After seeing some "strange" (as for quite straight oriented site) topics (most beautiful girl - or something like this), I decided to write something about female part of humanity (well, that's strange description, but... whatever). What I have on mind is and ideal girl or close to being ideal. My female friend told me not to tell too much about my ex, because it would scare off any other girls. In her opinion the image, I created through my descriptions, was really hard to cope with. I don't want to go here in details, but let's just say my ex was kind, full of compassion, really emotional, intelligent, with nice sense of humor and she even was really good-looking (well, something like beautiful, but I'm afraid of using that word). What I'm trying to say is that she was nearly unreal and paradoxically this was the thing that killed "us". Because girls of our dreams (nearly without any imperfections) are great when we're talking about women. You must be ideal yourself if you want to be with ideal women and what I learned from this experience is that the more "real" women/girl is, the better. I really like all those small imperfections that make me feel I live here and now, not in any kind of matrix-style world. I know how it may sound, but hell, I had glimpse of how it is when girlfriend is like from other world (and no, I DO NOT miss her, I'm NOT still in love, I just point out things I can see more clearly now and what others say). I mean, when perfection becomes the major flaw in personality, it's really not good neither for you nor for her. Therfore I'll stick to those "real" girls, and talk about those "perfect" with friends while drinking a beer or something.

I don't know if you get what I tried to say, but well, it's really hard to describe what I'm thinking

(I know, that your girlfriends are kind of perfect for you, but I tried to say something about this kind of perfection men are discussing in male company - hope this text haven't offended anyone).

FreeDoM[YA]

Canada855 Posts

August 15 2008 00:16 GMT

This is interesting to read. However it makes me depressed cause I never had a girlfriend it seems true that perfection is a flaw. So before I cut myself I just want sto say this was really interesting to read and it's cool you went through that experience

iakNab

131 Posts

August 15 2008 00:30 GMT

On August 15 2008 09:16 freedom yay wrote:
This is interesting to read. However it makes me depressed cause I never had a girlfriend it seems true that perfection is a flaw. So before I cut myself I just want sto say this was really interesting to read and it's cool you went through that experience

Do a live stream when u gonna be cutting yourself, atleast you won't go away completely meaningless

prOxi.swAMi

Australia3091 Posts

August 15 2008 00:30 GMT

As attracted as I am to hotties, looks counts for very little if they're psycho or a drama queen or whatever other personality flaw you can think of. Trust me, they _become_ ugly.

FreeDoM[YA]

Canada855 Posts

August 15 2008 00:38 GMT

On August 15 2008 09:30 iakNab wrote:

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Do a live stream when u gonna be cutting yourself, atleast you won't go away completely meaningless

if u didnt cath it i was joking... I would never cut myself on the wrists on purpose

Polemarch

Canada1564 Posts

August 15 2008 00:42 GMT

I know what you mean. My first real love was/is like that. A girl doesn't become that externally 'perfect' without caring a lot about what other people think of her. That doesn't mean necessarily mean she's superficial or fake or anything, just that she likes to be liked and make other people happy. And while she might not judge you by other people's standards, she knows that other people around her do, which starts to reflect badly on her.

Flawed people have built up a healthy ability to ignore other peoples' expectations. They're not smart enough, or not rich enough, or not witty enough... so you don't have to be.

Deleted User 3420

24492 Posts

August 15 2008 00:43 GMT

if you ever saw her as perfect that is because of an exaggeration on your part

nA.Inky

United States794 Posts

August 15 2008 00:51 GMT

Good for you, Deimoso. Many people poison the real world in their search for abstract perfection.

It is good to have standards, but not standards that are so high that they keep you from seeing the simple beauty and wonder all around you. This applies to everything, but certainly to women.

ulszz

Jamaica1787 Posts

August 15 2008 00:51 GMT

obviously she isn't perfect because being perfect seems to equate to the flaw of being perfect. meaning she is not perfect and is everything you actually want. better call her

Chef

10810 Posts

August 15 2008 00:58 GMT

#10

Agreed with Travis. This sounds like you were just obsessed with her, she left you, and you're just passing it off as "sour grapes." Except that instead of taking the normal route of calling her a skanky ho, you think you're taking the high road by saying she was too good. No one is too good. Some puzzle pieces just don't fit together, that's all.

Deimos0

Poland277 Posts

August 15 2008 16:14 GMT

#11

Well, I know it sounds like this, but it was my and her friends who noticed she was nearly "saint" (yeah, right). Anyway, I exaggerated a bit her description (at least at some points) to show an example. She was good but not that good, I didn't feel a right person for her. Yes, apparently our puzzle pieces didn't fit.

evanthebouncy!

United States12816 Posts

August 15 2008 16:47 GMT

#12

I think a big part of a healthy relationship is to make it better, making you better a pserson and making her better a person. If she's already omfg godly, what are u to do, what are u to her? U can't make her better so then maybe that's why she didn't keep you or w/e.