The PUA community - Page 82

On February 11 2012 08:24 squattincassanova wrote:



I beg to differ. Most guys are sluts who can't get any.

On February 11 2012 08:42 Rekrul wrote:
cassanova u say u got laid 12 times last year, but considering all the time you've spent 'approaching sets,' studying, foruming, recording vids, posting them for comments and self analysis, online dating site stuff, that number is actually ridiculously low

especially in san diego, it's just an extremely low success rate, especially given how much you hype up the PUA approach, and the fact that you're a big ripped dude and girls love that

i'm confused

On February 11 2012 09:04 Rekrul wrote:
I see, that makes sense. What are your 2012 projections?

On February 11 2012 09:25 mads wrote:
Rekrul take me out when I'm in Seoul in 2 weeks. Bottles on me, cheachea. I don't have the time or energy to organize a meetup or anything like that.

On February 11 2012 08:13 squattincassanova wrote:
"Trying to get 'lays' like others". You mean the average guy who gets 8 lays their entire lives?

On February 11 2012 08:53 squattincassanova wrote:


Well....all I can say is this. A measure of success is not necessarily the end result after 1 year, but how far you come. I was the stereotypical Asian nerd who played Starcraft all day long. I had over 10,000 games of Starcraft under my belt. I also logged ridiculous hours in Team Fortress 2, Heroes of Newerth, Diablo 2, Counter Strike and a crap load of other games. In college, I studied engineering and worked 3 jobs. I never had the chance to socialize.

My lay count before last year was 2. Now going from 2 lay count to 12 additional lay count in one year, I would consider that a MAJOR change. People say, well your lay to effort ratio is terrible. And I say who cares? If I didn't put in that effort, I would have gotten ZERO lays. And being buff doesn't mean shit if you don't have game because I was buff before I got into the game.

Also, keep in mind, I live 70 miles from San Diego where I game, and this shit happens all the time where the girl is down but I can't get the logistics in my favor. This video happened last week and it happens ALLLLL the time. Was the girl down? 200% yes.... but did logistics cock block me? Absolutely. Did my skills increase over the year? X1000%. Getting the girl and adding the lay count doesn't mean much. I could fuck a buncha fatties but that doesn't make me happier or better at game, nor will it help me find my perfect 10.

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Yeah sometimes I think about what if I had banged 10+ different chicks in my lifetime, but now that I'm a married man I try to erase thoughts like that out of my mind.

On February 11 2012 08:36 Xiphos wrote:


No most guys are awkward human being who have no clue how to utilize their hormones.

On February 11 2012 13:34 JudicatorHammurabi wrote:

But you know what? (This is basically the TL;DR) I don't care that I am the 1% of people who aren't in the typical college living/social scenario. I don't lose my spirits, and I don't lose my hope. I don't care that herp-derps who are socially, and behaviorally, and physically repulsive can with 0 effort have a decent social life just on the basis on living with / near their peers. I don't care that I got rejected by the ARMY ROTC for being flat-footed and a bad past injury. I don't care the only thing going for me in my life is either my intelligence/intellect I've been working on my whole life, being great at vid games, alright social abilities, and sorta living middle class. And much more. Because what matters is that I keep my head up and keep on fighting. And it isn't about PU or whatever, it's about everything in life. Squattin goes 70 miles to do his favorite hobby, and maybe has had 120 girls put him down completely on the convenience issue, and yet he still sticks with it because he keeps his head up. Occasionally I get shit on by a course due to misgradings or just messing up, and I still try hard, and the other things, including making friends with people who basically have the mantra of "be convenient always and spend a lot of time with me or gtfo". It's about being in the lead of things.

I'm sorry for talking about things unrelated to PU, but if PU relates to self-improvement, then I'm not too off-topic, because I'm all about improving myself. Anyways, peace. I'm out.

Btw, squattin, a serious question:
Why don't you go to clubs in Orange County or wherever you live?
They're pretty good from what I've been told, and logistics becomes a non-issue. Your success rate gets 50% better, and you don't get trolled by people on this forum.


It's easy to erase from your mind. I don't even think about it. When I decide to get married in 5+ years, I highly doubt it will trouble me. When I am in a relationship, it doesn't bother me, fwiw.

On February 11 2012 14:53 squattincassanova wrote:



I feel you. You just gotta do what you gotta do. Also, dont forget, I started pickup legitly at age 28. Even if you waited till you are done with college, you would be 22 years old and you would still have a fucking 6 year head start.

And this is why my logistics suck balls....

On February 10 2012 18:48 r.Evo wrote:
I want to see a certain "wow, this feels awesome" in her eyes.

On February 10 2012 18:48 r.Evo wrote:
....some kind of place in time and space where everything can be light-hearted, fun and easy-going.

On February 10 2012 18:48 r.Evo wrote:


I think I know where you're coming from and I'll suggest to use a simple switch in your mindset: Don't try to make those topics more interesting, BE more interested in them. Be passionate about whatever you're talking about. Take stuff lightly and with a wink.

On February 10 2012 18:48 r.Evo wrote:
The concept behind this is the answer to your question about how to make stuff more interesting. Make it emotional. If you talk about how you love a certain food you have to describe it in a way as if you're eating it right now and she wants some as well. If you describe a beautiful landscape (I usually describe one of my martial arts training camps we have during summer) you have to feel it as if you were there. You want to have her say/think "Wow, that sounds awesome I wish I'd have seen that, too!"

Practice this stuff in your daily life. Storytelling. If you talk about awesome food, people should want to eat it. If you talk about awesome places, people should want to be there. If you talk about any experience, people should want to make that experience as well. Be passionate. ~ That's in a nutshell how you get someone to roll along.

NLP/theory version: You state-break whatever she was doing/thinking/feeling, give her something intense but senseless to do/think/feel which you're experiencing as well (pacing). - Then you (emotionally) pick her up from there and lead her to the next experience.

Repeat this process of pacing (let her talk too, doh!) and leading for 15-20 minutes and it will feel as if it was 1-2 hours. During those 15-20 minutes you are able to successfully screen her for stuff (give me an example you'd like to screen, then I can give a more concrete idea) and, if you still like her, can isolate and escalte further. Kino obv starts with the opening, but nothing "heavy" until after this phase.

On February 11 2012 19:34 IDoNotAgree wrote:


So in short this (above) comes forth from this (below)



I mainly do day game (in Asia), so I've been trying not to be too much fun and confident, because girls will often conclude I'm some kind of player. Maybe I could try to create this feeling on the day 2, but my biggest problems is actually getting day 2's.



Yeah that's what I try to do, but I haven't been able to keep it going for longer than 1 or 2 sentences. Your (Squatting's) example gave me a lot of ideas though.
I just need to talk about the following in a silly way and involve her:
-what my work means for other people in the long and short run
-what my work means for me
-anything she is likely to know related to my work
-generalizations about my work or something related
-simple explanation

I'm not that interested in my own work. ;p I just realized I can easily shift the topic to what I want to do instead.

I'll try your method of opening, maybe next time I do some night game.




I've been trying to do this, but I can only do this somewhat successfully for a few topics. For this to be successful you need to be able to describe a certain experience which create these emotions, but I don't have a lot of emotional experiences. Of course you can easily exaggerate the emotions in any experience, but for some topics I have no experience at all.

For example, some topic I have trouble with are: studying English, her job/study, where I live.
Though as I'm writing this I'm getting some ideas, maybe I just haven't given it a serious attempt.

How do you go about leading to the next experience?
Let's say she brings up business management. You pace a story about how you worked in a business and everything was a chaos; Exaggeration a story that has really happened to you. Then what? Do you go into a story related to the business that has a different emotion to it? Or do you go into a different story not related to the business where everything was chaotic as well? Or something completely different?