EPTA terrible situation (girl blog) - Page 4
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Wrongspeedy
United States1655 Posts
On April 20 2012 01:34 Servius_Fulvius wrote: Sounds like you should have broken up with your girlfriend a long time ago. Stop wondering whether or not you're going to make her stress worse. Eventually she'll find out. Save face and be a little bit less of a scumbag. Sounds like you have a real catch. Nice guys have enough integrity to end a relationship before sleeping around or owning up to the mistake after the first encounter and end the relationship. You think you're being helpful by staying with your girlfriend and helping with the stress, but in the mean time you've lost your patience with her and can't really help her with her stress anymore. Given the negative reactions to this thread, I hope you're not using it as a way to punish yourself. Mistakes were made, but that means you can learn from them and start being the "nice guy" you say you are. I totally agree. You have to seperate the "Who" from the "Do". Nice guys don't pull their dick out just because they can, but it doesn't mean you aren't capable of being a nice guy, just means your actions in the relationship don't make it seem like your a nice guy. Just because you have cheated in the past doesn't really make you a cheater, while cheating habitually for the sake of cheating would make you a cheater. I don't really see anything wrong with dating the other girl, but it will be awkward probably. You should probably be honest with your current girlfriend about what happend if your planning on dating the other. And I wouldn't just jump right into another relationship right away (but thats just me, has nothing to do with "morals"). I also don't know the girls personally but I know a lot of girls do this with guys (date someone, find someone more "attractive", dump and immediately begin another relationship). I guess all I have to say is that being completely honest with someone your dating or going to be dating is really important regardless of how weird it may seem to be. Everyone talking about "whiteknights" are just insulting people they don't agree with without actually saying who. I guess that makes them "cowardlysquires". I hate to say this, but something is Wrong with you if you think sleeping with someone while your in a relationship with another (not even roomates) is okay in any circumstance. Even two wrongs don't make a right. | ||
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
On April 20 2012 01:51 PrinceXizor wrote: i can say that being with 2 girls is not a good idea, for all you young TLers out there. Hey, at least he's a fast learner. | ||
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PrinceXizor
United States17713 Posts
i said so in my original post but i thought i'd bring it up again. | ||
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tests
United States160 Posts
10/10 for troll attempt? | ||
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DISHU
United Kingdom348 Posts
And sometimes I just stick a carrot up these it helps out. | ||
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Nos-
Canada12016 Posts
Do your gf a favour and break up, then realize you're not a nice guy and move on. | ||
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khaydarin9
Australia423 Posts
On April 20 2012 02:12 serge wrote: TL is possibly the second worst place to ask these questions (feminist forums taking first place). This advice thread is already full of effeminate idiots who some more reasonable posters refer to as "white knights." Do whatever makes you most happy, as long as it doesn't break the law. Don't let anyone else tell you what to do. Yeah, but the crucial point here is: doing what you want =/= what makes you happy. No one forced this guy to sleep with his girlfriend's roommate - I'm assuming he did so because he wanted to, but it's clearly not making him happy. It's probably not going to make his girlfriend happy, but no one has really considered her feelings in this equation because she's "needy", therefore she had it coming, right? Right? T_T OP wants to be in a relationship with the roommate - "relationship" as opposed to casual sex, because he's already uncomfortable with the idea of her seeing other people - but for reasons that have been indelicately pointed out by other posters, it kind of sounds like a recipe for disaster. 1) She'll be his ex-girlfriend's roommate, even if she's not her friend anymore, 2) There is a precedent on him cheating on his girlfriends, 3) There is a precedent of her sleeping with men she's not really supposed to be sleeping with. Part of growing up is understanding that you have to not do things that you might want to do, and probably do things you don't want to do, in order to be happy. Also, at least two of your "effeminate idiots" who have posted in this thread are girls. | ||
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SomniGiggles
United Kingdom214 Posts
On April 20 2012 09:11 khaydarin9 wrote: + Show Spoiler + Yeah, but the crucial point here is: doing what you want =/= what makes you happy. No one forced this guy to sleep with his girlfriend's roommate - I'm assuming he did so because he wanted to, but it's clearly not making him happy. It's probably not going to make his girlfriend happy, but no one has really considered her feelings in this equation because she's "needy", therefore she had it coming, right? Right? T_T OP wants to be in a relationship with the roommate - "relationship" as opposed to casual sex, because he's already uncomfortable with the idea of her seeing other people - but for reasons that have been indelicately pointed out by other posters, it kind of sounds like a recipe for disaster. 1) She'll be his ex-girlfriend's roommate, even if she's not her friend anymore, 2) There is a precedent on him cheating on his girlfriends, 3) There is a precedent of her sleeping with men she's not really supposed to be sleeping with. Part of growing up is understanding that you have to not do things that you might want to do, and probably do things you don't want to do, in order to be happy. Also, at least two of your "effeminate idiots" who have posted in this thread are girls. Pretty much this. If you sleep with a girl who you're not in a relationship with, but knows you're in a relationship, ergo knows you're cheating. What's to say when she is in a relationship with you, not think, oh, I'll cheat because why not, he is comfortable doing it and I have already done it once. It's like punching a homeless guy, you know you should never do it, but you do it once and WOAH you get that rush you just have to keep doing it. Homeless guy = relationships | ||
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