constantly evolving institution since its inception. You are applying a whole bunch of your ideas about what marriage SHOULD be (something you are completely entitled to) onto what marriage IS. They are not the same thing! Take a step back and look at the mandates of marriage as a contract and the requirements for participation. This is the true nature of marriage.
Once I strip away all of your bias and personal "we need as many children as possible" stuff, you basically make an argument that there should be no marriage. Because once you accept that your personal views, which are based on nothing but opinion, dont apply your initial cost argument applies to all marriage.
It is fine to be against any marriage at all, its just totally unrealistic. And in our world, where marriage is considered a fundamental right, the onus is on the naysayers to show how sex distinction is less arbitrary than race distinction within the marriage contract.
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On May 10 2012 13:57 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:46 heliusx wrote:On May 10 2012 13:45 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:40 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 13:25 Mindcrime wrote:On May 10 2012 13:18 BluePanther wrote: It's because it tears down social structures and intrudes on people's personal beliefs. Most importantly, it's not a requirement to give them marriage to give them equal rights. Oh, so they should have something separate.... but equal? Nope, that's not at all what I suggest. I propose civil unions for everyone, equal under the law with the same rights and services for all. Perfect equality (except I have reservations about adoption, but that's another issue). And make marriage a religious thing, whom they can exclude at will. "Make marriages a religious thing"? Why? Why do the religious deserve a monopoly on marriage? hes playing semantics. alluding to him only being against gay marraige based on the word marraige. ya right Lol, i'm personally not against marriage, read what I say before ridiculing please. I'm just giving reasons others might be, and my suggested solution. You would do well to open your views up a little and actually consider what people who disagree with you have to say. Your condescending attitude is not needed. You are instantly grouping your images of me with things not even remotely close to what I believe simply because you think that's what I am supposed to believe because I'm not "like you".
I'm not sure if you think I am gay, but I am not. If you are not religious why do YOU care what a union of man and man is called. Also waiting on these reasons beyond religion. You can't defend a position you refuse to take. My point is it's no ones business if dudes wanna get married. Your personal opinions or religious views shouldnt be taken into account when we are speaking about equality.
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On May 10 2012 14:02 BluePanther wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:51 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote: [quote] Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. You first fail here is that you view marriage as something fundamental without fundamental conditions. For about 3-4 thousands of years of reasonably documented history mariage is man+woman=>family, children. I would even say that the right to divorce is not fundamental at all because it is something that appeared for a very few time. I would go ahead and question, why should we even change what traditionally marriage means, should we really extend marriage or let it be, and create the other things for gay-couples? Than your argument is way biassed. The benefit of allowing gay to marriage is obviously beneficial for them, the others do not benefit, but loss due to the expanding benefits, and thus expanded price of sustaining it, as any other form of wellfare increases. It also means that the benefits of marriage, which are created for a reason, and they were created before the gay-marriage issue even existed, and existed for a specific purpose of encouraging something, may no longer encourage that something, and render marriage as we understand it useless. I think it was proved long ago that demographics and birthrate is extremely important, right? Disallowing gay-marriage certainly does decrease the attractiveness of gay-relations compared to straight relations. That is true, useless to argue. Does increase in attractivnes of straight marriage increases birth rate? Well while it is not that distinguishable from other factors, there are simple facts: 1. Birthrate is always more in rural aerias, than in urban, where the number of potential partners is lower, and the chance of finding a "better partner"/risk or divourse is also way lower. 2. maried people statistically have more children and do better. 3. the number of gay-couples is lower in places where there is no allowance for gay marriages. Now if we assume that at least some of the people who otherwise would be in gay mariage actually marry straight, then there will be some amount of children born that there would otherwise be not. I think this post sums up a few of the potential arguments. There are more arguments out this should be enough to satisfy the demands for reasons that aren't based on religion. Yes, I have concerns about it. But I was convinced a while back that the benefits of equality are more important than these longer term effects. Do I like gay marriage? No. But if put to a vote on it, I would support it.
All of his arguments fall apart with any amount of critical thinking. I would be willing to bet that most, if not all, of those arguments are rooted in religion or homophobia.
You could easily come up with arguments why we shouldn't allow inter-racial marriage. That doesn't mean those arguments aren't rooted in racism.
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Also I really feel like we should return to 2012 elections. There is hardly anything to new to be heard about gay marriage, exept as i mentioned, do not expect democrats to actually rush these thrugh, because they can possibly loose votes of gays/lesbians and por-gay crowd later, after it becomes non-issue.
So do you need america needs justice system reform? Cap the amount of money person can sue, to bring the cost of "defencive medicine" and other defences against being sued down? What direction should healthcare go? Single-payer? Full-Marker? Other?
What kind of president would Romney be if elected?
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On May 10 2012 13:51 naastyOne wrote:Show nested quote +On May 10 2012 13:10 Velocirapture wrote:On May 10 2012 12:58 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 12:37 BluePanther wrote:On May 10 2012 12:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:36 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 11:28 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 11:09 Kamille wrote:On May 10 2012 10:50 naastyOne wrote:On May 10 2012 10:41 ZeaL. wrote: 2) I know most male couples don't have kids but I know quite a few lesbian couples that have kids, and not adopted ones either. Sperm banks and such make it so that homosexual couples can be fertile. Not couples, individuals in said couple. They are considered children of the individual, because they cannot be treated as a child of both parents Because the child is indeed children of the individual and an anonymous donor to sperm bank? So should heterosexual couples who adopt have no legal rights as parents, because they are not blood related? If your argument is based on blood relation, heterosexual adoption should be treated the same way. Why should adopters have same right as biological parents in the first place? there certanly needs to be at least much tighter watch on them. Again, stop throwing adoption around. Adoption rights&responsibilities are different, and not related to marriage. Period. I think the whole point is not that they are related, but that gay marriage isn't some universally accepted idea and that people object to it for reasons that are not strictly religiously based. At least that's my understanding of how this conversation evolved. I agree 100%. While person is free to love anyone, there is also the wide reasoning behind having marriage exactly as it is now(male+female), and working out some other legal frame and viev on the gay-sesbian alliances. Also, it is quite interesting that from all the curious thoughts in my first post (single-payer healthcare, changes to how education financed, internal&external problems of US), only gay marriage and incorect % of achievements of obama were noted. And it is so sad. What are these objective and rational reasons for disallowing gay marriage. Im not gonna lie and say I don't have a stake in the outcome but I am genuinely interested in both sides. The benefits for gays in allowing them to be married is really obvious and profound yet I have never heard a reason against it that didnt hinge on somebody's personal beliefs. Where is the data that gay marriage is destroying other countries or that the gay marriages in selected states are hurting straight marriages? At the end of the day, you can think whatever you want but "just because" should never be reason enough to deny something as fundamental as marriage. You first fail here is that you view marriage as something fundamental without fundamental conditions. For about 3-4 thousands of years of reasonably documented history mariage is man+woman=>family, children. I would even say that the right to divorce is not fundamental at all because it is something that appeared for a very few time. I would go ahead and question, why should we even change what traditionally marriage means, should we really extend marriage or let it be, and create the other things for gay-couples? Than your argument is way biassed. The benefit of allowing gay to marriage is obviously beneficial for them, the others do not benefit, but loss due to the expanding benefits, and thus expanded price of sustaining it, as any other form of wellfare increases. It also means that the benefits of marriage, which are created for a reason, and they were created before the gay-marriage issue even existed, and existed for a specific purpose of encouraging something, may no longer encourage that something, and render marriage as we understand it useless. I think it was proved long ago that demographics and birthrate is extremely important, right? Disallowing gay-marriage certainly does decrease the attractiveness of gay-relations compared to straight relations. That is true, useless to argue. Does increase in attractivnes of straight marriage increases birth rate? Well while it is not that distinguishable from other factors, there are simple facts: 1. Birthrate is always more in rural aerias, than in urban, where the number of potential partners is lower, and the chance of finding a "better partner"/risk or divourse is also way lower. 2. maried people statistically have more children and do better. 3. the number of gay-couples is lower in places where there is no allowance for gay marriages. Now if we assume that at least some of the people who otherwise would be in gay mariage actually marry straight, then there will be some amount of children born that there would otherwise be not.
The world is already overpopulated; The last thing we need to worry about is increasing birth rates.
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