JWD, i feel you man. I just had one case 2 days ago: Both of us agreed on a dinner date on thursday evening, and i always drop a call/text to confirm like 3 hours before, and 30 min before the supposed timing, she answers my call and says "OH SORRY MY PARENTS ARE BACK HOME THEY GROUNDED ME" (yea, wadever). and so i say, ok, pick a date and time. she says, Saturday evening. Alright, fair enough.

on Saturday morning, i drop her a call and text again, she doesnt answer or reply forever. I'm not going to talk to her ever again.

Good thing that i always schedule guy outings on the days I plan chillout sessions with girls - 70% of the time they will back out, I just happily go along with my guy pals, heh.

Age, yea. But guys flake slightly less than girls, i feel. I think i am going to plan my selection criteria on flakiness, haha.

NarutO

Germany18839 Posts

April 06 2009 08:47 GMT

#42

Girls.___________.!

EvoChamber

France2505 Posts

April 06 2009 09:01 GMT

#43

Very nice post about an unpleasant topic. I dunno, it seems either you meet someone here (at Stanford) your first year or you're basically shit out of luck for the next three years, or even four if you co-term/fifth-year. Quarter system's too short to get to know people well, plus everyone's too busy/career-oriented. Not to mention the low population density makes random encounters almost non-existent. I think the best thing you can do is to just not dwell on it too much and to get off campus as much as you can. If you don't have a car, though, you're pretty much screwed.

Person514cs

1004 Posts

April 06 2009 09:06 GMT

#44

Having problem find a protential mate in your local area?

That's not too bad. There are 6.7 billion people out there. If you can afford to travel around the world I am sure you will find some interesting ladies.

Ichigo1234551

United States649 Posts

April 06 2009 09:14 GMT

#45

You gonna be the alpha male man. You also gotta show that you can be mad. When you show a girl that you are mad at her, she finds that attractive in a guy. She will sees you as a different from other guys because why would a guy that wanna get into her pants says he is mad at her. If it doesnt work then move on man. Dont have oneitis

tiffany

3664 Posts

April 06 2009 09:15 GMT

#46

On April 06 2009 16:24 geometryb wrote:
should invite 2 girls everytime. when one cancels, you can go with the other one. and if both can go then you should just cancel on someone!

it's really stupid for someone to cancel when they bought tickets in advance.

girls, this is your dream date. behind the cunning is a gentle man willing to spend 300 dollars on a meal for you!

TicTacToe

China21 Posts

April 06 2009 09:17 GMT

#47

On April 06 2009 16:31 JWD wrote:

Show nested quote +

FML

Edit: on second thought, this just can't be true. I have had girls lose my interest by flaking on me, and then call/text me multiple times the next week trying to get a second chance at a date. The girl who flaked on me tonight went out with me a couple days ago and said she had a great time - all signs (aside from the flake) point to her being interested.

It's not she's interested in you, it's just you are a back-up for her.
You moving forward, she back off. You back off, she got all freaked out and do something hopefully get you back. And as long as you moving forward, ask her out again I'd say same thing will happen again.
It's just simply a stupid game.
In China we have a new saying, "in a relationship, you serious, you lose"
Kinda sad though.

Jaeden

Romania1489 Posts

April 06 2009 09:37 GMT

#48

just remember every time u go out with ur friends to drink somethin` and she isn`t invited, and u tell her that you'll be back in 3-4 hours but u completely forgot and etc. And the best part is that she cant even get mad coz u know...that's what all men do ^^

LuMiX

China5757 Posts

April 06 2009 09:44 GMT

#49

i agree with you...i know what it feels like

ReCharge

Philippines505 Posts

April 06 2009 09:44 GMT

#50

I remember being flaked a lot of times, but there are some girls, that try to test your patience, maybe, if she sees you committed, then she'll stop flaking.

gzealot

Singapore238 Posts

April 06 2009 09:50 GMT

#51

than that sort of girls are prone to playing mindgames. I would most assuredly rather not go out with them. Imagine them doing the same in a long term relationship.

fight_or_flight

United States3988 Posts

April 06 2009 09:59 GMT

#52

All I know is I'm not going to be the sucker who gets into a relationship with one of these girls that screws around in college.

gzealot

Singapore238 Posts

April 06 2009 10:05 GMT

#53

umm... for some reason, then you would be cutting off a huge potential percentage, from my impressions =/

There isnt anything wrong dating them, just don't marrying them. There was a magazine article on some ladies who slept with 18 to 20 plus guys in various relationships so they cannot ever reveal their dating history once they hit their 20s 30s since no guy would ever want them ever again.

fight_or_flight

United States3988 Posts

April 06 2009 10:06 GMT

#54

On April 06 2009 19:05 gzealot wrote:
umm... for some reason, then you would be cutting off a huge potential percentage, from my impressions =/

There isnt anything wrong dating them, just don't marrying them. There was a magazine article on some ladies who slept with 18 to 20 plus guys in various relationships so they cannot ever reveal their dating history once they hit their 20s 30s since no guy would ever want them ever again.

I'll go to another country and/or look for 18 year olds if I have to.

nataziel

Australia1455 Posts

April 06 2009 10:29 GMT

#55

Shit's infuriating, give them one chance to fix it, and if they fuck up again tell them to get fucked.

But that chick doesn't deserve a second chance because shit, you don't flake on cut copy bro.

thedeadhaji

39489 Posts

April 06 2009 10:52 GMT

#56

flakiest person I knew was a 6'2" buff korean male.

Nazarene

Denmark996 Posts

April 06 2009 11:12 GMT

#57

That sounds pretty fucking annoying. If it was me I'd let them bitches know how disrespectful it is to cancel a date like 30 minutes before. Let them know that you also have got shit to do besides sit around and wait for them to have time to meet you.

Kennigit

Canada19447 Posts

April 06 2009 11:53 GMT

#58

Brb getting a coffee and then i can lay some religion down on dis blog!

Mortality

United States4790 Posts

April 06 2009 12:00 GMT

#59

Call her up. Ask if she's free "RIGHT NOW." If she says yes, march over to her dorm/apartment, drag her to your car and get going.

Use duct tape if necessary.

Always works for me.