She has always thought of me as a friend, despite me trying many times to become her bf. But a few days ago she told me the reason she didn't like me was because I seemed "lazy", and I kinda changed her mind (though she wasn't really wrong). She agreed to date me if I work hard. She had a cute, shy smile when she said that. It was such a romantic moment.
But then a few days later, I asked her out to a football match and she said ok, but needed to ask her landlady about moving her stuff and would tell me in the morning if she could. Our date was 7pm but she still hadn't said anything when it was 5:30pm, so I texted her. She said "I can't go, you go ahead". Like it's fucking nothing. Then out of frustration I called her:
Me: hey you couldn't go?
Her: yeah I can't, you go ahead.
Her: I have to move my stuff from the 1st floor to 4th floor.
I drove to her house to see if I could help her, but she wasn't there. Something seemed fishy. I called her:
Me: hey where are you?
Her: uhm.............. I'm at my friend's!
Me: then why the hell did you tell me you were moving stuff?
Her: I did! then I went to my friend's. (it was only like 6h53pm, which meant she still could have gone with me, but chose not to).
We had a quarrel and I decided we should talk, so I went to her friend's. I wanted to talk about the fact that despite being "friends", she never initiated any contact with me whatsoever, it was always me texting her. And the fact that twice she had canceled our hangout at the last minute with a simple message.
She was there with her friend and told me they were going to have a birthday party for her friend, so if I had something to say let's talk real quick. I had too much to say so after some hesitation I decided to schedule the talk for tomorrow.
I'm gonna tell her that being friends with her is too tiring and that she has to choose: be in a official relationship with me or nothing. It feels a bit harsh, but I can't take this anymore.