EPT2. You should look how girl-2 behaves after you break up. I bet she is interested in you because you happen to be a boyfriend to her friend.
3. Move on.
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bokeevboke
Singapore1674 Posts
2. You should look how girl-2 behaves after you break up. I bet she is interested in you because you happen to be a boyfriend to her friend. 3. Move on. | ||
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Tobberoth
Sweden6375 Posts
On April 19 2012 17:21 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Of course it's a terrible feeling. I have been through it and life went on and I don't hate that person for making the mistake that she made. I moved on too to a relationship that's much better. The reason it happened to me is because it wasn't a good relationship and I'm glad it's over now. Wish it was over before she cheated on me but I think she was otherwise a nice girl who deserves to be happy. You can't boil someones life or character down to a single error they've made. I think I'm much more forgiving than the average person though. I agree. I'm marrying the girl who cheated on me next year, so I have no problem forgiving people if there are valid reasons... in this case, a long distance relationship for over a year. There is however a difference in making a mistake, and being a douche. This guy hasn't made a mistake and slept with another girl.. he has been constantly, for more than 1 month, been sleeping with his girlfriends roommate. That's not a mistake, that's a shitty attitude. | ||
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Terranoob
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IMHope
Korea (South)1241 Posts
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iTzSnypah
United States1738 Posts
1 of 2 things will happen. 1: 3way will happen and then you slowly drift away from gf and break up with her later down the road. 2: 3way doesn't happen and you say it is a deal breaker and break up. If 2 happens she will think your childish and breaking up with a childish person is much easier than breaking up with a dick. If 1 happens then lucky you. | ||
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terranu1
Romania53 Posts
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Riedell VII
United States12 Posts
You need to micro more. This guy clearly knows what's up. So. You're cheating on your girlfriend, huh? With her roommate. And at the time you made the post, you were upset that her roommate was out on a date with another guy. You poor, poor dear. Surely it must be very painful to wonder or suspect that someone you love is sleeping with someone else. | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On April 19 2012 13:32 PrinceXizor wrote:But on to the part that just makes shit worse for me. Lmao, who cares about you? You're being a huge douchebag, you deserve what you get. On April 19 2012 13:32 PrinceXizor wrote: I'm a "nice guy" so having multiple girls is not something i'm too accustomed to, nor something i really meant to happen. Hahaha! "I'm a nice guy, I swear!" Whatever you need to tell yourself, dude. You're pretty low. | ||
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SomniGiggles
United Kingdom214 Posts
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bibilisk
France44 Posts
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
On April 19 2012 16:24 Myrkskog wrote: This is pretty much the perfect recipe for a threesome. Don't squander it. Um, no its not | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
Yeah, what you did kinda sucks, but you're young and in college. Shit happens. You weren't married or something. As for what to do? I'd end it with GF #1 for sure, then what do to do from there is kinda up you. Doing the "casual sex" thing with girl #2 might work out ok, but you are already showing that you are getting emotionally attached/jealous. Casual sex/FWB rarely works out that way. You could try to secure a monogamous relationship with her, but knowing that she is with her friend's BF is probably not a great starting point. Honestly, I'd bail on both girls, get your head straight after a few months, then get back on the saddle with a different girl. Maybe hit up girl #2 after you and her have gotten in a more stable situation, maybe not. | ||
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Sabin010
United States1892 Posts
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DreamChaser
1649 Posts
On April 19 2012 18:03 Terranoob wrote: You need to micro more. Naw needs better macro/decision making, the micro is there he has yet to get caught cheating on his gf. But the long term goals of his strategy are clearly lacking. | ||
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Wrongspeedy
United States1655 Posts
On April 19 2012 22:36 Salv wrote: Lmao, who cares about you? You're being a huge douchebag, you deserve what you get. Hahaha! "I'm a nice guy, I swear!" Whatever you need to tell yourself, dude. You're pretty low. How do people get this delusional? Are you serious HardlyNever (just the Whiteknight part, your advice really isn't bad)? Reality dictates you give a fuck about the people you live around and don't toy with their emotions for your own gain. His relationships are more about himself than anyone else, he is better off masturbating alone than doing what he is doing. Reality is; cheating makes you a prick. | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On April 19 2012 13:32 PrinceXizor wrote: So I'm 20, in school, i have a girlfriend, but i've also been sleeping with her roommate for a couple months now. Her roommate is more attractive, less needy, smarter, and fits my personality much more, she likes video games, is in love with a certain Mr. Day[9] (who isn't), better in bed, pretty much an upgrade in every way as cruel as that sounds. But anyway, My girlfriend has emotional issues, she's super attached and incredibly stressed out by her major which is providing her with many hours of work every day. I'm already an asshole for sleeping with her roommate, but i don't want to be an even bigger asshole and dump her for her roommate. Pretty much i can't date the other girl if i break up with my girlfriend. Because apparently my conscious can only be overridden in a few bursts a day (no pun intended) i am stuck in this awkward situation. Sounds like you should have broken up with your girlfriend a long time ago. Stop wondering whether or not you're going to make her stress worse. Eventually she'll find out. Save face and be a little bit less of a scumbag. But on to the part that just makes shit worse for me. Girl 2 is on a date with some guy tonight, and they are probably screwing right now to be honest. It's kind of killing me. Sounds like you have a real catch. I'm a "nice guy" so having multiple girls is not something i'm too accustomed to, nor something i really meant to happen. Nice guys have enough integrity to end a relationship before sleeping around or owning up to the mistake after the first encounter and end the relationship. You think you're being helpful by staying with your girlfriend and helping with the stress, but in the mean time you've lost your patience with her and can't really help her with her stress anymore. Given the negative reactions to this thread, I hope you're not using it as a way to punish yourself. Mistakes were made, but that means you can learn from them and start being the "nice guy" you say you are. | ||
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PrinceXizor
United States17713 Posts
girl 2 actually left the date early and came to my apartment instead. I have decided to break up with my gf, just trying to work out the best time, i don't want to negatively impact her future, so i probably will wait until finals week is over. IS that a good idea? I expected most of these responses, i just needed a place to vent my frustration and TL is that place for me. Thank you guys. Also just based on how I've felt let alone how my gf will feel, i can say that being with 2 girls is not a good idea, for all you young TLers out there. | ||
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serge
Russian Federation142 Posts
On April 20 2012 01:51 PrinceXizor wrote: Small update: girl 2 actually left the date early and came to my apartment instead. I have decided to break up with my gf, just trying to work out the best time, i don't want to negatively impact her future, so i probably will wait until finals week is over. IS that a good idea? I expected most of these responses, i just needed a place to vent my frustration and TL is that place for me. Thank you guys. Also just based on how I've felt let alone how my gf will feel, i can say that being with 2 girls is not a good idea, for all you young TLers out there. TL is possibly the second worst place to ask these questions (feminist forums taking first place). This advice thread is already full of effeminate idiots who some more reasonable posters refer to as "white knights." Do whatever makes you most happy, as long as it doesn't break the law. Don't let anyone else tell you what to do. | ||
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guN-viCe
United States687 Posts
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guN-viCe
United States687 Posts
On April 20 2012 02:12 serge wrote: TL is possibly the second worst place to ask these questions (feminist forums taking first place). This advice thread is already full of effeminate idiots who some more reasonable posters refer to as "white knights." Do whatever makes you most happy, as long as it doesn't break the law. Don't let anyone else tell you what to do. Go back to Misc man. "More reasonable posters"...LOL | ||
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