The "PUA/Playah" Discussion Thread. - Page 4

On August 29 2009 03:59 Foucault wrote:
First and foremost, realize than in order to be good with women, you have to be able to manipulate and use gender roles to your advantage. What this means is that everyone has a picture of what a man and a woman is like and if you display manly traits in the right way, women will pick up on this.
Alot of PUA stuff is based on Mysterys old assumptions of what women like in men, which are based on gender roles. We're talking "protector of loved ones", independent, careless etc.

I would say I'm naturally quite good with women, and it might be because I have two sisters or whatever but I get along with women good most of the time. I think a sensibility towards people and being somewhat emotional helps alot in this, because women are very emotional and therefor seek emotional rapport and connection with others. You will need to be curious about others and respect women. Genuine likeability doesn't come from looking down on women and believing they are all whores, but to actually like women. This shines through becuase you will feel more at ease at around women and you will actually be interested in what they have to say.

So, talk to women and be interested in what they have to say but don't be interested in THEM right off the bat. You will want to suddenly go "oh well it was great talking to you, I'm gonna go talk to my friends a bit now" like talking to her ain't a biggie. Behave like discussion in general appeals to you; this will display two things: 1) You are socially competent and women like guys that can behave in public 2) You aren't showing that much interest in her specifically but rather you talk with alot of people, although you like talking to her as well.

Women aren't as sensitive as many guys think. She doesn't break or gets devastated that easily, she isn't made of glass no matter how feminine she seems. Women seem to be MUCH better at handling physical pain in general than guys and rarely complain alot when they hurt, probably because they are used to it. Monthly stomach aches and what not.

Don't be afraid to be frank about the fact that you find her attractive. Actually a frank comment like "I am attracted to you" with an easy smile just before you tell her that you will go talk to someone else can work wonders. Have the girl come chase you, not the other way around.

Learn to read peoples body language, what they say and HOW they say it. If you have good social competence I guess you are probably already somewhat good with women. Never EVER be desperate for a woman, like she would be your only choice unless you are already together. If you are already together, stop the player vibe and love your woman. Never be a crybaby or wuss about things, no one, even guys like people who just complain all the time and are scared about everything.

Things that scare you are things you should do just because they make you feel fucking alive and it's the best feeling in the world.

Hm what else...oh yeah, don't think too much. Be natural and don't overdo anything. Women look alot more at guys personalities than one would think. We are used to looking at womens face, boobs and ass and there are probably many biological reasons for this. Women look for a guy who can stand up for himself and has traits that she (and most of women) find attractive. Developing a personality will do much more for you than get a super-hot gym body. Believe that!

Be well-groomed. Clean clothes ALWAYS. Cut your nails, use a facial body lotion; they are cheap and makes your skin alot better. Brush your teeth, have decent hair. A pair of jeans and a nice t-shirt can be great, it's not that important. It's how you carry your clothes. Always walk with a fucking straight back and never ever ever ever slouch. Read the last sentence again. Look into peoples eyes no matter how uncomfortable it may be for you (seems to be for many people). Seeking eye contact and holding it although it's hard, will also help you if you have social anxiety of any degree, because you aren't looking away and imagining everyone laughing at your silly old self. You actually notice what's going on and that no ones laughing.

Finally, laugh alot and don't take meeting women so seriously. Of course you can easily get away with being laidback and not give a fuck if you are Brad Pitt or look like a greek god but like I said it's not THAT important to women with looks. It's how you carry yourself and what your personality is like that matters.

That's all for now, good luck.

On September 01 2009 18:36 Garnet wrote:
Noob question, but what is "MM"?

On September 12 2009 10:48 Courthead wrote:
You know what always annoyed me about this stuff? It's so... not thorough. It only covers one thing, really: how to approach a girl in public. What about the rest of the process? Whether you want a girlfriend or you just want something physical, getting a number is only the first small step.

Personally, I have few problems approaching girls, starting conversations, being confident in public, etc. Embarrassingly enough, the situation where I suck the most is after I get a girl alone in my room with the obvious subtext of "okay this is the part where we hook up." I must be looking at it in a fundamentally wrong way, because for the life of me I just cannot transition from "haha how funny was that guy at the bar" to physical intimacy. Am I supposed to just blurt out "baby let's take off our clothes and get nasty" or what?

After 5-10 minutes of some idle chatter and some awkward silence, it's just too late... she gives me a sad look that says, "I wanted this to happen, but I guess it's not going to," then it's over. GG. You have no idea how frustrating it is to consistently get so close and fail so bad. Every time I've actually succeeded it's because the girl was drunk, told me to shutup, and basically raped me.

Any advice?

On August 30 2009 13:57 FuDDx wrote:
O god my eyes!!!!! They bleed !!!!!!! O,To be a horny raging nerd again gl guys.

On September 12 2009 14:28 ShaperofDreams wrote:


Hey you magic balloon-man you have hax!

The biggest problem i think most internet addicts have is confidence + experience

Also a lot of stuff people do on the internet (including me) just eats their time, not bringing genuine joy. Now we have easy-to-use supplements that temporarily cure loneliness, sexual frustration, and boredom.

If you want to try harder to get the things you want and chase your dreams faster:

-stop jacking off
-stop playing games
-stop watching movies (actually lets just make this entertainment in general)
-stop talking to people online

Trust me you will get lonely and bored, and you will go out.

When I say stop I mean marginalize don't let your balls become watermelons

On August 31 2009 23:57 Lefnui wrote:


My lord, what garbage. Such simplistic, generic nonsense.

OP, if you are truly searching for advice on such a topic here then your case is hopeless.