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So I'm 20, in school, i have a girlfriend, but i've also been sleeping with her roommate for a couple months now. Her roommate is more attractive, less needy, smarter, and fits my personality much more, she likes video games, is in love with a certain Mr. Day[9] (who isn't), better in bed, pretty much an upgrade in every way as cruel as that sounds. But anyway, My girlfriend has emotional issues, she's super attached and incredibly stressed out by her major which is providing her with many hours of work every day. I'm already an asshole for sleeping with her roommate, but i don't want to be an even bigger asshole and dump her for her roommate. Pretty much i can't date the other girl if i break up with my girlfriend. Because apparently my conscious can only be overridden in a few bursts a day (no pun intended) i am stuck in this awkward situation.
But on to the part that just makes shit worse for me. Girl 2 is on a date with some guy tonight, and they are probably screwing right now to be honest. It's kind of killing me. Because i definitely have feelings for her but i know that i both can't tell her or act on them and try to pursue a relationship. My girlfriend has been going through one of the most stressful times of her life, and all i can think about is her roommate, i've gotten incredibly irritated my girlfriend lately, unable to help her with any problems without wanting to yell, i don't i just walk away, but definitely not helping anything.
I'm a "nice guy" so having multiple girls is not something i'm too accustomed to, nor something i really meant to happen. It also means i'm going to feel incredibly guilty if i decide to try with girl 2, and feel really depressed if i stay with my girlfriend. I'm contemplating just dumping my girlfriend, keeping the casual sex with girl 2, and moving on with college for a little while. It's definitely an attempt to get out of a negative relationship, and still keep my positive one, but i really don't know how to make it work properly. Anyone have a BO for this? Or maybe some of the more cassanovesque TLers have some good stories to share to educate me?
TL;DR screwing 2 girls generally a bad idea.
Damn, i broke down and made a girl blog, guess i know it's gotten bad.
 
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From your behaviour, you don't really deserve to be dating either of them. Or anyone else, for that matter. Walking away from everyone is about the best thing you can do right now.
You're cheating on a girl with another girl, and it's pissing you off that the second girl is sleeping with someone else? You need a reality check.
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On April 19 2012 13:41 khaydarin9 wrote:
From your behaviour, you don't really deserve to be dating either of them. Or anyone else, for that matter. Walking away from everyone is about the best thing you can do right now.
You're cheating on a girl with another girl, and it's pissing you off that the second girl is sleeping with someone else? You need a reality check.
no just making me sad 
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Russian Federation3631 Posts
nor something i really meant to happen.
I did laugh IRL when I got to this part. "Its not my fault, I'm a nice guy, really, its just like, I was waylaid by feminine wiles and all!"
I recommend not inflicting yourself on women.
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On April 19 2012 13:43 PrinceXizor wrote:Show nested quote +On April 19 2012 13:41 khaydarin9 wrote:
From your behaviour, you don't really deserve to be dating either of them. Or anyone else, for that matter. Walking away from everyone is about the best thing you can do right now.
You're cheating on a girl with another girl, and it's pissing you off that the second girl is sleeping with someone else? You need a reality check. no just making me sad
I dont think you even have the right to be sad, at this point. You cannot win in this situation.
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Definitely leave your girlfriend, I'm not saying you need to tell her the truth, but if she knew how you felt she definitely would not want to stay with you, most likely. You could always just be her friend cause if she's emotional and stressed out that's what she needs, not a boyfriend who cheats on her and gets irritated when she needs help with something.
As for girl 2 I do not know. Tell her how you feel? lol
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Dunk your head in cold water and slap yourself with a fish.
You're a fucking asshole.
Cheating is NEVER ok under ANY circumstances. Do you even realize the kind of emotional devastation that you're putting your gf through? You say you've been doing this for months! Grow up! Man up, break up with her, tell her you've been unfaithful (she WILL find out eventually, better to come clean), and gtfo of her life. That means leaving her room-mate well enough alone.
You deserve way more pain and misery than you say you're in. Accept that and grow the fuck up.
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Who on earth walks around and tells men all that crap that girls are made of sugar and let their life get ruined by every random guy they date at age twenty ?!
We are not made of sugar. We don't wear pink all the time and are so horribly naive that we just don't see when a relationship is not working out anymore.
Your GF may be emotionally attached to you and be stressed out by her studies, but keeping her in that passive-aggressive suspense is about the most stupid thing I've heard anyone do lately. It's not nice of you, it's belitteling her and keeping her from getting over you and on with her life for the better. She will be mad at you, she won't talk to you and it is also possible that she's going to tell every girl she knows that you have a tiny Johnson once she finds out about that roommate-thingy, but she won't die of it.
TL;DR: Stop cheating by ending the relationship with your GF. Seriously.
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You're a dick. Feel bad! D:<
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End the relationship, and don't date girl two. If she is willing to sleep with you while your dating her roommate and what I assume would be her friend it doesn't sound like the recipe for a stable relationship. Take a break and bone everything you can, sounds like what you want to be doing anyways.
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On April 19 2012 13:41 khaydarin9 wrote:
From your behaviour, you don't really deserve to be dating either of them. Or anyone else, for that matter. Walking away from everyone is about the best thing you can do right now.
You're cheating on a girl with another girl, and it's pissing you off that the second girl is sleeping with someone else? You need a reality check.
To be fair, his "needy" girlfriend is most likely cheating on him with another guy - that's usually how those needy types are.
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Break up and keep it casual with the roommate. Ignore all the jealous posters telling you how much of an asshole you are, cheating's pretty common and can just happen (especially if the girl's interested in you, more compatible and hotter). It's not like you're married with kids. You're 20. You just don't want to hurt the first girl but it's unavoidable at this point.
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On April 19 2012 14:17 Scarecrow wrote:
Break up and keep it casual with the roommate. Ignore all the jealous posters telling you how much of an asshole you are, cheating's pretty common and can just happen (especially if the girl's interested in you, more compatible and hotter). It's not like you're married with kids. You're 20. You just don't want to hurt the first girl but it's unavoidable at this point.
Some of those "jealous posters" have been in similar situations, or perhaps on the other side. If you're a normal human being, the second that something like cheating happens or is threatened, you fucking break up immediately. Don't keep going for months then proceed to whine about your own sadness. That's pretty sick.
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On April 19 2012 14:17 Scarecrow wrote:
Break up and keep it casual with the roommate. Ignore all the jealous posters telling you how much of an asshole you are, cheating's pretty common and can just happen (especially if the girl's interested in you, more compatible and hotter). It's not like you're married with kids. You're 20. You just don't want to hurt the first girl but it's unavoidable at this point.
you are setting yourself up to hurt girl 1, and girl 2 is probably just going to hurt you. Might as well rip the band aid off now before it gets stuck on there too bad
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but i don't want to be an even bigger asshole and dump her for her roommate. Pretty much i can't date the other girl if i break up with my girlfriend. Because apparently my conscious can only be overridden in a few bursts a day (no pun intended) i am stuck in this awkward situation.
I don't think this is your conscious speaking.
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Just stick it out with your girlfriend. Shes gonna graduate and then get a PHD and then rake in $$$ and you guys can live happy ever after.
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Holy shit some people are infuriated at the OP.
I think it's best to drop everything and leave.
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On April 19 2012 14:30 Thaniri wrote:
Holy shit some people are infuriated at the OP.
I think it's best to drop everything and leave.
Some people have been in the situation he is putting his gf.
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On April 19 2012 13:32 PrinceXizor wrote:
I'm a "nice guy"
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On April 19 2012 13:32 PrinceXizor wrote:
screwing 2 girls
What the hell did I just read
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I always get a good laugh at these girl blogs. I reckon the OP, you should stick to your current gf.
Why? Because Girl 2 is probably just another slut TBH. There's a big difference between casual sex and being in a relationship with those type of women, plus you will end up being way more attached than you'd think (it's a bad thing) and thus won't end good. If Girl 2 is just going from cock to cock, no real money in it for you buddy.
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