Dating: How's your luck? - Page 1047

On April 04 2019 11:00 L_Master wrote:
Well, haven't posted much due to being rather busy IRL with school, cycling, unfucking my anxiety, unfucking my eating, dating, etc.

It's been going well, one girl I had started seeing about 7 months ago continued to impress me with many of the things I was looking for and she is obviously quite into me as well. So after about 6 months of seeing almost everything I liked, and very rare, small instances of things I don't like I decided to up the ante when she finally insisted on knowing what we were and said that yes, we are dating. So I guess I have a GF now!

Overall I haven't had any drama from her, I'm not even sure if there has been a single 5 second instance, let alone anything that would resemble an actual confrontation. The intimacy we have is excellent, it's a very relaxing thing just being there with a person who you like and has affection for you, and the sex (my gradually recovering dick issues excluded) is quite good, as is the frequency. If anything I think she wants it slightly more than me...which is kinda surprising at this stage given that maybe 1 in 5 times is actual sex.

Very warm, very affectionate, just good feminine energy. She is fairly outgoing, but was very shy and closed up at first about communicating important things at first, but I basically told her that is a must for me, and she is getting much better about that. I was really concerned about that initially, but now I'm getting to where I feel pretty confident she is communicating with me about things she does/doesn't like in our relationship, and is struggling with or important to her life. I think the next thing to see is how this continues as we move into more of a relationship and less of a "see each other once a week for a night or less" type of thing.

So yea, so far checking most of my personal boxes:

- Affectionate/Warm/Caring
- No/Very Low Drama
- Communication
- Commitment to Making a Relationship Work (we talked about this and she agreed with, or expressed, similar sentiment on many things)
- In Shape
- Not religious

So overall in my mind lots of like. My one big concern right now is in terms of commonalities and interests. For me I have this idea in my mind of a partner who engages with me, and while she might not be as into my hobbies as me, takes an interest in them and participates in them sometimes and wants to learn about them. I can't say for sure if this would be a "dealbreaker" but it feels like it probably would. She isn't resistant to this, in fact she has shown openness to some of this (she has beaten the first terran campaign in BW ) but she isn't highly enthusiastic about it like I am in learning about some of the things she really enjoys. So that might depend on how it develops down the road.

Also, while she is at a healthy body weight, I can't say she eats that well and she definitely is a low exercise person. Not sedentary, she will hike occasionally and such things, but she definitely does not "exercise". That's something I feel like will be important in a long term partner for me, both because I place a huge value on that, and because if you aren't food conscious/don't exercise there is zero chance in my mind long term you won't gain lots of weight. Like above though, she is at the very least not opposed to the idea of doing some exercise with me. I'm not going to expect change, but given what I see I don't see it as a lost cause.

Overall though, really enjoying getting to know her, and I think at the very least the next year or two with her will be very enjoyable with the potential of possibly being someone I could consider truly long term.

On April 04 2019 20:51 GoTuNk! wrote:


Congrats on the relationship.
More important than common hobbies, common values! which you seem to have.

Def push the "more workout thing" and not the "more broodwar thing" lol. It's ok to have a few complete separate hobbies, I'm sure you are not into make up or wathever else she might do with her lady friends.
I tell my gf when I'm watching brood war but I leave it for my "me" time to watch; this comes from someone who spends 6-8 hours a day with hir gf most days.
The fact that she seems open to new things shows both she cares about you and is a bit more open minded, in the good sense, than most people. My 2 cents!

The fact that she seems open to new things shows both she cares about you and is a bit more open minded, in the good sense, than most people.

On April 05 2019 09:13 Emnjay808 wrote:
It’s not a physical thing for me, I lift regularly. + Show Spoiler +

It’s more like a mental block, like I know she most likely won’t reject me but I can’t seem to be willing to make the first move. Lately all the girls I’ve dated are the ones who made the first move and I think somehow I’ve growned accustomed to that. I know I need to break that mold because I know I’ll have some regrets. I think I just need to “rip the bandaid” and I’ll be back on track.

On April 27 2019 22:10 Hachiman wrote:
Hey guys, looking for some advice. My gf and I live together and have been dating for about two years. April has been rough as we've only been sexually intimate 1.25 times. Usually we are about 2 times a week and I've talked to her about how I'd like it closer to 3-4 times per week.

I had bought her tickets to go visit her grandparents on the other side of the country however she was about 8 hours late and her Grandpa sadly passed away after losing his fight with cancer. I do love this girl and I don't want to come off as a jerk so I'm looking at advice for when I should be bringing up our lack of sexual chemistry or if I should just suck it up and give it a couple more weeks as even though she might not be grieiving externally it could still be on her mind.

On April 27 2019 23:29 Dark_Chill wrote:

Give it as much time as she needs. Losing someone is fucking rough, and it's important to have supportive, not forceful people in your life.
That doesn't mean that you can't do minor physical escalations or such. If she's receptive, then nothing wrong with that. Despite what I said before, everyone grieves slightly differently, so it'll really depend on how she feels. You'll probably know better than we do, but I'd still say urge on the side of not bringing it up immediately.

On April 27 2019 23:33 GoTuNk! wrote:


Huh "begging" your gf for sex is def not the way to get it.
Why did sex frequency stop? Have you initiated and been turned down?