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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On September 28 2016 00:23 Acrofales wrote: Did you beat her up yet?  Nah. I still hate the fact that this propably best "how you guys got together"-story will never be the one I tell people when talking about my future fiance. At least it will be remembered in here as it seems  | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On September 28 2016 00:10 bloodwhore~ wrote: How is she? My fuck buddy is soon 18 (I'm 23) and even though she is a lot smarter than the other older girls I've dated. I feel like she is way to young to be in a relationship with. It's really noticeable in some areas. Well she is more mature than pretty much every girl I know, and is very sweet and obedient as I like them. We train together, that's how we met, so she was my "buddy" first. Funny how a 18 y/o girl has better attitude than pretty much all the guys at my gym. Won't let me pick her up at school though, which is understandable I also expect her dad and her brother to hate me with passion, we are both ok with that. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On September 28 2016 00:18 waffelz wrote: Currently dating a 20 year old while I turned 26 recently. Ok, she is almost 21, spend a year abroad in a very foreign culture and moved out when she started studying 2 years ago. You could technically say we are at the same point of our lives since I also am 2 years into my studies after I switched, but it still freaks me out from time to time… There are currently no signs to support my worries, we seem to fit well but still. I don’t think my worries could tolerate anything younger, I already struggle enough with the current situation... Hope it works out for you GoTuNk!, I certainly couldn’t do it. Even though we talked about our worries and everything and I assured myself that she understands the possible results of her decision but I am also sure I will still hate myself if it ends up failing because of some age related issues, leaving her heart broken, no matter how much I tell myself that it was her decision too. How are you so worried about almost 21 and 26? That's definitely fine. 5 years when you're both over 20 is nothing to me. I also expect her dad and her brother to hate me with passion, we are both ok with that. Haha perhaps. My fuckbuddies mother knows all about me, and she didn't have any objections. However I'm sure guys are harder on the age. | ||
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
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farvacola
United States18866 Posts
On September 28 2016 04:22 solidbebe wrote: Also really depends on the country. The girlfriends dad/brother being a hardass is not something ive actually ever experienced where Im from (Netherlands). Seems like a really american thing to me. So long as by "American" you mean both North and South America in addition to the Middle East and other places throughout the world | ||
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Skynx
Turkey7150 Posts
Fking hell man Ireland must have got you bad. You should post more. Just imagine if we somehow get SoSexy back aswell. | ||
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RvB
Netherlands6303 Posts
On September 28 2016 04:22 solidbebe wrote: Also really depends on the country. The girlfriends dad/brother being a hardass is not something ive actually ever experienced where Im from (Netherlands). Seems like a really american thing to me. If I'd have a little sister of 18 who came back with a 25 year old I'd be a hardass. It's a big age gap although it can work. My cousin married someone with the same age gap and they're still happy together. | ||
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
On September 28 2016 05:24 RvB wrote: If I'd have a little sister of 18 who came back with a 25 year old I'd be a hardass. It's a big age gap although it can work. My cousin married someone with the same age gap and they're still happy together. If theres an age gap Id certainly be sceptical of the guy sure. But I think the whole hardass thing is really more prevalent in countries which have a more macho culture (like farvacola said, south and north america). | ||
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NewSunshine
United States5938 Posts
On September 28 2016 00:18 waffelz wrote: Currently dating a 20 year old while I turned 26 recently. Ok, she is almost 21, spend a year abroad in a very foreign culture and moved out when she started studying 2 years ago. You could technically say we are at the same point of our lives since I also am 2 years into my studies after I switched, but it still freaks me out from time to time… There are currently no signs to support my worries, we seem to fit well but still. I don’t think my worries could tolerate anything younger, I already struggle enough with the current situation... Hope it works out for you GoTuNk!, I certainly couldn’t do it. Even though we talked about our worries and everything and I assured myself that she understands the possible results of her decision but I am also sure I will still hate myself if it ends up failing because of some age related issues, leaving her heart broken, no matter how much I tell myself that it was her decision too. Age difference only means anything when it results in the both of you being at substantially different points in your life, or different outlooks/frames of mind. Once you really get to know a person and you find a special bond with them, age no longer means anything (unless there's some sub-18 stuff going on here and there's a legal bend to it). It's merely an indicator that you might not be on the same chapters of your respective lives, it doesn't hold any water in and of itself. You already seem to have something pretty good going on with this girl, so there's no reason to be fretting over age, you're all good man. | ||
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
On September 27 2016 19:17 CptMarvel wrote: A little update on my post of a few months ago about that Chinese gf who tried to go for some other dude after me spending a month back in France for holiday : as predicted, I ended up following you guys' advice and told her to fuck off, this sparked up what seemed to be the greatest drama of all time, she went batshit crazy, in full disbelief that someone actually dared to say 'no' to her. Took me days to get rid of her before she went back to living with her parents. I've felt much better ever since (let alone some tragic news I've had to cope with recently). Fun fact, her mom added me on WeChat (chinese IM app, and yes it's weird as fuck, I had no idea she knew I existed) not so long after, I accepted for the lolz, awaiting one of the typical 'Chinese family culture' moments I always enjoy - she asked me what I did to her daughter because she'd been "acting a lot nicer and less spoiled in the past few weeks". LOL Made me feel useful. So glad it worked out bud. Wish you the best | ||
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Ben...
Canada3485 Posts
On September 27 2016 19:17 CptMarvel wrote: she asked me what I did to her daughter because she'd been "acting a lot nicer and less spoiled in the past few weeks". LOLMade me feel useful. This is the best. Tinder added "anthems" as a new feature where you can pick a song that shows up in your profile that is supposed to represent you. Naturally I'm trying to think of the most inappropriate or corny songs to have for it. So far my list of awful/cheesy songs is: Philip Bailey and Phil Collins - "Easy Lover" Billy Ocean - "Get Out of My Dreams, Get Into my Car" Lionel Ritchie - "All Night Long" Huey Lewis and The News - "Hip To Be Square" (this one is terrible/great on so many levels. Think American Psycho) Nine Inch Nails - "Head Like a Hole" Ludacris - "Area Codes" 2 Live Crew - "Face Down Ass Up" (really anything by them is perfect for this" Oingo Boingo - "Little Girls" -- the creepiest one I can think of for this. Rick Astley ... you know the one A Boogie Wit da Hoodie - "Friend Zone" Cher - "Believe" anything by the Bloodhound Gang | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
On September 28 2016 08:19 Ben... wrote: This is the best. Tinder added "anthems" as a new feature where you can pick a song that shows up in your profile that is supposed to represent you. Naturally I'm trying to think of the most inappropriate or corny songs to have for it. So far my list of awful/cheesy songs is: Philip Bailey and Phil Collins - "Easy Lover" Billy Ocean - "Get Out of My Dreams, Get Into my Car" Lionel Ritchie - "All Night Long" Huey Lewis and The News - "Hip To Be Square" (this one is terrible/great on so many levels. Think American Psycho) Nine Inch Nails - "Head Like a Hole" Ludacris - "Area Codes" 2 Live Crew - "Face Down Ass Up" (really anything by them is perfect for this" Oingo Boingo - "Little Girls" -- the creepiest one I can think of for this. Rick Astley ... you know the one A Boogie Wit da Hoodie - "Friend Zone" Cher - "Believe" anything by the Bloodhound Gang Tinder is moving in good directions. Try thinking about stuff from Weird Al too. White and Nerdy should be pretty good. | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
On September 28 2016 05:32 NewSunshine wrote: Age difference only means anything when it results in the both of you being at substantially different points in your life, or different outlooks/frames of mind. Once you really get to know a person and you find a special bond with them, age no longer means anything (unless there's some sub-18 stuff going on here and there's a legal bend to it). It's merely an indicator that you might not be on the same chapters of your respective lives, it doesn't hold any water in and of itself. You already seem to have something pretty good going on with this girl, so there's no reason to be fretting over age, you're all good man. It is kind of weird how fast the age gap importance disappears after you're both over age 20. A 28y old dating a 21y old is a 7 year difference, but it's usually not seen as a problem at all. While the idea about similar points of life is important, I think the important thing that the people who see an age gap have is more a matter of looks. If you watch anime, every now and then you'll see a character who looks like they're 16, but they say they're 25 or something. People who like younger chicks will know that they're younger, but the assigned age makes them feel better. This would also explain the disappearance of age gap troubles over 20, since the difference in looks becomes rather minuscule compared to young adult and someone in their teens. So while similar places in life is helpful in a relationship with someone who is younger/older than you, it's just as important that they look like they're not that much older/younger than you. | ||
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DickMcFanny
Ireland1076 Posts
On September 28 2016 09:57 B.I.G. wrote: Omg SixStrings you have no idea how much we missed you and your antics.. to think you were here all this time... I'm starting to think bloodwhore is actually SoSexy on an elaborate troll.. This damp, soggy island broke my spirit, haha. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8913 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On September 28 2016 09:57 B.I.G. wrote: Omg SixStrings you have no idea how much we missed you and your antics.. to think you were here all this time... I'm starting to think bloodwhore is actually SoSexy on an elaborate troll.. This kills the bloodwhore~.  | ||
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Laurens
Belgium4557 Posts
On September 28 2016 12:02 Dark_Chill wrote: It is kind of weird how fast the age gap importance disappears after you're both over age 20. A 28y old dating a 21y old is a 7 year difference, but it's usually not seen as a problem at all. While the idea about similar points of life is important, I think the important thing that the people who see an age gap have is more a matter of looks. If you watch anime, every now and then you'll see a character who looks like they're 16, but they say they're 25 or something. People who like younger chicks will know that they're younger, but the assigned age makes them feel better. This would also explain the disappearance of age gap troubles over 20, since the difference in looks becomes rather minuscule compared to young adult and someone in their teens. So while similar places in life is helpful in a relationship with someone who is younger/older than you, it's just as important that they look like they're not that much older/younger than you. I don't think looks are the problem. There are exceptions to this - my cousin is 18 and her bf is 26 and it looks all kinds of fucked up, but other 18 year olds could easily pass for 20+ and then it's not too bad. For me the problem would be that an 18 year old hasn't even started university yet and has zero clue what she wants from life. I personally changed a lot through uni and I think most people do, a relationship between someone who has finished uni and someone who's still starting rarely works out in my experience. | ||
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Acrofales
Spain18394 Posts
On September 28 2016 09:57 B.I.G. wrote: Omg SixStrings you have no idea how much we missed you and your antics.. to think you were here all this time... I'm starting to think bloodwhore is actually SoSexy on an elaborate troll.. Nah. SoSexy had a very unique perspective on women, probably only ever equalled on this site by shauny. Bloodwhore seems to realize that women are people and have rights. He just wants to Also, SoSexy isn't perm banned, and it was his choice to leave this thread forever. He's still around in other threads. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On September 28 2016 03:41 bloodwhore~ wrote: How are you so worried about almost 21 and 26? That's definitely fine. 5 years when you're both over 20 is nothing to me. No offence, but I don't feel like you are qualified to give relationship advice yet . I sure hope you will be able to do so in the future though On September 28 2016 05:32 NewSunshine wrote: Age difference only means anything when it results in the both of you being at substantially different points in your life, or different outlooks/frames of mind. Once you really get to know a person and you find a special bond with them, age no longer means anything (unless there's some sub-18 stuff going on here and there's a legal bend to it). It's merely an indicator that you might not be on the same chapters of your respective lives, it doesn't hold any water in and of itself. You already seem to have something pretty good going on with this girl, so there's no reason to be fretting over age, you're all good man. I know that it is mostly in my head for multiple reasons. I guess for the most part it is just the fact that I always was way ahead of most people at my own age so I got used to it and haven't fully realized yet that big changes in perception and maturity are much more spaced out once you reach a certain age/point in your life. | ||
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