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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on.
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On July 27 2013 12:47 Wombat_NI wrote: Joking aside, it blows my mind how many people have their home addresses on my Facebook. I was curious :p I never noticed people even did that. I know some people have their phone number up which is pretty silly...
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Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan.
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On July 27 2013 14:39 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan. Usually that is the point, to get to know people better . That is a good response though, not giving up.
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On July 27 2013 14:39 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan.
lolwut. That is the dumbest excuse in the world. Not sure if letting down easy or genuinely naive.
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So, thought I'd update. The girl and I went out and had an amazing time. Can see now how much I was over thinking the entire thing haha...ended up just having a relaxing afternoon in the city. I was pretty awkward for a lot of it(which I expected to be) but she seemed to enjoy being around me anyway! So we met up again the next day and were together from about midday till midnight(so surprised I was able to keep her entertained for 12 hours rofl...). I will be seeing her again on Monday night.
Thanks everyone!
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On July 27 2013 18:40 Resent wrote: So, thought I'd update. The girl and I went out and had an amazing time. Can see now how much I was over thinking the entire thing haha...ended up just having a relaxing afternoon in the city. I was pretty awkward for a lot of it(which I expected to be) but she seemed to enjoy being around me anyway! So we met up again the next day and were together from about midday till midnight(so surprised I was able to keep her entertained for 12 hours rofl...). I will be seeing her again on Monday night.
Thanks everyone!
Nice Any progress regarding kissing and such? If she wants to spend that much time with you it's obviously a great thing - but if you're into her, she should know it and (at least in my head) it would be natural to kiss soon. Too many dates without anything happening can be really awkward or just casually cruising your way to the friend-zone
Edit: Just went back and found some of your older posts.
On July 20 2013 10:22 Resent wrote: Yeh i just used the word date(when asking the girl out) to make sure it was clear that I was interested in meeting as more than just a friend. This is pretty good. But my question still stands regarding progress and kissing
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On July 27 2013 12:12 Djzapz wrote: Well since this thread is here I'll go ahead and write in it.
Long story short, I'm 24 now, I was dumped on dec 23rd last year, been single since, had a few things with girls I couldn't see myself staying with for the long run but nothing really interesting.
A few weeks ago I bumped into this girl, Olivia. We talked a bit in university some 3 years ago, but I lost track of her after we were done with that class. I was with my ex at the time. As it turns out, she lives 5 minutes away from me. She's smart, beautiful, fun, 3 good qualities to have. She's also shy, which I find to be both adorable and very helpful, having historically been less than savvy at dates. She's slightly nerdy in normal-people terms, in that she likes some Nintendo classics and whatnot.
After bumping into her at a coffee shop, we shared our interwebs info and we've been flirting a bit online. Earlier, she told me "I really like talking to you" in the middle of a long conversation which touched many topics of various degrees of hotness... It all sounds like a teenage crush because it pretty much plays out like one, but hey, whatever works!
Anyway, after that happened, I gathered my balls and called her to ask her on a date, and she sounded really surprised and excited about it. So I've got a date tomorrow. I'm pretty stoked, and I think it's the first time in my life I haven't been nervous about a first date. I don't know her all that well, but I know she's fun and easygoing, I'm just kind of looking forward to it. Somehow I'm not worried about "impressing" her or any of that shit, and I'm just excited to see her. But yeah, hopefully it goes well anyway ^_^
Being comfortable around someone is a great first step. Good Luck with your date, i hope you nail it!
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On July 27 2013 14:39 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan. meh that sounds like a real wimpy let down
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On July 27 2013 21:17 Mentalizor wrote:Show nested quote +On July 27 2013 18:40 Resent wrote: So, thought I'd update. The girl and I went out and had an amazing time. Can see now how much I was over thinking the entire thing haha...ended up just having a relaxing afternoon in the city. I was pretty awkward for a lot of it(which I expected to be) but she seemed to enjoy being around me anyway! So we met up again the next day and were together from about midday till midnight(so surprised I was able to keep her entertained for 12 hours rofl...). I will be seeing her again on Monday night.
Thanks everyone! Nice  Any progress regarding kissing and such? If she wants to spend that much time with you it's obviously a great thing - but if you're into her, she should know it and (at least in my head) it would be natural to kiss soon. Too many dates without anything happening can be really awkward or just casually cruising your way to the friend-zone Edit: Just went back and found some of your older posts. Show nested quote +On July 20 2013 10:22 Resent wrote: Yeh i just used the word date(when asking the girl out) to make sure it was clear that I was interested in meeting as more than just a friend. This is pretty good. But my question still stands regarding progress and kissing  We kissed during the second meeting.
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On July 28 2013 00:00 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 27 2013 12:12 Djzapz wrote: Well since this thread is here I'll go ahead and write in it.
Long story short, I'm 24 now, I was dumped on dec 23rd last year, been single since, had a few things with girls I couldn't see myself staying with for the long run but nothing really interesting.
A few weeks ago I bumped into this girl, Olivia. We talked a bit in university some 3 years ago, but I lost track of her after we were done with that class. I was with my ex at the time. As it turns out, she lives 5 minutes away from me. She's smart, beautiful, fun, 3 good qualities to have. She's also shy, which I find to be both adorable and very helpful, having historically been less than savvy at dates. She's slightly nerdy in normal-people terms, in that she likes some Nintendo classics and whatnot.
After bumping into her at a coffee shop, we shared our interwebs info and we've been flirting a bit online. Earlier, she told me "I really like talking to you" in the middle of a long conversation which touched many topics of various degrees of hotness... It all sounds like a teenage crush because it pretty much plays out like one, but hey, whatever works!
Anyway, after that happened, I gathered my balls and called her to ask her on a date, and she sounded really surprised and excited about it. So I've got a date tomorrow. I'm pretty stoked, and I think it's the first time in my life I haven't been nervous about a first date. I don't know her all that well, but I know she's fun and easygoing, I'm just kind of looking forward to it. Somehow I'm not worried about "impressing" her or any of that shit, and I'm just excited to see her. But yeah, hopefully it goes well anyway ^_^ Being comfortable around someone is a great first step. Good Luck with your date, i hope you nail it! Well, luck was had, it went great. I got a kiss and an overwhelmingly positive vibe from her. She's shy, as I said earlier, and she made a goofy nerdy reference that I didn't quite understand. It got a bit awkward because I got confused for a moment, and I think she got a little embarrassed so I said something dumb without getting patronizing and I think it made her feel comfortable with me.
It sounds like I'm over-analyzing the whole situation but when it happened, I didn't really think about it and I was just trying to make sure she had a good time. Other than that, it was just a pleasant date. We have a lot in common in terms of hobbies and other things which I won't get into. I'll say it that way, she has substance, but she's also funny and lighthearted. Also she genuinely seemed to enjoy my bad jokes, but visibly preferred the good ones 
I don't think I'll be posting updates very much if at all in the future, because it seems out of place to me, and I don't need to archive it. Especially if it goes well, I don't think I'll be publishing it here. But yeah, I'm pretty happy . Cheers.
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Can someone link me to star posts in this thread?
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On July 25 2013 04:07 MysteryMeat1 wrote: I love you basic! where have you been all my life!
Also from what i've seen, nice guys finish last becase they don't escalate at the right moments.
Please, please. Action Johnny is managing my groupies. You'll want to come to trailer #6 after the show. Bring ice cream or sour cream. Maybe both. Wear a white scarf for identification. And don't forget to tell Action Johnny, "Babaganoosh". That's the secret word. Good luck my sweet cherub.
On July 27 2013 14:39 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan.
Why pursue an interest that can't even muster up a real answer? Good luck, nonetheless 8)
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10 times in 18 hours and I'm sore as fuck. Note to future self: no more girls under 25.
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On July 29 2013 11:08 chadissilent wrote: 10 times in 18 hours and I'm sore as fuck. Note to future self: no more girls under 25. I'm surprised that she wasn't sore after time #6 if you guys were going hard. If not, then I can kinda get 10 times in 18 hours.
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I don't understand anything more than twice in one day
bitch I have shit to do.
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On July 29 2013 11:14 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On July 29 2013 11:08 chadissilent wrote: 10 times in 18 hours and I'm sore as fuck. Note to future self: no more girls under 25. I'm surprised that she wasn't sore after time #6 if you guys were going hard. If not, then I can kinda get 10 times in 18 hours. We slept for a few hours to give ourselves a chance to recharge.
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On July 27 2013 17:38 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On July 27 2013 14:39 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: Not sure. Asked a girl out and she said she doesn't know me at all. So I plan to propose some of her friends meet some of my friends and we form a group. Or meet in a public place. Probably will try the latter first. But she didn't say No nor did she says Yes. Time to plan. lolwut. That is the dumbest excuse in the world. Not sure if letting down easy or genuinely naive.
actually some girls are like that
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Me too dude, except it was a five way so the final tally after 18 hours was 10 for me, 40 for the gaggle of hoes
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I went on an awesome ad hoc date this Friday. Cautious about falling for her because I don't want an exclusive relationship and she seems to want nothing else.
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On July 29 2013 11:14 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On July 29 2013 11:08 chadissilent wrote: 10 times in 18 hours and I'm sore as fuck. Note to future self: no more girls under 25. I'm surprised that she wasn't sore after time #6 if you guys were going hard. If not, then I can kinda get 10 times in 18 hours. that SHE wasn't sore? Pretty sure my dick would fall off if I tried to come 10 times within 18 hours.
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